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let’s clap our hands if we’re excited to

be in the house of God this morning I

can tell by that intro some of y’all

just had a conniption y’all just like oh

my god in the house of God today we’re

talking about sex and I’m gonna approach

this topic very delicately but very

directly because I believe God’s clear

about it but the church many times

doesn’t communicate about it I’m so glad

for all the first-time visitors that I’m

seeing in new faces and old faces who

haven’t been here long and the faithful

that are here

I think this relationship gold series

has been one of these things that we’ll

be able to benchmark when things changed

in our church and this is what’s

happening right now things are changing

in the lives of people and so I’m so

excited about what God’s gonna do today

but what I want everybody to do right

now is just take a deep breath in come

on everybody just take a deep breath in

now just let it out and I want you to

say out of your mouth relax okay look at

your neighbor and just say relax okay

this is gonna be okay okay this is gonna

be okay some of y’all like you’re gonna

bust me out no no relax it’s funny that

something that the Bible is very clear

on the church is really silent on like

there’s tons of scriptures about sex

there’s a whole book of talking about

how to please your wife there’s like

there’s all kinds of stuff you know that

cuz you don’t read your Bible but what I

am saying is that I feel like that

this perversion in sex in our society

today is silently eroding the destinies

of so many people and and and you maybe

in this room like I was and the things I

didn’t know about sexual sexual

interactions sexuality sex period all of

those things came to literally take from

my life they never came to add to my

life they always came to take from my

life and I was just in delusion for so

long and I would go to

youth group and I would go to church and

I would praise and I would jump and I

would shout but nobody talked about what

I was struggling in and so what are

adults older kids with more

responsibility so if it doesn’t get

addressed when you’re a kid and it

doesn’t get addressed when you’re a

teenager guess what shows up in your

adulthood the same thing with more

consequences and more sophisticated ways

to hide it and what I said is God if

we’re gonna be a church that represents

you we’re gonna talk about the things

that people are really dealing with and

and sex and sexual impurity and sexual

relationship is something that is

usually being defined by culture and not

defined by the Word of God if we’re

honest you didn’t learn anything you

know about sex from going to Bible

School not one not one thing what did

you learn in church about sex is don’t

have it before you’re married that’s all

you need that’s it that’s all I need to

know whole courts do not have it until

you’re married and what that does is

leave a lot of us to figure it out and I

believe the Holy Spirit wants to do

something significant in this place so I

want you to open your heart and open

your mind for what God’s gonna do

because John chapter 8 I believe it’s

verse 32 says and you shall know the

truth and the truth shall set you what

it’ll set you free but there’s two

things that come before freedom it’s

knowing and truth and it’s one thing to

want to be free but if you don’t know

truth you’ll never get free and many

people in church are walking around

claiming freedom singing about freedom

wanting to be free but we’re not honest

and the truth is that sex is ravaging

most of our lives and it’s one of the

biggest things we deal with talked about

or untalked about sexual urges sexual

frustrations sexual partners um sexual

ideas whether we do them or not it’s one

of the issues that everybody is dealing

with some guys walk down all day long

because they don’t want

be tempted by anything some people on

social media all day skipping and

deleting and following people because it

speaks to you sexually it affects our

entire life but what does God say about

this well I think the first thing is

that we got to come clean and walk in

spirit and in truth and can I tell you

some things that I found that are the

truth the truth is that 80 percent of

adolescents say that they find out about

sex violence and drugs by their peers

television or on the Internet 80 percent

that means that 80 percent of

adolescents are not finding out about

sex from their parents from educators or

from church or biblical knowledge so

what ends up happening in most people’s

life is they get this image of what sex

is and then everything in their life is

coming against this image that was not

given by God but was given by their big

cousin and what we’re doing is we’re

fighting because it’s the truth and see

not a lot of churches want to talk about

this we want to shout hallelujah but

whenever we come off the hallelujah

we’re dealing with horniness okay let me

come to this side cuz maybe y’all will

be of look everybody over there was like

oh not me of no pastor no yeah yeah if

if we if we’re honest about it we’re

saved sanctified in sexual beings and

what happens is God has solutions for

these things but we’re not willing to

deal with the truth you know what the

truth is that children that are ages 10

to 17 will see a hundred and forty three

sexual images this week on prime-time

television this week not even at like

midnight one two or three in the morning

light for a hundred and forty three

sexual images you know the crazy thing

about it is that you’re you’re more

likely to see three to four times more

likely to see sexual relations happen

between men and women who are not

married than ones who are that’s the

truth you know one of the saddest truths

that I found as I was reading and

studying through some of these um health

and medical studies this week that 50%

of every high school student has been

sexually active half of all high school

students have had in sexual experience

some of you parents are sending like nah

my child and the satyr fact is that for

African Americans 72% have been sexually

active by the time they are out of high

school seven out of ten fifty two

percent for Hispanics forty seven

percent for white people

yay white people

here what I’m saying though the sad

truth is if the church does not stand up

and begin to say something about this

topic then we let the enemy win and we

never put up a fight and I’m and I’m

here to say that many of the problems

that you deal with in in security today

become it is because you never sexual

things were never addressed when you

were younger you have secrets and pains

and frustrations from your family things

that you saw things that happen to you

that nobody ever had the gall to address

with the Word of God they told you to be

quiet they told you no that didn’t

happen you didn’t say nothing because

you knew if you even hinted that

anything happened he was gonna get a

whuppin you were gonna get in trouble

you was come on let’s be honest and so

now we’re sitting here in the greatest

most vulnerable position for the enemy

isolation and anything he can isolate

it’s the same thing he can destroy but

today there’s freedom coming for you

that we’re gonna expose the lies of the

enemy and this thing that is called sex

and I want you to realize this one

simple truth and I want you to know that

sex is good

come on let’s have therapy just for one

second everybody in the room I want you

to say sex is good everybody say it sex

is good okay and this doesn’t want to

take it one more step further sex was

God’s idea see this is this is the crazy

thing some of y’all just broke out in

hives right there by saying sex is good

in church because you were taught that

it was bad but what happens is the first

mention of something usually is the

thing that you that you grade everything

else by and so because many of us were

introduced to sex I know when I was

introduced to sex it was in sixth grade

in a locker room and in a bathroom and

these nasty little perverted sixth-grade

boys told me everything that I knew I

mean majority of so I didn’t know

nothing and they just took me from a

little sheltered Christian prophesy and

family background and they said bro

here’s what it is now hear me I didn’t

learn it in Bible School I didn’t learn

it at my house I didn’t learn it

anywhere else so that was the foundation

of my sexual building and it was given

to me by some dumb sixth graders now

think about how crazy that is but people

are educated who educated you how did

you did a magazine tell you did it did

it did a friend tell you did late-night

pornography tell you that HBO tell come

on let’s be honest who educated you and

what happens is then I grow up and I

start coming to church and they give me

the sex talk the birds-and-the-bees talk

at church don’t have sex until you’re

married

is that it and it’s coming against

something that already was my foundation

all this stuff I’ve been exposed to so

now I’m in a battle what I know is true

cuz it was presented to me first and

what you’re saying God says about it and

that’s where most Christians stay and a

battle between what was first planted in

their hearts and allowing God to uproot

that thing and put something else new

there I’m proud of every parent that has

a middle school student or somebody in

here though we gave

that announcement cuz they already know

if your child is over 12 they already

know they know what’s going on they see

it but it’s time for us to address it so

my first point today is that sex is

God’s idea we have to redeem and reclaim

this idea of sex being a bad thing it’s

a bad thing out of the context that God

meant for it to be in it’s a great thing

inside of the context that God meant for

it to be in and I’m gonna help you

understand this this morning cuz Genesis

1:28 what is the first statement that

God says to Adam and Eve after their

creation the first thing he does is

bless them he said I bless y’all now go

be fruitful and multiply

so what basic can I translate it for you

he said y’all are bless go have sex do

that thing put it down Abin put them

down Adam do you understand that’s what

God that’s what my god that’s what my

God said to Adam okay he wasn’t talking

about planting a tree to be fruitful he

told them to go be fruitful and multiply

okay I want you to realize this because

until you can acknowledge the fact that

sex is good and that sex was created by

God your distorted perversion of what

sex is will always be preeminent in your

mind and I have to resect this so that

we can see it how God sees it God didn’t

tell them to go learn and pray he didn’t

tell them to start creating something he

told them to go have sex and be fruitful

what does this tell us that God knows

how he made us and inside of the

covenant of marriage he made us to enjoy

and be sexual

everybody just nod your head like just

yes that’s what somebody I was just

sitting there like you hear me because

the enemy has distorted it so bad in

your heart in your mind that when you

think about sex is something that’s

supposed to be covered something that’s

supposed to be secret something that’s

supposed to be behind the scenes

and what God says is what I created I

look at it and I say it’s good when I

created it in the right thing but what

we have done is we’ve taken it out of

the context that God meant for it to

being I want you to just get this God’s

first command to humanity was go have

sex

be fruitful and multiply

I’m telling you that sex is not bad what

you’ve been taught about sex is bad sex

is not an abomination sex is amazing

but he put it in a container that is

supposed to control it so that it can

give him glory when it is out of that

container then it becomes destructive

and it causes death to come to people’s

lives so the title of today’s message is

sex the container okay

sex container I want everybody to see

this what does Jesus say about this mark

chapter 10 let’s go to verse 6 mark

chapter 10 verse 6 this is Jesus talking

he’s talking to a group of people who

are trying to figure this thing out just

like you trying to figure it out he said

but God made them male and female who

made him okay so God made them both male

and female that means God knows our

parts he knows our desires he knows our

urges he knows our appetite he knows all

of that and how does he know it because

he created us from the beginning that’s

what it says this explains why a man

leaves his father and mother that’s the

only reason you leave your father and

mother is from marriage covenant and is

joined

I want everybody the underlying Circle

that word joined right there because it

means when you study it out in the Greek

in the Hebrew it means so much more than

what we say right here this is talking

about sexual intimacy right here they’re

joined together through marriage and I

want to explain this you’re joined

physically through sex you’re joined

emotionally through intimacy and you’re

joined spiritually through covenant now

let me help you with this every time you

have sex with somebody it is not just a

physical act this is not just

skin-to-skin when you have sex you are

joining to that but this is how powerful

God made sex is that every time that you

join with somebody come together you are

joining physically through that action

you are joining emotionally through

through what God has called us to be

close together or into

and you are joining spiritually through

covenant what I’m trying to say that

every time you have sex you’re marrying

somebody without the covenant no no no

hear me I want you to get this clearly

every time you have sex you are marrying

somebody without the Covenant prove it

to me Pastor Mike marriage was supposed

to be the perfect picture of God

everything that he does in human nature

is supposed to be seen in a marriage

so when Humanity was separated when God

was separated from his church he had to

send a sacrifice a blood sacrifice one

that was poured out so that we could be

in covenant you could go to the Old

Testament think about the children of

Israel when they pass through they had

to circumcise themselves why because it

was a blood covenant I could speak this

whole thing but I want you to understand

that inside of every woman God has put

blood that if you understand Anatomy at

all that when a man penetrates a woman

blood is shed because every time that’s

supposed to happen they’re supposed to

be a covenant established every time you

have sex and so what people are doing is

they’re marrying people willy-nilly and

walking around for a piece of pleasure

and God is saying that every time that

you joined with somebody you’re not just

getting that physical moment you’re

getting their emotional status you’re

not just getting a physical connection

you’re getting a spiritual withdrawal

that’s why some people can be in abusive

relationships for 17 years and all

they’re doing is having sex it’s because

they didn’t just have sex they married

that person they emotionally physically

and spiritually join with that person

that’s why there’s somebody right now

that you had sex with before you got

married if they walked in this room

right now you’d be all jacked up been 15

years since you’ve seen them but if they

walk in this room or they’re seen

because there’s something called a soul

tie that has you connected to them you

thought it was one night that you would

forget but it was something that God

said you married that person without the

covenant and we have an entire society

of people who are having one-night

stands our hookups

or Netflix and chill and what they don’t

understand is they’re robbing their bank

deposit they are filled with something

that every time they connect with

somebody it’s taking a withdrawal and

when they get with they’re husband and

wife they may be in the negative I want

you to see sex was God’s idea but inside

of what God called it to be so when we

look at this this scripture mark chapter

10 verse 6 go back to what he said

that’s why they leave their mother and

father so they can be joined physically

emotionally and spiritually to who their

wife so this makes you know that it’s

supposed to be in marriage that you’re

not supposed to be just joined to that

dude who you work with they’re joined to

that person that you go to school with

this is supposed to be joined not to the

mailman you’re joined to your husband or

to your wife oh don’t act like this

don’t happen every day

don’t don’t act like you don’t see

people at your job and at the

watercooler

and at the different things and you know

what’s being planned right now you know

it matter of fact some of y’all in this

room are people who have made

opportunity for your sin to give life

and what I’m trying to say right here is

it’s not bad it just has to be in proper

context it said and the two are united

in two what is this word one and then he

says it again since he knew some of us

like me would be remedial like God what

are you really trying to say you saying

like the two really become one like

every time I have sick like what is sex

anyway you know I’m saying a sex oral

sex it’s say y’all know we’d be asking

these questions like no you know what it

is it’s what you did and look he says it

again for the remedial once he says the

two are united into one since they are

no longer two but one

let no one split apart what God has

joined together now this is crazy

because God didn’t puts his stamp of

approval owner

see every time you have sex what God is

saying is I’m joining this together you

know I’m on the inside of you and I’m

joining this together many of you don’t

realize that marriage was not a piece of

paper and was not a a ceremony in a

white dress when they were writing this

it was a covenant was made when you had

sex with the person so you did not have

sex with anybody you were not planning

to spend the rest of your life with and

so what happens when we talk about this

in this passage what we’re doing is

we’re saying well I ain’t it ain’t legal

with the courts and I haven’t had a

marriage ceremony God says all that’s

for you like the dress I don’t get no

glory from that the bridesmaids the

groom’s men the music the people walking

down and saying all of it that’s you

that’s what you want that’s American

Americanized view of what marriage is he

said you know what marriage is with me

when a person decides what is it so

valuable in me that I’m ready to give it

to somebody else and I’m ready to give

it to this one person for the rest of my

life and I’m gonna give them all love me

and so when we step into that covenant

God is there saying I do when the

intersection of joining comes together

so my question is how many times have

you made God say I do and you didn’t how

many people have you been in sexual

relationship with that wasn’t you making

a covenant with them but it was you

satisfying a fleshly need that God could

meet if you allowed him to but you

decided not to allow him to so you went

and did it for yourself saying that

you’re your own provider and it ended up

robbing you I’ve never met anybody

that’s sexually active and charged and

all this other stuff who comes out

feeling freer after the situation oh I’m

just blood they may act like it I see

this this whole generation of people

like I’m free I can I can do what I want

to do this independent woman if men are

gonna pimp I’m a pimp too and all this

other stuff that is all a broken

insecure person trying to figure out how

to

God in their own life and it’ll never

happen so you got to understand that sex

is not bad everybody say sex is not bad

sex was God’s idea but then comes to my

second point

sex was perverted it’s the enemy’s plan

in society to prefer anything that God

says is good so if God says sex is good

the enemy’s automatic plan is to come in

and figure out a way to make it bad just

think about it in the garden listen the

enemy never showed up until there was

unity and Eve came into the picture you

don’t ever hear about the devil when it

was just Adam and God but it was when

there was supposed to be a picture of

what God’s relationship with his bride

look like in a marriage that the enemy

said I was like I can’t have this unity

thing I can’t have this oneness thing I

can’t have this so I need to deceive can

I give you what I’m calling God’s plan

of oneness look at this this was God’s

plan this was God’s idea he wanted it to

be one God one man one woman one

marriage one sex partner one flesh one

lifetime to create one picture that’s

what God designed marriage to look like

it’s to be a reflection but I’ve seen

these things you know there are people

that have like an expensive painting of

Van Gogh or a Renoir or something like

that and then because everybody can’t

afford how amazing that picture is they

make prints of it okay so a lot of us in

our houses or in our dorm rooms or in

our plays we got prints of like the real

thing okay but it’s beautiful because

you can appreciate the real thing

because it’s a copy of it it’s supposed

to be a picture of it but it would be

like God creating this picture of

marriage that is supposed to be all of

these ones and then us getting sent a

copy of it but somebody took a sharpie

and started drawing things on it and

perverting the picture and this is what

a lot of sex looks like in our society a

lot of perversions all you can be with

two women or you can do it like

you don’t even need no man you can do it

by yourself or man go get your homeboy

y’all can get to it’s all perversion or

sleep with your kids or have six wives

and all these what it is it’s the

perfect picture and why do they want to

be married if it’s an institution that

God has set up it’s because everybody

desires on the inside of them to create

to connect with the Creator and it’s

what God placed on the inside of us but

most of us are creating counterfeit

pictures that have been perverted so the

enemy has come to pervert what God has

made good and it reminds me of Paul in

first Corinthians go there 1st

Corinthians chapter 6 and we’re gonna

look in this but let me give you a

little backstory that Paul is basically

talking to a society that’s kind of like

our society today a society that is full

of lust a society that glorifies people

and things that that basically are a

fantasy in somebody’s head you all know

that we glorify people who put fake

implants and they butts and in a chest

and literally have fake we fake this

fake that and then we put them up on

stages and people watch in mass views

and they just shake they but they don’t

got no talent no nothing but we glorify

it even people in church oh she should

be a sec Julia move so I can see the

devil that word just let’s be honest we

we glorify things and so this city of

Corinth is like the Las Vegas Strip

of its time so like Las Vegas they cater

to your sin like like y’all know the

phrase what happens in Vegas yeah and

even been and you know you got what I’m

saying

and so it’ll cater to the things of your

flesh and this is where Paul is and he’s

talking to believers who are coming out

of this lifestyle and trying to live a

Christian lifestyle but he’s trying to

give them practical steps of how they

live spiritually in a world that looks

like this kind of like what we got to do

every day and let’s see if we can’t find

some keys

to what God says about sex in this verse

9 don’t you realize that those who do

wrong will not inherit the kingdom of

God and this part messes me up every

time don’t fool yourself I mean the Holy

Spirit came to me so hard when I started

reading this and really giving God my

sexual um impurities and did he said

Michael don’t fool yourself don’t think

that I’m about to come and bless what

you won’t allow me to come in and fix

don’t fool yourself you will not inherit

the kingdom of God in that area of

relationships cuz you will not stop

sleeping around don’t fool yourself you

got grace you are saved you’re gonna

make it to heaven but don’t fool

yourself that i’ma bless what I’ve

already cursed and some of us walk

around like God is just gonna work in

this relationship guys just gonna take

this God is doing no don’t fool yourself

maybe that relationship has been taken

from you since you got into it and

you’ve been giving your body and you’ve

been been been lowering your standards

and fella don’t fool yourself

everything that’s sitting up right now

is gonna fall gravity gets us all don’t

blow yourself hear me what I’m saying

because these people were Christian

people but they thought they could

dabble in sin and still have the

blessings of God and Paul was telling

them you’re saved you’re gonna make it

into heaven and that’s what I hate I

hate this thing that that all we need to

do is make it into heaven that is the

lowest level of blessing that God has

for your life did you just make it into

heaven that would be like my parents

having an inheritance for me that could

be on this earth but they say hey Mike

we just gave you the house no furniture

in it you got the house but they said

man we also had a fully furnished

furnished house for you we had cars we

had a jet we had on bank accounts we had

trust we had funds but we watched how

you managed your other things we gave

you we so we can’t give you the

inheritance we wanted to give you God

has so

much for you so much more beyond what

you can see in what you’ve experienced

and what you’ve done but don’t fool

yourself the area you won’t allow him to

come in and you keep doing wrong in he

cannot supply he cannot supply and

that’s why he’s saying these people’s

like oh that sounds kind of rough like

what do you mean don’t fool yourself

what are you saying

what do you mean people who do wrong and

Paul clarifies he says those who indulge

in sexual sins who worship idols commit

adultery or male prostitutes practice

homosexuality our thieves are greedy

people

some of y’all was good till we got there

y’all was like honor that I mean that I

meet that I’m greedy oh who are

drunkards who are abusive or people who

just simply cheat people none of these

will inherit the kingdom of God I want

to tell you the saddest story in our

earth today is that there are people

with Kingdom inheritances that God gun

wants to give you right now he wants to

give you not just an eternity but in

history he doesn’t want you to just have

an eternal reward he wants you to have a

right now reward but don’t fool yourself

if you keep entangling yourselves in

these situations and not allowing him to

come in and deal with them you’re still

hiding them you’re still walking around

with them you will not inherit the

promise of God and all that he wants to

do in your life right now and that’s why

we get frustrated and then we go to

other things to fulfill something that

God already has if we’ll surrender what

we have if you would just give up what

you have he’ll give you what he has and

I promise you it’s better than anything

you could have for yourself but it’s

been perverted look at verse 11 but it

says some of you were like that thank

God

but you were cleansed you were made holy

you were made right with God by calling

on the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and

by the Spirit of God just for one second

I thank God for grace I think that some

of us need to remember who we used to be

some of us need to take 10 seconds

and just remember how faithful God has

been to us that we used to be just like

that I looked at that listen I said I

was all of those things but for the

grace of God see some of y’all have

forgotten how God has delivered you

you ain’t always been that smart you

ain’t always been that put together you

were a ho and it’s been buried so long

that you forgot how to relate and what

you forget you judge I’m gonna just say

it one more time what you forget you

begin to judge others based on that

thing

he’s so critical but when it when when I

look at my Bible the ground is even at

the foot of the cross that everybody

from the homosexual to the liar it’s

standing on even playing field saying

god I need you and so I want you to see

that it’s not about where you are it’s

about letting the god of the universe

come into that thing because it’s been

perverted sex sexuality impure thoughts

it’s been perverted verse 12 it says

because these people was like okay I

hear what you’re talking about

and Paul knew what type of people he was

dealing with and he said I already know

what y’all thinking right now I know

what you think of look of ourselves you

say I’m allowed to do anything but not

everything is good for you

now watch this and even though I’m

allowed to do anything

I must not become a slave to anything

now this ups the ante because this ain’t

even about sin you can be slaves to

something that’s not sin some of y’all

are slaves to video games every day

we’re 2k

some of you are slaves to social media

some of you are slaves to the opinion of

others oh she won’t do anything because

God told you to do it you’ll do it if

everybody agrees with it

and and this is saying sins shouldn’t

just be your first bar you know you’re

maturing when you start not evaluating

things like is that a sin is that a sin

is that a sin no is this maturing me is

this making me better is a my a slave to

this yes some of y’all slave to

fast-food if Starbucks went out of

business you die die die like it and

hear me but the Bible’s telling us we

shouldn’t have anything that’s a master

over us except the master does everybody

understand what I’m saying

and so my question is what are you a

slave to and I can’t answer that

question for you but you can answer it

what are you a slave to and let me help

you one of the worst things to be a

slave to is sexual impurity let me tell

you why because sexual impurity is one

of those sins that doesn’t come alone

you can’t be sexually impure and not be

a liar if you’re sexually impure you

have to lie you can’t do it in the open

you can’t be like just think about it if

you were sexually active before you were

married and you were in high school or

something and you were going to have sex

and your parents ask you hey what are

you going to do tonight you didn’t say

going to have sex then they said see you

at 11 that didn’t happen what you do

what are you going to do tonight oh

we’re going bowling you know just

bowling strikes fair see you know just

and just you automatically learn to lie

with sexual impurity comes the session

comes manipulation I’m telling you it’s

like when you when you when you look and

somebody’s knocking on the door and

you’re not fully dressed are you not in

your your swag yet and stuff and you be

like before maybe like who is it I’m

like oh it’s just them okay and then you

open the door never like come on in

everybody

cause sexual see

brings unbelief doubt it brings the

whole party to your house and that’s why

when you deal in sexual sin it allows

every other kind of spirit to join to

you that’s why the enemy would love for

you to keep secrets in those areas

because it invites other things in that

you don’t have no control to keep out

and so we sit here I mean just think

about it even David the man after God’s

own heart when he committed adultery

what’s the first thing he did he lied

and after he lied he murdered this was a

man after God I’m telling you you can’t

be in sexual impurity and it be the only

sin that comes and that’s why God says

that you have to get free you have to

take this perverted view of sexuality

that is breaking you that has you

looking at people distorted that has you

looking at yourself like you’re not

worthy you have to give that back to me

and you have to let me redefine it what

I created sex to be is good who I

created you to be is good but what this

thing is doing to you is bad you gotta

let pornography go you gotta let slide

into the DMS and stay sexting and

talking late at night and allowing those

people to come into your life and slip

in and slip out you gotta stop joining

the people and marrying them without the

Covenant you gotta let me have this why

cuz for God’s sake if you’re not going

to get sexually pure for yourself get

sexually pure for your children and your

grandchildren

see what you don’t understand is that

most of y’all are dealing with the

problems that your grandmama and your

granddaddy had and it’s passed to you

I’m going to teach you two words that

that may seem kind of churchy to some of

you but they’re all through the Bible

the word transgression and the word

iniquities transgression write it down

transgression and write the word

iniquities down because I want to show

you what these two things are okay a

transgression is it’s something it kind

of reminds you of the English word

trespassing like it’s committing a sin

and coming back like it’s I made a

transgression I stepped on the property

and I wasn’t supposed to and so I got

off the property it’s what sin is is a

transgression and and and and a lot of

us make transgression adultery would be

a transgression okay I stepped over the

line and I trespassed in something that

wasn’t mine and I came back but lust is

the iniquity it’s the thing that’s in

the heart let me help you both of them

are sin but what happens inside and one

happens outside so transgressions are

the action the outward actions

iniquities is the heart posture stay

with me a lot of people will believe the

lie that since I don’t do anything it’s

not that bad you think about it you have

it in your heart and it’s all you have

iniquities in your heart but you don’t

transgress you don’t act on them so it’s

like as long as it’s not hurting anybody

it’s not that bad

as long as I masturbate in my bathroom

by myself it’s not that bad as long as I

touch myself it’s not that bad but what

you don’t understand is you’re arousing

something that can never be satisfied

you are starting a train down a road

that will lead you to destruction and

look what the Word of God says about

this thing right here called transition

trends aggressions and iniquities and

let me make it clear it’s all sin like

transgression and iniquity is not like

one like oh the transgressions ain’t

that bad the iniquities that no it’s all

saying Jesus said he said if you even

look on a woman lustfully you might as

well already done it so but this is what

I want you to understand is the Bible

tells us in Deuteronomy 5 chapter 9 it

says that the iniquities the inward

motivation those things that have been

in your heart and in your thoughts they

are passed on to your children to the

third and fourth generation here what

I’m saying

to you that if you do not stand up and

deal with the sexual impurity in your

life it is going to pass down to your

children and your children’s children

and your children’s children’s children

and they’re gonna have to deal with

stuff that God asks you to cut off may I

submit to you that you ain’t even

dealing with your own sexual problems

you’re dealing with your Grandmamma

sexual problems see cuz nobody stood up

and broke this thing off of your life

and you’re saying you said Pastor Mike

no no you do know your grandmama was a

hoe your mama was a hoe and now you are

hoe and you think there’s something

magically happening no no no baby it’s

the iniquities the heart position of

generational secrets oh come on y’all if

you really would open up and stop living

your life idealistic Lee like no my mom

was perfect you got here in your last

name which is Rory’s and her last name

Smith what you think happened and maybe

it’s starting with you and you have a

pornography addiction that you’re saying

as long as I handle it by myself

see that’s the lie the enemy told me he

told me as long as it’s not hurting

anybody else it’s okay but what it was

doing was arousing secret desires and

secret sins in my life that allowed me

to have a thirst for something that

nobody could ever quench and so now I’m

sneaking out of windows and I’m and I’m

going over to this girl’s house and I’m

doing this and I’m going to do this and

I’m texting nobody knows see it’s a hole

in the dark it’s all in the secret and

some of y’all are trying to be out front

with it and be like this is what I’m

doing but you ain’t tell everybody

everything that’s happening if they

really knew what was happening they

wouldn’t even be your friend they

wouldn’t touch you don’t give me a five

no no no baby

wash your hands do you understand what

I’m saying listen what I’m telling you

is that it’s enemy’s trick to arouse

your sexual secretive lifestyle at a

young age so now you’ve done it all

these years with your girlfriend and

your boyfriend and your friends and your

big cousin that you hope ain’t your big

cousin

and all these other things that are

having oh this is really happening

Oh can I come to your house and then you

get married and all of a sudden it’s no

longer pleasing because it’s not

scratching the edge because it’s not a

secret anymore

so so it was good when you couldn’t do

it and now that you get it inside of

marriage it no longer pleases you

because it loses the air of secrecy and

perversion and so the enemy has tricked

us to think that perverted sex is

enjoyable sex that perversion that

darkness being in the mix and that’s why

he’s like jump out and surprise me like

we’re not supposed to be doing this why

I’m supposed to be here like this is

what’s supposed to happen like bow here

I am come get it daddy like but no but

no that’s why a man will be in the

closet jacking off and has a woman right

there to meet his need but that’s not a

secret and this is I want y’all to hear

the Word of God today

some of y’all sitting so stiff right now

some of y’all ain’t that some people

ain’t moved all day what I’m telling you

is that the enemy has perverted what

this looks like to make you feel that if

it’s not secret if it doesn’t have that

spice in that adrenaline and all that

other stuff it’s not good God never made

when he made Adam and Eve he said they

were naked and unashamed and so what I’m

saying to you is that these words of

transgressions and iniquities it’s time

for somebody to stand up and say it

stops with me I’m not passing this on to

the next generation I’m not letting this

go past me I will not let this

homosexual spirit that keeps trying to

tempt me I’m stopping it with me I’m

letting these transgressions and these

iniquities be stopped they will not pass

down to my family the Bible says a good

man leaves an inheritance to his

children’s children my question is what

type of inheritance are you leaving

are you leaving one of iniquity and

transgressions one of blessings but this

is the beautiful thing and why the Word

of God is so congruent I love it

isaiah 53:3 because i know some of you

are dealing with transgressions and

iniquities and you’re dealing with

things that you haven’t even told the

person you’re married to and you’re

dealing with things yeah you were abused

and it happened to you and nobody even

really knows the turmoil that’s going on

on your heart and maybe you are out here

looking for love in all the wrong places

because you feel like you’re devalued

and maybe you are out here exploring

your sexuality and trying to be with men

are trying to be with women and women

and you’re tried you’re so confused

about who God has made you but this is

the beautiful thing about transgressions

and iniquities Jesus did something about

him he didn’t just leave us in this

place and say figure it out he didn’t

just leave us right here to have to try

to go through it he said but he was

wounded for our transgressions remember

what I said about transgressions

transgressions are the outward the

outward experience where do you get

wounded on the outside you get wounded

on the outside but he was bruised for

our iniquities that’s inside when you

get bruised that’s something that comes

from the inside and it comes to the

outside God said I took every

transgression every cell I feel the

presence of God every sexual sin

everything that the enemy meant for evil

and I let them beat me and I let them

bruise me and I let them take me so that

you could walk in freedom

you don’t have to live that life you

don’t have to struggle with that thing

you do not have to carry it he saw every

transgression and he saw every iniquity

and he said hit me again bruise me again

I’m not getting off of this until I get

it all out I want you to see that that’s

how much God loves you so you don’t have

to live in this that you don’t have to

perpetuate this cycle of fatherless

children that you don’t have to keep

going and rolling you’re sowing your

Wild Oats and leaving that’s a

generational iniquity

that’s a hard posture as God says I took

those bruises for every one of your

iniquities look at the rest of this

verse the chastisement for us to live in

peace was upon his shoulders he carried

the city on his back and by his we are

we were and we are right now I came to

tell you that if you receive the grace

of God for every transgression

transgression and iniquity it’s not

gonna take 20 years it’s not gonna take

15 years it’s not gonna take a look you

are you weren’t healed somebody shot at

me I am healed

come on with Kate say I am healed I

don’t care if you are abused I don’t

care if you’ve been in cycles I don’t

care by the stripes you I feel the

presence of God you heal somebody needs

you to say that over I am healed

I’m not what happened to me I am healed

I am healed I am healed I’m not broken I

don’t have to do what I am healed sit

down I want you to hear me say this

so because God is so good because he’s

so good he made sex and he said it was

good then sex got perverted because it

was so powerful you can mess up our

whole life so what did he do cuz he’s a

good guy he made a container for it to

go in and that container is my third

point is marriage so when you put sex

that destructive force inside of a

container that can handle the power it

becomes something that generates life

for you and for others can I give you an

example this is what water looks like in

a container hundreds of thousands of

gallons of power contained now produces

light and life for an entire city

because it’s in the right container if

you put sex in the container of marriage

it will produce light you are the light

of the world it will produce life

they’ll know you buy your fruit they can

eat all for that and you’ll be able to

change people’s lives but what does

water look like uncontained what does

water look like when we’re having sex

outside of marriage

it looks like destruction it looks like

total devastation it looks like you can

get into areas of our life that we never

thought it could get into and even when

it leaves it leaves residue

and we’ll be dealing with the

ramifications of this for years to come

what I’m asking everybody to do is to do

it God’s Way hold on to your purity and

stay close to God in marriage and even

when you get married to keep God in the

center of your marriage stop bringing

those other women in your head into that

bedroom and defiling it stop bringing

those other men and to get off of those

websites why cuz God took stripes so

that we didn’t have to live with these

transgressions or iniquities some of you

won’t make it another week dealing with

the things and heart and your mind that

you’ve been dealing with for years but

today God’s here to heal you young lady

you’re not your body you’re more than

that God has made you special and

beautiful and these buster’s around here

who just want you to send them pictures

and do all this they don’t want you they

want what you can provide for them but

if I tell you if you would just hold

back and say you’re not worth it you’re

the best thing I never had

I think Beyonce the prophetess Beyonce

said that and I and and what I’m what

I’m telling you is young man that if you

would know your Worth and would be able

to stand as men of God and not be drawn

by your other head I think that God

would be able to use you and be able to

produce in you men of valor men of honor

men of stature men that will stand and

say as for me and my house we are gonna

serve the Lord hear what I’m saying is

god cares that much about you so you

look at it God created a container and

so what are you saying Pastor Mike today

I want everybody to surrender your

sexuality surrendering peso Mike I was

taught this

I believe this I’ve done it like this

but today I’m giving it back to the

Creator he made it he knows what to do

with it and he knows everything about me

so I’m surrendering my sexuality I’m

talking to Mary two people who you’ve

been so jacked up in your sexual

relations some of you and I said earlier

that you need to come together because

sex is not just a physical act

it’s a spiritual act and it is an

emotional act you connect you can never

connect with somebody without getting

off on them some of y’all bedrooms have

been so dead and so dry you just need to

shut up and connect no hear me and

allowed the spit let your spirit and let

your emotion see this is bigger than a

physical act God’s trying to bring the

picture back to earth that he’s created

from the foundation so you gotta

surrender it God my life is not my own

I’m giving you everything today with

what Romans 613 says don’t let any part

of your body become an instrument of

evil look at this to serve sin instead

give yourself completely to God that

sounds like surrender to me for you were

dead but now you have new life so use

your whole body all of it your eyes your

ears your mouth your fingers you’re

texting thumbs use your whole body as an

instrument to do what is right for the

glory of God this is a decision day for

many of you that there are relationships

you’re gonna have to get out of there

are people that you’re just going to

have to delete out of your life not just

out your phone out of every contact you

have you you you may have to take a

season off of Instagram and Facebook and

you may have to go up to your wife and

apologize and come clean you may have to

go up to your husband and say I’ve

I’ve been emotionally cheating on you

with somebody at the office and today

I’ve come clean because God only frees

people in truth