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in a time where we have more friends and

followers than ever before how can you

still feel so lonely we need

relationship that’s deeper than the

service we don’t need people who just

like us but those who will push us

toward purpose we need a crew a posse a

clique we need an inner circle

God is doing something amazing in our

church and in our midst and I am so

excited about what God is doing I have a

word to share with you right now so I

want to go right into this thing get out

your notes and let’s get into god’s word

father do something in this place today

that changes us I thank you Father that

it won’t just be my words it’ll be the

words that you gave father and nothing

can glory in your presence so god I

thank you for your Holy Spirit that

makes the difference

thank you for your anointing that

changes things and we thank you for this

word penetrating our hearts and changing

the way we live in Jesus name we agree

amen okay so last week we talked about a

message called the missing link and if

you have not heard that message I want

you to go back and watch it because

basically what we said is that God’s

desire for every person is to reach

purpose and and and there’s a circle of

purpose that we called it there’s four

raw elements that every person needs to

reach purpose the first one is you need

to have a relationship with God the

second one is you need to discover and

cultivate work on your gifts the third

one is you need to answer the call of

God like there’s a specific way that God

wants to take what he’s giving you and

he wants it to impact the kingdom of God

and so if you if you do nails or you do

makeup that’s good you beaten people’s

face but we need to figure out how that

has a kingdom purpose and God wants to

take all your gifts and give it a

kingdom purpose and then there was one

more link that a lot of times gets

complicated because we try to fill it

with a whole bunch of stuff so for me to

reach purpose I need connections and

guys like no you’ll need that because

I’m the one in charge of promotion well

maybe I need I need us some networking

uh-huh because I’ll put you in front of

the people I need you to get in front of

maybe maybe I need a bigger platform and

God said you don’t need any of that for

all the great men and women of God who

reached and completed the circle of

purpose that fourth element was godly

community they needed godly community to

be able to do what God had called them

to do and I want to challenge you in

this place who in your life is that

godly community

that God has called you to walk with so

that you can reach purpose because if

we’re honest a lot of us have friends

and followers but we don’t have godly

community

a lot of us have acquaintances and

people who are around us but we don’t

have people that have the sit down and

shut up card in our life y’all know who

I’m talking about

the people who will hold you accountable

to what you said and you still are gonna

be in relationship with them after they

made you mad oh yeah this whole crowd

fake today amen glory to God I’m just

saying that God wants you to have an

inner circle or a godly community that

helps you reach purpose and if you do

not have that I’m afraid that there may

be a missing link and what God wants for

you if you have people in your life that

aren’t pushing you towards purpose even

when you decide to do something

different

you do not have all of the ingredients

you need to reach purpose and so today I

want to I want to take this a step

further cuz okay I got my relationship

with God and you know what I’m saying

I’m discovering my gifts and and you

know what I’m answering the call like

I’m coming to church I’m doing some

different things I’m moving forward in

that and god I’m gonna try godly

community and let me stop and just say I

am so proud to lead a church that

doesn’t just hear me talk but they

actually are doers of the word last week

hundreds of you signed up for small

groups and are meeting all across the

city can we give God for hundreds of

people and many of you are gonna do it

today and I encourage you because people

I got I love it you’re only experienced

at 1/2 of what we can give you until you

get into small groups because when you

get into small groups that’s when this

church comes alive and the most

beautiful thing is in transformation

nation people who are watching all over

the world last week it was so crazy that

during the message people were so

convicted by the word that they started

forming groups by themselves online but

they literally said is anybody in London

that I can meet with is anybody in Los

Angeles is anybody in Atlanta Oh y’all

don’t hear me

is anybody in Kenya that I can meet up

with and they started exchanging email

addresses and have met up through Google

hangout and FaceTime and they are

discussing the ayaat on him they’re

discussing the Word of God in community

that’s an acts 2:42 church that we

didn’t even put it out but they said

what must I do and so I’m so proud of

every person out there and everybody in

here because God wants godly community

for us but once we get it like this is

my dilemma because I’ve seen people

start godly relationships but I don’t

see a lot of people finish godly

relationships if we’re honest what

happens is whenever we put God in front

of something somehow subliminally we

think it should be easy so I’m gonna

have a godly relationship so it should

be an easy relationship it should be a

relationship that there’s no problems in

the this should be a relationship that I

don’t really have to work for I mean I

could understand if I was I was in

relationship with somebody who didn’t

know God but these are Christians come

on

these these are people of God I can’t

believe she said that she a Christian we

have a dilemma in godly relationships

and I want to explain it to you is that

if we’re gonna have godly community

godly community is made up of godly

relationships and godly relationships

are made up of regular people and

regular people have real problems are

there any regular people in this place

this morning okay okay so so somebody

lifted both for their hands and a leg

like how is me okay so what I’m saying

is people are like I can’t go to that

church because there’s just so many

hypocrites there whatever Church you

show up at then it’s not a perfect

Church anymore

because when we when we when we divorce

God’s plan in the garden then we got

this fall in nature and so we have to

deal through our humaneness through our

experiences through our culture through

all of these other things and what a lot

of people do is they get out of godly

relationships because they experience

the humaneness of people and what God is

saying is I need some people to commit

to being godly relationships even though

this relationship is going to be like a

roller coaster and that’s the title of

today’s message the roller coaster of

godly relationships because I want to I

want to help you see that that it’s not

going to be as easy as we think it’s

going to be but it’s necessary for us to

reach purpose and a lot of people don’t

have it because they’ve been hurt in

relationships before or I tried to tell

people my stuff and they use it against

me and so we’re sitting here not

reaching purpose because we gotta have

godly community to reach purpose as

David asked um Adam asked even Jesus our

example he chose community if anybody

could have lived this thing without

having community it was the son of God

but he stopped and he walked with

disciples and he he walked at a pace

that they could do life together and my

question is if it was if it was the son

of God had to have community what’s your

Excuse like I’m too busy he had to save

the world do you understand what I’m

saying and so what I want to challenge

us today is that we have to go on this

roller coaster ride of godly

relationships and it’s going to end up

being what God wants for us but I know

everybody hasn’t ridden a roller coaster

but let me ask this how many people have

how many people ride roller coasters

okay all right I love them

how many people have not ridden a roller

coaster ever in your life okay yeah

we’re gonna pray for your faith pastor

Barbara and uh okay so today as I use

this analogy of a roller coaster I want

to I want to take you through some of

the the dips and and and the zenus and

the different things that happen on a

roller coaster too

see what a godly relationship now hear

me I’m not just talking about anybody

that you’re doing this with because

there’s some people that are not even

worth getting on the ride with there’s

some people that you should not even

commit to we don’t need to do anything

together except say bye cuz you’re not

good for me I’m not good for you you’re

not going where I’m going you’re

actually going the opposite direction of

where I’m going and many of us have

friends and browse and besties that we

are committed to because of time served

we’ve been together so long in and we

got all these memories together but what

they’re keeping you from is your purpose

because when you go to them in the

midnight hour or when you’re about to

make a life-changing decision what

you’re doing is being led by their

feelings and not by their face y’all

know y’all got some of those friends who

if you’re ready to go kill somebody

they’re like bro where we at like what

we doing bro you just tell the cock-eyed

I got you and you got your girlfriend’s

like me so mean to me does something you

like where he aim where he like what

you’re not even get her like that but

something just it rises where he ain’t

that was a white girl still do that

you’re like we’re here

these are bloody shoes like y’all y’all

just y’all just go crazy

so what I’m saying is the people who are

in your inner circle cannot be led by

their feelings they have to be led by

their faith so that already disqualifies

half the people you’ve been telling your

business to because if God can’t lead

them you shouldn’t be leading me you

shouldn’t be speaking into where I’m

going and what I’m doing because you’re

not you’re not anchored to the thing

that never changes so when life comes

you move and then you telling me to move

with you no no I have to be around

people who are in my inner circle and so

when we go on this roller coaster ride

what’s the first thing that you do when

you get on a rollercoaster ride you have

to commit to the ride I know some of

y’all we see you in the Lions at the

amusement park you’re like oh my god no

I’m not doing him like yeah I’m about to

go do you hear them screaming and you

get all the way up to the front and the

little person is laughing at you because

you’re like mmm you ready to go mmm-hmm

and what you have to do is win when that

gate opens when you make those steps

you’re committing to get on this ride

and what I’m saying to you is by going

to a belong group and by getting in

godly community and committing to this

church what you’re doing is you’re

committing to go on the ride what you’re

doing is saying I’m not just gonna test

this out and jump off when I don’t like

it because if you ever see somebody jump

off of a roller coaster in the middle of

the ride it could be fatal because they

they they didn’t realize that they had

to come I don’t care how much you got to

scream I don’t care how much you feel

like you’re gonna throw up

don’t get off the ride but before it

comes to an end and many people are

getting off of godly relationships

because they don’t like what comes with

it and what I’m challenging you to do is

to see I want to help you see these

punches coming I heard somebody say

nothing hurts like a punch you don’t see

coming but what happens is when when we

give godly wisdom like this you can say

I’m committing to godly relationship and

then there’s a

they have in boxing they say roll with

the punches what that means is I know

your tendency I know what comes with

this and so when it happens I see the

punch coming and I can lean with it so

it does not hurt me as if I didn’t know

it was coming

and it still may hurt a little bit and

it still may leave a bruise but it has

nowhere as much impact as it could have

had if I didn’t see it coming and many

believers for some reason you act like

football players that that get put in

the game by the coach and you get

tackled and then you get mad because you

got tackled it’s a part of the game in

the same way when you get into godly

relationship because you’re dealing with

real people who have real problems that

God is still transforming us and so the

image of who we are created to be when

you get in there and you get offended

you get upset and you should know

offense is probably going to be a part

of this game and once you know that you

don’t get off the ride prematurely so

first point to the rollercoaster of

relationships I want everybody to write

down commit to the ride yeah commit to

the right because when you commit to the

ride then you know that God can do

something specific in your life and this

is the thing that I want to parallel

because somebody’s like are you just

motivationally speaking no no no I’m

gonna take our example Jesus and I’m

gonna show you his relationship with one

of his disciples one of the people he

chose to walk with and I’m gonna I’m

gonna I could have used anybody but I

may use Peter cuz Jesus and Peter were

boys but they went through all kinds of

stuff in their relationship and I want

to try to use the parallel of their

relationship and give us just a few keys

of what we need to do in godly

relationship what we need to see coming

so that we can finish the ride and reach

purpose even when we’re going through it

with godly people with people who are

going the same direction and know that

God is gonna sustain us on this ride the

entire time so the first thing we got to

do before the ride even starts is we got

to commit to the ride look at Jesus and

Peter committing to the ride in Matthew

chapter 4 verse 19 it says Jesus called

out to them a bro

come follow me and I’ll show you how to

fish for people look at verse 20 power

and they left their nets at once and

followed him how do you know they

committed to the ride because Peter had

to sacrifice something to have this type

of relationship see many of us aren’t

willing to sacrifice anything to have a

godly relationship and he had to leave

his business the way he made money

he said I got skin in the game right now

I’m not just doing I’m committing to

walk with you no matter what’s going on

we are going to walk together and most

of us will not commit because we won’t

even give up time to have a godly

relationship we won’t give up habits we

won’t give up other people who are

taking us the wrong direction and God

says if you want godly relationship if

you want an inner circle a real one

you’re gonna have to commit to

sacrificing something so that you can

have this and that’s what God is calling

all of us to do in our relationship with

others and I want everybody to hear me

say this this is why this type of

relationship can’t be with a bunch of

people like you can’t have an inner

circle of 50 people like that don’t make

sense I want you to see who Jesus was

around he had 500 disciples then it says

then he had 72 and then he had 12 but

then he had an inner circle of 3 Peter

James and John and I don’t know you know

what I’m saying I know that we try to

take the word and do a whole bunch of

things but I believe that we’re at

church that just doesn’t follow the

message of Jesus but we’re trying to

follow the method of Jesus so in your

entire lifetime if God gives you three

people who were in your inner circle

you’re in good company because that’s

all Jesus needed some of y’all just yeah

oh my god but Rebecca like hear me hear

me though if they’re not a part of

helping you reach purpose what are they

there for and so this is who Jesus

committed to these three guys and so we

go further on the roller coaster of

relationships and I want to show you the

next thing that we have to be ready for

in having godly relationships you have

to embrace the incline of inker

and you know when you start out of place

and you start one way the first thing

you do on any good roller coaster is you

start going up and I don’t know if

you’ve been on a roller coaster but

that’s the scary part for me because

it’s just like click click click click

click click click click click click you

start seeing the hotel you staying and

you like click click click click click

it say like you get way up there but but

but what I’m saying is if you’re gonna

have a godly relationship you have to

have a climate of encouragement in that

relationship you can tell if somebody’s

a part of your inner circle if they

really are encouraging you to climb to

places you never thought you would be

I’m gonna help you right now

see see Jesus and Peter had this

relationship in John chapter 1 verse 42

it said then Andrew brought Simon to

meet Jesus ok and you say who’s Simon

that’s Peter

but watch how this all works together it

says looking intently at Simon this is

Jesus he said um yeah your name is Simon

son of John but i’ma call you Cephas

which means Peter and Peter means rock

let me help you understand this

Simon means wavering 1 and Peter means

Rock so when Jesus committed to walk

this out with him he saw the condition

he was in but didn’t address him as who

he was he addressed him it to who he

would be if you’re gonna have an inner

circle and godly community they need to

be able to speak more to who you will be

not who you are right now Oh y’all

better come up they they need to be able

to look at you and say you’re a faithful

man of God who’s standing even though

you’re inconsistent now I know you act

in a little hurry

y’all know something a little holy

tendencies but they need to be friends

that say I see you pure I see you whole

I see you oh come on I see you walking

in your purpose I see you my question is

who is in your life that’s speaking to

you about who you will become not just

who you are

see so I’m just helping you to be able

to identify some of the people who

shouldn’t be in you

a circle cuz if every time you come to

them like I don’t know if that’s gonna

work or bra your on saying I mean I mean

that’s cool if that’s what you wanted no

they should be speaking like yeah I see

it

I see what you’re talking about and I

know you can get there and I see God

what a matter of fact I’m a fast with

you I know you’re believing God for

these certain things I’m gonna get in it

with you call me every day at noon let’s

pray for two minutes on my lunch break

let go

who are the people that can see where

you’re going and will speak that into

existence because life and death is in

the power of the and and we gotta have

people around us in our inner circle now

I’m not talking about acquaintances and

friends and people around I’m talking

about people who are in your inner

circle they got to be able to speak life

I have people in my inner circle that

when I feel like nothing is working when

I’m in the back like God does this make

any sense they coming in too late bro

you’re called to the nations like what

are you talking about you’re talking

about what no bro you’re gonna do this

and you’re gonna do that and they can

speak life into me all I’m saying to you

is for the roller coaster that you’re

gonna go through in relationship you

have to have people who will encourage

you and beyond that incline to your rise

amen amen

so let’s let’s just think about this for

one second your inner speak inner circle

speaks to who you will be more than who

you are so you need to see that and I

love the fact that Jesus even chooses to

use Peter as a foundation member of

building the church he literally says to

him he says hey um Peter which means

Rock Petra he said on the revelation

that you have gotten that God has

revealed through you imma build my

entire church through what God what I

allowed you to see in me what I’m saying

is do you have people in your life that

can you can see them in a wavering state

but they you can walk with them long

enough that they can develop into

something that you can build something

on like like like like like their their

life you didn’t give up on them on the

first time they messed up

like you didn’t give them y’all got to

remember this is the same Peter that

cuts somebody’s ear off like this is the

same Peter that gods using but but

somebody rolled up on Jesus he

like slightly he still was rough around

the edges but Jesus was like yeah let me

pick this ear up man my bad bro Peter

sometimes I look crazy but Jesus didn’t

throw him away cuz he was in process see

who are the people that are going the

same way you’re going see you can’t do

that with people who don’t look for God

in their lives but with people who are

going the same way there’s some people

that you’re that Jesus always worked in

grace and truth and many times believers

we become Pharisee ik and we start

judging people for where they are and we

just this is the truth this is the truth

this is the truth but baby God looked at

you and he poured out his grace and he

said hey the woman that was caught in

the act of adultery what was his things

he said um those of you that that that

are without sin cast the first stone and

he identified with that woman he set

with her and when all her accusers were

gone he worked in grace he didn’t let

nobody kill her but then he said hey

woman where your accusers she said they

gone she said exactly I’m with you so go

away from here and don’t live like that

no more grace and truth when the church

can start doing in grace and truth we

can walk with people through the roller

coaster of relationship and that’s what

God wants for every single one of us so

the third thing that you have to realize

when we’re going through the roller

coaster of godly relationship and this

is probably one of the hardest ones to

go through but you’re gonna have to go

through the drops of disappointment see

one of the the craziest things is you

commit to the ride and then you go up

and you’re encouraging each other

but everybody knows as soon as you get

over that zenith or that peak there’s a

drop coming and in every relationship

it’s almost the test of the relationship

that that there is gonna be some drops

that are so disappointing in your

relationship and it doesn’t mean that

you’re supposed to abort being in

relationship with that person because

you’re disappointed because Jesus and

Peter went through this Jesus’s face and

get this picture Jesus is facing the

hardest moment of his

where he’s fighting his humanity and his

divinity and he has to make a decision

that he’s actually gonna go through with

the plan of God and go to the cross and

he says yo fellas I don’t need everybody

right now

I just need my inner circle to come get

with me I know you can’t do this for me

but I need you to be close enough to me

that while I’m going through this that I

know you’re there for me like who are

those people that that’ll say I know

you’re going through that you’re going

through that divorce you’re going

through depression I can’t go with it I

can’t go through it for you but I’ll be

right here close to you while you’re

going through it and he says I got to go

to the seminary and I got to pray that

this is the thing and literally Jesus is

in anguish right here and he says I need

y’all Peter James and John I just need

y’all to sit here just while I go pray

he said y’all y’all got an understanding

like bro you okay is everything all

right he said man this is something I’ve

never dealt with in my life he said my

soul is crushed with grief to the point

of death but if y’all could just stay

here and keep watch with me if y’all

would just pray with me if y’all would

hang with me look at Matthew 26 verse 39

so it says and Jesus he went a little

further and bowed with his face to the

ground praying my father if it is

possible

please let this cup of suffering be

taken from me

yet I want your will to be done in my

life not mine and that’s the place you

got to get to in your life is that

you’re saying you know I’m going through

some crap right now but I’m not just

gonna let my gift and keep me I’m gonna

answer the call of God on my life

and I’m gonna say not my will but yours

be done and Jesus in this moment is

crying out and he goes back to check on

his boys and make sure they’re standing

with him because sometimes you just need

encouragement that’s somebody standing

with you in the situation look at verse

40 then he returned to the disciples and

found them asleep now now you and my

inner circle and I’m telling you I’m

going through the hardest time Amala and

all I asked you to do was stay with me

for one hour

and I don’t cried out yeah yeah and I’ve

done all that stuff I just need some

encouragement from my boys and I walk up

and they like mm Jesus was disappointed

how do you know look at his next segment

better

I cannot bro couldn’t you have just

watch with me for one freaking now he

said freaking I just in my spirit he

does listen and and and and I want you

to see this because God is human in

Jesus and what this shows us is that he

was disappointed in their relationship

like bro you you didn’t do what you

saying

I bet when he went off there’s like III

we’re gonna be here an hour just prayer

circles and we’re just gonna pray for

you we’re gonna believe and we’re gonna

call on heaven heaven come down like you

think what they were they were probably

like super and then they just yeah you

know how you get sleeping when you’re

Frank I’ll let you wheel it will let you

will be used to start repeating thing

Jesus Jesus is it like but watch their

intentions were good but but but what

they did disappointed him and I’ll bet

right after Jesus expressed his

disappointment he was like don’t even

worry about it don’t even where I’m

proof I’m up look you know I’m saying I

just need a little captain at a little

power than that I’m back go pray we’re

gonna we got you we’re gonna stand you

come on guys come on can I tell you that

it happened two more times like he went

to pray came back they were sleep again

what came back they were sleep again now

most of us if we would have got

disappointed three times in one night we

would have cut the relationship yet

Peter you know what you can do your name

is roxrite that’s what it means kick

rocks like get out of here like like you

I’m saying we would have we would have

been done but look what Jesus does

he doesn’t in the relationship because

in your inner circle Jesus address

is disappointment but does not abort the

relationship and many of us don’t know

how to do that we don’t know how to

address disappointment hey you said you

were gonna be here for my wedding and

you said that you were gonna do this and

you know we don’t talk about it we

internalize it and then we we build up

all this unforgiveness and we build all

this toxicity and gods saying what I

need you to do is in godly relationship

I need you to go to that person I need

you to talk to them I need you to tell

them when there’s a seed of offense

stuff like this hey I’m so excited kind

of for you get married but honestly when

I saw the engagement and it made me feel

low self-esteem about myself and saw the

seed of jealousy came into my heart even

though I’m supposed to be your maid of

honor I’m really mad that it’s not me or

y’all don’t want to do godly

relationship because it takes being

vulnerable it takes it takes people

saying hey and and then saying but I

know I know that’s not what God wants

for me

so can you pray for me because I’m

jealous of you but you’re in my inner

circle can you pray for me

I’ve seen people need gas money and be

around the people they call inner circle

and literally like don’t say nothing

because of pride and then we see him

come back around and they push in a car

up the highway

I’m like bro why didn’t you tell me I

just need to get my workout in today I

just like no you’re full of pride and

you won’t be transparent and honest with

where you’re at and God’s saying I don’t

bless that I dress people who get honest

in front of the other people and say

this is what I’m struggling with and

this and they address disappointments

but they don’t abort the relationship

and what I’m saying with there’s people

that God is gonna send you that you

can’t just be quiet and I’m cool

especially men how you feeling I’m good

y’all know like like like you know I’m

saying is everything okay knowing you’re

disappointed I’ll be re like somehow you

get a gold star for being alright

somehow God is applauding you for

holding it all together he said if you

were supposed to be the savior I would

have sent you to die but but because I’m

the Savior I need you to come to me he

said God is close to the brokenhearted

in the downtrodden I don’t care if

you’re man or a woman there’s sometimes

I don’t know how to do this and I’m

hurting and I need to know somebody’s

here for me but if you never address it

a lot of times the enemy is able to so

see the division and all this other

stuff and and it comes in and creeps in

and what God is saying is if you’re

gonna commit to the rollercoaster of

relationship you have to be willing to

go through the drop-offs of

disappointment let me give you another

one if you’re gonna commit to the

rollercoaster of relationships godly

relationship you’re gonna have to go

through the loops of love and lies yeah

yeah those that love and lies I’ll flip

you upside-down like like you’ll be in

godly relationship with Christians we’re

believers with people who give and tie

and because you have a sin nature there

are times where you’re gonna have to

evaluate do they really love me and man

even though maybe it wasn’t their

intention they lied to me like how do

you deal with it well Jesus and Peter

did these are our examples and and there

was a time I remember it in John 21 that

Jesus this is after he had died on the

cross and he had risen and he had 40

days on the earth and he appeared to his

disciples again and the disciples were

distraught because they they lost their

their Savior they like lost the leader

of the pack and so what did they do they

went back to what they were doing before

he came they went fishing like a lot of

us when we lose certain people in our in

our relationships that were taking us

the right way we go back to what we were

doing before

okay we’ll leave that right stay stay so

they’re out fishing and they’re looking

is like well that look like Jesus it’s

like there’s no way that’s Jesus he’d to

hide like that’s not Jesus and then John

the one he loves the Bible says he said

he looked at Peter and said no bro

that’s Jesus and and and and they begin

to have a conversation and they’re

talking and Jesus look I just want to

show you look at John 21 verse 15 it

says after breakfast Jesus asked Simon

Peter Simon son of John do you love me

more than these and look what what he

says he says yes Lord Peter replied you

know I love you he said I then feed my

lambs Jesus told him Jesus repeated the

question Simon son of John I want you to

remember what Jesus is calling him Jesus

is calling him Simon

remember what Simon means wavering 1 so

he’s not talking to who he was going to

be he’s talking to his old nature right

now Jesus is intentionally calling him a

wavering one look at it he says Jesus

verse 16 deep do you love me he said yes

Lord Peter said you know I love you then

take care of my sheep jesus said and

then a little time went by and Jesus

just looking at him intently it’s like

yeah let me ask him one more time

cuz I don’t I don’t know Simon son of

John do you love me and at the third

time he asked him he said you know I

love you but Peter was hurt that Jesus

asked a question a third time and I love

that it puts this in here because in the

roller coaster of godly relationships

it’s okay to be hurt like it’s okay to

be emotional

inside of what’s going on you just don’t

get off the ride you can go through and

walk through this thing and he says he

says he said Lord you know everything

you know that I love you

then Jesus said feed my sheep see see

what you got to realize the revelation

in this moment is that Jesus knows

everything and

and then Simon Peter just said it but he

was speaking to his old nature and he

was saying si si you claim to love me

but but I need to make sure that your

love is real and it’s not based on what

I’ve done it’s based on Who I am to you

and in godly relationship there will be

times that you got to go to those people

you call your inner circle and ask them

do you love me just for me do you love

me without what I bring to this

relationship do you love me not because

of my Instagram likes and we go out and

have fun do you just love me because

what Jesus knew is that Peter had lied

to him and he went back to his old

nature and was acting like a wavering

one and so he was coming to asked him

after everything had happened hey bro I

know our relationship has been a little

rocky and it’s been wavering you went

back to your old nature and you start

depending on on what we had but I just

gotta ask you do you really love me like

will you will you will you represent me

when nobody’s around will you defend me

what will you will you work with me for

the purpose that God has called us to

and and he was yeah what are you talking

about

but he didn’t even know Jesus already

knew he denied him three times and this

is why I say you got to be willing to go

through the loops of love and lies

because Peter lied to Jesus and didn’t

even know him

like he didn’t even know he his

intention was good I’ll prove it to you

let’s look at Matthew chapter 26 verse

33 this is when he’s telling disciples

y’all I’m about to be crucified I’m

about to be killed and it’s the Last

Supper and he’s telling them and and and

and he says all y’all are going to

basically sell me out

Peter’s like that ain’t that ain’t never

gonna happen look what he said he said

even if everyone else deserts you Lord I

will never desert him Jesus is like lie

look at verse 34 he said jesus replied I

tell you the truth Peter now he’s

speaking to the one who actually does

love him the rock at this moment he says

I’ll tell you the truth this very night

before the rooster crows you will deny

that you even knew me three times do you

know how devastating that is in a

relationship when somebody doesn’t just

act like you not important they act like

you they don’t know you

like like if I was like hey if somebody

said hey Demario uh do you know Tex –

Mike who no no like Pastor Mike the guy

y’all don’t lead transformation Church

together

transformation Church I don’t even know

what you’re talking about here’s a

picture of you and Pastor Mike together

um do you know any black men I’ll take

pictures with a lot of people I don’t

know see see it’s one thing to have

people who are not in your inner circle

to deny you but it’s another thing to

have people who walk close with you

act like they don’t even know you and

Peter’s response to him was like nope

that will never happen I will not deny

you and all the disciples said yeah we

won’t we ain’t gonna do that either all

of them did it and what I want you to

realize is that even though there was

people asking about questions of love

and even lies people told Jesus never

gave up on his relationship with Peter

that’s what I want you to understand

when you commit to this right that’s why

you can’t make this trip with just

anybody this is why the Bible tells you

not to be unequally yoked like you can’t

just get on and ride with you oh listen

no no no I gotta make sure that the

people that I’m linked with are going

the same way or praying to the same God

or moving in the same direction or

calling out things in me that I don’t

even see because we’re gonna go through

different things in our relationship can

I just sum it all up your inner circle

loves you enough to challenge who you

used to be while giving you grace to

become oh yeah come on can I talk to

husbands and wife some of y’all aren’t

seeing the the change in the growth you

want to see in your spouse cuz you will

not let them be freed from what they

used to be and they do not have the

grace to become around you and that’s

why people get divorces and they see

them people five years later like why

are they doing so good cuz they got away

from you

because in the midst of the relationship

you couldn’t let God work on your heart

to be an extension of his love that he’s

been to you you can’t be to them so

you’re like the person that got ten

million dollars of debt I’m cancelled

out of yours but you holding somebody

hostage for 10 cents and what God is

saying is that that’s why I’m telling

you that you should be forgiven seven

times seventy a day 490 times a day and

and that’s why until the church did this

and we’re holding people hostage for

things they did to us ten years ago

fifteen years ago ten minutes ago and

God says if you don’t let them go you

can’t complete your circle of purpose

it’s like taking and drinking venom and

hoping they die and you like look at you

you’re killing yourself cuz of

unforgiveness and that’s why we have to

be ones that give people grace to become

if you’re gonna go on this godly ride of

godly relationships you’ve got to be

ready for the turns of trust see their

sins on rollercoasters where it’s going

one way and it looks like it’s doing

something it just turn and it’s going

one way it looks it just turns and what

you gotta realize is that that Peter and

Jesus went through so many turns in

their relationship that God was able to

use it to say yeah yeah no matter what

turn we go to we’re committed to this

right and I keep saying these things

because a lot of you need to realize

that as you join these small groups and

as you form godly community that they’re

gonna be things where you go to and it’s

gonna be dips and turns and loops and

but don’t get off the ride don’t don’t

give up on godly hear me when I say this

godly relationships because it takes

some work and investment to go through

them because if our example Jesus had to

do it you don’t think that we’re gonna

have to do it and so many of us we can’t

hang with people through this

stop the bumps of belief and the bumps

of unbelief see this is the great thing

about godly community is even when

you’re off track your godly community

can help you get back on track

Peter was inside of a boat and they were

on the water and Jesus appears to them

and he’s like yo is that Jesus said

Jesus if that’s you tell me to come and

you need people in your inner circle who

will have faith to call you out of the

situation that you’re in right now and

and challenge you faith wise bro you

you’ve been needing to start that

business for six years now but you’re

gun-shy

step out of the boat come on and I’m

like if it’s you

matter of fact I’m so I believe so much

in what you’re doing here’s a thousand

dollars do you got anybody in your inner

circle who invest in your drinks look at

y’all so some of y’all won’t even get

your friend McDonald’s let let alone be

a friend that calls somebody out from

the boat to walk on water Jesus is

calling his friend to come and walk in a

place that nobody else has ever done

God’s gonna call some of you to start

businesses and come up with initiatives

and write songs that the world has never

heard but you’re gonna need godly

communities say come on you can do it

come out of that boat I know it’s never

been done before

I know you don’t have the resources but

I’m with you so Jesus gets the courage

cuz he has godly community to step out

of the bonus’ like bro this is crazy and

his other dudes on their boat was like

bro he about to drown he can’t even swim

you know this has not got to work and

that man started defying every law of

physics as he kept his eyes on Jesus but

then he started looking at the waves in

the wind and he started to look at all

the other stuff that was going on and

when he got his eyes off of Jesus he

started to drown you can read the text

later and what do we do usually as godly

community when our friend starts to

drown after they stepped out on faith I

told you

oh come on let’s be honest we say stuff

like we stay stuff like they should have

listened well they’re gonna have to deal

with it now what if you’re going into

foreclosure in your house your godly

community shouldn’t be like a new nation

I got that big ol house your godly

community says hey I got a room you can

stay in at my house like we’ll shut the

game room down for a little bit you you

can you can come stay with us but then

when we get there we have to have a

finance meeting see see cuz I’m not

going to just condone what you’ve been

doing and keep you in that same place

because I’m your real accountability I’m

in your inner circle there are things

you did I saw what you did at Christmas

and you bought them $400 shoes and you

went on that vacation and you we got to

talk about that because I love you too

much to let you stay in this situation

but I love you too not much not to reach

out and help you in this situation

oh I want you to see it I want you to

see it in Matthew chapter 14 and I want

you to look at verse 31 look what Jesus

does when he starts drowning it says

Jesus immediately reached out and

grabbed him and then he was able to be

honest with them after he’s exhibited

grief man you got so much you don’t got

no faith boy watch you doubt man you

were supposed to write that book man you

were supposed to go out to that and when

they climbed back in the into the boat

together I want you to see that Jesus

didn’t leave him there they climb back

in the boat together and the wind

stopped the thing that was distracting

him went away when they both got back

into a place where they could regroup

together you need an inner circle in

godly community because there’s times

when the winds of life come and you need

somebody when you’re drowning just to

say hey I’ll pick you up let’s get back

into the boat let’s reset

let’s but they didn’t give up on the

relationship y’all hear what I’m saying

the last thing is how are we gonna ride

the rollercoaster a godly relationship

we have to be ready for the rise of

reconciliation

like like like we have to be quick to

reconcile when things go wrong can I

break it down even further you got to be

able to forgive quickly like you you

can’t hold things I talked about it just

a minute ago how many times are we

supposed to forgive and it’s so funny

because we say that but what you don’t

understand is the culture behind it so

when they were talking about this one of

the disciples said you know it’s it’s

good if if the the religious leaders and

they teach that if you forgive three

times boy you get a gold star so one of

this IVA says so God you know we we’re

doing this New Kingdom thing so we need

to take it up a few notches what if we

forgive seven times

every day yeah yeah that was good I bet

it’s good and he said I’ll tell you the

truth you should be forgiven seven times

seventy a day 490 times a day you should

be forgiving somebody and be willing to

reconcile because you know that our

godly connection is better than disunity

it’s only when there is unity that there

is a commanded blessing and anything

that you do so I’m going to keep the

lines of community hurt me but we’re

gonna discuss it we’re gonna talk about

it and we don’t even have to see eye to

eye but I know that we have to forgive

and even if you don’t want to do it I’m

gonna start I’m gonna be the one and let

me show you the example of it in John 21

verse 7 and you can read it later but

long story short it’s again when the

disciples see Jesus for the first time

and John says I think there’s Jesus on

the shore and that’s all Peter needed

Peter did not wait for the boat to come

into Shore he had lost connection and

betrayed his friend and at the moment

there was an opportunity for

reconciliation the Bible says that Peter

jumped out of the boat and swam to the

shore he initiated reconciliation he did

not wait for everybody in the boat to

come and let’s all do this together he

said if that is the person I committed

to ride with and I

I thought that this was almost over I

got to go see he jumped out and went to

him it’s the same way that many of you

need to jump out of your pride and you

need to go say I’m sorry and many of you

maybe you didn’t do it but you need to

say I forgive you and I’m like what did

i do I don’t even know it doesn’t even

matter no more I just can’t let this

venom run through my veins anymore

and I’m releasing you of the offense

well tell me what it is since you know

I’ll tell you this is what happened this

is what happened but I know the purpose

of our relationship is bigger than what

I feel right now and so I will be the

offensive in forgiveness not the

defensive I’m gonna push I’m gonna try

at any me and win we become a church

that can be ones that do what the words

say and go to people and forgive and

Reconciliation becomes more important

than our reputation oh he’s a punk or

she just soft no no no I’m just godly

like I’m using meekness yeah I had no

stuff that I could really but that’s not

my heart I committed to this ride with

you and we’re gonna reach purpose

together even if you’re delusional even

if you’re going I’m gonna pray for you

I’m gonna stand with you I’m gonna do

that and that’s why you have to let God

direct your steps to godly community cuz

we’re not committing to this ride with

just anybody

we’re committing to this ride with

people who are going to places that God

has called us to go and that’s why we

need an inner circle so why are you

saying all this Pastor Mike I want you

to see it coming if it hasn’t already

started for you and even some of you who

have been scared to give godly

relationship a chance again God’s saying

hey I’m giving you a blueprint right now

so you can know that these are signs

that I’m with you like when Oh

that’s the loop of love and lies I see

it I ain’t going nowhere

oh those are the turns of trust I see it

I’m not going nowhere and that’s why God

wants you to have a godly community I

want to pray for every person that’s

under the sound of my voice that God

through this message would encourage you

because you’re gonna need courage to get

on this ride again

see the reason people don’t ride

rollercoasters is because they did it

once then they got scared or they heard

the screams of other people think about

it you’ve heard the screams and the

agony of other people that have done

relationships so you said I don’t even

want to try but today I’m gonna pray

that God would encourage you so that you

would have the courage to stand and get

in godly community father I pray for

every person under the sound of my voice

that today you’re doing something father

God that would revolutionize our hearts

our lives our minds and God she would

change us from the inside out father I

thank you that we would be ones to

commit to the ride I thank you Father

God that we would be ones father god

that would be able father God to know

that when the drops of life come or or

we have to go through the incline of

encouragement father or the loots of

love and life come lies come father God

that the turns and all the different

things that have to happen father God

even to reconciliation I thank you that

we will stick on the ride with people

you’ve called us to father let us have a

relationship like Adam and Eve and

Jonathan and David and Jesus and Peter

father God that will help us reach

purpose because we’ve committed to this

inner circle and father I thank you for

making clear those who need to be

removed from our lives God take the

blinders off of our eyes let us not be

stuck because of time served I thank you

Father that you’re changing the

trajectory of every person’s life

because you’re giving them an inner

circle God give them courage to step out

and try again in Jesus name we agree

amen can we give God some praise right

there

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