Dr. Tony Evans is the founder and senior pastor of Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship in Dallas, founder and president of The Urban Alternative, chaplain of the NBA’s Dallas Mavericks, and author of over 100 books, booklets & Bible studies. His radio broadcast, The Alternative with Dr. Tony Evans, can be heard on more than 1,300 US outlets daily and in more than 130 countries.

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because you got to break you in order to

get all the good stuff in you to come

out for your good and His glory

so somebody oughta praise him that he’s

a God who breaks us in order to make us

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hi I’m Lawrence Evans Tony Evans and I

want to invite you to pastors wives

cruise in 2020

February 22nd through 29 save the dates

I want to see you there

join me with my special friends our

daughters are gonna be helping me with

the program they’re actually going to be

speaking Priscilla Shire Krystal Evans

Hurst Debby titus mirror the Shepherd

Rosa Gonzalez and then Carolyn trill is

gonna bless us with her her music it’s

just gonna be a wonderful time so we

want you to join us and we want you to

give your pastor’s wife ant gift a gift

of rest relaxation and rejuvenation yes

and spiritual encouragement because

that’s what this special pastor’s wife

Cruz is about four passes appreciation

month I appreciate her let her know

she’s valued thank you appreciate her

husband and her and send them both for a

great time together because they need to

get away they need to be in carriage

they need to network they need to

fellowship and that’s what this cruise

is all about well they won’t be

programming for husbands there’s going

to be strategic program for wives but

there’ll be time when husbands and wives

can get together and enjoy each other

and enjoy the fellowship that will be on

the crew so February 22nd and 29th 2020

but you need to register now and get

your place it’s gonna be a great time

give your pastor’s wife a gift she

deserves it and she probably needs it

yes amen look forward to seeing you

February 22nd you already said that

tonight yeah join us on our cruise so

register at louis evans org slash cruise

I want to see you there god bless you I

want to talk to you today about the

process of brokenness to encounter God

process of him stripping you of

self-sufficiency so that you can

experience a new level of his reality in

your life and mine brokenness is when

God intervenes in your life through a

negative set of circumstances to attack

a flaw in your personality

there is a flaw in your humanity that

desperately needs to be addressed and he

recognizes that at the core of it is

independence and self-sufficiency and to

strip you and me of it he begins a

process of breaking us you have three

parts to you a body a soul and a spirit

first Thessalonians 5:23 you are made up

of spirit soul and body your body allows

you to function in the physical world

through your five senses through the

five senses you are able to relate to

the world around you your soul enables

you to relate to yourself your soul is

your personhood the reason why you know

you’re you and that you’re here is

because you possess a soul which is the

life principle that allows the body to

operate so your body allows you to

function in the world your soul allows

you to function with you your spirit

allows you to function with God so your

spirit is God your soul is you and your

body is the world around you everyone

who is born into the world is born into

the world with a scarred sould sin has

scarred our soul we’re born in sin

shaped in iniquity we are born flawed

now that shows itself at different

levels for different strokes for

different folks but there is a scarring

of the soul some of that was transferred

from your mother and your father and

that’s why we find ourselves doing a lot

of things our parents did because we

picked up some of the scarring from them

you didn’t just pick up their looks you

picked up their scars and then the

scarring is increased by things that

happened to us by circumstances that

overwhelm us by wrong done to us by

wrong done by us all of this adds to the

scouring of the soul this

scarring of the soul breeds independence

from God when a person accepts Jesus

Christ the Holy Spirit invades their

human spirit giving them the ability to

now receive spiritual data when the Holy

Spirit enters the human spirit the human

spirit which is now enthused by the Holy

Spirit invades the soul to transform it

and get rid of the scars he wants to

strip away the scars of the soul which

causes us to do all the wrong things we

do with our bodies so we do wrong with

our bodies because we’ve got scars on

our soul that the spirit wants to heal

so that we function in a way that brings

God glory and brings us good and so he

must break us

but he’s breaking us to remake us in

Genesis chapter 22 we have a breaking

occurring in the life of the patriarch

Jacob Jacob has a name and his name

means of trickster his name means he’ll

grab her his name means supplant her his

name means deceiver Jacob’s name fits

his character in the Bible names matter

we name people because we liked the name

in the Bible names were given to explain

the character Jacob was a born deceiver

from the time he left his mother’s womb

he grabbed his brother his twin brother

Esau is heel heel grabber he tricked his

brother out of his birthright

he comes to a crisis in chapter 32 the

crisis is that it looks like his brother

has gotten tired of him

and he’s going to kill him in chapter 32

verse 6 it says the messengers returned

to Jacob saying we came from your

brother Esau and furthermore he is

coming to meet you and four hundred men

are with him then Jacob was greatly

afraid and distressed and he divided the

people it says in the two camps to try

to make sure they didn’t kill everybody

it says in verse 9 the next thing he did

was say Oh God and then what you do when

you get scared enough oh God

lord have mercy o God of my father

Abraham and God of my father Isaac Oh

Lord who said to me return to your

company into your relatives and I will

prosper you I’m unworthy of all the

stuff you’ve done for me verse 10 and

then he makes his request in verse 11

deliver me I pray from the hand of my

brother from the hand of Esau for I fear

Him that he will come and attack me and

the mothers with the children what

happens verse 34 then Jacob was left

alone and a man wrestled with him until

they break jacob is alone he’s alone

because nobody he knows and nothing he

knows can help him he’s by himself you

ever been in a situation where

you were all alone oh you you may have

had folk around you but you might as

well been by yourself cuz nothing around

you could make a difference he’s alone

he’s by himself he’s been stripped now

watch this

he’s got a problem his brothers after

him he prays to God after he prays to

God things get worse Alfie’s talked to

God somebody shows up at night and

wrestles him until daybreak verse 25 and

when he the stranger saw that he Jacob

had not prevailed against him hmm when

this stranger saw that Jacob wasn’t

quittin the Jacob wasn’t throwing in the

towel that Jacob wasn’t giving up the

Jacob wasn’t wasn’t just running away

when he saw he didn’t prevail against

him he touched the socket of his thigh

and the socket of Jacob’s thigh was

dislocated when he wrestled with him so

the man had to disconnect something and

make it worse see when God is trying to

break you he’ll make it bad but if

you’re not responding he’ll make it

worse he’s trying to move your core the

thing that you are counting on to be

able to deliver you verse 26

then he says the stranger says I didn’t

hurt you now let me go okay that means

that Jacob was holding on even with a

dislocated hip

so he’s hurting and holding that digit

he’s holding and holding it’s easy when

God is trying to break you to let go of

God it’s easy when God is trying to

strip you to say I don’t want it anymore

but Jacob said you’re hurt man but I’m

still gonna hold you he says I am NOT

going to let you go he says I am NOT

going to let you go verse 26 until

somebody say untell you bless me wait a

minute now all we know the stranger

doesn’t have a name this guy has come at

night when I’m already scared

this man is wrestling with me now this

man has dislocated me and I’ve gone from

trying to win a fight to trying to get a

blessing how do I move from fighting for

my life to saying bless me well the only

way you ask somebody to bless you is if

you have the know they have the ability

to do that when the stranger dislocates

his hip because it doesn’t happen till

then when his strength is gone it dawns

on Jacob this is not a human match it’s

a man but it’s not human there’s more to

this battle than just the fight I’m in

I’m in the fight of my life but there’s

more to this battle than the fight that

I’m in something spiritual is occurring

here that’s why I ask for blessing that

spiritual so he recognizes and he

doesn’t recognize it until the

dislocation happens that this is us for

so here’s what I don’t want you to do I

don’t want you to mistake the hand of

God for the hand of man

see cuz he’s rustling a man but he’s

really dealing with God if all you see

is what you see you do not see all there

is to be seen God may use something

physical to take you to a place that

spiritual he may use something that you

can see touch taste smell and hear when

he’s only invaded that to take you into

a place that gets him to have your

undivided attention and if you try to

push him off up here he gonna touch

something down there and he will fight

until you’re hurt bad enough I’m not

gonna let you go until you bless me you

know many times in the scripture Jesus

would pretend like he was going to keep

going the disciples were on the water

they were struggling Jesus was walking

on the water and when he got to the boat

it says and he kept walking like he

would pass them by in Luke 24 it says

when the disciples on no man’s Road

walked home and they finally got to

their house Jesus kept going until they

invited him back what Jesus is asking is

how bad do you want it do you really

want me verse 27 so he said to him the

man says to Jacob what is your name okay

to follow this I’m not gonna let you go

until you bless me oh you want to bless

him hmm what’s your name

remember naming him the Bible refers to

your nature your character not just your

nomenclature we do that with nicknames

like we call somebody slim that means

they’re skinny so the nickname is

reflecting something about them you call

somebody red because they got red hair

you know the nickname is described so we

do with nicknames what they did with

names we make it descriptive what’s your

name translation describe yourself to me

are you willing to admit your name are

you willing to acknowledge you are a

deceiver cuz that’s your name are you

willing to acknowledge that you are a

trickster are you willing to acknowledge

you are a Florida person who has lived

their lives using evil to get by cuz

it’s all wrapped up in your name but

what God wants to know is are you

willing to fess up to who you really are

when you’re alone with him when you’re

wrestling with him now

your name may not be Jacob maybe your

name is liya maybe your name isn’t Jacob

but your name is cheetah maybe your name

isn’t Jacob but maybe your name is

luster maybe your name isn’t Jacob but

your name is stealer

maybe your name isn’t Jacob but maybe

your name is racist what is your name

what is that character in your life that

is against the will and character of God

that keeps him from blessing you and he

will wrestle with you until you say your

name even if he has to dislocate your

hip to get there what is your name he

says my name is Jacob I’m the deceiver

verse 28 he says your name shall no

longer be Jacob I’m a change your name

meaning I’m a change your character but

your name will now be Israel for you

have striven with God and with men and

have prevailed God says I got a new

reality for you Jacob and that new

reality is you’re going to experience

what it looks like when I run the show

in your life God prevails you’re gonna

experience what it looks like when I

show up to turn something around cuz

it’s God’s prevail you won’t have to

live your life with trickery anymore you

will have to be a deceiver anymore you

will you won’t have to try to fix it

yourself anymore cuz imma change your

name see some of us have a name called

education because we think because we

got a BA and an MBA and a PhD that my

education has made me self-sufficient

well I’m gonna tell you now God’s gonna

change your name some of us have a name

called money because we define our

sufficiency by our bank account and by

our credit cards but I want to tell you

now if you want to experience God he

gonna try to change your name some of us

have a name called our relationships cuz

we got all the hookups we need to get to

where we want to go do what we want to

do but be what we want to be but if you

want to experience God he’s gonna change

your name by letting the relationships

fall through and not being able to pull

off what you thought they would be able

to pull off in order to experience God

he will strip you of your name in order

for you to know that God prevails that

the spiritual Trump’s the physical and

that you and I are not sufficient within

ourselves

verse 29 then Jacob asked him and said

please tell me your name you asked me my

name

tell me your name listen to the man’s

response but he said why is it that you

ask me my name see a lot of us get like

Marvin Gaye what’s going on God says you

ought to know by now everything you

didn’t try it out it blocked every

contact you made I didn’t stopped every

time you think you don’t have have

anymore dance I let something else break

down you ought to know my name by now it

ought to be clear who you’re dealing

with and so it dawned on him

so Jacob named the place verse 30 penny

L before he said I have seen God he knew

his name now I have seen God face to

face yet my life has been preserved coz

they could have killed me see if you

only knew what God could do that he

didn’t do doesn’t do some of us should

be dead right now

but because of the goodness grace and

favor of God he brought you out brought

you through when you were thinking you

are going to lose your mind

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he said I’ve seen God face to face and

I’m alive to talk about it so if you

still here

he ain’t finish oh but here’s where it

gets good here’s where it gets good

let’s bring it to a close here’s way it

gets good

now first 131 the Sun rose upon him just

as he crossed over Penuel and he was

limping on his thigh

because Hebrews 11 verse 21 says that

when he blessed his grandchildren in

order to bring them blessing he had to

lean on his staff so years later he’s

still limping years later he’s still

limping

so if jumped if Jacob came on the stage

today and you say why you’re limping

Jacob would have to say I’m limping

because I’ve been blessed I’m limping

cuz I’ve been blessed cuz a few years

ago I was independent I was

self-sufficient I made it happen all by

myself God broke me down he separated my

socket and every time I get up and try

to go somewhere I’m reminded about my

weakness I’m to mind that about my

dependency I’m at mine I’m aligned and

reminded that I can’t make it without

him

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God is reminding me you better not get

the bed here boy cuz you do happen over

here I can’t dislocate another one if I

have to so you better remember you are

totally dependent on me and he says and

I’ve been blessed but what was the

blessing when he said I want to be

blessed he one time by something general

he was on my verse 13 where he says you

promised that you would make of me a

great name and you would give me a great

land you see your blessing is something

God has already planned to do in the

past that he’s not free to do yet cuz

you are not broke down far enough for

him to be free to do it so the blessing

is not something new if some role that

becomes new to you when you are made

ready to receive it

so some of us in here need to start

limping and say God i’ma break my whole

socket so you don’t have to break my

socket so that I can be totally

dependent on you

no in closing if you remember years ago

when you were growing up they used to

have them piggy banks now you slap their

piggy banks with a little slit at the

top and you would put your coins in the

piggy bank to save your money when it

was time to get your money you shot the

piggy bank you took the pig you turned

it upside down and you shook it now the

reason you shook it was because there

was something valuable on the inside

that you wanted to come to the outside

and so you shook it the harder it was to

come out the harder you shook it because

you wanted the money but it was stuck on

the inside and you needed it on the

outside so you shook it after a while

you got tired of shaking it because it

wasn’t coming out like you wanted to so

you went and got a hammer and you took

the hammer and you broke the piggy bank

cuz you got tired that it wasn’t

responding to the shaking God will start

by shaking you cuz there’s something

valuable in you but if you don’t respond

to the shakin he goes to get a hammer

cuz he got to break you in order to get

all the good stuff in you to come out

for your good and His glory

so somebody oughta praise him that he’s

a God who breaks us in order to make us

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recently in Kenya I had a divine

encounter it was a missions trip and

while I was invited to benefit others

they benefited me by letting me see in a

foreign land how real God can be and so

I got impacted because I met God at a

new level and that’s what God wants from

each of us he wants for each of us to

have a divine encounter with him that

takes us above the normal and the

ordinary and run the smack dab into the

extraordinary the Bible is full of

divine encounters Moses encountered God

at the burning bush

Abraham encountered God when he was told

to do the unthinkable the sacrifices on

son Elijah encountered God with God

provided through a widow an unexpected

source

Jacob encountered God when he had to

wrestle and get his name changed and his

character fixed so look for God to give

you the opportunity to encounter him it

will not come through the normal it will

come through the extraordinary it will

come through the unexpected but it’s

always designed to give you a bigger

more personal experience with him divine

encounters look for yours because it

will forever change your life

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