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in a time where we have more friends and
followers than ever before how can you
still feel so lonely we need
relationship that’s deeper than the
service we don’t need people who just
like us but those who will push us
toward purpose we need a crew a posse a
clique we need an inner circle
God is doing something amazing in our
church and in our midst and I am so
excited about what God is doing I have a
word to share with you right now so I
want to go right into this thing get out
your notes and let’s get into god’s word
father do something in this place today
that changes us I thank you Father that
it won’t just be my words it’ll be the
words that you gave father and nothing
can glory in your presence so god I
thank you for your Holy Spirit that
makes the difference
thank you for your anointing that
changes things and we thank you for this
word penetrating our hearts and changing
the way we live in Jesus name we agree
amen okay so last week we talked about a
message called the missing link and if
you have not heard that message I want
you to go back and watch it because
basically what we said is that God’s
desire for every person is to reach
purpose and and and there’s a circle of
purpose that we called it there’s four
raw elements that every person needs to
reach purpose the first one is you need
to have a relationship with God the
second one is you need to discover and
cultivate work on your gifts the third
one is you need to answer the call of
God like there’s a specific way that God
wants to take what he’s giving you and
he wants it to impact the kingdom of God
and so if you if you do nails or you do
makeup that’s good you beaten people’s
face but we need to figure out how that
has a kingdom purpose and God wants to
take all your gifts and give it a
kingdom purpose and then there was one
more link that a lot of times gets
complicated because we try to fill it
with a whole bunch of stuff so for me to
reach purpose I need connections and
guys like no you’ll need that because
I’m the one in charge of promotion well
maybe I need I need us some networking
uh-huh because I’ll put you in front of
the people I need you to get in front of
maybe maybe I need a bigger platform and
God said you don’t need any of that for
all the great men and women of God who
reached and completed the circle of
purpose that fourth element was godly
community they needed godly community to
be able to do what God had called them
to do and I want to challenge you in
this place who in your life is that
godly community
that God has called you to walk with so
that you can reach purpose because if
we’re honest a lot of us have friends
and followers but we don’t have godly
community
a lot of us have acquaintances and
people who are around us but we don’t
have people that have the sit down and
shut up card in our life y’all know who
I’m talking about
the people who will hold you accountable
to what you said and you still are gonna
be in relationship with them after they
made you mad oh yeah this whole crowd
fake today amen glory to God I’m just
saying that God wants you to have an
inner circle or a godly community that
helps you reach purpose and if you do
not have that I’m afraid that there may
be a missing link and what God wants for
you if you have people in your life that
aren’t pushing you towards purpose even
when you decide to do something
different
you do not have all of the ingredients
you need to reach purpose and so today I
want to I want to take this a step
further cuz okay I got my relationship
with God and you know what I’m saying
I’m discovering my gifts and and you
know what I’m answering the call like
I’m coming to church I’m doing some
different things I’m moving forward in
that and god I’m gonna try godly
community and let me stop and just say I
am so proud to lead a church that
doesn’t just hear me talk but they
actually are doers of the word last week
hundreds of you signed up for small
groups and are meeting all across the
city can we give God for hundreds of
people and many of you are gonna do it
today and I encourage you because people
I got I love it you’re only experienced
at 1/2 of what we can give you until you
get into small groups because when you
get into small groups that’s when this
church comes alive and the most
beautiful thing is in transformation
nation people who are watching all over
the world last week it was so crazy that
during the message people were so
convicted by the word that they started
forming groups by themselves online but
they literally said is anybody in London
that I can meet with is anybody in Los
Angeles is anybody in Atlanta Oh y’all
don’t hear me
is anybody in Kenya that I can meet up
with and they started exchanging email
addresses and have met up through Google
hangout and FaceTime and they are
discussing the ayaat on him they’re
discussing the Word of God in community
that’s an acts 2:42 church that we
didn’t even put it out but they said
what must I do and so I’m so proud of
every person out there and everybody in
here because God wants godly community
for us but once we get it like this is
my dilemma because I’ve seen people
start godly relationships but I don’t
see a lot of people finish godly
relationships if we’re honest what
happens is whenever we put God in front
of something somehow subliminally we
think it should be easy so I’m gonna
have a godly relationship so it should
be an easy relationship it should be a
relationship that there’s no problems in
the this should be a relationship that I
don’t really have to work for I mean I
could understand if I was I was in
relationship with somebody who didn’t
know God but these are Christians come
on
these these are people of God I can’t
believe she said that she a Christian we
have a dilemma in godly relationships
and I want to explain it to you is that
if we’re gonna have godly community
godly community is made up of godly
relationships and godly relationships
are made up of regular people and
regular people have real problems are
there any regular people in this place
this morning okay okay so so somebody
lifted both for their hands and a leg
like how is me okay so what I’m saying
is people are like I can’t go to that
church because there’s just so many
hypocrites there whatever Church you
show up at then it’s not a perfect
Church anymore
because when we when we when we divorce
God’s plan in the garden then we got
this fall in nature and so we have to
deal through our humaneness through our
experiences through our culture through
all of these other things and what a lot
of people do is they get out of godly
relationships because they experience
the humaneness of people and what God is
saying is I need some people to commit
to being godly relationships even though
this relationship is going to be like a
roller coaster and that’s the title of
today’s message the roller coaster of
godly relationships because I want to I
want to help you see that that it’s not
going to be as easy as we think it’s
going to be but it’s necessary for us to
reach purpose and a lot of people don’t
have it because they’ve been hurt in
relationships before or I tried to tell
people my stuff and they use it against
me and so we’re sitting here not
reaching purpose because we gotta have
godly community to reach purpose as
David asked um Adam asked even Jesus our
example he chose community if anybody
could have lived this thing without
having community it was the son of God
but he stopped and he walked with
disciples and he he walked at a pace
that they could do life together and my
question is if it was if it was the son
of God had to have community what’s your
Excuse like I’m too busy he had to save
the world do you understand what I’m
saying and so what I want to challenge
us today is that we have to go on this
roller coaster ride of godly
relationships and it’s going to end up
being what God wants for us but I know
everybody hasn’t ridden a roller coaster
but let me ask this how many people have
how many people ride roller coasters
okay all right I love them
how many people have not ridden a roller
coaster ever in your life okay yeah
we’re gonna pray for your faith pastor
Barbara and uh okay so today as I use
this analogy of a roller coaster I want
to I want to take you through some of
the the dips and and and the zenus and
the different things that happen on a
roller coaster too
see what a godly relationship now hear
me I’m not just talking about anybody
that you’re doing this with because
there’s some people that are not even
worth getting on the ride with there’s
some people that you should not even
commit to we don’t need to do anything
together except say bye cuz you’re not
good for me I’m not good for you you’re
not going where I’m going you’re
actually going the opposite direction of
where I’m going and many of us have
friends and browse and besties that we
are committed to because of time served
we’ve been together so long in and we
got all these memories together but what
they’re keeping you from is your purpose
because when you go to them in the
midnight hour or when you’re about to
make a life-changing decision what
you’re doing is being led by their
feelings and not by their face y’all
know y’all got some of those friends who
if you’re ready to go kill somebody
they’re like bro where we at like what
we doing bro you just tell the cock-eyed
I got you and you got your girlfriend’s
like me so mean to me does something you
like where he aim where he like what
you’re not even get her like that but
something just it rises where he ain’t
that was a white girl still do that
you’re like we’re here
these are bloody shoes like y’all y’all
just y’all just go crazy
so what I’m saying is the people who are
in your inner circle cannot be led by
their feelings they have to be led by
their faith so that already disqualifies
half the people you’ve been telling your
business to because if God can’t lead
them you shouldn’t be leading me you
shouldn’t be speaking into where I’m
going and what I’m doing because you’re
not you’re not anchored to the thing
that never changes so when life comes
you move and then you telling me to move
with you no no I have to be around
people who are in my inner circle and so
when we go on this roller coaster ride
what’s the first thing that you do when
you get on a rollercoaster ride you have
to commit to the ride I know some of
y’all we see you in the Lions at the
amusement park you’re like oh my god no
I’m not doing him like yeah I’m about to
go do you hear them screaming and you
get all the way up to the front and the
little person is laughing at you because
you’re like mmm you ready to go mmm-hmm
and what you have to do is win when that
gate opens when you make those steps
you’re committing to get on this ride
and what I’m saying to you is by going
to a belong group and by getting in
godly community and committing to this
church what you’re doing is you’re
committing to go on the ride what you’re
doing is saying I’m not just gonna test
this out and jump off when I don’t like
it because if you ever see somebody jump
off of a roller coaster in the middle of
the ride it could be fatal because they
they they didn’t realize that they had
to come I don’t care how much you got to
scream I don’t care how much you feel
like you’re gonna throw up
don’t get off the ride but before it
comes to an end and many people are
getting off of godly relationships
because they don’t like what comes with
it and what I’m challenging you to do is
to see I want to help you see these
punches coming I heard somebody say
nothing hurts like a punch you don’t see
coming but what happens is when when we
give godly wisdom like this you can say
I’m committing to godly relationship and
then there’s a
they have in boxing they say roll with
the punches what that means is I know
your tendency I know what comes with
this and so when it happens I see the
punch coming and I can lean with it so
it does not hurt me as if I didn’t know
it was coming
and it still may hurt a little bit and
it still may leave a bruise but it has
nowhere as much impact as it could have
had if I didn’t see it coming and many
believers for some reason you act like
football players that that get put in
the game by the coach and you get
tackled and then you get mad because you
got tackled it’s a part of the game in
the same way when you get into godly
relationship because you’re dealing with
real people who have real problems that
God is still transforming us and so the
image of who we are created to be when
you get in there and you get offended
you get upset and you should know
offense is probably going to be a part
of this game and once you know that you
don’t get off the ride prematurely so
first point to the rollercoaster of
relationships I want everybody to write
down commit to the ride yeah commit to
the right because when you commit to the
ride then you know that God can do
something specific in your life and this
is the thing that I want to parallel
because somebody’s like are you just
motivationally speaking no no no I’m
gonna take our example Jesus and I’m
gonna show you his relationship with one
of his disciples one of the people he
chose to walk with and I’m gonna I’m
gonna I could have used anybody but I
may use Peter cuz Jesus and Peter were
boys but they went through all kinds of
stuff in their relationship and I want
to try to use the parallel of their
relationship and give us just a few keys
of what we need to do in godly
relationship what we need to see coming
so that we can finish the ride and reach
purpose even when we’re going through it
with godly people with people who are
going the same direction and know that
God is gonna sustain us on this ride the
entire time so the first thing we got to
do before the ride even starts is we got
to commit to the ride look at Jesus and
Peter committing to the ride in Matthew
chapter 4 verse 19 it says Jesus called
out to them a bro
come follow me and I’ll show you how to
fish for people look at verse 20 power
and they left their nets at once and
followed him how do you know they
committed to the ride because Peter had
to sacrifice something to have this type
of relationship see many of us aren’t
willing to sacrifice anything to have a
godly relationship and he had to leave
his business the way he made money
he said I got skin in the game right now
I’m not just doing I’m committing to
walk with you no matter what’s going on
we are going to walk together and most
of us will not commit because we won’t
even give up time to have a godly
relationship we won’t give up habits we
won’t give up other people who are
taking us the wrong direction and God
says if you want godly relationship if
you want an inner circle a real one
you’re gonna have to commit to
sacrificing something so that you can
have this and that’s what God is calling
all of us to do in our relationship with
others and I want everybody to hear me
say this this is why this type of
relationship can’t be with a bunch of
people like you can’t have an inner
circle of 50 people like that don’t make
sense I want you to see who Jesus was
around he had 500 disciples then it says
then he had 72 and then he had 12 but
then he had an inner circle of 3 Peter
James and John and I don’t know you know
what I’m saying I know that we try to
take the word and do a whole bunch of
things but I believe that we’re at
church that just doesn’t follow the
message of Jesus but we’re trying to
follow the method of Jesus so in your
entire lifetime if God gives you three
people who were in your inner circle
you’re in good company because that’s
all Jesus needed some of y’all just yeah
oh my god but Rebecca like hear me hear
me though if they’re not a part of
helping you reach purpose what are they
there for and so this is who Jesus
committed to these three guys and so we
go further on the roller coaster of
relationships and I want to show you the
next thing that we have to be ready for
in having godly relationships you have
to embrace the incline of inker
and you know when you start out of place
and you start one way the first thing
you do on any good roller coaster is you
start going up and I don’t know if
you’ve been on a roller coaster but
that’s the scary part for me because
it’s just like click click click click
click click click click click click you
start seeing the hotel you staying and
you like click click click click click
it say like you get way up there but but
but what I’m saying is if you’re gonna
have a godly relationship you have to
have a climate of encouragement in that
relationship you can tell if somebody’s
a part of your inner circle if they
really are encouraging you to climb to
places you never thought you would be
I’m gonna help you right now
see see Jesus and Peter had this
relationship in John chapter 1 verse 42
it said then Andrew brought Simon to
meet Jesus ok and you say who’s Simon
that’s Peter
but watch how this all works together it
says looking intently at Simon this is
Jesus he said um yeah your name is Simon
son of John but i’ma call you Cephas
which means Peter and Peter means rock
let me help you understand this
Simon means wavering 1 and Peter means
Rock so when Jesus committed to walk
this out with him he saw the condition
he was in but didn’t address him as who
he was he addressed him it to who he
would be if you’re gonna have an inner
circle and godly community they need to
be able to speak more to who you will be
not who you are right now Oh y’all
better come up they they need to be able
to look at you and say you’re a faithful
man of God who’s standing even though
you’re inconsistent now I know you act
in a little hurry
y’all know something a little holy
tendencies but they need to be friends
that say I see you pure I see you whole
I see you oh come on I see you walking
in your purpose I see you my question is
who is in your life that’s speaking to
you about who you will become not just
who you are
see so I’m just helping you to be able
to identify some of the people who
shouldn’t be in you
a circle cuz if every time you come to
them like I don’t know if that’s gonna
work or bra your on saying I mean I mean
that’s cool if that’s what you wanted no
they should be speaking like yeah I see
it
I see what you’re talking about and I
know you can get there and I see God
what a matter of fact I’m a fast with
you I know you’re believing God for
these certain things I’m gonna get in it
with you call me every day at noon let’s
pray for two minutes on my lunch break
let go
who are the people that can see where
you’re going and will speak that into
existence because life and death is in
the power of the and and we gotta have
people around us in our inner circle now
I’m not talking about acquaintances and
friends and people around I’m talking
about people who are in your inner
circle they got to be able to speak life
I have people in my inner circle that
when I feel like nothing is working when
I’m in the back like God does this make
any sense they coming in too late bro
you’re called to the nations like what
are you talking about you’re talking
about what no bro you’re gonna do this
and you’re gonna do that and they can
speak life into me all I’m saying to you
is for the roller coaster that you’re
gonna go through in relationship you
have to have people who will encourage
you and beyond that incline to your rise
amen amen
so let’s let’s just think about this for
one second your inner speak inner circle
speaks to who you will be more than who
you are so you need to see that and I
love the fact that Jesus even chooses to
use Peter as a foundation member of
building the church he literally says to
him he says hey um Peter which means
Rock Petra he said on the revelation
that you have gotten that God has
revealed through you imma build my
entire church through what God what I
allowed you to see in me what I’m saying
is do you have people in your life that
can you can see them in a wavering state
but they you can walk with them long
enough that they can develop into
something that you can build something
on like like like like like their their
life you didn’t give up on them on the
first time they messed up
like you didn’t give them y’all got to
remember this is the same Peter that
cuts somebody’s ear off like this is the
same Peter that gods using but but
somebody rolled up on Jesus he
like slightly he still was rough around
the edges but Jesus was like yeah let me
pick this ear up man my bad bro Peter
sometimes I look crazy but Jesus didn’t
throw him away cuz he was in process see
who are the people that are going the
same way you’re going see you can’t do
that with people who don’t look for God
in their lives but with people who are
going the same way there’s some people
that you’re that Jesus always worked in
grace and truth and many times believers
we become Pharisee ik and we start
judging people for where they are and we
just this is the truth this is the truth
this is the truth but baby God looked at
you and he poured out his grace and he
said hey the woman that was caught in
the act of adultery what was his things
he said um those of you that that that
are without sin cast the first stone and
he identified with that woman he set
with her and when all her accusers were
gone he worked in grace he didn’t let
nobody kill her but then he said hey
woman where your accusers she said they
gone she said exactly I’m with you so go
away from here and don’t live like that
no more grace and truth when the church
can start doing in grace and truth we
can walk with people through the roller
coaster of relationship and that’s what
God wants for every single one of us so
the third thing that you have to realize
when we’re going through the roller
coaster of godly relationship and this
is probably one of the hardest ones to
go through but you’re gonna have to go
through the drops of disappointment see
one of the the craziest things is you
commit to the ride and then you go up
and you’re encouraging each other
but everybody knows as soon as you get
over that zenith or that peak there’s a
drop coming and in every relationship
it’s almost the test of the relationship
that that there is gonna be some drops
that are so disappointing in your
relationship and it doesn’t mean that
you’re supposed to abort being in
relationship with that person because
you’re disappointed because Jesus and
Peter went through this Jesus’s face and
get this picture Jesus is facing the
hardest moment of his
where he’s fighting his humanity and his
divinity and he has to make a decision
that he’s actually gonna go through with
the plan of God and go to the cross and
he says yo fellas I don’t need everybody
right now
I just need my inner circle to come get
with me I know you can’t do this for me
but I need you to be close enough to me
that while I’m going through this that I
know you’re there for me like who are
those people that that’ll say I know
you’re going through that you’re going
through that divorce you’re going
through depression I can’t go with it I
can’t go through it for you but I’ll be
right here close to you while you’re
going through it and he says I got to go
to the seminary and I got to pray that
this is the thing and literally Jesus is
in anguish right here and he says I need
y’all Peter James and John I just need
y’all to sit here just while I go pray
he said y’all y’all got an understanding
like bro you okay is everything all
right he said man this is something I’ve
never dealt with in my life he said my
soul is crushed with grief to the point
of death but if y’all could just stay
here and keep watch with me if y’all
would just pray with me if y’all would
hang with me look at Matthew 26 verse 39
so it says and Jesus he went a little
further and bowed with his face to the
ground praying my father if it is
possible
please let this cup of suffering be
taken from me
yet I want your will to be done in my
life not mine and that’s the place you
got to get to in your life is that
you’re saying you know I’m going through
some crap right now but I’m not just
gonna let my gift and keep me I’m gonna
answer the call of God on my life
and I’m gonna say not my will but yours
be done and Jesus in this moment is
crying out and he goes back to check on
his boys and make sure they’re standing
with him because sometimes you just need
encouragement that’s somebody standing
with you in the situation look at verse
40 then he returned to the disciples and
found them asleep now now you and my
inner circle and I’m telling you I’m
going through the hardest time Amala and
all I asked you to do was stay with me
for one hour
and I don’t cried out yeah yeah and I’ve
done all that stuff I just need some
encouragement from my boys and I walk up
and they like mm Jesus was disappointed
how do you know look at his next segment
better
I cannot bro couldn’t you have just
watch with me for one freaking now he
said freaking I just in my spirit he
does listen and and and and I want you
to see this because God is human in
Jesus and what this shows us is that he
was disappointed in their relationship
like bro you you didn’t do what you
saying
I bet when he went off there’s like III
we’re gonna be here an hour just prayer
circles and we’re just gonna pray for
you we’re gonna believe and we’re gonna
call on heaven heaven come down like you
think what they were they were probably
like super and then they just yeah you
know how you get sleeping when you’re
Frank I’ll let you wheel it will let you
will be used to start repeating thing
Jesus Jesus is it like but watch their
intentions were good but but but what
they did disappointed him and I’ll bet
right after Jesus expressed his
disappointment he was like don’t even
worry about it don’t even where I’m
proof I’m up look you know I’m saying I
just need a little captain at a little
power than that I’m back go pray we’re
gonna we got you we’re gonna stand you
come on guys come on can I tell you that
it happened two more times like he went
to pray came back they were sleep again
what came back they were sleep again now
most of us if we would have got
disappointed three times in one night we
would have cut the relationship yet
Peter you know what you can do your name
is roxrite that’s what it means kick
rocks like get out of here like like you
I’m saying we would have we would have
been done but look what Jesus does
he doesn’t in the relationship because
in your inner circle Jesus address
is disappointment but does not abort the
relationship and many of us don’t know
how to do that we don’t know how to
address disappointment hey you said you
were gonna be here for my wedding and
you said that you were gonna do this and
you know we don’t talk about it we
internalize it and then we we build up
all this unforgiveness and we build all
this toxicity and gods saying what I
need you to do is in godly relationship
I need you to go to that person I need
you to talk to them I need you to tell
them when there’s a seed of offense
stuff like this hey I’m so excited kind
of for you get married but honestly when
I saw the engagement and it made me feel
low self-esteem about myself and saw the
seed of jealousy came into my heart even
though I’m supposed to be your maid of
honor I’m really mad that it’s not me or
y’all don’t want to do godly
relationship because it takes being
vulnerable it takes it takes people
saying hey and and then saying but I
know I know that’s not what God wants
for me
so can you pray for me because I’m
jealous of you but you’re in my inner
circle can you pray for me
I’ve seen people need gas money and be
around the people they call inner circle
and literally like don’t say nothing
because of pride and then we see him
come back around and they push in a car
up the highway
I’m like bro why didn’t you tell me I
just need to get my workout in today I
just like no you’re full of pride and
you won’t be transparent and honest with
where you’re at and God’s saying I don’t
bless that I dress people who get honest
in front of the other people and say
this is what I’m struggling with and
this and they address disappointments
but they don’t abort the relationship
and what I’m saying with there’s people
that God is gonna send you that you
can’t just be quiet and I’m cool
especially men how you feeling I’m good
y’all know like like like you know I’m
saying is everything okay knowing you’re
disappointed I’ll be re like somehow you
get a gold star for being alright
somehow God is applauding you for
holding it all together he said if you
were supposed to be the savior I would
have sent you to die but but because I’m
the Savior I need you to come to me he
said God is close to the brokenhearted
in the downtrodden I don’t care if
you’re man or a woman there’s sometimes
I don’t know how to do this and I’m
hurting and I need to know somebody’s
here for me but if you never address it
a lot of times the enemy is able to so
see the division and all this other
stuff and and it comes in and creeps in
and what God is saying is if you’re
gonna commit to the rollercoaster of
relationship you have to be willing to
go through the drop-offs of
disappointment let me give you another
one if you’re gonna commit to the
rollercoaster of relationships godly
relationship you’re gonna have to go
through the loops of love and lies yeah
yeah those that love and lies I’ll flip
you upside-down like like you’ll be in
godly relationship with Christians we’re
believers with people who give and tie
and because you have a sin nature there
are times where you’re gonna have to
evaluate do they really love me and man
even though maybe it wasn’t their
intention they lied to me like how do
you deal with it well Jesus and Peter
did these are our examples and and there
was a time I remember it in John 21 that
Jesus this is after he had died on the
cross and he had risen and he had 40
days on the earth and he appeared to his
disciples again and the disciples were
distraught because they they lost their
their Savior they like lost the leader
of the pack and so what did they do they
went back to what they were doing before
he came they went fishing like a lot of
us when we lose certain people in our in
our relationships that were taking us
the right way we go back to what we were
doing before
okay we’ll leave that right stay stay so
they’re out fishing and they’re looking
is like well that look like Jesus it’s
like there’s no way that’s Jesus he’d to
hide like that’s not Jesus and then John
the one he loves the Bible says he said
he looked at Peter and said no bro
that’s Jesus and and and and they begin
to have a conversation and they’re
talking and Jesus look I just want to
show you look at John 21 verse 15 it
says after breakfast Jesus asked Simon
Peter Simon son of John do you love me
more than these and look what what he
says he says yes Lord Peter replied you
know I love you he said I then feed my
lambs Jesus told him Jesus repeated the
question Simon son of John I want you to
remember what Jesus is calling him Jesus
is calling him Simon
remember what Simon means wavering 1 so
he’s not talking to who he was going to
be he’s talking to his old nature right
now Jesus is intentionally calling him a
wavering one look at it he says Jesus
verse 16 deep do you love me he said yes
Lord Peter said you know I love you then
take care of my sheep jesus said and
then a little time went by and Jesus
just looking at him intently it’s like
yeah let me ask him one more time
cuz I don’t I don’t know Simon son of
John do you love me and at the third
time he asked him he said you know I
love you but Peter was hurt that Jesus
asked a question a third time and I love
that it puts this in here because in the
roller coaster of godly relationships
it’s okay to be hurt like it’s okay to
be emotional
inside of what’s going on you just don’t
get off the ride you can go through and
walk through this thing and he says he
says he said Lord you know everything
you know that I love you
then Jesus said feed my sheep see see
what you got to realize the revelation
in this moment is that Jesus knows
everything and
and then Simon Peter just said it but he
was speaking to his old nature and he
was saying si si you claim to love me
but but I need to make sure that your
love is real and it’s not based on what
I’ve done it’s based on Who I am to you
and in godly relationship there will be
times that you got to go to those people
you call your inner circle and ask them
do you love me just for me do you love
me without what I bring to this
relationship do you love me not because
of my Instagram likes and we go out and
have fun do you just love me because
what Jesus knew is that Peter had lied
to him and he went back to his old
nature and was acting like a wavering
one and so he was coming to asked him
after everything had happened hey bro I
know our relationship has been a little
rocky and it’s been wavering you went
back to your old nature and you start
depending on on what we had but I just
gotta ask you do you really love me like
will you will you will you represent me
when nobody’s around will you defend me
what will you will you work with me for
the purpose that God has called us to
and and he was yeah what are you talking
about
but he didn’t even know Jesus already
knew he denied him three times and this
is why I say you got to be willing to go
through the loops of love and lies
because Peter lied to Jesus and didn’t
even know him
like he didn’t even know he his
intention was good I’ll prove it to you
let’s look at Matthew chapter 26 verse
33 this is when he’s telling disciples
y’all I’m about to be crucified I’m
about to be killed and it’s the Last
Supper and he’s telling them and and and
and he says all y’all are going to
basically sell me out
Peter’s like that ain’t that ain’t never
gonna happen look what he said he said
even if everyone else deserts you Lord I
will never desert him Jesus is like lie
look at verse 34 he said jesus replied I
tell you the truth Peter now he’s
speaking to the one who actually does
love him the rock at this moment he says
I’ll tell you the truth this very night
before the rooster crows you will deny
that you even knew me three times do you
know how devastating that is in a
relationship when somebody doesn’t just
act like you not important they act like
you they don’t know you
like like if I was like hey if somebody
said hey Demario uh do you know Tex –
Mike who no no like Pastor Mike the guy
y’all don’t lead transformation Church
together
transformation Church I don’t even know
what you’re talking about here’s a
picture of you and Pastor Mike together
um do you know any black men I’ll take
pictures with a lot of people I don’t
know see see it’s one thing to have
people who are not in your inner circle
to deny you but it’s another thing to
have people who walk close with you
act like they don’t even know you and
Peter’s response to him was like nope
that will never happen I will not deny
you and all the disciples said yeah we
won’t we ain’t gonna do that either all
of them did it and what I want you to
realize is that even though there was
people asking about questions of love
and even lies people told Jesus never
gave up on his relationship with Peter
that’s what I want you to understand
when you commit to this right that’s why
you can’t make this trip with just
anybody this is why the Bible tells you
not to be unequally yoked like you can’t
just get on and ride with you oh listen
no no no I gotta make sure that the
people that I’m linked with are going
the same way or praying to the same God
or moving in the same direction or
calling out things in me that I don’t
even see because we’re gonna go through
different things in our relationship can
I just sum it all up your inner circle
loves you enough to challenge who you
used to be while giving you grace to
become oh yeah come on can I talk to
husbands and wife some of y’all aren’t
seeing the the change in the growth you
want to see in your spouse cuz you will
not let them be freed from what they
used to be and they do not have the
grace to become around you and that’s
why people get divorces and they see
them people five years later like why
are they doing so good cuz they got away
from you
because in the midst of the relationship
you couldn’t let God work on your heart
to be an extension of his love that he’s
been to you you can’t be to them so
you’re like the person that got ten
million dollars of debt I’m cancelled
out of yours but you holding somebody
hostage for 10 cents and what God is
saying is that that’s why I’m telling
you that you should be forgiven seven
times seventy a day 490 times a day and
and that’s why until the church did this
and we’re holding people hostage for
things they did to us ten years ago
fifteen years ago ten minutes ago and
God says if you don’t let them go you
can’t complete your circle of purpose
it’s like taking and drinking venom and
hoping they die and you like look at you
you’re killing yourself cuz of
unforgiveness and that’s why we have to
be ones that give people grace to become
if you’re gonna go on this godly ride of
godly relationships you’ve got to be
ready for the turns of trust see their
sins on rollercoasters where it’s going
one way and it looks like it’s doing
something it just turn and it’s going
one way it looks it just turns and what
you gotta realize is that that Peter and
Jesus went through so many turns in
their relationship that God was able to
use it to say yeah yeah no matter what
turn we go to we’re committed to this
right and I keep saying these things
because a lot of you need to realize
that as you join these small groups and
as you form godly community that they’re
gonna be things where you go to and it’s
gonna be dips and turns and loops and
but don’t get off the ride don’t don’t
give up on godly hear me when I say this
godly relationships because it takes
some work and investment to go through
them because if our example Jesus had to
do it you don’t think that we’re gonna
have to do it and so many of us we can’t
hang with people through this
stop the bumps of belief and the bumps
of unbelief see this is the great thing
about godly community is even when
you’re off track your godly community
can help you get back on track
Peter was inside of a boat and they were
on the water and Jesus appears to them
and he’s like yo is that Jesus said
Jesus if that’s you tell me to come and
you need people in your inner circle who
will have faith to call you out of the
situation that you’re in right now and
and challenge you faith wise bro you
you’ve been needing to start that
business for six years now but you’re
gun-shy
step out of the boat come on and I’m
like if it’s you
matter of fact I’m so I believe so much
in what you’re doing here’s a thousand
dollars do you got anybody in your inner
circle who invest in your drinks look at
y’all so some of y’all won’t even get
your friend McDonald’s let let alone be
a friend that calls somebody out from
the boat to walk on water Jesus is
calling his friend to come and walk in a
place that nobody else has ever done
God’s gonna call some of you to start
businesses and come up with initiatives
and write songs that the world has never
heard but you’re gonna need godly
communities say come on you can do it
come out of that boat I know it’s never
been done before
I know you don’t have the resources but
I’m with you so Jesus gets the courage
cuz he has godly community to step out
of the bonus’ like bro this is crazy and
his other dudes on their boat was like
bro he about to drown he can’t even swim
you know this has not got to work and
that man started defying every law of
physics as he kept his eyes on Jesus but
then he started looking at the waves in
the wind and he started to look at all
the other stuff that was going on and
when he got his eyes off of Jesus he
started to drown you can read the text
later and what do we do usually as godly
community when our friend starts to
drown after they stepped out on faith I
told you
oh come on let’s be honest we say stuff
like we stay stuff like they should have
listened well they’re gonna have to deal
with it now what if you’re going into
foreclosure in your house your godly
community shouldn’t be like a new nation
I got that big ol house your godly
community says hey I got a room you can
stay in at my house like we’ll shut the
game room down for a little bit you you
can you can come stay with us but then
when we get there we have to have a
finance meeting see see cuz I’m not
going to just condone what you’ve been
doing and keep you in that same place
because I’m your real accountability I’m
in your inner circle there are things
you did I saw what you did at Christmas
and you bought them $400 shoes and you
went on that vacation and you we got to
talk about that because I love you too
much to let you stay in this situation
but I love you too not much not to reach
out and help you in this situation
oh I want you to see it I want you to
see it in Matthew chapter 14 and I want
you to look at verse 31 look what Jesus
does when he starts drowning it says
Jesus immediately reached out and
grabbed him and then he was able to be
honest with them after he’s exhibited
grief man you got so much you don’t got
no faith boy watch you doubt man you
were supposed to write that book man you
were supposed to go out to that and when
they climbed back in the into the boat
together I want you to see that Jesus
didn’t leave him there they climb back
in the boat together and the wind
stopped the thing that was distracting
him went away when they both got back
into a place where they could regroup
together you need an inner circle in
godly community because there’s times
when the winds of life come and you need
somebody when you’re drowning just to
say hey I’ll pick you up let’s get back
into the boat let’s reset
let’s but they didn’t give up on the
relationship y’all hear what I’m saying
the last thing is how are we gonna ride
the rollercoaster a godly relationship
we have to be ready for the rise of
reconciliation
like like like we have to be quick to
reconcile when things go wrong can I
break it down even further you got to be
able to forgive quickly like you you
can’t hold things I talked about it just
a minute ago how many times are we
supposed to forgive and it’s so funny
because we say that but what you don’t
understand is the culture behind it so
when they were talking about this one of
the disciples said you know it’s it’s
good if if the the religious leaders and
they teach that if you forgive three
times boy you get a gold star so one of
this IVA says so God you know we we’re
doing this New Kingdom thing so we need
to take it up a few notches what if we
forgive seven times
every day yeah yeah that was good I bet
it’s good and he said I’ll tell you the
truth you should be forgiven seven times
seventy a day 490 times a day you should
be forgiving somebody and be willing to
reconcile because you know that our
godly connection is better than disunity
it’s only when there is unity that there
is a commanded blessing and anything
that you do so I’m going to keep the
lines of community hurt me but we’re
gonna discuss it we’re gonna talk about
it and we don’t even have to see eye to
eye but I know that we have to forgive
and even if you don’t want to do it I’m
gonna start I’m gonna be the one and let
me show you the example of it in John 21
verse 7 and you can read it later but
long story short it’s again when the
disciples see Jesus for the first time
and John says I think there’s Jesus on
the shore and that’s all Peter needed
Peter did not wait for the boat to come
into Shore he had lost connection and
betrayed his friend and at the moment
there was an opportunity for
reconciliation the Bible says that Peter
jumped out of the boat and swam to the
shore he initiated reconciliation he did
not wait for everybody in the boat to
come and let’s all do this together he
said if that is the person I committed
to ride with and I
I thought that this was almost over I
got to go see he jumped out and went to
him it’s the same way that many of you
need to jump out of your pride and you
need to go say I’m sorry and many of you
maybe you didn’t do it but you need to
say I forgive you and I’m like what did
i do I don’t even know it doesn’t even
matter no more I just can’t let this
venom run through my veins anymore
and I’m releasing you of the offense
well tell me what it is since you know
I’ll tell you this is what happened this
is what happened but I know the purpose
of our relationship is bigger than what
I feel right now and so I will be the
offensive in forgiveness not the
defensive I’m gonna push I’m gonna try
at any me and win we become a church
that can be ones that do what the words
say and go to people and forgive and
Reconciliation becomes more important
than our reputation oh he’s a punk or
she just soft no no no I’m just godly
like I’m using meekness yeah I had no
stuff that I could really but that’s not
my heart I committed to this ride with
you and we’re gonna reach purpose
together even if you’re delusional even
if you’re going I’m gonna pray for you
I’m gonna stand with you I’m gonna do
that and that’s why you have to let God
direct your steps to godly community cuz
we’re not committing to this ride with
just anybody
we’re committing to this ride with
people who are going to places that God
has called us to go and that’s why we
need an inner circle so why are you
saying all this Pastor Mike I want you
to see it coming if it hasn’t already
started for you and even some of you who
have been scared to give godly
relationship a chance again God’s saying
hey I’m giving you a blueprint right now
so you can know that these are signs
that I’m with you like when Oh
that’s the loop of love and lies I see
it I ain’t going nowhere
oh those are the turns of trust I see it
I’m not going nowhere and that’s why God
wants you to have a godly community I
want to pray for every person that’s
under the sound of my voice that God
through this message would encourage you
because you’re gonna need courage to get
on this ride again
see the reason people don’t ride
rollercoasters is because they did it
once then they got scared or they heard
the screams of other people think about
it you’ve heard the screams and the
agony of other people that have done
relationships so you said I don’t even
want to try but today I’m gonna pray
that God would encourage you so that you
would have the courage to stand and get
in godly community father I pray for
every person under the sound of my voice
that today you’re doing something father
God that would revolutionize our hearts
our lives our minds and God she would
change us from the inside out father I
thank you that we would be ones to
commit to the ride I thank you Father
God that we would be ones father god
that would be able father God to know
that when the drops of life come or or
we have to go through the incline of
encouragement father or the loots of
love and life come lies come father God
that the turns and all the different
things that have to happen father God
even to reconciliation I thank you that
we will stick on the ride with people
you’ve called us to father let us have a
relationship like Adam and Eve and
Jonathan and David and Jesus and Peter
father God that will help us reach
purpose because we’ve committed to this
inner circle and father I thank you for
making clear those who need to be
removed from our lives God take the
blinders off of our eyes let us not be
stuck because of time served I thank you
Father that you’re changing the
trajectory of every person’s life
because you’re giving them an inner
circle God give them courage to step out
and try again in Jesus name we agree
amen can we give God some praise right
there
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