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well come on come on come on what’s
going on everybody shout out to
transformation Church welcome to church
online man I am pumped to be in this
place today so grateful to be in Tulsa
Oklahoma
at the world-famous the world-renowned
transformation Church come on somebody
right there in the chat if you’re
thankful to be a part of TC nation can
you just be a delight to chat up right
now
in fact wherever you’re watching from
right now I just want to see because
people from all over the world right now
are tuning in I want to see all of the
different countries all of the different
nations come on if you’re watching from
a different continent right now let us
know in the chat I want to see it man
I’m pumped
I got be honest with you to be in Tulsa
Oklahoma in fact I’ve never loved Tulsa
Oklahoma so much until I became a part
of TC nation and I’m so grateful and so
honored for how God is continuing to use
this ministry how God continues to use
this church and I believe the word is
going really into the entire world it’s
making a huge huge impact my name is
rich Wilkerson jr. and I am from Miami
Florida I pastor a little church there
in Miami called vous Church now maybe
you’re gonna what in the heck does boo
mean boo is just short for rendezvous
and rendezvous means the meeting place
and four-and-a-half years ago my wife
Don Sri and I we we planted the church
vous Church which was a meeting place a
place that people could connect but also
encounter God and it’s been incredible
to see God work in Miami and continue to
move and I want to say hi to all my
friends and family out there right now
in fact get back to your church for a
second if you’re over here watching this
right now you should be I know people
you I love Church online and Quarantine
days right because people are watching
like 19 church services I’m getting that
in this but if you’re from boo friends
and family we love you guys so much and
you know man we are in this season
really across the world of quarantine
and we’re in a pandemic I’m just
thankful that although we are practicing
in many ways social distancing we’re not
practicing spiritual distancing that
because of technology we can come and
connect and I know for my wife and I and
our team in
Miami we have been admiring and looking
from afar at transformation church as
you guys continue to lead and continue
to model how we can do Church in a new
way and that’s not an accident the way
that this is all taking place is that
when God begins to move in the earth God
always works through a man he always
works through a woman and I am so
thankful for my friends Pastor Mike and
Natalie Todd come on right now in the
chat I need you to make as much noise as
you can come on put your put the
applause together come on somebody how
many y’all love Pastor Mike and Natalie
I think two of the finest leaders in all
of the world today I gotta be honest
with you Mike Todd is one of the most
gifted human beings I have ever met in
my in fact it makes me sick how gifted
he is but what I love about Mike is that
it’s not just his talent and it’s not
just his gifting it’s not just his
anointing his preaching I love all of
that but the thing that honestly has
impacted me the most about Mike is his
character you know Mike is even better
off of this stage than he is on it he’s
been a faithful friend to me he and
Natalie have both deposited in such a
major way back home in Miami to vous
Church and I know our church is so
thankful for you Mike so thankful for
you Natalie
we love you we’re behind you and you
know if you haven’t heard um my boy has
become a New York Times bestselling
author hey relationship goals I’m not
gonna lie I saw the news a couple weeks
ago that Mike had hit the New York Times
bestselling author list I screenshot at
it
I shot Mike at Texas a yo we made it
which is funny right because it’s like
rich you did nothing
we didn’t do nothing I am a New York
Times bestselling author but how many
know that’s the beauty of relationships
that actually Mike’s win becomes my win
and my win is Mike’s win and
transformation churches win is vous
churches win and how many no it’s not
about a church name but rather it’s
about the capital C Church come on
somebody give God some praise if you
know what I’m talking about
devils not afraid of a big church he’s
afraid of a united church and I think
we’re living
a day and age right now where that we
need to be celebrating one another and
if you have not gotten this book yet let
me just take my few moments real quick
to recommend this because we are in a
series right now at transformation
Church on this book relationshipgoals
and I got a message I want to bring to
you today but man this is a book that I
believe is not just full of Revelation
but it is so powerful in the application
for your relationships and Mike honestly
is so vulnerable in this book and
because he’s vulnerable he shares from
his pain his pain brings us healing and
I am just so proud of my friend I’m so
grateful for my friend I’ve always lived
this way I believe that alignment is
more important than assignment in fact
put that in a chat right now alignment
is more important than assignment
meaning what you’re doing in life
doesn’t matter nearly as much as who
you’re doing it with and I decided that
I’m just doing life with Mike Todd I’m
just doing life with Natalie Todd and so
anywhere they’re going yo cousin rich
he’s coming behind and so guess what
ladies and gentlemen we are best-selling
authors come on somebody make a little
bit of noise out there I love you Mike
so so grateful for you this is
incredible well hey listen
today I want to share a message and they
asked me to come in and say you’re rich
we need you to jump into relationship
goals reloaded by the way and we need
you to give a message to all the single
people in the house
oh come on chat you know is coming at
some point right now in the chat just
let’s just find out who they are just if
you’re single just come on I’m single
I’m single I’m single come on get it out
there you never know you never know you
might put you’re single right now and
someone gets your little profile name
and then connects with you wouldn’t that
be just cool I want to start hearing
those stories
it wasn’t tinder that I found my husband
it wasn’t a harmony where I met her it
was TC nation chat room where our love
began to blossom and grow I don’t know
but I got a message today for all the
single people in the house I want to
preach a message and whether you’re
single or not I believe this message is
gonna land for everyone because when you
start talk about relationships
come on how many y’all want to grow in
your relationships come on just just put
your hand up there in the chat just say
I want to grow I want to get better I
want to grow I think the quality of your
life depends on the quality of your
relationships in life so we’re all
learning to grow Jesus Christ came and
what did he do he established a healthy
vertical relationship with us to God he
reconciled he forgave us and that’s what
the cross is the cross helps us get our
vertical relationship with God in order
but Jesus doesn’t just stop there Jesus
didn’t just get you didn’t just come to
earth to get you to heaven Jesus came to
earth to help you thrive here on this
planet the cross is also horizontal that
when Jesus died he wasn’t just getting
you to heaven but he was also dying that
you and I might establish and restore
healthy horizontal relationships with
one another but today I want to lean
into this season of life called
singleness and I titled today’s message
if you’re taking notes I hope you’re
taking notes TC nation the research
tells us now that 98% of people who take
notes automatically get to heaven okay
so so just just take those notes man
because the more notes you get when you
get to heaven bigger mansion I can’t
prove it theologically but I’ve got a
word of my spirit um I want to talk
today from this thought single and stuck
oh I already I’m feel the anointing
single and stuck I’m in an empty arena
today but I don’t need other people in
this room to get me fired up I got a
word in my heart that I believe right
now if you’re out there and you’re
single and you feel like you’re stuck
well congratulations you tuned into the
right broadcast today because of the
word of the Lord is for you today that
you’re gonna step into a bright future
that God has more for you you’re not
gonna stay stuck
you might’ve felt stuck but you’re not
gonna stay stuck today you’re gonna be
set free come on somebody go ahead and
give God a shout of praise all over this
place all I feel this message single and
stuck have you ever felt stuck before
let’s put it this way have you ever
actually been
and stuck before my wife Don Cherie who
sends her greetings we’ve been married
now holler at your boy
13 years come on now I mean that’s like
to Hollywood marriages and one right
there okay so we were trying man
13 years married to the same woman I
should I should qualify that as well and
I met my wife when I was 17 years of age
I was in a church service lots of
reasons to go to church that’s just one
of the reasons I was 17 years of age and
my wife she walked it I saw her up in
the balcony and I don’t know what it was
man but like I swear she had like those
Beyonce fans at her feet I swear her
hair was blowing it felt like every step
that she took the ground just shook as
she walked I just stepped back I’m not
even I don’t even believe in a
prosperity gospel but on that day I was
all about naming and claiming I said I
choose you hey I just I just picked her
I just said that’s the girl I’m gonna
marry and took a little while to hear
from the Lord she’s not as spiritual as
I am so continue to pray for her but
eventually I wore her down and we fell
in love and we’ve been married now for
13 years but my wife and I we went to
Bible College together in a southern
city known as Cleveland Tennessee and
when I was in Cleveland Tennessee I was
driving a Jeep Wrangler now I live in
Miami now and so I don’t get the Jeep
out much but back then I was like yo I’m
in the south I’m gonna do this right and
so I had the big tires I had the car
jacked up and remember one day I was I
was hanging around some guys and these
dudes like hey rich have you ever been
muddin before I was like excuse me what
language I thought I was like tongues
for a seconds like is there an
interpretation muddin I don’t know what
you mean and maybe you’re not from the
south or maybe you’ve never gotten out
there into the wilderness a little bit
but mudding is when you take your
four-wheel drive truck or car out into a
remote area and you drive it through
different trails and mud and I always
had my Jeep in Miami’s like you know I’m
stylin and profilin but like I never
knew about mud and they said no let’s
take it out and go off-road with this
thing I said okay cool so they took me
in these back areas and we were going
for about an hour and a half but finally
there was this area there was this deep
trench of Mundus it’s rich I think you
can I think you can take the car through
it I said really
they’d say yeah I think I think you
could
so I put that thing in Drive and I tried
to go through it and when I went into it
all of a sudden as I hit the mud my car
came to a complete halt didn’t matter
how many times I continued to put my
foot down on the accelerator the car was
stuck now when you get stuck like that
the only way to get out is you’re gonna
need some help come on somebody write on
the chat just say I need some help today
come on I need some help today my friend
said hey we got an idea we’re gonna pull
you out but how many know that you gotta
be careful who you surround yourself
with because some of you the reason why
you got problems today is because you
got stupid friends I had some stupid
friends they set up will put you out of
the mud I said really they go yeah and
so one of my buddies he pulled up his
truck I said how you gonna pull me out
these jokers pulled out an extension
cord
oh sorry makes me laugh they pulled out
an extension cord I’m just as dumb as
them cuz how many know that like
literally the people you hang out with
you become like the most like y’all put
the extension cord on it dude they they
tried to drive my car out of the mud
with an extension cord the moment he hit
drive the extension cord it broke
instantly why because the only way to
get unstuck is that you need something
stronger something greater pulling the
thing that is stuck oh I don’t think
you’re getting this today because
there’s some people that had that you’re
single and you feel like you’re stuck
you feel like you’re at a halt you don’t
feel like you can progress in life I
love the motto at transformation church
it’s not about perfection
it’s about progression but some of you
right now you’ve got it in your mind
the only way I can progress is if I get
a partner oh but friend you need
something bigger than a partner to pull
you out of this season where you feel
like you’re stuck guess what you need
you don’t need a partner you need a
god-given purpose you need something
stronger to pull you from the place
where you feel like you’re stuck what I
love so much about the Bible is the
Bible over and over again is giving us
the promises of the Lord what is a
promise a promise is something about the
future
it’s telling you about something that is
to come in order to receive God’s
promises it requires faith I think right
now during Co vid 19 a whole lot of
people they’ve spent some time learning
the promises of God but I’m telling you
what when you go through difficult times
it’s not enough to learn the promises of
God you have to lean on the promises of
God I want to remind you TC nation that
when you lean on God’s promises his
promises they do not break they do not
fall apart but they are stronger than
any extension cord
they can pull you out of the rut you
have found yourself in come on somebody
if you know what I’m talking about go
ahead and give God a shout of praise
make some noise in the chat let somebody
know you’re not ashamed I believe right
now there’s some people right now in
your living room you ought to just start
shouting and let your neighbors know
you’re unashamed today because I want
you to get a promise from God I want you
to get a purpose for your life a purpose
so big that will pull you from the place
that you feel like you’re stuck in it’s
proverbs chapter 29 verse 18 very famous
passage and what does it say it says
where there is no vision the people
perish it’s amazing to me Charles how so
many people can create a vision for
their business they can create a vision
for their life they can create a vision
for their bank account yet so many
people never ever create a vision for
the relational life and the starting
point for everybody out there today
who’s single and feels like they’re
stuck is it starts with a vision it
starts with a promise it starts with a
purpose to pull you into the next season
that God is leading you into without a
vision the people perish without a
vision other trails I said people throw
off restraint I believe many people
today are going through life and they
don’t have any boundaries and they don’t
actually have any design to their life
because they have no vision for their
life see this what I know about vision
vision gives pain purpose when you know
where you’re headed guess what you can
tolerate where you are when you actually
can anticipate the promise of God I know
I’m not there yet oh but baby I have
come a long way I might not be exactly
where I want to be but come on can
somebody thank God you are not where you
used to be I’m thankful for God’s grace
I’m thankful for what he’s done in my
life there’s people right now that are
watching this stream and you’re going
but rich I hear what you’re saying man
and thanks for getting all hyped up in
the first 5 minutes man but I am sick of
being single well let me tell you
something the only thing worse than
being sick of being single is sick of
being married see I’m a pastor and one
of the great blessings and privileges of
being a pastor I’m not I’m not a
certified therapist by any means but
I’ve had a chance to last 10 15 years to
sit with people and counsel people in
their most private most intimate moments
and what’s always amazing me is also a
single people like your pastor man I
just want to get marry man I just want
to get married man
what those single people don’t know is
that I sit in another room with married
people and marry people like you hold my
hand I just want to be single again rich
what are you saying what I’m saying is
is the grass is not greener on the other
side but rather the grass is green where
you water it come on somebody
I sense somebody’s getting free today
you’re about to get a vision you’re
about to get a purpose you’re about to
get unstuck today come on somebody write
that in the chat right now I’m getting
unstuck I’m coming out of bondage I’m
coming out of a bad paradigm I’m coming
out of a place where I feel like there’s
no progress and I’m stepping into
something new because of Jesus come on
somebody give him praise right now I
sense this word man single and stuck I
want to give you three these are so
simple I want to give you three simple
things that you can do listen to me what
is insanity insanity is continuing to do
the same thing and expecting a new
result and so if you’re in a spot right
now you’re gonna feel stuck I feel like
I’m sick of being single what what can I
do because you know I gotta be honest me
sometimes in church we just give like
really cliche answers and single people
oh my goodness just date Jesus
okay it’s been like 20 years like the
movies with somebody I know but just
create you know a spot right there for
Jesus you know like you put popcorn
there it’s being Jesus don’t touch that
like it gets weird I understand but I
want to give you three things that you
can start doing today this book is so
important God cares about our
relationships I’m so thankful that Mike
took time to put words to paper and gave
you relationship goals what is that
about it’s about giving you a vision so
I remind you the promises of God that
how it looks today
is not necessarily how it’s gonna look
tomorrow three things you can do if you
feel like you’re stuck if you feel like
you are single and you’re lacking
purpose three things really really
simple number one write this down help
me out chat come on now help me out
wherever you’re from wherever you’re
watching help me out number one focus on
you it’s like the first time I’ve ever
given that point in my entire life in a
sermon why because most of the faith
journey is focused on God focus on
others and that is always where joy
comes from that we as believers our
first response is to God and then we’re
called to serve people but when it comes
to your relationship life when it comes
to your romantic relationship life when
you are single guess what all eyes on
you baby
write this down this is very very
important and this is fundamental
healthy relationships are made up of
healthy individuals can you write that
down for me come on those of you that
want to get married one day those of you
that are married right now healthy
relationships are made up of healthy
individuals see the reason why I say
focus on you is because the reality of
it is is you focus on you because you
can only fix you this is like now all
the married people you can tune in now
for a second this is some of you guys
his biggest problem in marriage your
whole problem in marriage is why won’t
he change why won’t she change why won’t
he why won’t he do what I asked him to
do
if he would change I would change if she
would do this I would do that you know
what you sound like you sound like the
blame game guess where the blame game
begin oh you got to go all the way back
to the first couple
you got to go all the way back to Adam
and Eve to discover how we’ve been
blaming one another for our problems
from the get-go but what we have to
understand relationally is that healthy
relationships it doesn’t start with my
spouse it starts with me I don’t need a
partner to progress I need a purpose
I need a vision for my life Adam and Eve
beautiful story I think it’s really
important that you note story of Genesis
chapter one you know the first problem
this is good now the first problem in
the Bible was not sin first problem in
the Bible was solitude you see the
scripture says that Adam well he was
formed and created out of the dirt I
could preach that another time but Adam
was form from the dirt and then what did
God do God gave Adam responsibility God
gave Adam a job what was his job he was
to name all of the animals and it’s very
apparent that Adam named all the animals
cuz this is how guys start right we
start strong and then somewhere on the
journey we kind of trail off on the work
like think about it you can’t you just
see Adam out there in the garden like oh
yeah
God gave me a job God gave me a purpose
okay okay platypus mm-hmm okay okay
giraffe okay I’m getting good at them
whoa rhinoceros but somewhere on that
name in the animals journey Adam started
to kind of get tired bat cat rat bee bee
bro bee that’s not a name of a Nana lats
a letter in the alphabet Oh me what
happened God looked down and said it’s
not good for man to be alone man needs a
helper so I want to let you know right
now those you that are single and that
you desire to get married one day that’s
not a wrong desire there’s nothing wrong
with that desire I don’t want to make
you feel bad or less than for desiring a
partner because from the very beginning
God said that we needed help that we
needed collaboration I just want to make
sure that you get your order right
because the scripture says delight
yourself in the Lord
another way says it seek first God’s
kingdom delight yourself in the Lord and
he’ll give you what he’ll give you the
desires of your heart jesus said seek
first the kingdom of God and one and all
these things shall be added unto you you
better get your order right you gotta
get your order right God says it’s not
good for Adam to be alone this dude
needs some help
hello ladies I want to speak to you for
a moment I don’t know what you’ve heard
and I don’t know what church you’ve
grown up and I don’t know what people
have preached at you but men and women
listen to me ladies are not less than
men I want to say it really really loud
ladies are not less than men notice this
God says Adam needs help all the guys in
the chat just say help help don’t you if
you’re listening help me help you guys
we need help all the real men of God
said amen amen yeah I need some help so
what has God do God puts Adam to sleep
and what is that God God takes from
Adams side from his rib and he creates
woman notice he does not take the woman
from his feet because women are not
beneath men he does not take the woman
from his head because women are not
above the men instead he takes the woman
from his side because women are supposed
to walk alongside the man in partnership
together as collaborators come on woman
of God listen to me loud and clear do
not for one second discount your value
do not for one second think for at any
moment that you are less than any men
get a vision for what God wants to do on
the inside of you let confidence come
not from a partner but let confidence
come from the Spirit of God come on
somebody go ahead and give God some
praise in the chat right now give God
some praise this is so important because
the first thing I do is you gotta focus
on you and focusing on you as you
to see yourself as a person of value
that you have something to bring to a
relationship the question is what are
you going to bring to the relationship
are you becoming a I believe your life
is an asset but just because your life
is an asset doesn’t mean you’re
appreciating see whoever you marry and
talk to all the people right now that
are engaged all through that are dating
somebody because some of you at the end
of this talk guess what your homeworks
gonna be you need to break up with
somebody because the person you marry
will either be your greatest asset or
your greatest liability they’re either
pushing you towards purpose or they’re
pulling you back towards apathy III
can’t even there’s no way that I could
with my words right now begin to
describe you how much of a help my wife
Dawn she has been to be my life in fact
I won’t say it this way there is not a
category in my life that my wife Dawn
she has not helped me in all she has
done for me in my life is push me
forward all she has done for me my life
is speak to my potential she has been my
helper and I’m so so grateful that we
walk together and so if you’re out there
right now going okay you know I really
want to be married and I feel stuck
before you just let something try to
pull you out that’s broken until you
just try to go to another broken
relationship until you keep until you
stop just going to that that computer
and looking at images that give you you
know instant gratification but end up
hurting your soul in the long run it’s
like an extension cord that just keeps
breaking on you it looks like it’s gonna
work but it just keeps breaking on you
it’s because it’s not strong enough to
get you out of that place you need
something bigger you need a vision you
need a purpose let me give all the
single people cuz you’re like you know
I’m sick of being single you’re sick of
being single yeah I want to get married
in fact right now if you want to get
married in the chat just put it out
there I just want to keep this prophesy
on him you want to get married cool
that’s cool nothing wrong with that
desire just want to make sure that the
order is right let’s just get a vision
of what it looks like to be a godly wife
and to be a godly husband this is fun
aren’t feeds here we go open up the
Bible seasons chapter 5 ready
wives submit to your husband’s as to the
Lord for the husband is the head of the
wife as Christ is the head of the church
his body of which he is the Saviour
now as the church submits to Christ so
also wives should submit to their
husbands in everything husband’s first
25 love your wives just as Christ loved
the church and gave himself up for her I
want to stop right there because I’m
trying to give you vision today of what
it looks like to be in a healthy
relationship if you’re single and you’re
stuck get the vision of what it looks
like to be in a healthy marriage I meet
so many guys like y’all man pastor rich
bro I got problems with my wife man I
got problems with my girl man
yo bro she won’t submit to me okay stop
right there you’re focusing on her
you’re focusing on something you can’t
control instead of focusing on her I
want you to go back and focus on you
here’s a better question are you a man
worth submitting to are you a man who’s
worth submitting to cuz I mean some
dudes like y’all man this girl she won’t
submit to me I’m like hold up would you
submit to you
you can’t even lead yourself why would
you expect anybody to follow you it
starts with you are you a man we’re
submitting to I want to speak to all the
women out there ladies once again
understand your worth
the Bible does not say submit to all men
in fact it says something really clear
it says submit to your husband that’s
like one freaking dude listen to me
there’s a lot of guys out there and I
hate to be coming at you by just being
honest with you there’s a lot of guys
who want Authority but they don’t want
to match the authority with the
responsibility this is very very
dangerous never ever give someone
leadership in your life who wants
Authority but does not match it with
taking responsibility man of God anybody
can bring a child into this world it
takes a real man of God it takes a
secure man of God you take
a responsible man of God to father that
child come on where are the real men at
where are the men that are worth
submitting to are you worth submitting
to but I’m not just going with the guys
ladies
the scripture says something I talk to
girls like oh my goodness the Bible it’s
like so archaic and like it doesn’t
understand like it’s crazy like this
word submission okay first and foremost
this word submission is not a slave to a
master but rather it’s more like a team
to a coach it’s it’s teamwork so get a
better definition of it but ladies
before you complain about submitting I
might have to get outta here this one
Charles I might I might I might need to
call Mike cuz I don’t know I I don’t
wanna let the TC Nation women come at me
cuz I know you guys are loud confident
and secure I just wanna I just want I
want you to see this um you’re
complaining about submitting I don’t
think you read the whole verse uh cuz I
know that can be difficult at times to
submit but did you see what it said –
guys we have the harder task we don’t
have to submit we have to die for you so
ladies can you please be a girl who’s
worth dying for
oh I need the men in the chat to come
back to your boy help me out just a
little bit come on where’s the real man
at yeah that’s why I’m looking for a
girl worth dying for ladies if you’re
not married right now ladies if you are
married right now quit focusing on what
he’s doing
quit focusing on what he’s not doing
start focusing on you am i a girl who’s
worth dying for
can I be a girl who communicates and
doesn’t manipulate can I be a girl who
doesn’t just actually forget but
actually chooses to forgive can I be a
girl who decides that I’m gonna be a
person who’s loyal that I’m not somebody
who’s shady but I’m gonna walk with you
not just on the mountaintop but you can
trust this girl I’ll walk with you in
the valley I’m not just gonna be there
in prosperity
even if we come into poverty don’t look
too far I’m gonna be standing by your
side helping you get to the other side
oh come on somebody I sense the Lord on
this word today you might be single but
you’re not gonna stay stuck any longer
you’re gonna focus on you focus on you
who are you becoming the only thing more
important with who you are today who
you’re becoming tomorrow who are you
becoming tomorrow that which looks stuck
today it’s not gonna stay stuck you’re
getting the promise you’re gonna do the
work I’m gonna start focusing on me be a
singles awesome by the way
I know it’s easy sake is like Richard
married but like you got it you gotta
find the gold
in whatever season you’re in whatever
season you’re in think it’s cool yo all
the money your bank account you own that
when you go to our restaurant you only
have to order one meal I were when I
first married Don Cherie my wife she
doesn’t really understand anything about
good art and we had gotten this new
house together and she came in she’s
like oh we’re get rid of this and get
rid of that and I had this beautiful
piece of art on the wall and my wife Don
Shu she walked in she’s like Oh take
that down I said Don Cherie that’s a
fine piece of art she said rich take it
down that’s a joke I said you it was the
Michael Jordan’s wings poster my wife
doesn’t know good art when she sees it
what am I saying I’m saying that there’s
benefits to every season you find
yourself in but no matter what season
you’re in today you can always start
with you focus on you get a purpose
today everyone say number one focus on
you in fact if you’re at your house
right now just put your hand over your
heart and say this out loud say today I
commit to focusing on me I can’t fix
anyone else but I can start with me
number one focus on you number two write
this down gets better yo here we go um
be the minority be the minority this is
such an important point be the minority
because the majority is overcrowded you
got a you got to see this today because
I want to lean into this this is
very important because today from
transformation Church we’re not just
preaching to you self-help and we’re not
just preaching to you positive thinking
we’re not just preaching to you mind
over matter this isn’t mind over matter
this is faith over unbelief this is all
done through the power of Jesus and as I
meet Jesus he loves me just the way that
I am but he loves me too much let me
stay the way that I am and following
Jesus holiness does not become a work of
my flesh but rather it’s a work of His
grace but the more and more I fall in
love with Jesus the more more he
transforms me there it is into his image
what is his image his image is pure and
blameless and no matter what season you
find yourself in today all of us can
work on our purity a lot of times in
church we just talk about stay a virgin
be a virgin take more cold showers but
yo the message is so much deeper than
virginity the message is about purity
purity starts from within a man there’s
so many of us today that are getting
counseled by the culture that we’re
doing whatever Society says listen to me
you have to know your worth you are
fearfully and wonderfully made you are
sculpted and created by the world’s
greatest artists you have been designed
with a spiritual supernatural DNA I know
the plans that God has for you plans to
prosper you to give you a hope and a
future quit talking down to yourself
quit minimizing yourself quit lowering
your value quit lowering your standard
quit looking just like the world
quit conforming to the patterns of this
world but here we go but be transformed
by the renewing of your mind then you
can test and approve what God’s will is
transformation starts with a new thought
with the revelation with healthy
thinking and healthy thinking is y’all I
don’t look like the crowd I’ve been
called out of the crowd I don’t look
like the world I’m called to follow
Jesus if you feel stuck today I would
encourage you be the minority
the majority is overcrowded and if you
would quit doing this stuff well finally
what would happen is if you really knew
your Worth you’d quit giving people
discounts listen to me there will always
be somebody who doesn’t know your worth
don’t let it be you scripture says this
he who finds a wife finds a good thing
the word find is a verb it’s an action
see men and women women are not less
than than men and women are different
from each other and we should celebrate
our differences I know in 2020 this can
even become very polarizing to talk
about gender but the reality of it is
that God made us male and female he made
us different for a reason our
differences shouldn’t divide us but
rather our differences they should be
celebrated and they should unite us
but according to scripture it’s the
man’s responsibility to go and find the
girl show ladies can I just encourage
you for a moment how is he ever gonna
find you if you just look like every
other girl on Instagram some of you
girls are watching right now like I feel
so hidden I feel stuck I’m sick of being
single
maybe you feel hidden because you were
designed to be discovered proverbs 31
says a wife of noble character who can
find you got to know your role what
happens to us is that we have a need for
security we have a need to be desired I
have a need to be wanted and so guys
start playing girls roles and girls
start playing guys roles and before you
know it it all gets complicated and we
miss out on the promise of God because
we were trying to play God with our
lives some of you girls know what I’m
talking about let me just put it really
plain make that man work make him walk
over to you make him call you make him
sweat make him do his job you got it you
got to know your Worth woman of God
you can’t just continue to give away for
free what one man should have to work
for see what we don’t understand is we
get in all these conversations like we
talk time about ethics in like the
morality and I love all that’s if I
believe in the Bible I believe in
morality I believe in ethics but listen
let’s just talk economics
let’s just talk economics demand
increases when supply decreases why do
you think putting this stuff up on
Instagram is gonna make you stand out
it’s gonna make you stand out for all
the wrong reasons it’s gonna be like
trying to get you out of that plate you
feel stuck and so you want I got I got a
project this I got a B this and all
we’re doing is we’re getting an
extension cord and we’re attaching it
saying all right you think this is gonna
get you out it’s not gonna get you out
it’s gonna break on you it’s gonna break
on you some of the married people you
ought to start testifying to the younger
generation because there’s some women on
this chat right now that are watching
that I’ve been married it’s somehow in
life what happened to you is is that you
began your relationship doing the man’s
job you put yourself out there you made
all the decisions for him you went and
got him you went and found him and now
you’re 10 20 years into the marriage and
you’re coming to T C and you’re starting
to get a vision of what a godly man
looks like
but now 10 years down the road you’re
beginning to resent that man because he
won’t lead because he won’t step up and
the only reason why you resent him is
because you’ve been doing his job from
the beginning and if he didn’t have to
work to get you why on earth would he
work to keep you whoa if you don’t date
your spouse don’t be surprised if
someone else does I’m the man of our
house I’m the leader of our house I’m
still you know I got my wife whatever it
was 17 years ago when we met as kids I’m
still chasing that girl it’s the chase
that keeps it interesting it’s the
pursuit that produces the passion it’s
my longing of wanting to get to know her
it’s the fact that every day she shows
me a little bit more of who she is I’m
still discovering dawn Shree I could
live two lifetimes and I still wouldn’t
know everything there is to know about
my bride it’s the discovery that leads
us into the destiny
woman of God I’m telling you be the
minority be the minority if you keep
fishing with your body don’t be
surprised when you catch Body Snatchers
man of God you don’t get off the hook
who are you becoming are you valuing
yourself or are you actually a man who’s
worth submitting to do you just look
like the culture is everything when it
comes to relationships and sex do you
just see it as a physical act it’s funny
because if you would just stop for a
moment and consider sex and sexuality we
would both have to agree that sexuality
is much more than just some physical act
how do I know because some of you men
who are watching right now something
happened to you when you were younger
someone did something inappropriate
you’ve never been told anybody it was an
act it was a quick moment but sexuality
was involved and now what has it done
it’s it’s pretty shame and you’re hiding
something and because you’re sick on the
inside what happens will hurt people
hurt people and you’ll always be as sick
as your secrets but could you get a
revelation today yo he’s call he’s
calling me out I’m not called to look
like the majority I’m called to be the
minority I’m a king’s kid I’m a child of
God can I just passed her T C for a
moment I’m not Mike’s my good friend I
feel like he’s okay with me just coming
down down because listen to me there’s
married people in this church right now
and you’re gonna go that’s great but
listening it is a grave grave mistake to
invite other people into your bedroom I
can’t tell you how many times I’ve
counseled people in our church you know
we thought this would be hot that we
thought this would turn him on or turn
her on and that would arouse us it’s a
mistake we’re not talking ethics we’re
talking economics you it’s not logical
for me to think that if I if I give Dawn
Sheree a new appetite that somehow it’s
gonna create a greater desire for me no
we don’t look like the world we’re
trusting God he’s given us a vision
because I have a vision now I have
guardrails for my life I have boundaries
for my life the boundaries aren’t there
to make my life be boring the guardrails
are there to protect me to prosper me
for that I might walk into health that I
might walk into all that God has for me
come on somebody go ahead and give God a
shout of praise come on in the chat
right now say I’m a part of the minority
so I’m a part of the minority I don’t
look like culture I look different from
culture
I’m not conforming to the pattern of
this world I’m not going date just like
the world date I’m not just gonna look
for short-term satisfaction I want
something deeper I want something
something better I want something better
number one if you feel like you’re
single and stuck today number one I
would say focus on you number two I
would simply say be the minority and
lastly today number three I would say
break up break up what we rich what you
mean break up like hold on I thought
this talk was for singles I got nothing
to break up with I I wish I had somebody
to break up with I’d be happy if I had
somebody to break up with that’s why I’m
on this chat today because I was hoping
you’re gonna tell me how to get me a man
I was wanting to get a girl break up you
might not have a person either break up
with but maybe you got a mindset you to
break up with you might not have a
girlfriend you might not have a
girlfriend or a boyfriend to break up
with but there’s a good chance there’s a
perspective you need to break up with
you might not have a person right now
you need to break up with but I got a
feeling that you might need to break up
with some resentment break up with some
failure break up with your past listen
if you don’t break up with some stuff
that stuff’s gonna break you down you
don’t wanna things I think we have to we
have to break up with that single people
single people we got to break up with
fairy tales put that in the chat right
now just say break up with fairy tales
my son Wyatt I don’t get to tell you our
story but my wife and I were married for
eight years and we went on a journey of
infertility we’re unable to have kids
prayed thought God believed that we
would have kids and I went eight years
finally after eight years our God who I
believe still does the impossible thank
you Jesus thank you God
he’s a God who does the impossible he
takes impossible things and he makes
them possible he’s the God who doesn’t
meet my expectations he
my expectations two and a half years ago
our God who is gracious and rich and
kindness and His mercies are new every
morning my wife became pregnant with our
firstborn son and she gave birth to her
firstborn son in January of 2018 his
name is Wyatt
Wesley Wilkerson you gotta love God
because he gives you double for your
trouble this past October my wife gave
birth to our second born son we named
him wild Wesley Wilkerson I know we’re
crazy pray for us
their initials are www we call them
World Wide Web for short okay but these
boys are just amazing and during
quarantine I got to be honest with you
my son Wyatt we got that Disney Channel
plus application app thing you know and
I have now seen the Jungle Book 37 times
holler at your boy
where’s all the parents at in the chat
bro I’ve watched all the Disney Vault
bro I’ve gone way back I watched Old
Yeller the other day you don’t even know
about Old Yeller holler at Old Yeller if
you even know about Old Yeller man I
cried watching that Labrador nevermind
I’m not gonna go into that right now
I’ve been watching these Disney movies
and over and over again you know what
happens in these Disney movies in these
Disney movies there’s always some
struggle there’s always some challenge
and then finally they get married or
finally the couple comes together and
then it ends and it says and they lived
happily ever after you know what I want
to tell you today if you’re single and
you’re stuck you need to break up with
fairy tales or fairy tales are gonna
break you down see happily ever after is
not a destination it’s a journey it’s a
journey and what I have discovered in
talking with people and pastoring people
is that so many of us we don’t even
realize that it happened in our
subconscious but so many of us we didn’t
grow up with a healthy marriage in front
of us we didn’t grow up with healthy
relationships in front of us in fact
what we watch as we watch people that
were toxic we watched people that were
broken maybe your dad left maybe your
mom was addicted to pills maybe somebody
hits you maybe somebody abused you maybe
every time when there was a problem in
the home what you watched people do was
you watch people verbally a
use one another you watch people storm
out of the house you watch people
ridicule one another and here’s what I
want you to catch whatever you watched
is what you learned
whatever you watch is what you learned
and so what happens to many of us is
because we never got a vision in our
home what we did is we wouldn’t got a
vision not from God’s Word we got a
vision from Disney and now what we’ve
been watching is what we learned and so
we think every relationship ought to
look like aladdin and Jasmine you’re
living vicariously through Simba and
Nala they’re Lions here I heal then it’s
Lily what’s happening just think about
this what people do they get a fairy
tale vision in their mind and there’s
those of us that go home what’s the
fairy tale about thing about what fairy
tales are about fairy tales are always
the story same story there’s a princess
in distress who needs to be rescued that
right there is the first problem for so
many of you you’re stuck right now and
the person you keep trying to get you
out of this rut you’re trying to date
someone you’re trying to marry somebody
who needs to be rescued oh let me tell
you you don’t marry the person who needs
to be saved you marry the person who’s
already standing on both of their two
feet I’m telling you what a spouse isn’t
gonna bring you the security your Savior
Jesus Christ he’s the one who brings you
the security come on somebody go ahead
and give God a shout of praise I’m
telling you some of you right now if you
don’t break up with this fairy tale this
fairy tale is going to break you down
you you pick stocks based upon potential
you pick your spouse based upon patterns
you don’t go and pick someone cuz you
like I think they’ve got potential to be
a great spouse no no no no you look at
their track record if you’re going on a
date with somebody second third four
probably probably fourth date it’s
interrogation one-on-one tell me about
yourself who are you what makes you man
what’s your credit you got any debt I
don’t know about you want to find out
what you can about you want to see
pattern of their life some of you right
now you’re making excuses for people
because what’s happening is you’re
lonely you feel like you’re in a rut you
feel like your life is not progressing
and you’re picking and you’re reaching
out to people that you think are gonna
get you out of this place but I’m
telling you what they’re not strong
enough they’re not in a place of where
you need to go and you’re choosing and
making excuses because you have the
wrong vision in your mind woman of God I
know but he loves me
okay but he’s cheated on you three times
but you don’t know her like I know her
man she’s like she’s real cool like when
you’re just one-on-one with her okay bro
but she’s verbally abusing you and if
you stay one more moment in that dating
relationship
you’re gonna lose every ounce of
confidence that you’re gonna need if
you’re ever gonna get out of the rut
that you’re in you got to get your
confidence back and the person you got
next to you they need saving and guess
what you can’t save them that’s not your
job
that’s the Savior’s job that’s Jesus’s
job King of Kings Lord of lords he’s the
only one who can save us come on
somebody give him praise hallelujah
that’s who we need we need Jesus to do
the saving fairytales so many of us
fairytales what were they they just look
at the outside too many of us right now
in our relationships all we’re judging
is the outside how do they look what do
they look like Instagram bro it’s a
weird world right now dating right you
do a full stock expedition before you go
on a date with somebody we just put the
best-looking photos and all we do is we
just judge from the outside let me tell
you something you’re gonna have to get
with somebody who’s got more than
something on the outside scripture says
that God looks at the heart I meet so
many girls I can’t tell you all me jobs
in our church the girls aren’t Church no
I’m boo friends and family if you
watching right now let them know that I
come out the girls sometimes because
I’ll try to hook these great couples up
like a great girl and a great guy and
these girls are like I’m not attracted
to him I’m like listen I understand you
got to be attracted to the person
there’s got to be chemistry but I think
sometimes we put way too much stock on
the outside and not nearly enough on the
inside
you do realize that we’re all aging you
do realize we’re all fighting gravity
that if you marry someone the day you
marry them they’re not gonna look like
that 20 years later I hope that what
attracted you to them was something much
more than just the outside I hope there
was something on the inside that drew
you to that person some of you girls
like I just want tall dark and handsome
if I were you I would start settling for
trustworthy determined and honest it’d
get you a man who who’s honest break up
with fairy tales or where fairytales are
gonna break you down as the worship team
comes up here I just sense this ward on
my heart today it’s people in the chat
you got to hear this today you got to do
this you’re single and you go out to
look I’m stuck rich I’m sick of being
single the only thing worse than being
sick of being single is sick of being
married you want to choose wisely
you want to bring the best version of
yourself if you’re waiting right now you
don’t have to waste this season you
don’t have to waste one moment of it
you’re becoming you’re developing you’re
more attractive today than you were
yesterday you gotta you gotta focus on
you you you got it you gotta be the
minority if you look like everybody else
how you gonna find the right one the way
you stand out is not by looking like
culture the way you stand out is by
walking in your Christ identity you
gotta break up I don’t know what you got
to break up with today but could be a
perspective could be resentment
for a lot of us that are watching right
now you got to break up with failure
sometimes were really good at receiving
God’s forgiveness or pretending to
receive God’s forgiveness but I’ve
learned that you can receive God’s
forgiveness but if you don’t forgive
yourself
you’re not gonna reap the benefit right
maybe you need to forgive yourself today
you know you can’t go and change the
past but starting today you can right
the future maybe you’re watching right
now on just the conviction of the whole
experience Pentecost Sunday
it’s a beautiful Sunday Pentecost Sunday
because Pentecost Sunday is the date of
the church not TC not vous but the
church was born ten days they were
waiting there in an upper room waiting
for this power that Jesus had described
they didn’t know what they were exactly
waiting for but after ten days of
waiting and believing a rushing wind
came through tongues of fire begin to
set on people’s heads and they begin to
speak in other tongues and God began to
give them a supernatural power what’s
amazing is that what was happening that
day was on that day what we’re
discovering is that as the Holy Spirit
came it was the announcement it was
connecting Christ to the church that the
Ministry of Christ of what he began on
the earth it was not finished but now it
was going to continue until he returned
salvation grace has been released and
his work is done now the church steps up
empowered by the Spirit it’s amazing
because that story read about Adam in
the garden out of the dirt what happens
the Ruach the Spirit of God comes and
breathes into dirt and life comes into
that body but there we have 2000 and 20
years ago in the Upper Room experience
that same Ruach the Spirit comes and
breathes into the Apostles and with it
the church is born happy birthday’
transformation church happy birthday TC
nation this is the day that
the people of God we celebrate that the
Spirit came he said rich why are you
talking about the Holy Spirit
because the way that you overcome and
the way that you move forward is not by
might nor by power but by my spirit says
the Lord the Holy Spirit doesn’t make me
better than you the Holy Spirit makes me
better than me and without the spirit
and power in me I just gonna struggle
almost stay stuck but when I get the
Holy Spirit with God’s promise I got the
Father in heaven I got Jesus interceding
to the Father but I got the Holy Spirit
here on earth and before you know it I’m
attached to something bigger before you
know it I can find a bigger purpose I
can get a bigger vision and although
that mud is strong and although that sin
has had me bound the psalmist said that
he lifted me up out of the muck and the
mire and he placed my feet on a solid
rock and he put a new song in my mouth I
got a new statement I’m not single and
stuck I’m single and secure I’m single
and saved I’m single and purposed I’m
single and living by design I’m single
and I’m ready for whatever God has for
me my wife Don Cherie Bible talks about
in proverbs 31 that the proverbs 31
woman all of us guys we want proverbs 31
women don’t we I’ve learned if you want
to proverbs 31 woman you gonna have to
learn how to be a proverbs 1 through 30
man but it says that the husband brags
on the wife I’m bragging on my wife my
wife
it’s not just the most secure woman I
know I think my wife is the most secure
human being I know and I discovered in
our journey that so much of her security
came from her earthly dad she has an
amazing earthly father pastor Danny
Durand in Shreveport Louisiana and when
I started dating Daan Sharia I realized
I was in for that she was gonna make me
work cuz I come to him that girl you’re
incredible she’s like I already know
like how you know she’s like my dad told
me I’m like oh dang
that usually works
what I discovered about Don Cherie is
the words the affirmation to love the
affection the worth given to her by her
earthly father is what produced security
here on earth here’s what I know today I
know that so many people are watching
this I’m not saying this flippantly I’m
not saying this in a judgmental tone I’m
not saying this just to say it but so
many of us not just girls but even guys
we have daddy issues
somebody wasn’t there somebody dropped
the ball somebody promised us something
and somebody led us down and many of us
were going to look for a father in a man
we’re going to look for a father figure
even in some relationship and what we
don’t understand is that these earthly
relationships they could never take the
place of that father but I want to
encourage you today TC whatever you’re
watching this from whatever nation you
are in you might feel all alone you
might feel like you are facing hell in
hot water you might feel like there’s no
worth on your life you might feel like
nobody sees you nobody cares nobody
knows your pain nobody knows your
struggle you might not have had anybody
who’s ever spoken life over you but I
want to remind you today that just
because you didn’t have an earthly dad
doesn’t for one second neglect the fact
that you have always had a Heavenly
Father who has declared life over you
that he loves you that he sees you that
he believes in you and you are a child
of God today you can put your shoulders
back you could come out of your place of
being stuck and when the world says how
do you how do you do that how do you
know who you are you just say because my
cuz my daddy told me
my dad told me I love you I believe in
you waiting season doesn’t have to be a
wasted season
God has something for you right now
focus on you be the minority break up
break up break up break up break up all
of this place right now right there at
your home I know there’s people right
there in the room man if you’re at your
house right now man just get your family
together get the people you’re watching
out there look at one another if you can
hand if your quarantine grab some hands
for a second let’s join our faith
because there’s people that are watching
right now and I know you came off a
relationship talk but man it’s silly to
talk about earthly relationships if we
don’t talk about the first relationship
until you get that in order your whole
life’s gonna be out of order for God so
loved the world that He gave His only
begotten Son that whoever believes in
Him shall not perish but have
everlasting life God did not send his
son in the world to condemn the world
but to save the world
we’re not the Savior he is and today
he’s not mad at you he’s madly in love
with you he has a plan for you he is in
heaven he is the heavenly father that
when you turn towards him he runs
towards you and he sees you today and he
invites you into relationship with him
telling you get that relationship right
the other ones starting to fall into
place all of this place wherever you’re
at in the chat right now if that’s you
if you want to surrender life to Jesus
would you just be bold right now chance
me rich effect in the chat is but I’ve
decided I’ve decided
come on belong groups help me out I have
decided I have decided I have sir I’ve
decided I’ve made a decision I’ve
changed my mind
because I’ve changed my mind my life is
about to transform I got a new thought I
got a promise I got a vision I got a
picture I’m moving towards something
change your mind today I’ve decided to
follow Jesus I want to lead you in a
simple prayer say to say do Jesus today
I surrender I give you my entire life
forgive me of all my sin
past present even future mistakes I give
them to you I believe you are who you
said that you are today I surrender my
life over to you I want to follow you I
receive your love father in Jesus name
Amen oh come on we put our hands
together come on can we give the Lord
some praise come on TC nation give God
some praise for what he’s doing I love
you church we’ll see you guys soon the
best is yet to come thank you so much
for watching this message and if this
has impacted you in any way I’m asking
you to do a couple of things number one
join transformation nation join us right
here every Sunday gather your friends
and your family and be a part of not
just this moment but this movement the
second thing I would ask you to do is
share share this with your friends your
co-workers people that are around you
because transformation is just one click
away the last thing I would ask you to
do is partner with us financially if
this ministry is impacting your life
transforming you I would ask you to
consider pray about what you could give
to help us take this message to the
whole world I want you to know that we
love you and your best days are right in
front of you this week I want you to
live a transformed life see you next
week