Join some of our favorite Christian speakers on TBN’s Praise speak on their experiences on healing from pain in your life. Listen in as T.D. Jakes, Priscilla Shirer and Joyce Meyer discuss how to overcome the painful moments in your life and find encouragement that through the pain, God will heal you and reveal things about how you are meant to grow in your pain for His purpose.

why christ came to the garden of

gethsemane to prepare him from for the

cross to remind himself that crushing is

all that he was going through that the

secretions of what was in him was better

than the pressures that oppressed him

and and i’m hoping to write this book to

somebody who has something in them that

that they could not get out any other

way and i want them to understand

that that pressure turns to power

when god does suppressing that’s right

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joseph yeah joseph what’s better than

that he was he was he was tested in his

affliction yes sir he was tested in his

affliction absolutely and don’t you know

that the reason that joseph could be

strong is because he could look at his

brothers and say what you intended you

intended this for evil

but god but god but god

intended it for good yes

and what i see in in your life that i

admire so much

is that you have kept that but god in

the middle of your story absolutely a

lot of people want to get it out you

intended evil for me it stops right

there right right that’s where their

story stops i think i think you know

i think that’s why god chose him

of all the brothers i think that’s why

god blessed him because joseph had the

capacity yeah

to bless somebody who had hurt him

see see when you start talking about

wine you have to talk about capacity

because growth is there and joseph

exemplified the capacity to be bigger

than his situation

and and so to him whom much is given

much is required yeah and and i really

believe with all of my heart when you

read through the story of joseph

his greatest strength was his ability to

love those who had victimized him

because when he saw him he wept remember

before he disclosed for they recognized

that he was that’s right he had to step

out and weep his heart was so tender

that’s right and i actually think that

when he said you meant it for evil but

god made it good i think he was trying

to comfort them

not chasing them i think you’re right

yeah i’m thinking it’s okay it’s okay

it’s okay it’s okay you meant it for

evil but i’m okay yeah god made it good

i still got there yeah you know the the

the the when you take your story away

from the people who hurt you

and determine in your heart whatever you

did it’s okay

i still got there

you won’t have any reason to be bitter

there you go it in fact

it’s not just

that i got there in spite of you

in many ways i got there because of you

because of you yeah because you didn’t

know it but you were helping you were

helping me you were teaching me you were

helping me you were teaching me you were

training me uh you were preparing me and

i have this this capacity because you

stretched me mm-hmm

god gives us a an ability to reinterpret

our past

rather than see our past as

as rather than see ourselves as victims

of of a difficult past he he gives us

the grace to look back and say oh okay

our sovereign lord was at work even in

that even even in that if god spared not

his own son

but gave him up for us all but gave him

up for us all who who am i to think

that that i am above going through

anything you know why not me job says

the lord knows the way that i take

and when he has tried me i shall come

forth

as as pure gold i may be in the fire

right now

yeah but i shall come forth as few go

and i think that if you can keep the

promise

of the wine with you

while you are being crushed under the

feet

that this is not my final form

that that though i stain the feet of

those who oppress me now this is not my

final form there is something coming out

of me that’s greater than what is

hurting me

and what is coming out of me you will

never be able to stop if you can keep

that in your mind

you will understand why why christ came

to the garden of gethsemane to prepare

him from for the cross to remind himself

that crushing is all that he was going

through that the secretions of what was

in him was better than the pressures

that oppressed him and and i’m hoping to

write this book to somebody who has

something in them that that they could

not get out any other way and i want

them to understand that that pressure

turns to power

when god does the pressing that’s right

we assume that presence of pain is the

absence of god what you’re saying is the

presence of pain can be the best work

absolutely god absolutely the work of

god and if you uh

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my wisdom is made out of my mistakes

you you only become as smart as you were

a fool

i’m pretty smart then

you know

you know you you

you think about how you try to tell your

children you’re suddenly trying to tell

them what not to do

because i don’t want you to take the

class over

you know i already took the class for

you that doesn’t work don’t try to go

this way go that way yeah and and yet

sometimes they have to have their own

experiences to have their own

relationship with god

uh but but i think that

i think that the word is

is being written in the experience of

our lives even today

that that in some ways we are the 67th

book that we are living epistles read of

men and that god is writing through the

situations on our lives because we are

the only bible some people see

so sometimes my testimony isn’t so much

about what i say

but you watching me survive yeah yeah

what nobody else would have been able to

survive

thereby

by this i know that the lord is with me

for he has not allowed my enemies to

triumph over me

yeah right yeah that’s right

can i read from one of my favorite

authors go ahead go ahead

[Laughter]

if your life is suddenly unstable

and you notice an increase in the amount

of mess and manure placed upon you

that’s great

pay close attention

it is a signal from the lord for you to

look carefully

for the areas where your growth may have

stalled

the vine dresser applies an extra amount

of dung

to a plant

that stubbornly refuses to grow

because the messes of life

serve as the vitamins required

for healthy fruit yes sir

yes sir

yes sir

well you you you

you use kind language there

that describes where some of

well some of the listeners are growth is

smelly business so

yeah growth is smelly business it stinks

yeah yeah growth growth is smelly

business uh birth is messy business

you know i used to think that babies

were born and they look like the gerber

babies and the old movies that when we

were growing up you know the baby they

just pulled the baby out and looked like

the gerber baby yeah but in real life

birth is a messy business and birth is a

smelly business and birth is a painful

business and birth is about pressure

and pushing and the baby is bruised and

the mother is weak and weary

because life is valuable it costs

something and you can’t have life

without labor

you see and that’s what makes it it to

me what makes it valuable

uh is is the baby now in in the old days

they would salt the baby to heal it from

the birthing process

so that there is a certain amount of

healing one of the things i talk about i

just mentioned this real quickly i know

our time is almost over

it’s the pain of recovery

there’s a pain on this side of surgery

that’s different from the pain on that

side of surgery

just because of surgery was uh

correct and effective doesn’t mean that

the patient doesn’t feel pain

that that it hurts to recover

that there is a pain of recovery and

just because you feel pain doesn’t mean

you’re not getting better that’s true in

fact that pain is an indication you are

getting absolutely that’s what i’m

saying to you and anybody who’s tried to

get in shape

knows that it’s no fun

to talk about that oh my god but it

hurts

because it hurts because

it hurts because

you are tearing muscle

and and and as the muscle tear tears it

expands

and anytime you’re going to swell

it it hurts to grow in capacity and so

people

who become these voluminous people it

costs them something that’s a lot

be careful about envying them and

wanting to be them and i i’m going to be

you and i’m going to be the next you and

i’m going to have your mantle you can’t

have my mantle until you’ve withstood my

misery oh that’s good that’s good

i don’t

[Laughter]

we

uh are out of time

oh my goodness i knew this would happen

i knew it

we’re just warming up yeah though we’re

just getting started we’re just warming

up um

a word do you have for somebody who’s

is is is right there in that mess

i i want to say to you that if

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if you are in that crushing i have been

there

physically emotionally spiritually

financially

in every aspect of my life

i want you to understand something that

whether the lord

scooped down into the ground and pulled

up clay

or set it on a wheel and started

spinning it

or pushed in on it with pressure and

started squeezing it

or set it on a curio after he had fired

it

that regardless of whatever stage it was

in it was always in his hand

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and i want you to know

that whatever stage you’re in right now

you are still in his hands amen

amen

he loves you

[Applause]

he cares about you

and when it is all over

he will take what was seemingly a

crushing moment

to to produce something in you that is

so

distinguished so fresh

so new

that christ said i will not drink any

more wine

until i drink it new

and my father’s with you

in the kingdom of god so i got to be

there

because he told me he said i’m saving

the next class for us together that’s

good it’s gonna be all right it’s gonna

be good

[Applause]

god told me hurting people hurt people

and so most of the people

you know if if you’re watching and

you’ve been really hurt by somebody

they hurt you out of their hurt

and if you realize that then it does

make it a little bit easier

to forgive them

my father had not been raised right and

there was incest in his home which i

found out later

and

he wasn’t treated right by his dad

and his dad was a christian and yet he

was a mean christian and that doesn’t

always

set well with the people around you

and

so he

he was already had two strikes against

him when he started and that doesn’t

make what he did okay but it does make

it easier

to forgive if you realize that

people are

are hurting you

out of their own pain and then another

chapter in here that i really enjoyed

preaching this message was no parking at

any time okay one day i was driving down

the street and i just saw this sign no

parking at any time and it just like

exploded into me i thought that’s what

people do with their life they park at

the point of their pain

and they don’t go

anywhere else

and i happen to see a movie i don’t know

if you ever saw it’s about

i think it’s called the yellow van or

something and this is actually a true

story it was about a woman

who

was homeless

and

she lived in this yellow van that she

had painted yellow

and

she

they kept running her off the streets

she’d park on the street and they’d let

her stay there so long so

finally she went to this person’s house

and asked if she could park

in their driveway for a certain period

of time because she found out she could

get some

some money from the government monthly

if she had an address but she didn’t

have one so he didn’t really want to do

it this actually happened over in

england but he let her

park there well she ended up staying

there for like years and years and years

but the

the ultimate

i mean it’s a long story but to get to

the long and the short of it she was a

a concert pianist

she’d prayed i mean played before

kings and queens and was just

phenomenal she really really really

loved god so she became a nun

and she happened to have

a mother superior that was

not very kind and was really jealous of

her

piano gift and so she told her that god

wanted her to give it up because it was

prideful

and so that hurt her so bad and the way

they treated her hurt her so bad

that she ended up leaving and having

some kind of like a mental breakdown and

then at one point in her life she had

hit a young man in the street

and killed him

and so between carrying the guilt of

that

and what had happened to her she ended

up being homeless

and living in living in her van

and

of course this this part of the story

was fictional but when she got to heaven

the first person

she died in her van by the way you know

you die where you park yeah and so

she uh

first person she saw when she got to

heaven was this young man that she

had blamed herself for killing all these

years and he said you didn’t kill me i

stepped out in front of your car on

purpose oh my goodness and so

me being abused i carried the guilt of

that i thought what’s wrong with me that

my father wants to do that to me and how

many people

somebody else is

dysfunctional and they’re hurting you

but i mean how many women whose husbands

cheat on them think it’s my well it must

have been my fault

you know i wasn’t pretty enough or i

wasn’t this enough you know the devil

always wants us to think we’re not

enough and that’s why people

mistreat us and

i just don’t want to see people just

park their life

at the point of their pain

and stay there the rest of your life

living some kind of a half-life

when jesus died for you to be made

completely

whole and this whole thing about the

soul being healthy

i mean the things that happened to me

and the things that happened to other

people it affects how you think

that’s why the bible says clearly that

one of the first things that has to

happen

is you have to learn how to get your

mind renewed through the word of god

like you know the devil told me all my

life what’s wrong with you well the

first thing i study is righteousness in

christ yes

so

the enemy wants to remind us daily of

everything that’s wrong with us

but

the bible says he that knew no sin

became sin that we might be made the

righteousness of god in christ and so

the more you think you’re wrong the more

wrong things you’ll do

but the more you believe that you’re

right with god through jesus sacrifice

the more right things you’ll do

god never expects us to do anything

without giving us the equipment to do it

so he forgives us first

so we can forgive other people

he’s merciful to us

so we can be merciful to others he loves

us that ability yeah so we can love

other people and so he never asks us to

do anything that’s not going to be for

our benefit

so even when something is hard

god’s trying to set you free from

something that’s going to be much harder

if you keep it so that to me was a

really important chapter in the book

because you had you have to

you know you have to make a decision

that you’re going to put your life in

drive again

and stop just

blaming everything on what people did to

you or what happened to you we’ve heard

it said

similarly that the point of your pain

will either be your prison or your

platform

what about the day-to-day like what do i

do next the right thing along the way

even when you’re hurting can you speak

to that

yeah you know

i think um

i was literally uh just recently talking

to my daughter who’s 30 years old and

whatever she was asking me

my answer as i answered her

you know i heard mommy’s voice

because it was

the same thing you know it’s it’s a new

problem to her but it’s not to me but

one of the things we know mommy would

say all the time is this too shall pass

when you have

a history

with god and you know that the thing

that seems the most difficult for you in

a moment

that you’ll get past it so one way or

another you’ll you’ll get past it you’ll

learn from it you’ll grow from it you’ll

experience god in a new way

um

that is

often just the next right thing you

don’t have

you don’t and i keep talking about our

history but i even remember our

grandmother saying because you know

daddy’s a doctorate of theology and our

uncle was a doctor of sociology he had a

doctor of sociology and i said

did people ask you how did you do that

like how did you

have these kids that were so highly

educated and she said i just kept doing

the next right thing to have children

who were law-abiding citizens and were

good people like i wasn’t trying to

achieve that right and i think when

people would ask mommy and daddy about

us how do you do that like how do you

get four kids who are all still involved

in your church or involved in ministry

what they were doing was the next right

thing and for mommy that was fixing

dinner

and making goulash and putting cheese on

we don’t know what it was but it tasted

good because cheese was on it

and and the and the idea that

this was not necessarily the specific

thing i don’t think you could correct me

that you had in mind

it was just that we would love god

love each other

and be faithful

um so i think the next right thing is

look at where you are

and what i was saying to my daughter

today is often we’re looking at the big

thing and thinking how do we get through

the big thing

moses asked god the same question when

god stopped by the burning bush and said

all right so it’s time i need you to

tell pharaoh to let my people go

and moses was like how am i going to do

that

and god said what do you have in your

hand

so we’re often looking purpose and

calling and what am i supposed to do and

how’s god going to get me through this

and we walked with mommy through that

season one day at a time

getting her what she wanted to drink

trying to make her comfortable

being there for each other

and so the next right thing is not the

next right big thing

it’s usually the next right small thing

and because it’s the next right small

thing it’s usually something that’s

obvious to you to do right and it’s easy

it’s right there

so i think if i could say anything to

encourage everybody from my experience

it’s

stop trying to get over the mountain

and just make sure you don’t stumble on

that one rock that’s in front of you and

just keep going forward that’s great

that’s amazing yeah that’s amazing

you’re a beast she is i was actually

about to say that and i thought maybe i

shouldn’t say you’re a beast that’s a

good thing

a beast is a good that’s a loving word

in our family um

somehow somehow a lot of loving word in

our family and yes for those of you

watching who are thinking are they

saying daddy and mommy of we still call

our parents daddy daddy just so you know

that’s

i’m that’s yeah i’m proud of that yes

the daddy you mentioned daddy you

mentioned

disruption

and i i always get weird when i’m

quoting you because you’re tony evans

and i’m tony evans jr and it feels weird

because you’re such an amazing

communicator a beast because you’re such

a beast

divine reset a lot of times i mean sorry

divine disruption

disruptions in our life are god’s um

god is wanting to reset us and uses the

disruption to do that can you talk about

what that that means

god creates or allows confusion chaos

trouble

because he’s trying to

get things that

are either out of order back in order

or to take us to a new level hebrews

chapter 12

talks about god shaking things

in the physical because he wants to do

something in the spiritual

so when there is disturbance in the five

senses of our lives

in the environment of our lives and the

chaos of the culture

it is because he is shaking things to

remake something

in its proper order things have gotten

either out of order or there is a new

purpose that he is moving to

and so he will he will allow pharaoh to

get tougher

so that you can leave egypt

and not get comfortable there so he will

create so i just want to encourage

people if you’re going through

pain struggle grief disappointment

while those feelings are real and you

don’t deny them

also ask god what new thing

what new experience i love job 42 he’s

come through great loss

i mean in 24 hours this whole world

falls apart

his business his family his workers his

children his health

everything falls apart and he never even

found out why the book never tells job

about the conversation between god and

satan but in chapter 42 he makes a

powerful statement he says

i’ve heard about you with the hearing of

the ear

i’ve been to bible study been to church

been the small group all that been to

sunday school

but now i have seen you with my own eyes

so ask god when your world falls apart

to make himself visible to you in a new

way and he wants to do it

because of what he allowed to disrupt

your ease

and your comfortable situation right

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