Join Pastor Steven Furtick and Brendon Burchard as they discuss how to accept the identity you have in Christ, so you can walk in the authority of who He’s made you to be. This clip is from session 2 of the “Do The New You Mindset Masterclass.” This 6-part masterclass has been designed with you in mind. The aim is to guide you towards realizing your fullest potential—the person you were always meant to be. This masterclass will equip you with an arsenal of tools to integrate these transformative mindsets into your everyday life, propelling you towards your purpose. To access the full 6-part masterclass, visit https://www.dothenewyou.com
and order your copy of “Do The New You” today. Chapters: 0:00 – Do The New You 1:04 – Interpreting Your Life In A New Way 4:18 – Accept Your Self 6:28 – Am I Capable Of Handling This? 8:42 – How To Integrate Your Wins 12:46 – Process It With God 16:00 – Debrief The Good #faith #peace #hope #stevenfurtick #elevationchurch
I’m about to take you into a very special
conversation it’s a moment from my do the new
you mindset master class I know that’s a mouthful
but it was an incredible time of discovery and
teaching and development I got together with
my friend Brendon Burchard number one New York
Times bestselling author high performance coach
amazing brilliant mind and we talked about the
six mindsets from my book do the new you in detail
like the Nitty Gritty of it how do I bring these
mindsets into my life and I’m going to share with
you a section of that conversation today right
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Pastor Steven: Until my identity in Christ starts
affecting how I interpret my life, I really still
don’t get it yet. And if I see myself just as
somebody. That God loves because, well, Jesus died
on the cross and there’s a group insurance plan,
and I got in on it because I accepted Jesus.
Pastor Steven: And now God kind of has to include
me with all of my pre-existing conditions. Then
I have missed the point of what it means to say
that I am a masterpiece made by God. I am.
And the Greek, it literally says a poema,
like a poem like God’s poem and the
idea that. Christ is in me means
more than just He died for me 2000 years ago.
Pastor Steven: That is huge. I’m not downplaying
that at all. I’m just saying that the fact of
Christ being in you has to do more with your
everyday life than you might think because as long
as we look at God as being. Out there somewhere,
you know, I’m throwing up a prayer to the big
man upstairs, or man, I’m looking for God to
kind of come down and fix this situation.
Pastor Steven: Yeah, and don’t shift it to
the internal then we’re basically living our
life with no agency. Right. We’re living our
life. If I understand my basic psychological
terms correctly. We’re living our lives at
the mercy of our impulses. Mm-Hmm. Stimulus
response and no Christ in the middle to say,
wait a minute, I’m a child of God.
Pastor Steven: Wait a minute. I belong
to God. I have faith. I have the grace of
God. I get to appropriate God’s power in
this situation as I surrender to him. Right. So
Brendon Burchard: good. So good. Yeah. The way I
think about it is often a lot of the trouble
we have in our mindset is we go to identity
first. And you know, in what I love about faith
and religions of the world, he says actually
interpret things through the word, interpret
things through him and what he intended versus
just how you feel and who you think you are.
Brendon Burchard: Yeah, because if I ran my entire
life based on identity, who I think I am and how
I’m feeling, and how I identify in these groups,
versus a higher moral ethic versus spiritual
guidance. We’d be a hot mess. And I think that’s
one of the things we struggle with in the world
right now. That’s why we have a, I always say we
have a selfie culture versus a service culture.
Brendon Burchard: We have a selfie culture.
’cause we’re all focused so much on identity and
we’re sometimes missing the higher calling, the
higher service that if we interpreted life in a
different way through faith. Through spirituality,
we’d probably act differently. Mm-Hmm mm-Hmm.
And so the, the, it sounds like when I say,
you know, mindset is interpretation, that
identity, sometimes people would think that’s,
oh, that’s a negative thing.
Brendon Burchard: ’cause you’re
saying impulse and then self. But I’m often
saying too, interpretation is connecting to
a higher cause or higher moral ethic, higher
spirituality. And I’m within that. I am within,
like Christ is in me. That’s where it starts.
Yeah. But I am. In him, you know, part of
this, in him. Yeah. This is a bigger thing.
Brendon Burchard: Yeah. Yeah. Than just
me. Yeah. And I think that’s actually empowering
because I can understand I’m enough because I’m,
you know, he’s in me, but I’m. External too, since
Pastor Steven: you’re already there. I think we
should just dive on down a little deeper
into this. ’cause I know you wonder about
this too sometimes self-esteem, like,
um, self-worth, like, um, I’m enough.
Pastor Steven: It’s, it’s sometimes just so
flippant. Right? And yet I know me, I know the,
the dark parts of me. I know, I know not only the
mistakes I make, but the mistakes that. I want to
make that I hold myself back from that are even
worse than the ones that I make. And knowing all
of that about me, I want shared with our church.
Pastor Steven: And I share it a little bit in the
book, that accepting Jesus wasn’t that
hard for me. Like we have this phrase,
accepting Jesus as your Lord and Savior
receiving Christ well, accepting him,
I get forgiven, loved get to go to heaven. Great.
Sign me up. I’m accepting Jesus. He has the. The,
the way that I should live.
Pastor Steven: He has all wisdom,
all power. I’m accepting Jesus. That took me, you
know, just opening my heart and accepting him,
but accepting Steven, that’s a little harder.
Mm-Hmm. And I have a real passion to help you
with this because I think it’s possible for you
to accept Jesus. And not accept you. In fact,
this mindset in the book goes with an action step.
Pastor Steven: They each do, and this action step
is accept yourself, and I put it with a capital
S, not because you’re God and God is you. I don’t
believe that. I believe that basically the self
that God wants you to accept is your spirit,
which is made perfect and complete in
Him, which is cleansed. Then it’s covered
up by all of this other stuff.
Pastor Steven: So I wanna know,
as you’ve studied it, because man, you’ve
looked into this from every different angle
and the terms that we throw around sometimes
about self-worth and self-esteem and identity.
Sometimes it’s a moving target. It’s not like I
just either accept myself or I don’t. It kind of
depends on the time of day or what just happened.
Pastor Steven: Yeah. Or what stimulus I just ran
into. So talk to me about how that self-worth
self-esteem thing can be a moving target for
Brendon Burchard: us. I think you nailed this
in the book, that this, you know, I Am enough,
comes back down to recognizing that we are
more than what limits us. And we are more than
what’s missing. As you say in the fir, in the
first part of the chapter, you say, you know,
you’re more than just what’s missing.
Brendon Burchard: Yeah. That sometimes
the reason it feels like a moving target
is because in every given situation we go,
am I capable to handle this? That’s at
that moment, that’s what we’re saying. Am
I enough? Am I capable of handling this?
Then we say, oh, am I doing it right? Am
I perfect? And we consider perfect enough.
Brendon Burchard: And then we say, do I have
as much or am I as good as them? That makes me
enough. ’cause I compare well. So we usually say,
am I capable? Am I perfect? Am I comparing well?
Well those are the three moving targets, okay? And
you’re never gonna hit all three of ’em. So you’re
never gonna fill enough, because if that’s how you
equate enough, you’re in trouble.
Brendon Burchard: So in
all of psychology, it always comes back down to
definitions, right? So what does it mean for you
to be enough? That’s what we’ll start in coaching
sometimes. What does it mean for you to be enough?
Maybe you put that in the chat. Yeah. What does
it mean? What is enough? Yeah. ’cause most people
say, well, what does it mean to be enough?
Brendon Burchard: Well, I gotta be perfect.
I gotta be capable to handle all the complexity
of this new business, or this new challenge,
or this new issue I’m facing. And oh yeah, I
gotta compare. Well next to my neighbor. Well,
if that’s. What enough to you is you are
never gonna achieve it. Mm-Hmm. You’ll never
get near it because those three things are
always moving in every given new situation.
Brendon Burchard: So at some point, just like
happiness in our life, we discern, we discern
what is happiness to me. And in this case, we have
to say, well, what is enough to me? Is me being
enough? Does that mean I’m confident? Does it mean
I feel capable? Does it mean I’m I’m worthy? Like
what does it mean? And people often only explore
that once they get to the point where they feel
like, oh wait, I am doing life kind of good.
Brendon Burchard: I’m measuring up
pretty well to the Joneses.
Pastor Steven: You know? You
know you taught something one time. I think it
really fits with this mindset. I would love for
you to hear this game-changing teaching that
Brendan has on integrating your wins. Now,
I’ve shared some of this before, but I can’t
share it the way you do, and I realize that.
Pastor Steven: Maybe part of the reason I can’t
share it is because I’m scared sometimes to give
myself any credit, because it’s like, no, it
was all God. I like to joke that sometimes
we’ll tell a singer in church, you know, wow, you
really did great today singing, and they’ll go,
no, it, it wasn’t me. It was, it was all God.
Pastor Steven: To which I always wanna say no.
It wasn’t all God. It wasn’t that good. It’d be,
that’d sound a little better if it was just God.
A lot better. It was good. You did good. And this
idea of integrating your wins. Yeah. Talk about
that. ’cause I think a lot of us are confused
and we’re like, well, I don’t want to have pride.
Pastor Steven: Well, no, you don’t wanna have
pride, but this idea that I can never really feel
good about what I did, that doesn’t please God
either. So, so give this teaching. I love this.
Brendon Burchard: Yeah. It’s kinda like if, if
you think about are you enough, it’s kinda like a,
you know, like a gas tank a little bit.
You know, it’s either full or it’s not.
Brendon Burchard: And for what most, what’s
happened for most people on their journey of
life is they’ve depleted it over and over and
over and over in terms of not giving themselves
credit. And so they never integrate the win.
Every time they screw something up, they take
such a huge chunk out of themselves. Mm-Hmm.
Brendon Burchard: They’re just like demoralizing
themselves. They’re just like self-hatred. They’re
angry at themselves. They have guilt and shame,
and every time something goes bad. Just like they
take something outta themselves, they drain the
tank, and people who finally feel more confident,
more fulfilled, more capable, more than enough,
they’re able to see all the times they did okay.
Brendon Burchard: They didn’t screw up,
they managed things well. They became resilient.
They bounced back. They were a good person. They
got the award, they, they did achieve something.
They did feel good at the end of the day,
and they integrate that into who they are.
I am enough. Yeah. I did these things and
they added up inside the character.
Brendon Burchard: They added up inside
the strength. And there’s a stacking that happens
in our psychology after enough integrating of the
wins because I work with athletes who’ve
lost their confidence. They lost their,
like they’re literally top of the game.
Yeah. You know, they’re top OO five of
the world and they’ve lost their confidence.
Brendon Burchard: So they’ll have me come in,
I’ll just sit down with them, talk ’em 30
minutes. And I’ll realize they’re telling
me everything they have done wrong. Lost that
game, dropped that ball, sparked over here,
got this fine. I mean, they’re telling me
everything that went wrong, and they’re not
saying anything about what they’re doing, right.
Brendon Burchard: I. For their self-talk is always
diminishing versus additive or recognizing their
strengths. So integrating the mean. Integrating
the win means at the what if At the end of each
day you thought about the things you did do well,
the things that did turn out okay, the things that
you were proud of, the, the character you showed,
the patience you showed, the love that you
showed, the resilience you showed and you said,
oh, that’s part of me, and you just kind of.
Brendon Burchard: And you allowed yourself to
take some peace in the goodness of who you were
that day. And if day after day, year after year,
you allow yourself to take some peace in of
the goodness that you did and the goodness
that you are, suddenly one day you feel more
full, now you can feel more fulfilled. You
can feel like you’re enough because you’re
adding in versus taking out all the time.
Brendon Burchard: I love this, and most
people have never integrated. The good
things they’ve done in their life into their
identity. So they still feel deficient. Like
they were a fifteen-year-old kid who beats
themselves up and and doesn’t think they
fit in. But you’re talking about a 30 or
forty-year-old woman or a man who has not
yet ever breathed in the good that they did.
Brendon Burchard: So their confidence is of
a high schooler versus a 30 or 40 or
fifty-year-old person. Wow. ’cause
they never integrated those wins.
Pastor Steven: I think of it in
that such a beautiful picture, man, and that.
Practice alone would change your life if you sat
with God at the end of the day or you’re laying
down. It doesn’t have to be at a prayer bench.
Pastor Steven: It can be. It can be. It doesn’t
have to be with the journal. It can be. But even
if there was just some time for you to process
with your Heavenly father, I actually was thinking
while you were talking about the other night
when Graham, my middle son, came to me right
before I was falling asleep. And he had had a
really good, uh, match a few hours earlier and
he started asking me questions about the match.
Pastor Steven: Like, um, when did you know I
had it under control? And, uh, did you think
I wasn’t gonna come back from that bad call?
And I realized about third question, what he
was doing. He was processing with his father
what had happened. The victory that he had won,
the struggle that he went through to get there,
almost as if to say to me, walk back through
this with me and help me feel my win.
Pastor Steven: Nice. And what a beautiful thing
to pray to God like, God, help me feel that win.
Because you know when you’re going through it,
you don’t feel like enough ever. You feel like
I’m stretched. If you have faith, you’re
always gonna be in a place that makes you
feel a little bit outside of your comfort zone.
Pastor Steven: And so then what do you do? You
get through it. You show up anyway. You
show up messy. You show up scared. You
show up with your hands shaking your mouth
dry. Not enough sleep, not enough resource,
and you do it, but you didn’t feel it while
you did it ’cause you were doing it. So then
when you fall asleep that night or at the end of
the week or however you do it, you sit with God.
Pastor Steven: And that’s important because I
don’t believe I’m sitting by myself going. Wasn’t
I amazing? I worship me. I’m going, God, wasn’t
that crazy how we did that. I mean, I even started
praying a prayer recently to get into this. Christ
is in me. I am enough mindset, more in my heart
that before I go to preach or to do something like
this, or even if it’s not a spiritual activity,
the way we qualify spirituality, I’ll pray.
Pastor Steven: God, at the end of this day.
I want to feel good about the work that you and I
did together. And what it helps me to do is, first
of all, Christ is in me. He’s working with me, and
we’re gonna talk about that in a later mindset,
how God is always working through us. But the big
thing about it is that I’m not processing this.
Pastor Steven: Not only am I not processing only
the defeats of the day. But I’m integrating the
victories, giving praise to God, right. And
allowing him to solidify it in my heart. I
think that’s a life-changing practice.
And I think it’s different than just,
oh, be grateful. Yeah. Because a lot of
people could hear this and say, yeah, yeah.
Pastor Steven: I’m grateful for my blessings
and all of this. No, you’re saying something
deeper. You’re going, have you taken the time
for the blessings that God gave you and the
victories that he gave you, and really making
that a part of yourself? Yes. In the future.
Brendon Burchard: Yeah. That’s so huge.
We see it in, in winning teams all the
time is like win after win after win after win.
Brendon Burchard: And you know, if you get to hang
out with them in the bus afterwards or whatever,
you see as the season goes on, they actually talk
more about the wins. They still got a job to do,
but they want to debrief it like Graham did. And
I think a lot of people, they never debrief the
good in their life. Hmm. They bemoaned the bad.
Brendon Burchard: And so when you take a walk
with your wife in the morning, if you would,
I. Just talk about the good things that are
happening and give praise. Mm-Hmm. It’s so
simple. We all know we should do it, but so few
people actually verbalize it. Mm-Hmm. And so more
people year round. If you can talk about the good.
Brendon Burchard: Talk about the good. Talk about
the good Give. Praise. It. It suddenly you start
to feel like life is enough, because sometimes you
don’t feel like enough ’cause you feel like life
isn’t enough. Um, our house isn’t big enough. I’m
not enough. You know, the, the company’s
not doing well enough, so I’m not enough.
Brendon Burchard: And we equate these external
things so often to, am I enough? But if you
can start giving glory and recognizing the
good things, and I love what you shared,
that you’re doing it together, now you solve
two problems. It’s not only did you. You feel
enough ’cause good things are happening,
but you also don’t feel alone anymore.
I hope you enjoyed that I hope you took
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