There’s No Condom For Your Heart // Relationship Goals Reloaded (Part 9)(Michael Todd)

hey welcome to this week’s sermon I am

so glad that you were here no matter if

your usual or somebody sent you the link

I believe that God has a message just

right for your life at this time okay I

want to let you know that this is a

series that is going to help you win in

relationship and if you want to take

that to another level in resource I’m

gonna let you know relationshipgoals is

still out everywhere

the book as well as the study guide and

for everybody who’s already gotten it

thank you for being a part of changing

the world for everybody who has not

bought this from somebody else they need

this in their life and if you’ve never

heard of relationshipgoals this book is

written to help you win in relationships

I’m telling you that God cares about

every one of your relationships and we

want to help you win

so this sermon is about to give you

revelation get ready as we go into this

week son yup I hope you prayed this

morning because I believe that God wants

to speak specifically to you and I want

to give everybody the opportunity to

just ground yourself come on right now I

need everybody to just take a deep

breath in come on now let it out I see

you in Kansas and in Texas and in

England and in Africa wherever you’re

watching from I want you to take a deep

breath in now let it out cuz today we’re

talking about sex

glory to got y’all thought we was gonna

go through relationshipgoals reloaded

and not talk about sex

the reason we have to talk about this is

because the church is way too silent on

something that God created and this is

that one thing I’m going straight in so

if you don’t have your notes ready I

need you to go cuz we’re on week nine of

a series that we’re calling relationship

goes reload it I need everybody to know

I only got two messages left this one

and next week and I’m coming with

everything that I have because I believe

that the

culture has tried to hijack something it

did not create the culture has tried to

make everybody think that it invented

sex that sex was something that is

supposed to be nasty it’s supposed to be

uncovered it’s supposed to be something

we don’t really talk about it’s supposed

to be something that we can sneak and

see on movie channels and and on

websites but the church is not supposed

to take them talk about it I am standing

in the authority that God has given me

today and I’m about to talk about sex in

a manner that gives God glory and makes

the devil look dumb I’m telling you

right now that there’s been too many of

us that have been hidden under this

cloud of sex and how it’s been defined

and everything that’s evil about it but

I want you to know that trey songz did

not invent sex even though he made a

song that said he did sex he was not

lost Justin Timberlake said he was

bringing it back Marvin Gaye said that

he was providing sexual healing but

still there’s so many people sexually

broken what I wanted to tell you today

is God invented sex top type that in the

chat that’s when you ain’t never put in

there before God invented sex that’s the

mic why are you talking about this so

it’s like I have my kids in here they’re

there they’re there in middle school and

elementary they already know like if we

want to be honest about this thing they

already know do you know that statistics

tell us real quick because the god only

reveals things in spirit and in truth he

wants us to be in spirit but he wants us

to have truth and he wants us to

counteract the the truth with the Spirit

of God the truth is I need everybody to

hear me seventy fifty percent of all

high school students will have a sexual

interaction before graduating high

school that’s one out of two so look

around if there’s two of y’all one of

y’all sexually active before you get out

of high school that’s Mike you shouldn’t

say that that might give them ideas

instagrams already given them ideas

they’re cousins that you invite over and

they play so well together you think

they play in house some of my first

sexual experiences were with my

cousins I want to pull the sheet back

because we sit here like we cannot be

able to talk about the things that God

created and then Italy gives the enemy

the opportunity to mess with generations

of people in secrets in the dark but we

learned on the first week of this series

that wherever there is knowledge that’s

light there’s understanding but wherever

there is a lack of knowledge or darkness

or ignorance that’s where the enemy is

able to rule and I’m here with the

floodlight today and I’m asking the Holy

Spirit on your life and your family to

shine a light so that we can see this

topic of sex in the way that it was

intended 50% of all high school students

will have the sexual activity before

they graduate high school it’s even a

were statistic for African Americans 78%

of African American high school students

will have a sexual encounter before they

graduate high school

seventy-eight percent it’s fifty two

percent for Hispanics and forty three

percent or forty seven percent for white

people yay white people I always say

that good job guys

the reason I have to talk about this is

because if I don’t then who will I need

to redeem this idea of sex real quick

because if if you grew up in the youth

group that I grew up in the only and

relational advice that I ever got about

sex or relationship period the reason I

wrote relationship goes is because this

is all I got

don’t have sex finish it before you get

married we went to the same youth group

and what ended up happening was that was

an incomplete instruction it was with

good intention but there was not enough

information and what happens when I was

at my friend’s house late night and the

the movie channels it went from

Transformers to something completely

different what happened when I was

looking for the tissue at the house and

their words magazines under there what

happened if I was abused

touched illegitimately whom things were

awakening aroused and I wasn’t even in

control of it I was in a place where I

was supposed to be with people who would

protect me and they took advantage of me

what happens with this idea and what I

wanted to do today is I want to redeem

it I want to let you know because I

thought for so many years sex was bad

sex was evil sex was something that was

not supposed to be done except in a back

room with two adults that really didn’t

enjoy it and we sell all of these lies

to young people and all this other stuff

but I came to tell you the truth point

number one sex is good ah I feel the

spirit right now sex is good say that

out of your mouth everybody say it sex

is good some of y’all are turning pink

others y’all ass you around the mouth

you stinking of you you are stiff-necked

right now because this has never been

addressed in church but I promise you

more than half of the things people are

coming to the altar for and more than

half of the things that were counseling

people out of have some tie to some type

of sexual perversion I’m trying to go

for the root of the thing today

sex is good why is sex good Pastor Mike

many reasons but the first one is

because sex was God’s idea I’m taking

sex it’s not the cultures idea dear sex

is not something that it that is a

man-made sex

was divinely created by the Creator now

I want you to think of that in contrast

to everything that you’ve thought about

sex this was made by God for his

children to enjoy within the right

context let me prove it to you Genesis

chapter 1 verse 28 I need to set some

foundation so that you can know what

this is where it’s supposed to go and

how you’re supposed to use it it says

then God blessed them this is Adam and

Eve in the garden and it said look at

the first commandment to man ever be

fruitful

and multiply this was not an

agricultural term he wasn’t telling them

go plant some seeds let me give you the

remix version of this he said y’all

blessed cuz I made you in my image

Adam go put it down bro I want you to be

fruitful and multiply this is what God

intended for it to be and that’s why in

mark chapter 10 verse 6 then Jesus is

talking to us and look he gives us more

clarity he says but God made who made I

said who made it God made God made them

male and female he’s given parameters

God made our parts he knows our desires

he knows our urges he knows our

appetites he made them somebody said God

made it okay I need you to get this

because I’m trying to undo many decades

for many of us of wrong thinking and bad

theology sex is good because it’s sex

was God’s idea and God made it verse 7

it says this explains why a man leaves

his father and mother and they get

married and watch this and is joined I

want you to underline I want you to

circle I want you to make it big in your

notes that were joined because I begin

to study this in the original language

and it means so much more than the word

when we say it when we say joined it’s

like all yeah they just came together no

no joined has a three-fold meaning in

this context they are joined physically

through the act of sex they’re joined

emotionally through closeness or

intimacy and they’re joined spiritually

through covenant every time somebody is

joined or has sex it is not just a

physical experience this is an emotional

and spiritual connecting and that’s why

you haven’t been able to figure out why

that one-night stand when I was tripping

on my birthday you know I’m saying and

you can’t get that dude off your mind

and you can’t get that girl out of out

of your head it’s because you weren’t

just joined to them physically the Lord

said when y’all came together and did a

sacred act you joined together

emotionally

and spiritually uh-huh that’s why you’re

in a relationship with them but you’re

still thinking about them that’s why you

keep claiming we’re happy but you can’t

get them out of your mind

it was because that joining together

didn’t just stop when you left the house

when you creeped out in the morning

something will stuck to you let me stop

I got to stay focused see the thing that

you got to realize is that we think God

recognizes marriage when we do the

wedding and we have the food and we have

the white dress in the tuxedo that’s not

when God recognizes a marriage the Bible

tells us that God recognized a marriage

when that man and that woman comes

together to consummate that marriage or

to connect or be joined into one this is

so deep that if you study the thing out

that God has so divinely orchestrated a

woman’s body to have a piece of that

body be called the hymen that is

actually for storing blood that when

there’s a covenant made if you study it

in the Old Testament and the New

Testament anytime a covenant is made

there has to be bloodshed so God said

when a man and a woman come together and

are joined I’m gonna put something in a

woman that when they come together there

has to be bloodshed because every time

they connect there has to be a covenant

and when there is a covenant and

bloodshed that is the thing that secures

them forever together and what you gotta

understand is this is the same principle

that God uses in the Old Testament when

the children of Israel are coming out of

Egypt all of the men had to get

circumcised because there needed to be

bloodshed just so that that was the Old

Covenant but this is the New Covenant

can I bring it up to the New Testament

for you when God was separated from

humanity and we needed to be joined back

to him he sent Jesus and he went to a

cross because there had to be bloodshed

and when there was bloodshed I’m feeling

happy already when there was bloodshed

there was a new covenant made a better

covenant where we don’t have to

sacrifice goats and lambs but what their

eternal lamb was sacrificed for us God

does not want us to just have a

connection he wants us to be in covenant

and that’s why when you have sex with

somebody god says oh they do every time

I have sex with somebody they’re making

a commitment to be in covenant I do

no wedding no dress no songs but in your

apartment in them queen-size bed with

the dirty sheets I do in the back of the

car when nobody you think is looking I

do sneaking out of the office and going

into the Secretary’s room I do and how

many of us are married without the

Covenant how many people have we said I

do too but you really didn’t and what

happens is we keep moving through life

trying to act like we’re not tied to

anything that we don’t have any any

emotional baggage or we don’t have

anything that’s keeping us back but God

said you are taking what I have called

sacred and you’re throwing it to culture

to give you your playbook

but today God has sent me as a messenger

to be able to let you know that sex is

good sex was God’s idea sex is the thing

that he wants you to enjoy inside of the

right container but you cannot have

God’s results without God’s rules they

turn it off Charles but it’s okay they

can go and keep having those broke

relationships that they keep trying to

form through a sexual tie and they’re

gonna go from cycle to cycle do you

wonder why everybody that you date is

the same person with a different face

and they all end around the same time of

year because now you give them their

body because you’re really interested in

them and after they have to stop

pursuing you because you’ll just give it

up there is no more interest in you and

now you get out of it trying to feel the

hole that is in the inside of you and

you somehow find the same person with a

different last name

I’m talking some of y’all the past

decade of your life has been the same

story different face same story

different face and today by the power of

the Holy Spirit I’m coming to yank some

of y’all out of this cycle the cycle I

feel the presence of God my help has

come the cycles that have been keeping

you down that have been keeping you

distracted that have been keeping you

under wraps today God says whom the Sun

sets free is free indeed

somebody’s shout in the tracks a freedom

that’s what God wants for all of his

children he wants us to walk in freedom

but you cannot walk in freedom if you

don’t understand truth and the truth is

sex is glue the easiest way that I could

display it is anytime you have sex the

goal is to make whoever is having sex be

stuck together forever now I know we

don’t look at it that simply that’s why

we do one-night stands and Netflix and

chill and what you are doing right meal

what you got going are you trippin I’ll

come over and put it down are you

playing

you don’t even well none it is your own

saying ain’t nobody been able to and you

do all that dumb stuff and what you’re

doing is you’re setting yourself up to

be glued to her do they be glued to him

that is what the act is doing and what

happens is it looks like this I think

this would be simple for everybody to

understand sex comes into the picture we

take all of our issues all of our

desires all of our wants all of our

one-night stands all of our connections

we come with all of our baggage and all

the abuse and the stuff we haven’t told

anybody we come with that website we

looked at in those fantasies that we

dreamed up and all of those things and

then we get with somebody that’s just

this broken they go to church stuff and

they read a Bible and they own they own

a streak on a Bible reading plan he a

man of God except after 11 o’clock when

stuff starts changing it he went from

watching cartoons to

nevermind yeah and the situation is

right and they take you out to dinner

and they do a couple of things that make

you feel special

you ain’t never met a man like this and

no girl understand me like this wrote

she like where J’s and she likes shorts

and like and she loved investments so

that one night when everything is right

and everybody’s out of town and it just

is raining outside and it’s kind of cold

and she got a Snuggie belenki and I was

gonna go back to my apartment but it’s

like well these are all the things that

people say I’ve never felt like this

about anybody before and what happens is

that sex is supposed to join the two

together forever but I’m in college so

are you I’m saying I can’t really settle

down

you’re I’m saying I’m actually like on

my way to being a billionaire and a

music producer so I can’t really you’re

on saying be tied down but we have

something special though but maybe five

years from now when I settle down and

you’re on the same finish sowing my Wild

Oats then maybe I could you to one girl

are you one you’re I’m saying like I

want to let you know I got you saved in

my phone as the one and all of these

mental and emotional and manipulative

games that get played

and then what ends up happening is

you’re like I’m done with it I don’t

want to do this anymore and you try to

rip apart the problem is when you rip

apart when you were always supposed to

be glued together it will never look

like what it looked like in the

beginning

and there will always be pieces of you

on pieces of me and I wasn’t insecure

until after I got with you and that

insecurity transferred to me and I used

to be so confident in what God called me

to do

but now there’s pieces of you that gotta

for me I used to be so faith-filled I

used to be so optimistic I used to want

something in life and now I just want

you even when you told me that you don’t

want me this process over and over and

over and over again is how people then

say I want my husband or my wife to

marry me think about doing this process

over and over again by the end of that

process this may be the only thing

that’s left of you and that’s why people

say marriage it’s not a 50/50

partnership it’s a hundred on hundred

but when you keep giving pieces of

yourself away you’re only ten percent

now you can post like you you can act

like you still ho but half a youth with

Jerome the other half of you is Sheila

the other pieces of you are with

everybody that never had an investment

in your future and you were not safe in

the Covenant in the confines of marriage

and now you’re walking around with

pieces of you the reason I’m telling you

this strongly is because when God said

this thing when God set this thing up in

mark chapter 10 it in verse 8 it says

and the two are to be united in to

everybody say one I said say one he

wanted the two people every time sex

happened to be united deeper and closer

into one since they and and I love the

Bible because the Bible is really for

remedial people like myself because I

start asking questions like okay what

did you really mean by when they joined

you I’m saying into one does one count

if it’s oral sex or if it’s bad

the bass [ __ ] or if it’s this and that

and we start trying to do all of these

things he said Michael duh – so it can’t

be three four five six seven eight nine

ten eleven okay let me leave that alone

because some of your fantasies have have

have thought that more can satisfy you

more and all it does is it’s more people

you would be glued to to be able to

people to rip okay he said so the two

are to be everybody shot at me one and

then he gives a guarantee of what will

happen if people two people decide he

said let no one split apart what God has

joined together it was never supposed to

be pulled apart that’s why God says that

when you have sex you should save that

until marriage and I am so grateful that

I’m getting to share this with you

because nobody shared to me the why we

don’t have sex before we get married

they just told me not to they didn’t

tell me why so why you don’t have sex

before you get married it’s because when

you take the sex outside of the

container of marriage you have the

opportunity to damage more than you do

help more I think about it put that

point up there I’m out of order right

now but the merits container is sex

I want excuse me sex has a marriage

container and the container is marriage

and when you put it in the container

that container can be able to be the

most beautiful thing in the whole world

how do you know Pastor Mike I got three

kids a fine wife and a lot of practice

do you hear what I’m saying but that

same thing outside of the container can

destroy tons of stuff I don’t know if

you have the picture of water do you

have that picture of water put that up

here this is what it reminds me of and I

want to show you an example of this this

on the right or the left is a picture of

water that is in a container this water

in a container is rushing through these

things that are contributing electricity

and this water in the right container

millions of gallons of it is bringing

life and light to everybody around it

but that same water

outside of a container is bringing

devastation to everything it touches I

preaching right now and even when the

water recedes or you get out of the

relationship or you think you’re healed

there’s still mildew from the dough

there’s still residue and residual from

what was done all I’m telling you is the

reason why marriage is so important is

when you put sex inside of the marriage

container it protects you and everybody

else but I don’t get that on the box I’m

like if God so good why did you even

give me this sexual urge before yo I’m

saying like maybe if he just did it on

my wedding day and then I felt all of

this listen it’s not how it works the

greatest thing that God gave you is

choice and to be able to stay pure and

to be able to commit a life of

discipline and to get stronger you’re

gonna have to choose to invite God into

your everyday life not every week life

not every month life not every year like

yo every day life can I take it every

moment life that you can have the power

of the Holy Spirit to help you be able

to manage every urge every desire and be

able to do what God’s called you to do

that’s why I said I made this it’s good

it’s great but it’s made for a container

where two people are joined together to

become everybody say one and that’s why

you got to understand that this is not

just about sex and relationships this is

about God’s plan of one for every person

write this down God’s plan of one it’s

to have one god one man one woman one

marriage one sex partner one flesh one

lifetime one picture that’s what he

wants he wants your life your

relationship your sex life to reflect as

a picture what heaven looks like on

earth but until you get the gods

principle of one you buy into what

culture says about it that’s what

happen to me me and Natalie we’re

together and we hadn’t had sex for four

or five years we had doubled and dabbled

and touch stuff and rub stuff and did

all that other stuff I’m just gonna be

transparent with you right now cuz ain’t

no sense in faking at this current

moment and we were Dibble and dabbling

and dry humping and and and touching

stuff and doing all this other stuff and

then culture came in and culture came in

to say bro how you how you gonna settle

down with one person and you ain’t never

seen what’s out there God had given me a

promise at 15 16 years old that was

untouched undefiled was all mine and I

trade it in a treasure for a try and I

wonder how many people out here are

trading in the treasure that God’s given

you to try things that may or may not

fulfill you and that’s why I’m coming to

you today and talking to you with such a

passion because if somebody would have

got up and talked to me like this it

would have saved me so much hurt so much

time so much pain I caused other people

and y’all be like this is for the young

people this is for the young people what

are old people they’re young people that

got older and if these things and cycles

haven’t changed in you you can be

sitting up there in your house at 56

years old you nasty old man looking at

all of these people and all of these

things well I didn’t do nothing the

Bible tells you if you think the

thoughts you might as well have done it

because your heart is allowing you to go

to a place that you have not let God

touch I hate how people get so religious

over this type of well I’m married you

can be impure in your marriage you can

be in an emotional affair with somebody

on Facebook that you ain’t never met

before but you think things about them

that you never think about your wife you

make more time to make sure you logged

on then laying with and finding about

the woman that you said before God you

are going to take care of Pastor Mike

why are you coming this hard cuz I’m

sick of the enemy playing what people’s

mind

marriages and the future generations the

broken relationships are the only thing

that the children can eat from so if the

mom and dad whether you’re together is

baby mama drama it was a one-night stand

I should have aborted you it was abuse

all of these things it doesn’t matter

how it happens if we don’t allow the

Holy Spirit to come in and sever and cut

and restore and heal and change we pass

that on to the next generation and if

you’re not gonna get sexually pure for

yourself by God do it for your children

we’re living in the most fatherless

generation ever no examples in models

but they know that you’re going out for

the weekend with your girls they know

what that means mom I’m praying that the

Holy Spirit right now it’s going through

this technology and it’s grabbing

people’s hearts and that you would get

in a place where you would know that

what you’ve seen about sex which you’ve

experienced about sex may not be God’s

best for you see the thing that I want

you to write this down is sex has been

perverted it’s been perverted y’all the

enemy’s job is to take whatever God says

is good and make you think it’s bad all

the way from the very beginning think

about it Adam and Eve in the Garden God

says UK eat of one tree not a whole

field of trees not the whole forest

he said the whole forest is for you to

enjoy just don’t eat of this one tree

what did the enemy do and I want you to

see how cunning this is because the

enemy wants to break God’s plan of one

remember the two are supposed to be one

and so we never hear about the enemy or

the devil or Satan in the garden when it

was just Adam we do not know how long it

before God gave Adam Eve but you never

hear about the devil until there was

unity and he said well I see unity I

gotta break it up and he comes in the uh

he comes in the form of a manipulative

snake and he starts whispering not to

both of them to one of them died vision

and he whispers to one to pervert what

God said and she saw it she just tasted

it she touched it and this is the crazy

thing about being in a sexual or a

temptation or or any of those things is

when you get to it you always want to

share it Eve tasted what God told them

not to taste and then took it to Adam

and said uh I ain’t gonna feel guilty by

myself let me let me put it in two turns

this is our last time so since it’s our

last time let’s make it count I’m moving

after this so you want to hook up one

more time you want to share the

dysfunction with somebody else and

that’s what the enemy is trying to do

he’s trying to pervert what God calls

good and this is the great thing for us

if we read the Bible as believers this I

know this has been happening for years

Paul was in a situation where he was

having to go through the same thing in

the city of Corinth it’s like the Las

Vegas Strip

of our time and y’all know what they say

in Vegas whatever happens in Vegas stays

in Vegas and happy y’all ain’t even been

in Vegas so you already know the like

like you know the slogan had been there

and so first Corinthians 6:9

Paul’s telling these people he said

don’t you realize that those who do

wrong will not everybody say will not

inherit the kingdom of God I love this

part don’t fool yourself

don’t fool yourself that you’re gonna

get all the king’s resources

relationship responsibility and the rest

of the kingdom and you’re not doing it

the way he’s doing it don’t fool

yourself don’t fool yourself that you

can keep going out here and sleeping

with everybody and ripping yourself away

from and connecting yourself to stuff

and then live the fullest

dumb life that God created you to live I

want everybody to understand this

kingdom living is not for heaven heaven

is already a kingdom what Kingdom life

is is for earth and God said you just so

happy to get saved he said once you

become a believer seven salvation allows

you access to heaven and heaven is the

lowest level for a believer that is the

guarantee of salvation but are you just

going to wait for eternity are you going

to live like a king’s kid in history and

God says you don’t get to inherit the

kingdom of God all the things that I

have planned for you all the things that

I’m made for you before you were

informed your mother’s womb if you keep

doing the wrong things or going against

my precepts they’re going against my

principles that’s why I want you to read

relationshipgoals that’s why I want you

to get into my word that’s why I want

you to rewatch all of this series why

because I want you to get understanding

and a revelation so that you can do what

I’ve asked you to do so you can inherit

what the King has already prepared for

you don’t fool yourself somebody needs

to put that in the chat don’t fool

yourself I love it it says because most

of us like okay what do you mean do

wrong what is doing wrong I’m glad you

asked let’s clarify those who indulge in

sexual sin who worship idols who commit

adultery

who are male prostitutes who practice

homosexuality who are thieves who are

greedy people and I love that one

because some of y’all thought y’all was

getting out of it cuz he was like nope

that ain’t me past there nope that ain’t

me past there nope that ain’t me pastor

then I said greedy and you Brady and God

literally saying if that spirit of greed

and selfishness doesn’t get out of you

you won’t inherit the kingdom of God

either and that’s the crazy thing about

it

you heard homosexuality and male

prostitutes in some freezin for

believers you think that those things

are our big fans and they’re gonna be

the ones that really do but when Jesus

sees in all of them at the same level

maybe your little white lie is on the

same level as male prostitution and what

God is saying to you is you better stop

comparing yourself to one another narrow

is the way that God has called

to live I can’t look to my left or look

to my right I gotta be led by the Holy

Spirit

and walk it out and that’s why people

are trying to figure out is this sin is

this doing wrong is this the one that’s

gonna take me over and God saying will

y’all get off the line of sin and try to

get into the life of success in me will

you stop trying to figure out can I

touch can I finger can’t ideas can’t I

kids can’t I live can’t idea can i and

we’re trying to go and see what’s

acceptable so we can still do what God’s

called us to do and he’s saying listen

those who are greedy people drunkards

abusive or use things for abnormal use

cheat people none of these will inherit

what the King has already prepared for

you look what it says in verse 11 and

some of you were once like that but then

you were cleansed huh you were made holy

you were made right with God by your

good works no by calling on the name of

the Lord Jesus Christ and by the spirit

of god can we take five seconds and give

God praise for his brace cuz some of

y’all sitting there like you ain’t never

done nothing they never thought nothing

ain’t never been nowhere but if it

wasn’t for the grace of God over my life

that’s rescued me out of the lost

dark pit Oh somebody’s gettin a

breakthrough you’re not where you wanna

be

but can we give God praise you’re not

where you used to be thank God for His

grace so crazy how Christians get

amnesia so quick you want to judge

people who are in the middle of they

process and you is just this broke up

six years ago I gave him too much credit

six months ago

oh I gave him too much credit hours ago

some of y’all just made your declaration

to God before the livestream and God

says I’m good for that but you need to

judge others with the measure of grace

you needed hey I’m on your toes I’m in

yo business I mean

your house and I know you don’t like it

but I don’t care I’m still call me you

don’t see it you start running I don’t

know where that came from but it’s time

for us to live a life that is in view of

God’s grace for ours well I feel the

presence of God and I know what y’all

are saying this is what they were saying

in Paul will you say I’m allowed to do

anything but then Paul says but not

everything is good for you and even

though I’m allowed to do anything

I must not become a slave to anything my

question to you today is what are you a

slave to and I just opened a big can of

worms because we’re talking about sex

and impure thoughts and sexual

immorality but my question to you is are

you a slave to food uh-huh are you are

you a slave to people’s praise are you a

[ __ ] are you a slave to God says the

reason we got to get control of this

body and you got to allow me to come in

and you really don’t at this time need

to be joining with anybody else

physically emotionally and spiritually

because you got to get right yourself

he’s like this is why I’m asking you

because what are you a slave to and I

can’t I don’t even have time to go

through all the things that we could be

a slave to but one of the worst things

to be a slave to is sexual immorality

because when you’re a slave to that it

never comes alone when you’re a slave to

sexual immorality it brings all of his

friends lying deception manipulation it

brings abuse it brings all of those

things when you start dealing in that

stuff even if we go back to David who we

were talking about Latin the past two

weeks when sexual immorality entered

into his eyes through lust when he saw

Bathsheba automatically he started

manipulating he started lying he started

up making up story what I’m talking

about

you you think that is one thing but it’s

like 50 things that come into your life

excuse me they don’t come in you invite

them in that would be like me standing

here come

trouble low self-esteem insecurities

come on I want to be a liar next year I

know I want to manipulate my parents I

want to I want to tell them that I’m

doing one thing and I want to do another

come on I want to lower my standard to

satisfy a guy who doesn’t plan to be

with me for another six weeks I’m gonna

give the best parts of me to a female

that just knows I have a little money

and once the clouds jump come on that’s

why I need to let you know this I said

all that to get you here

write this down sex creates sull ties

sex creates soul ties let’s break down

that word soul ties the soul most

theologians theologians believe is the

mind the will and the emotions okay so

it’s the mind

it’s my wheel my actions what I do and

my emotions my feelings ties I think the

easiest way to define it today the

culture is calling it entanglement so

it’s my mind my wheel and my emotions

entangled with somebody else I don’t

think you got it so I need to show you

guys a picture of this because the

problem is that many of us are walking

through life tied to people things and

ideas that had one space in our life and

maybe we didn’t understand all of the

ramifications of being joined

emotionally spiritually and even

physically through the act of sex but

God made this thing so powerful that he

said it only needs to happen within

marriage and what ends up happening

without proper revelation we then do

what feels right and this is the thing

that I need you to understand that when

you pay attention to your feelings

you’re paying attention to your flesh

your flesh will only tell you what makes

sense in the moment but the truth will

tell you make what makes sense for your

history and for the rest of your life

and what we do is we make decisions cuz

it feels right Pastor Mike ain’t nobody

when he just talked to me

here is gonna be making me like and when

they text that certain thing and when

they do that y’all know what I’m telling

me up here talking by myself and that’s

why you watch that show all the time I

just want to watch power Pastor Mike I

just want to watch power you need some

real power of the Holy Spirit because

those images that are going into your

gates and the images that are going

through your gates there’s a ton of

people you need to unfollow right now

because you’re giving them access to

your gates and you have no control over

you think you have enough self-control

to be able to do it but one seed in your

eyes can result in an activity six hours

later that one moment that uh that one

moment that you just felt something can

end up in you holding a baby nine months

later land and you don’t even look like

you this is what I’m telling you right

now is that you have to get away from

the soul ties Pastor Mike

that’s easy to say but you don’t

remember you wasn’t there when it was me

and Rebecca I mean me and Becks this was

my first and I was scared and she was

more experienced and I always thought

she was beautiful and and and it was

that one night that we connected and it

wasn’t going to be much and I feel a

little tug every once in a while when I

want to study and be able to be be

focused but it was so good that one time

that I had to come back a couple times

and I’ll never do it with anybody else

because we had a special connection and

she had curly hair and I think her eyes

is hazel

I never been when nobody had hazel eyes

but I’m gonna follow God and do what he

called me to doing but I can’t stop

thinking about that one concert we went

to and what we did after it my mind is

entangled and every time I smell that

perfume that’s the perfume that she used

to wear and it gives me a feeling

and I just walked into the restaurant

and somebody that don’t even know me had

that same perfume on and it hit me

because I was doing good I was walking

away I was doing what God but then I

smelled it and it took me back to a

place that I’ve been tied up and maybe I

can’t live a Christian life and maybe

this is too much for me and maybe but I

think I can walk away from that I think

I can walk away I think I can walk and

you know I went off to college or I went

to Explorer and I really started going

to another place but I met this one

friend that we started off in Bible

study we started off doing the things

that God called us to do and the thing

that was initially attracted to me about

her was how much she studied the Word of

God and she went through a hard

situation and some of y’all wondering

what’s the FWB

oh we became friends with benefits like

will never be official it’ll always

start off as a Bible study but it might

end up with laying on of hands it might

start off with us thinking about the

future but it might end up with us

delaying both of our futures now every

time I go to church I’m not thinking

about praising and worshipping God I’m

thinking is she gonna be there when we

talk about soul ties the mind will and

emotions being tangled with people and

now I try to lift holy hands and there’s

restraint have you ever been in the

house of God after committing something

that you thought was sexually right in

the moment but ended up being wrong and

it just feel like you can’t worship

right and it feels like you don’t got

the right things to say

it’s dare I say it’s because you’re tied

and it’s crazy that many of you you go

to a place you go to a place in your

relationship where this is the sad truth

for so many people but there was a

family member

or a neighbor or a cousin who abused you

and you are never allowed to talk about

it and the one time you tried to say

something they made you feel like that

would never happen and you are a liar

because they like the personality of the

person they never considered that they

would be one who caused pain

well that’s uncle such-and-such a heater

you know he would never do that to you

are you sure he and so what do you do as

a child or an adolescent or somebody who

was raped or you carry around you hide

that abuse we never talk about it there

are people I feel the Holy Spirit right

now under the sound of my voice that are

sitting here over three decades of

silence because you are abused and your

husband can’t figure out why you can’t

connect with him the way that he wants

you to connect with them or you’re a man

and you are abused by another male as a

young man and you can’t figure out why

your attentions don’t get as attracted

to a woman it’s because somebody robbed

you of something now I’m trying to move

in purpose and go for what God has

called me to do and I got my first my

friends with benefits and my abuser

still tangling up my mind will and

emotions and many of us what we do is we

get tired and stop I don’t want to fight

this anymore I don’t want to keep going

after you said it was the year of being

stronger and I feel weaker so I quit and

whenever you become inactive whenever

you stop going after the things of God

whenever you stop fighting for purity

you give your sanch itself an

opportunity to be connected to somebody

else do you know one of those my

favorite ones is the young people and

even some of the old people who think

that they can go ahead and start

creating soul ties and have sex because

they’re about to get married the wedding

date is only three months out you ain’t

even de marriage counseling yet you

don’t even know what they come with what

we’re deciding it’s just gonna be me

in forever and the enemy tries to play

you and what you now are are connected

to is someone who you want to have a

covenant with but the time has not come

yet for you to honor that covenant and

what it does for most people is it

complicates the the period of time where

God’s trying to get the last little

stuff off for you get that residue let

forgiveness come and you’re connected

and tied to things that God saying if

we’re gonna be doing this if you’re

gonna be having sex for the rest of your

life what’s three more months of

consecration what’s what’s what’s six

more months of preparation and some of

y’all honestly do need to move the

wedding up because the sin is causing a

setback in your life and gods saying I

can’t do everything for the business I

can’t do everything don’t fool yourself

just because you made the date and

you’re still going against the rules

that I’ve set for you as parameters I

cannot give you the inheritance I have

for you don’t fool yourself and some of

y’all some of y’all older ones who y’all

can control your urge for six seven

eight months and then there’s a cycle

there’s like a week around your birthday

it’s my birthday for my turn and if I

see somebody I mean I don’t know what it

might be but it might be something good

and I don’t think you do all of these

little things and you have all of these

rationalizations of why it’s okay some

of y’all you just continue to fall for

setbacks he tall he handsome

I mean what size shoe is that is that a

14

you know what they say about men with

big feet oh come on y’all y’all gonna

ask fake with me he got a beer he look

like you goin today you put that smile

you do for who okay cool

can I go is you can I have Birkin bags

and get my booty injected and get breast

implants and be able to be your side

chick can I this life that I’ve been

trying to live ain’t working so let me

fake my way into a different life and

become somebody I not to try to fit in

with what is eventually going to be

classified as a set bag some of y’all

have people in your phone that you need

to go rename them set back his name in

your phone is Jerome her name in your

phone is Alicia you need to go in your

phone today and you need to retitle them

set back is calling so every time you

answer the phone you know that you’re

potentially setting back the purpose God

has for you set back once the Netflix

and chill set bag wants to take me out

for my birthday said back wants to talk

but no I fasted I prayed I sought the

Lord so tie is broken I’m going after

you god no I’m going after you but I

couldn’t get free completely it felt

like one came off it felt like a little

freedom but I’m still connected to all

these people mentally emotionally and

spiritually entangled and now I want to

lead a family and now I want to lead a

church but can I expose probably the

most covert assassin in the body of

Christ

as when you hook up with people who are

kind of saved see the kind to save

people will trick you to feel like y’all

have the same beliefs that y’all doing a

Bible read and playing together but you

know you can have sex between every

Bible reading plan you do planting

images and thoughts and stuff they

picked up from other people in different

seasons and now everybody is walking

towards purpose and at any moment I’m

almost to the position or the spot I’m

supposed to be act I’m I can see I can

see how God wants to use me I can see

that I have a call on my life I can see

I almost can write the book the book is

right there

I can almost be the one to change but I

have not been loosened from the ties let

me let me give you the title of my

message it took this long but the reason

I’m so passionate about this is because

nobody told me

there’s no condom for your heart

everybody’s concerned about sexually

transmitted diseases but the craziest

thing that you can get is a spiritually

transmitted dysfunction there is no

condom for your heart we did it we did

it we made it but my heart was affected

in it and that’s why so many of us are

walking around thinking we’re practicing

safe sex because we wrap it up there’s

no way to wrap up your heart

unless you wrap it up in the Word of God

unless you have a standard that allows

you to protect your heart that’s why the

Bible tells us to guard your heart above

all other things because out of it flows

the issues of life if I do not protect

my heart and I allow all of these

entanglements and all of these soul ties

my heart is the thing that gets affected

and there’s no condom for your heart the

only way that you can actually practice

safe sex is when you submitted to God

you surrender your sexuality safe sex

I made an acronym for it that’s in the

book if you’re gonna have safe sex safe

sex means it’s sacred safe sex means

that it’s anointed and don’t get all

deep on me all anointing means is God’s

approval when he told Adam and Eve be

fruitful and multiply

they had his approval for that and God’s

saying if you put sex in the container

that I’m meant for it to be you got my

approval

it says the marriage bed is undefiled

flit from things swing from things bring

whipped cream and and and and whips and

chains and and hand sanitizer do it all

that means because it’s under file

because you’re doing it in the container

I put it in but when you bring it out of

that container

I can’t put my approval on it it’s not

anointed so if you’re gonna have safe

sex it’s got to be sacred

it’s got to be anointed it’s gotta be

faithful what if God was as faithful to

you as you were to the partners you’ve

been with let’s be honest some of y’all

are faithful to the same wife but

mentally and emotionally you check out

every day what if God was as faithful to

us as we were he said no I meant this to

be something that you consistently did a

covenant is not a contract I need

everybody to understand that you can get

out of contracts a covenant is meant to

last forever a covenant it’s something

and that’s why it always cracks me up

Charles that people get married in the

sight of God to make a toughen it but

they go

to the courthouse to get rid of the

contract they come before God to get

married but they don’t go back to him

when they want a divorce oh you go to

you should invite all the same people

you invited for your wedding and you

should bring them up bring the

bridesmaids the groom and everybody and

say we lied we said till death do us

part but we really meant until they

annoyed me enough and they come to God

for a covenant but they end the

relationship with the contract I’m

preaching right now man if you’re gonna

have safe sex it has to be sacred

anointed faithful and then watch this

one this is gonna go against culture

this is gonna bug every rap video that

has you thinking around about three

unfold bees on my dirt and this is what

I’m gonna do until they thought up there

and you can slaughter that’s what we see

but if you’re gonna have safe sex it has

to be exclusive sacred anointed faithful

and exclusive and the truth is many of

us are all tied up see the thing you

can’t control is when my friend with

benefits hooks up with about to get

married and my first starts messing with

my setbacks and my kinda safe starts

walking in abuse yeah y’all y’all just

switch up because they hooked up on a

one-night stand on spring break and then

we were separated for a season and then

what ends up happening is they cooked up

with them because they met at the same

birthday party yeah keep entangling and

then they went from there to there and

I’m still sitting here

I’m really trying to seek God and go

after my purpose and go do the things

that God told me to do and all of them I

can’t control them cuz I left them

behind and I don’t have nothing with

them anymore and then I said you know

what this is the season I’m going after

God and I’m about to move and look what

has happened the entanglement is

stronger now because it’s tied in many

places my kind of saved friend

come on over here and get with the set

back and that’s why yeah now don’t let

it down don’t let him down make him go

through the hoops and now that’s why

they think no y’all stay together cuz

it’s okay for men to be with men and

women to be with women and people to go

and then at one time I’m just frustrated

deny I’m back in it and now what I try

to do is convince everybody that hey

y’all God has a purpose for me so let’s

make a deal since I can’t let you go on

willpower can we just make a step

towards my purpose together one two

three oh that feels good so I got to

another level with the same setbacks so

maybe I’ll just keep bargaining with all

of the people and the emotional drama

and the heart hey guys can we take two

steps forward towards my purpose real

quick one two three one two oh my

goodness look how much I’m doing

look what God’s doing in my life this is

what Facebook and Instagram looks like

this is how God is blessing me and look

I’m on vacation and all this but you

still all tied up and what happens is

because we’ve made some forward progress

still tied emotionally spiritually and

physically to people and then what

happens I don’t then what happens here

come here

yeah and then God shows me stand up

there by the podium and then God shows

me who I’m supposed to be with just

standing and the reason I can’t go after

who I’m supposed to be with cuz if you

knew what I was still tied to this is

what you don’t talk about this on your

first day

many of you got married and don’t even

know your partner’s past cuz if you knew

what I was tied to you you might not

even consider me ever again

so let’s keep lying let’s keep the truth

in the dark

let’s not submit it to God let’s act

like it never happened

can I tell you a secret to all the

people who want to get married you do

not get blind deaf or dumb when you can

have sex legally before God if you do

not check the perversions and the

thoughts and the intents of the heart

before you get married all you did was

invite somebody in so you could hurt

them so what I do pastor might think

what I do how do I get in uninvolved how

do i how do I come back to a place that

I could get back to spirit and truth

that I can get to my purpose in my

destiny how do i I get untangled I need

you to write these points down real

quick cuz I’m not gonna show you all of

this and not give you practical steps of

how to get it if you need to go peace

but there’s somebody whose whole life is

depending on this message hitting the

heart of their situation so I gotta give

you solutions right now if you want to

get untangled the first thing you have

to do I’m gonna give you these C’s you

have to cut it call it confess it cancel

it and cast it all these ties

individually I have to cut it call it

confess it cancel it and test it I’m

gonna give you one minute on each of

these you have to cut it according to

first Corinthians 6:18 it says that you

need to run from sexual sin not walk not

ponder if this is a good thing or you

can

handle it as a man cuz I ain’t seen

breasts before and I don’t see him

booties before and I don’t been to the

strip club before and I done done this

before no no Ron from sexual sin and

many of us are walking and jogging away

from what God is asking us to run from

so you got to cut it it’s got to be a

clear cut I’m no longer doing this if

they’re there and it’s there I’m running

the opposite direction and people I was

like but I want to be friends they’re

good people though I really want to be

friends with the people that I caused

myself to be depleted from and I know

there’s all type of philosophies on this

but if you check the health of the

relationships you want is it worth

cutting it and the Bible tells you it is

running from it and then you got to call

it seek all it is is one of those things

that I need to help people cuz a lot of

people will get out of the relationship

but then they romanticize it like man

there was some bad stuff that happened

but they were the best person I ever

been with and we try to make this

picture of what it is not and we try to

make it be like yeah I mean it was crazy

but I remember that one time we try to

replay the good memories and

romanticizing you need to call it what

it is it was a thief it’s told your time

they stole purpose from you

they stole nobody makes friends with the

thief and there’s people out here saying

that people who stole for them was the

best thing they ever had you need to cut

it and you need to call it what it is

then you need to confess it according to

James 5:16

you need to confess your sins to each

other not to the pastor not to the

leader he says go find another fellow

believer that’s why I always encourage

you you’re the minister here if the

church shuts down forever it doesn’t

matter you can call or FaceTime or get

around one believer and it says I can

you can get healing from this stuff with

one other believer confess your sins to

each other and pray for each other

that you may be healed because the

earnest prayers of the righteous person

people who are in right standing with

God not perfect people but the righteous

has great power and produces wonderful

result who have you told

what

actually happen to you what you’ve

actually done to others and what you’re

actually thinking about doing if you

would get that honest and that real

there’s husbands and wife that need to

have real conversations there’s kids

that need to have conversations with

their parents why are you saying this

because God only can change thing in the

light he only can heal things that are

revealed and many of us are not being

healed because we will not reveal we

want to move on from this point like

that’s in the past we’re just gonna

start from here but the past has a hold

on you and you can act like it doesn’t

and you can act like you move at first

but God’s progress for you it’s way up

there and you’re still fighting to stay

right here so you need to cut it call it

confess it and then you need to cancel

it I like this one because have you ever

seen a TV show that was on the air and

they would actually um give

advertisement forward and they would

plan for it and send fires and do

Instagram posts and all that other stuff

and if the show doesn’t work they say

they canceled the show and at the moment

they cancel the show all the

advertisements stop everybody is disband

there is no more connection to it people

disassociated with that’s what you need

to do in these relationships

some of y’all have ended the

relationships and you still running the

reruns right now you’re still going back

to the situation because they will cool

with my family or they just a fixture in

our household I mean now you’re a cool

person you need to cancel it give them

back the Jordans they bought you give

them back the necklace they had I don’t

want any remembrance of this time well

it’s the most expensive thing that you

ever have baby you don’t know you’re the

most expensive thing that you’ve ever

had that your kids a king’s kid you’re

valuable you’re worthy until you

understand that you’re worthy you won’t

cancel the things that God has asked you

to cancel you cut it you call it you

confess it you cancel it and then you

cast it this someone I like first Peter

5:7 says cast all your cares your

anxiety

your mistakes on him why because before

you cared about it he cared about it and

more than he cared about it he cared

about you so God’s saying I don’t want

you to spend the rest of your life

carrying your mistakes

carrying what’s going on in your life

and that’s why when we get back to Paul

talking to this church in Corinth he

says I know cultures telling you one

thing I know cultures telling you that

food was made for the stomach and the

stomach for food that means I got urges

I got love you I’m saying men are made

for women women are made for men like I

mean this is true though someday God

will do away with both of them will be

just spirits but you can’t say that our

bodies were made for sexual immorality

they were made for the Lord and the Lord

cares about your body

some of y’all I believed alive that this

is just my body I’m not hurting nobody

like this is yon saying just how I get

through and express him to leave myself

and thought that I think I said man I

care about that too I care about

everything I made you I need you to cut

it and call it and confess it and cancel

it

and cast it if I could sum all of that

huh God wants all of us today

to surrender our sexuality everything

that we were taught about it that was

not founded in the Word of God

everything that we’ve experienced

everything that happened to us

wrongfully God said I’ll take all of it

you can surrender your sexual the

husband and wife that right now the

passion is gone and you just feel this

distance that’s coming between you God

says hey surrender it to me I can make

you have the best most passionate sex

life at that age that you’ve ever had

but you cannot do it alone

you got to surrender it young man young

woman that’s watching this right now and

it was a decision between turning this

message on and looking at pornography

again let me say congratulations you

made the right decision and there’s tons

of other messages just like this that

can help you hide yourself how does a

young man or a young woman keep his way

pure Psalms 119 by hiding themselves in

the Word of God God is saying if you

surrender it to me I can help you with

this some of you have images and

preferences

struggling in sexual identity and am i

attracted to men am i attracted to women

can I do this am i transgender what do i

how do I can i and God says I’m not

scared of none of it bring it to me

surrender all the wild thoughts all the

hurts all the abuse

all the in entanglements careful to me

cuz I care about you and I care about

your body

I had a struggle with this as y’all know

I tell my testimony every week that I

was addicted to pornography I was

tangled up I had all kinds of stuff that

was holding me back I was trying to do

major things in my life and I was tied

to so many people and so many ideas and

so many pictures you know what this does

it makes you tired and I felt like

there’s so many believers right now that

it just said I’m tired of fighting this

because you tried to do it on willpower

if God wants to use me he gonna have to

come give me

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not fight this no more

I’m sick I was trying to do it and gods

saying exactly are you sick of trying to

do this on your own are you done with

trying to do this on willpower instead

of real power can I tell you the real

power of God is so powerful let me show

you it’s hard to do normal things it was

hard to get up because of what I was

tied to there’s something y’all it’s

hard to do like normal stuff cuz of what

you’re tied to but can I tell you what

real power will do for you in 1st

Corinthians 6:14 there’s a revelation in

here that changed the trajectory of my

life this is how I got free from all of

these bondages and he was telling these

people to Paul and God who got not you

not your meditation not your good

thoughts not your staying just under the

radar like you’re gonna need real power

and the real power comes from everybody

say God God will raise us from the dead

by his power just as he raised our Lord

from the dead and I saw that in God said

there’s your answer

I was like I’ll get it you know

sometimes one of them one of the things

that you do in meditating is you go over

the same thing over and over that’s why

Insogna says I meditate on your work day

and night some of us just read for sport

or read to get a streak and God singing

you’re you’re moving past the revelation

that will change your life maybe some of

y’all this week need to stay on one

scripture every day until it starts to

say different things the Bible is the

only book that you read and it reads you

and when I did that with description

over and over and over this is the

revelation I got verse 14 it says and

God will raise us from the dead okay so

he’s gonna raise me from the day and I’m

gonna go to him and by his power it’s

gonna be his power that raised me from

the dead just as he raised the Lord from

the dead like that’s what he did he

ascended from across and you came from

heaven

to show the way okay in front of your

okay I see you did that what does that

have to do with me and God said to me so

clearly like I’m gonna say to you

Michael if I can raise a dead body what

makes you think I can’t manage a living

one

he said if I can raise every dead body

if you would allow me if you would

surrender your sexuality I can help you

manage the one you got right now how is

that gonna happen by the power of the

Holy Spirit

well Pastor Mike pastor mind I’m trying

to I hear your message today and there’s

some things I was planning to do before

I got here but I’m I’m gonna

I’m making a decision that I’m not gonna

do that no more Murr I’m gonna surrender

my sexuality okay so I’m coming after

you got I’m coming after you got I’m

coming after you got I’m coming after

you got but I can’t seem to get past

this point

God said are you done cuz at the end of

your rope is where my power did see and

by the power of the Holy Spirit I

believe for some of you right now the

power of the Holy Spirit is coming as

you surrender come on lift your hands

the power of the Holy Spirit is coming

to cut you free from everytime from

everything and God is saying that no

matter who it was you can be free I feel

the presence of God in this place right

now

whatever was tied to you whatever was

tangled up it now becomes your testimony

you can stand up and say I used to be a

home but now I’m holy I used up I used

to feel worthless but now I’m worthy I

feel the presence of God coming to you

wherever you’re at right now come on

hands lift it up all over this place

we’re about to surrender our sexuality

come on hands lift it all over this

place God I’m available

I surrender everything to you God my

will I give to you God if this is what

you’re saying I’ll do what you say do

god I’m asking you to use me God I can’t

do this by myself

I’ll use it all I’ll use my testimony to

show someone else the way God I just

need your power can enable me to say to

be real to confess it

somebody say see my store read

and yeah they get Caleb a mic so you

come on I feel the presence of God in

this place lift your hands right now I

need you to lift your hands God’s coming

in he’s doing surgery right now

somebody say say Lord I’m available to

you come on somebody it’s getting

transformed right now sitting my I came

to you I’ll do what you say

come on somebody say city use me Lord

God we need you to shoes we need you God

right now come on somebody hands lift it

up right now I can’t do this say my soul

I’m done save my storage my soul

somebody needs to say it I’m gone

there’s nothing else I can do and I am

available

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to data in service I believe the end of

service is the beginning of surrender I

said I believe the end of service is the

beginning of your surrender and I want

us to pray a prayer together a prayer of

sexual surrender if you have the

relationship goals book it is in this

book and I pray this prayer often and I

want to pray it with you and pray it

over you today and I want you if you got

the book it’s on page 117 and if you

don’t have the book we’re gonna put it

on the screen or on the lower thirds or

something but I’m gonna lead you in it

but today wherever you are I want you to

lift your hands I believe God is doing a

miraculous work that soul ties and

things that have been connected to you

for years are

I feel the presence of that there’s a

push coming to your house come on

there’s a push coming God saying that

this is not the end for you

this is not all she wrote but on 2,000

years ago God wrote a different story

for you

and all you have to do is receive it all

you have to do is surrender repeat after

me

say God I don’t know how to do this on

my own so I’m giving you my sexuality I

have done things said things experienced

things that I lower outside of your will

for me and today I’m asked in you fool

take ownership come on that’s what needs

somebody needs to say today I’m asking

you take ownership I want to live a life

of value come on say that that is

centered in your love for me and not my

desire for temporary fulfillment reset

my priorities come on everybody say that

again God reset my priorities refocus my

thoughts unfaithfulness renew my mind

with your identity for me rebuild my

self-worth until I believe that I’m your

masterpiece I feel that somebody right

there God is about to rebuild yourself

worth everything that’s taken all the

pieces he’s rebuilding your self-worth

he’s taking all the pieces and making

you a masterpiece realign my perspective

to see myself

and others the way you see us restore my

broken pieces and make me new I give you

permission come on this is important

right here if your heart is not open God

is not gonna knock down the door and

come in you have to give them permission

somebody say it from your heart I give

you permission to uproot my damaged

areas somebody say it again I give you

permission to uh pleat my damaged areas

of rejection pain hurt shame guilt and

big bad examples the negatively shaped

my perspective and I’m asking you come

on lift your hands up God I’m asking you

for you to cultivate in me the fruits of

the spirit from Galatians five that will

produce say it out loud

love joy peace patience kindness

goodness faithfulness gentleness and

self-control I surrender my sexuality

I’m yours

in Jesus name

father I thank you that she would seal

that prayer over my brothers and sisters

when those watched his on the

rebroadcast and it shared three five ten

years ago I thank you that the same

spirit that is with us in this room and

it with your people at the house it

invades their house and fades their car

and fades their heart and transforms

their life today we surrender we

surrender our sexuality to you God

purify us O God search us O Lord

thank you Father God for transforming us

sex is not bad sex is good because it’s

God’s idea and thank you for the

container of marriage

that will allow us to succeed I declare

a peace coming over your life right now

some of y’all this is the freeze you’ve

been in a long time

don’t fight this moment right now God’s

healing deep things right now there’s

there’s deep things I don’t want people

we’re so quick to move and I know the

stream is long and it doesn’t matter

right now how much does your healing

cost come on just let God do this work

some of the memories that are coming

back right now

not saying by His Holy Spirit he’s

severing it right now in the name of

Jesus I feel the presence of God in this

place

Ron God people are healing they’re being

stuff is snapping off right now I feel

it stuff is snapping off you won’t have

the desire anymore for it you won’t have

the taste for the appetite will be gone

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well what I do tomorrow when something

comes up that I didn’t know I was gonna

see surrender it again this is not a

monthly or weekly or when we do a sermon

series this is a every day today got a

surrender my sexuality and I give it to

you there’s some people watching the

stream and you’ve been tuned in all of

this time for this moment

you remember when I talked about a

covenant and how there had to be

bloodshed when a covenant was made well

I want you to know that God does not

want to be separated from you another

day actually not another moment

because he wanted to make a covenant

with you he sent Jesus Christ His only

Son to the cross to shed blood and the

Bible tells us that he knew we were

gonna make mistakes and he was wounded

in bruised for our iniquities and our

transgressions

he says somebody’s got to prove that

there’s a covenant so I’ll give my life

cuz Michaels gonna be addicted to

pornography and he’s gonna need a way to

get back to God and so I’m gonna make a

way and no matter what you’ve done how

far you feel how broken you feel no

matter what people have told her even

religious people have told you God’s

saying that he loves you and he made a

way for you guys to be connected and all

you have to do is accept and receive not

by your works but through faith what

Jesus has already done for you if you

want to make the greatest decision of

their life the decision that untied be

the decision that allowed me to go from

being a manipulator and addicted to

pornography and lost and broken and

jacked up not even that long ago that

took me from that place not to a perfect

place but a progressing place and every

day I have to surrender my sexuality but

God says that’s my boy

one who works and walks in progression

not perfection that same level of access

is available to you right now today is

the day of salvation some of you have

been like law let me get my stuff

together there’s a few things that I

need to do before I come to God let me

help you you can’t get it together

without God you cannot do this without

him you need his help so today if you

want to make the decision for Jesus

Christ according to Romans 10:9 all you

have to do is believe that Jesus came he

died and he rose again just for you and

you are saved and what does this do this

makes you have an understanding that I’m

repenting you repent all repent means is

turn i’m turning from the way I dealt

with sexuality I dealt with people I’ve

talked about people and I’m turning to

God I’m turning to his word I’m finding

out what the manual says about my life

and my situation I’m finding out what

the Spirit of God has said what he said

over me before what’s formed on my

mother’s womb and we want to help you

with that we want to walk with you

but this entire journey starts with a

decision so if you want to make that

decision we’re about to pray and you say

and pastor I want you to include me in

that prayer a week ago we had over 600

people get saved in that week because

they came to a moment like oh yeah you

can clap you can shout that’s why our

church exists we had over 600 people and

one we give their life to Christ because

they said I don’t want to do this

morning surrender and today I believe by

the power of the Holy Spirit he’s

drawing you right now the reason I’m

taking some time with this cuz it’s been

taking you 30 years to get to this point

and God said give me three minutes and

I’ll transform everything I’ll turn this

thing all around one you’re making the

greatest decision of your life – I am so

proud of you but more than that your

name will be written in the Lamb’s Book

of Life 3 if you want to give your life

to Christ come on lift your hands in

your living room in the porch running it

doesn’t matter lift your hands I don’t

see you but God does you can put your

hands down I even know tears are flowing

right now there are people that things

are changing around right now these are

the moments that your life will be

defined by and I want us to pray as a

church family we pray a transformation

church as a family for the benefit of

those who are coming to Christ so

everybody in your home’s in your car

watching on replac broadcast on your at

your cubicle I want you to pray this out

loud say God thank you for sending Jesus

to shed his blood just for me today I

surrender I believe you lived you died

and you rose again just for me just the

way I am with all my ties with all my

baggage you still love me today I give

you my life be my Lord and Savior change

me renew me transform me I’m yours

in Jesus name Amen can we give God

praise all over the world I said can we

give God praise all over the world

feel like people just got the ties cut

off of them I feel like some people are

getting new clothes I feel like some

people are taking off the old garment

and they’re switching the garment of

heaviness and you’re picking up a farm

interpret I dare you to give God a

shadow plane the only time that I bring

this around is to give somebody a

testimony

this is who I used to be but for the

grace of God I feel this thing in here

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y’all better stop I felt a push right

there something just pushed me but

somebody’s got to know that any man that

being Christ you’re a new creature the

old has passed away behold everything is

new and God is bringing that to your

life I’m trying to quit I got goose

bumps though hear me

don’t walk this out of

if you just made that decision for Jesus

he doesn’t see you how you see he sees

you through His Son Jesus

sony says I didn’t DJ do last week I

can’t see it cuz all I see is Jesus

I see the cross like well didn’t Sue’s

and she just just hours ago she was

playing it I don’t see Suzanne I see

Jesus and when I see Jesus I see a

perfect Lamb

when I see G I feel this thing I gotta

share the gospel with you when I see

Jesus I don’t see your mistakes in your

mess ups I see you through the lens of

my son and when my son died for your

sins he also took the penalty of it too

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want to help you pick out your new

clothes we don’t want you to think that

this is the only thing you have to wear

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