Does Sex Own You? :: Relationship Goals (Part 7)
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we’re in a series that most of you have
probably heard about relationship goals
and when we started this series it was
six weeks long and then God extended it
to eight weeks as I’ve been studying I
wanted to go fifteen weeks but we’re not
gonna do that okay I feel like God is is
is closing what he wants to say right
now in this series and and and we
started talking about sex last week and
um no matter if we accept it or not it’s
something that touches all of our lives
um sex sexuality the images that we’re
dealing with in our heart in our mind
what has happened to us what was taken
from us what we were exposed to in a
manner that was not godly whatever it is
you know what it is I don’t know what it
is you act like it don’t happen but it’s
affecting you it’s all over your life
and the church usually doesn’t talk
about it we just say things like God
will use it for good but I’ve not given
it to the father for real I haven’t
totally surrendered all of it and so
usually what ends up happening is I’m
walking around with issues problems
burdens thoughts hurts pains that I’m
kind of made to feel as a believer I
should have already dealt with and that
should already be come and we say um
scriptures like you know any man that be
in Christ he is a new creation and and
and the old things have passed away
behold all things are new but what
happens that that we don’t realize many
times at that moment your spirit becomes
new but you’re a three-part being so
your spirit automatically at that moment
is brand-new but your body didn’t get
the memo
so there’s fleshly desires and things
that are happening that you like I know
but why am i wanting to do this old
thing and so that’s why we have to get
into this place and the name of this
church is transformation Church because
Romans tells us that that we are
supposed to continually be renewed in
our mind like as we continually renewed
in our mind we can end up doing be
transformed not not by what the world is
doing but the renewing of our mind
through God’s Word and then we’ll be
able to know the good and acceptable
will of God for us so what we are in
right now is we get a spiritual
transformation but then
you have to have an emotional and a and
a Body Transformation and one of the
huge things that happens to us is that
we never are able as believers
Christians to manage this area of
sexuality and sex and and and honestly
it’s because we don’t do enough talking
about it your education is coming from
people places and things that aren’t
connected to the Savior and so what ends
up happening is we’re trying to manage
something that God has has all the
answers to but we’re not going to him
for it and I just decided that
transformation church was going to be a
church that deals with what people are
dealing with and sees what God is saying
about it so that we can get free so
today as we continue we’re gonna kind of
pick up where we left off I’m sorry for
everybody who did not hear last week’s
message but I’m gonna try to run us
through just the bullet points so that
you can be in the know and then you can
go back and watch all of the messages
from this entire series on our app or
the website and we want you to do that
but last week we talked about how sex
was God’s idea sex was not trey songz
idea talking about he invented sex no he
didn’t okay
sex was God’s idea okay and and and and
that’s where our fundamental problem is
because most things that we think about
sex even how it’s presented for parents
and all this other stuff it’s a nasty
thing I was yesterday my father-in-law
he’s a big man he serves in the parking
lot y’all see him out there big Craig
and and we were outside and I was doing
something and I almost hurt myself
at my little daughter’s birthday party I
said oh oh pastor might get off with her
he said I want to hear my message about
SCX tomorrow I’ll see you 58 years old
you could have sex but I want you to see
how it’s branded into our psyche that is
something we don’t talk about it’s
something we don’t really go right for
we gotta spell it instead of say it and
it’s because I believe that we got it
perverted somewhere that sex was a bad
thing and it’s God’s idea okay but then
so the second point we talked about last
week sex has been perverted and that’s
the enemy’s plan to take anything that
God calls is good and to make it bad
like I want you to understand that the
Bible tells us in John 10:10 that this
the enemy only comes to steal kill and
destroy and a lot of us read it like
this the enemy comes to steal kill it’s
Troy
the Bible says he doesn’t come unless he
can steal kill and destroy and and I
want you to see that that that’s what he
wants to do in the area of your
sexuality in your area of purity in the
area of you reaching purpose so sex has
been preferred can we be honest that in
our society is the most sexually charged
generation that has ever been I was look
I was watching a burger commercial for
Carl’s jr. and this woman was eating a
burger in the most sensual I never seen
nobody eat a burger like that she’s in a
bikini on top of a car the ketchup
dripping off for her I said this is
regular death day but it wasn’t about
the burger it was about appealing to my
flesh so that I become desensitized and
that’s the enemy’s plan for you is if
you can see enough images and you can
hear enough okay stories and you can be
okay with enough abuse and you can be
okay that you will be desensitized so
when it comes to your house you’ll be
more willing to let it in can I help you
that’s why the enemy started bombarding
most of us in this room by age three or
four because he knew if he had twenty
years to break down your walls by the
time you were 24 he could take your life
and this is the great thing that our
four that I found um the enemy is not
omnipresent he can’t be everywhere at
the same time so what he does is set up
systems to keep us entangled so the
sexual sins that you’re in is you
spinning a web that you can’t get off
and he says oh yeah leave tray right
there he’ll be fine for the next thirty
years leave Sarah right there she’s so
broken in her mess that I don’t even
gotta mess with her she’s gonna keep
herself occupied she’s gonna keep
inviting that bad boy
into her life she’s gonna keep because
she is now has a perverted image of what
God wants for her life and so sex has
been perverted and and we we found out
last week that because sex has been
perverted God had to create a container
for it because it’s so powerful and so
amazing and what God wants and it’s good
when it’s done in his time he created a
container because we know that power
with no container can destroy all kinds
of things we’ve seen what’s happening
with the floods and all this other thing
that’s happening that’s power that’s
water without a container but power
under control or content and can produce
light for an entire city and that’s what
sex is in your life if you put sex in
the container that God built forward
marriage between one man and one woman
then it produces a life-giving force and
so because now we have this container of
sex last week we ended service by
surrendering our sexuality I mean and I
don’t know if y’all staged for
everything that was happening but we was
here for an hour after service and
people were up here getting delivered
healed set free saying I’ve never told
anybody this at my whole life but this
is what happened to me this is where it
started for me this has been the cycle
and they were just laying it all out
there saying Adi I even forgot I didn’t
even know this was affecting me and
we’re Alaina and listen it gets to
continue today and it gets to continue
tonight listen you do not want to miss
tonight I’m not saying that because
we’re just trying to have a event
tonight we’ll be the picture of God
cutting you loose from everything that
has held you down and as I go through
this this message there are many of us
that have have things that have been
holding us back from God’s best and so
today I want to pick up there turn to
first Corinthians chapter 6 verse 9 and
this is where we’re gonna pick up we
read a story last week about Paul trying
to talk to believers who have come to
the faith and they believe in Jesus
their eternity is secure but they’re
living in the sexually charged
generation like we are today
I mean you
scroll through Facebook and Instagram
we’re having to under without having to
unfollow at least one person at least
for me if I’m on therefore I got him
like did you post that like I can’t look
at you no more get out of here and some
of you leave it up there cuz they post
some good stuff but all the enemy needs
is one entrance one you find yourself
doing things at times when nobody knows
God’s saying that’s not what I want for
you if you would allow me to come in and
heal these areas of your life I can make
you free and free indeed so this is what
Paul’s talking about he’s talking a
bunch of dudes who are coming out of
this sexually charged area and I told
y’all last week it’s kind of like the
equivalent of the Las Vegas strip
today it caters to sex like if you go to
Las Vegas right now you want a
prostitute it’s legal like you can
actually get a prostitute and I get
arrested all these different things that
are happening in brothels and all this
other stuff
if you greedy and you want to gamble and
all that stuff you cannot go to the
restroom in Las Vegas I don’t know how
many of y’all been there but if you go
to the restroom there’s a slot machine
in the bathroom do you understand what
I’m saying
it’s catering to your sinful desires and
that’s where these people are and Paul’s
trying to help them deal with their
faith and their sexuality and I think
this is gonna help us today look first
Corinthians 6:9 it says don’t you
realize that those who do wrong will not
inherit the kingdom of God don’t fool
yourself and I stopped and talked about
this last week but I need to say it one
more time is that some of us like me
before I really got a revelation I was
fooling myself see my eternity and my
salvation was secure I was going to
heaven but that’s the lowest level of
blessing that God wants for your life
most of us just want to make it to
heaven and God I want you just make it
to heaven I want you to dominate on
earth I want you to subdue right here I
want you to walk in the fullness of my
kingdom
right now and most of us settle for just
making it to heaven I want to see the
streets painted we’ll go now after you
see them and and after you get there and
and you don’t have any responsibility in
heaven cuz you didn’t steward over what
you had in earth
God Singh I learnt that for you and I
was fooling myself I had made myself
believe that God was blessing stuff that
he was not even a part of and I don’t
know if you’re in this room like that
but I was thinking God God I thank you
that your blessing my my relationship we
was doing all kind of dumb stuff he
can’t bless that because God only can
bless what he is in the middle of and I
want to be very frank if you look at
your life evaluated if God’s not in the
middle of it he can’t bless it because
it has to be sustained and supported oh
he’ll save you there they go again
okay come on baby get back up ride it
again no let me help you no I can do it
myself that’s the struggle I’m having
with my four-year-old right now trying
to teach her how to learn her by ride
her bike but she’s so independent and
wants to do it herself that she won’t
allow me to teach her to do something
she’s never done some of y’all are out
here acting like you’ve been married
before and some of y’all have and still
didn’t learn how to do you got what I’m
saying and you won’t allow God to be in
the middle to teach you how to do what
you don’t know how to do and I’m just
saying don’t fool yourself like my
daughter can a lot of y’all and be like
I can ride my bike don’t fool yourself
baby you can’t ride it yet because you
haven’t allowed the teacher the leader
the one who’s supposed to sustain it be
in the center of it and I want you to
know that because that’s what Paul’s
telling these people said don’t fool
yourself those who indulge in sexual sin
who worship idols commit adultery or
male prostitutes practice homosexuality
are thieves greedy people drunkards or
abusive or cheat people none of these
people are gonna inherit the kingdom of
God but thank God for grace because some
of you once were like that I remember
when I read this list for the first time
just being like dang that’s me that’s me
Oh Lord that’s me that’s me and then it
came to this part and it said and you
once were like that can anybody thank
God for His grace
okay now watch but you were cleansed you
were made holy which means just separate
you were made right or righteous with
God by calling on the name of the Lord
Jesus Christ you made one simple action
of your vocal cords in your heart and
you called on the name of Jesus Christ
by the Spirit of God and these guys in
here like okay yeah I know but that not
that not really you know there’s a
monster on the inside of me Paul and you
saying all of that I know Jesus in me we
good you understand what I’m saying but
this thing is roaring on the inside and
these sexual desires and these urges and
these longings are there what I’m
supposed to do with this and Paul says
to him verse 12 he says you say I’m
allowed to do anything but everything is
not good for you don’t that sound like
people I’m grown I don’t need
accountability I don’t need nobody
telling me what I’ve been handling this
for 36 years and I’ll keep handling it
but you don’t say like they get they get
like I’m grown and that’s what these
guys were telling Paul like I’m grown I
can handle myself I know I know how much
is enough for me I know that we can just
chill on the bed and ain’t nothing gonna
have I know I can go to the bar but I’m
just gonna get water
you judging this is coke Young’s and
this is coca-cola you judging me I know
come on how many of us have said to
ourselves into others I know and when
enough is enough for me except when
enough overtakes us and our lustful
desires begin to put us in positions I
don’t know if you’ve ever said this but
I have multiple times I never thought
I’d be here I never thought I would be
feeling or acting like this okay so so
that’s what he’s saying anything I know
y’all y’all say I’m allowed to do
anything where it’s still in verse 12
but I must not become a slave to
anything
what are you slave to this morning what
controls you what tells you to go and
you have to go what what tells you to
move and you have to move what makes you
miss opportunities because it’s telling
you to do something contrary what are
you a slave to and then this is where we
pick up there was it says you say food
was made for the stomach and the stomach
was made for food this is true though
someday God will do away with both of
them but you can’t say that our bodies
were made for sexual immorality now let
me stop here cuz I’m gonna give them a
pastor and so I like to teach okay so
I’m gonna teach you how I study the
Bible and my greatest desire for every
one of you is that you would learn to
study the Bible not just read the Bible
but actually get in it and try to figure
out what it’s saying because if you just
read that that’s confusing than a mug
it’s like okay like and when I’m on my
Bible reading that would be the thing
six years ago I just keep skip over and
just keep reading and be looking for
something real simple and plain but
there’s so much truth packed in this one
statement and I’m gonna try to break it
down to you how I study and maybe this
will help you so when I looked at this
verse 13 I was like what is he talking
about he said you say the food was made
for the stomach and the stomach was for
food nothing
okay he’s eating he’s hungry okay then
Paul says this is true though someday
God will do away with both of them but
you can’t say that our bodies were made
for sexual immorality
I am so utterly confused Holy Spirit you
say that you’re a teacher
so I’m asking me to asking you to
illuminate to me what you’re trying to
say through your word you say this is
Paul talking that’s how I do it right
here
Paul’s talking and he’s talking to these
people who are dealing with sexual sins
and they’re trying to do okay food was
made for the stomach and the stomach for
food this is true oh okay
I get it he’s saying to these people who
are used to satisfying their appetites
he’s like you think that eating food
like what are you doing yo you’re hungry
when your stomach tells you you’re
hungry what do you do you eat food so
food was made for the stomach and that’s
true he tells them it’s true but don’t
compare food and you satisfying your
desire by just eating it because you’re
hungry don’t compare that to what you’re
supposed to do with your bodies because
your bodies look what it says but you
can’t say that about your bodies cuz
when you’re hungry what do you do you’ve
got a quick trip you go to chick-fil-a
somebody I’ll be a chick-fil-a everyday
wherever you go you go I’m hungry I’m
gonna eat and God says but when you’re
horny you can’t have the same response
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I’m hungry so I’m gonna satisfy that
desire eat I’m horny so I’m gonna
satisfy that desire no no but you can’t
do that because your bodies were not
made for sexual immorality look I don’t
want everybody to see this many of us
have been fulfilling our sexual appetite
because we feel it’s natural and God’s
saying is you can’t look at your
the same way you looked at getting
yourself food when you’re hungry because
that is not my plan for it look down as
it goes a little further it says you
can’t say that our bodies were made for
sexual immorality because they were made
for the Lord and the Lord cares about
your body and let me help you understand
what sexual immorality does this begin
to change me cuz that’s how I used to be
if I was filling something I called it
hot and bothered if I was hot and
bothered I was gonna figure out a way to
not be hot and bothered no more whether
that was calling somebody but whether
that was pleasing myself whether that
was doing I was gonna figure out and
some of y’all just got so tense in like
so but I’m gonna be real I’m coming to
your house right now
because when when we are faced with
natural desires we try to handle them
naturally but God’s saying if you would
allow me to be the one in the center of
your situation I can give you a better
way that will not leave you with the
consequences of your own actions if you
would give it to me so don’t treat your
body like you treat chick-fil-a don’t
just go get what’s gonna please you for
a moment because it wasn’t made for that
God saying to everybody that your body’s
made for me and I love you and I care
for your bodies and some of y’all’s like
okay don’t be sexual moral you don’t
even understand what that means that
comes from the Greek word porneia which
we get the word pornography from and
what it means basically is selling off
something very valuable for cheap so
that’s why you can see young ladies and
young men exposing the secret places of
themselves for a dollar and selling off
the thing that God calls so pure and so
valuable that it’s so special you’re
only supposed to give it to one person
that that we’re selling it off for cheap
and he says that’s not what your bodies
were made for they were made to give me
glory when I look at marriage and I see
a woman and a man coming and committing
to each
other inside of the container and
mirrors and when they get in that bed he
said I guard that bid yeah they doing
that and I let him
he said the marriage bed is undefiled
you better hit that you better make that
right you creativity give my presence to
you know see y’all don’t get it he says
that this is supposed to be an act of
worship
see y’all wanna sing a song I want my
worship to happen right here do you hear
me are you ready this is what I’m saying
to you see because it’s been perverted
and we can’t talk about this but God
says when two people come in my covenant
that’s why I don’t want you to pornea
sell it off for cheap that’s why if
somebody’s saying can we Netflix and
chill you supposed to say heaven no and
you can use the other one you have for
Mystica friend yo pastor do you hear
what I’m saying because what you have is
too valuable and wasn’t made for that
that would be like me taking an iPhone 8
or an iPhone 7 or this iPad and using it
as a paperweight I have just sold the
value of this equipment for cheap and
God says when you don’t invite me into
this situation to handle these sexual
urges and what you do is you sell off
what I call the valuable you sell it off
for cheek and Paul’s trying to help
these guys understand he tells them he
says man you were made for the Lord and
the Lord cares about your body and some
of y’all be like Yeah right he cares
about my body so why did he give me all
of this rage before I could be married
before I could do this because he wants
you depending on him see most of you
miss the story of the Bible the story
the story that God is really trying to
paint is that his love covers every one
of your scene
but you can’t live this life without him
and so we need God in every area of our
lives
well Pastor Mike that’s great he created
container for the merry people but I’m
single or I’m divorced or the pain of
the thing my purity was stolen from me I
didn’t give it to somebody they took it
away from me when I was helpless and I
was young and I didn’t know so what I do
with that pastor might what what I do if
is if I’m feeling stuck right now I have
great news for you is that whatever pain
whatever hurt whatever problem that you
are going through right now point number
one for today is God has power over sex
I want you to understand this because
most of us don’t realize this that God
has all power over everything that’s
going on your life and if good
intentions could have changed you it
would have already changed you by now if
your self-will was good know yourself
will is worthless I can prove it to you
you wouldn’t be 300 pounds if your cells
wheel was it was good how many of us
have started a diet and quit you was
eating quinoa and green tea and all this
stuff for three weeks and it fell off
because my good intentions will not hold
me through I need you need we need the
power of God the sexual addictions
problems hurts you’re going through it’s
not gonna be solved by wanting to do
better just really how you’re just
trying to do my best is really just
trying to go after God just for just to
to just talking alone just really trying
to go after God you need the power of
God you need the Dunamis the explosive
power of God to come into your life and
change you but he can’t do it if you
don’t allow him to and that’s what Paul
was saying to these people because they
got frustrated you gonna say we came to
fulfill our own desire
Paul you don’t know what we’re going
through you don’t know how this feels he
said first off yes I do I’m single too
and what y’all don’t know is I’m not
gonna get married so I’m been called by
God to literally give a playbook to
people for things that I won’t even get
to fully experience because it would
take away from my ministry to help
people for the next thousands of years
so don’t tell me I don’t know what it’s
like to sacrifice but can I tell you
that the same thing that gets me through
is the same thing that gets you through
verse 14 look what he says he said and
God will raise us from the dead by his
power just as he raised our Lord from
the dead now when I read that the first
time I’m confused again because I’m
going back and I’m sitting here like I
picture movies in my head when I read
the Bible and so I’m picturing paul
standing here and there’s 15 dudes over
here
and they were like man we horny man I
knew he ain’t never had no bra no he
didn’t cuz if he was talking wouldn’t be
talking like and Paul’s over here trying
to explain to them how they need to
control their sexual urges I was like
well I’m leaving and then he goes head
and says this statement he says and God
will raise us from the dead by his power
just as he raised our Lord from the dead
and I begin to ponder on that why would
Paul say that right there and I want us
to dig just a little deeper what he was
saying is that y’all know y’all was
there when the word came back that Jesus
literally was raised from the dead yo
yeah like y’all was there and y’all
believe that one day he’s coming back or
when we die he is gonna raise us from
the dead and we’re gonna live forever
with them in heaven this is what you
believe so you’re telling me that an
all-powerful God has the power to raise
a dead body but not manage a living
y’all I need you to hear this one more
time
cuz this mess me up why did he say God
has all power he he is kin raised Jesus
from the dead and he’s gonna raise you
from the
I’m telling you like he’s telling you I
don’t care what your problem is right
now if God can raise Jesus and raise you
from the dead how can he raise a dead
body and not manage a living now listen
well okay so what I’m supposed to do now
God can manage God can manage he can get
this in under control what you have to
realize is we’re first Peter 5:10 says
it says in his kindness God called you
to share in his eternal glory by means
of Jesus Christ so your eternity is
secure like you’re going to heaven when
you put your faith in Jesus
Jesus your eternity is secure but we
still have to leave in these earth suits
on this body so now he’s trying to give
us a history he says so after you’ve
suffered a little while that’s what some
of y’all have been in right now just a
little bit of suffering a little
uncomfortableness a little dealing with
this flesh a little mess-up a little
thick he said but after you’ve dealt
with it a little while God he will
restore support and strengthen you and I
came to tell somebody today that as we
give our sexuality to God what he’s
going to do is not just leave you there
and be like all right and figure it out
for yourself he said no no no no I’m the
God with all power what I came to do is
support restore and strengthen you and
some of you need to believe that because
you’ve tried and you’ve tried and you’ve
tried and you tried but you haven’t
really tried Jesus you haven’t really
given it all to him and followed in what
he wants because this is what his desire
is for you in this area that she would
have Veit him in and he could restore
support and strengthen you and the verse
goes on to say and he will place you on
a firm foundation which first
Corinthians 3:11 tells us that there is
no foundation except Jesus Christ and so
he is going to set you on a firm
foundation and then verse 11 is my
favorite part it says and all power is
his forever why are you so excited about
that because sex has power but my God
has more power
y’all missed it because depression has
power but my God has all power because
fear has power but our God has o if you
believe that what you were dealing with
is bigger than God stop serving him
but if you believe the God that raised
Jesus Christ from the dead that when he
went down in snatch death’s keys and he
rose with all cousin like what are you
trying to say that your situation is not
too big
I know you’ve been with tons of people
and things have happened to you and
you’ve seen images you can’t get out of
your mind
sexually and emotionally and all this it
has no match for the power of God in
your life so look at verse 15 because if
God has all power and through my
confession of faith in Jesus Christ he
lives on the inside of me we must be
missing something because he got all
power he own is out of me but I feel
powerless can we be honest there’s some
times that we feel completely powerless
Paul says it like this when I want to do
right wrong is right there like why do I
feel like this and then first
Corinthians chapter 6 verse 15 says this
other this three words is that they keep
saying it says don’t you realize that
your body you may not know this but your
bodies are actually parts of Christ what
oh don’t stop now did you just tell me
that my body is a part of Christ so what
that means is God is not watching what
we’re doing from a camera like Big
Brother and watching what we’re doing
evaluating he’s right here with us doing
it with us and Paul’s telling these guys
I don’t think y’all realize this and I
didn’t realize this until God gave me
revelation see is that you should a man
take his body
which is a part of Christ and join it to
a prostitute never let me give you some
context of the day where they were there
were a thousand prostitutes in the
temple like in they charge ready to do
whatever they wanted at any moment that
was common practice that would be like
you coming to church trying to live
sexually pure and there’s a thousand
prostitutes in here worshipping just
ready for you just just like do
understand what I’m saying like like
this is this is what they lived in but
he’s telling him because you have been
changed even though that temptation is
there your response has to be different
he’s letting them know do you realize
because Christ is a part of you he is
not away from you judging what you’re
doing and saying come he is in you he is
with you you are a part let me say it
slow Christ is a part of you a part you
are joined you are connected so what are
you really trying to say pass the mic
every time you have sex Christ is having
it with you it is it’s it’s one of the
things that you have to realize because
Paul said you they didn’t realize it and
you don’t realize it every time you’re
watching pornography Christ is not
somewhere often but he’s right there
with you my question is when you’re
joining to something that is not like
God is God having as much fun as you are
is he as comfortable in that position as
you are because we are joined what I
want you to get how emphatic this
language is and Paul is saying maybe you
didn’t realize it maybe you didn’t
understand that when you were just
having sex with your boyfriend
premarital in pre marriage relations
that Jesus Christ where you invited him
in cannot be separated from you and so
now you’re making Christ not enjoy what
you do in your life but endure what
you’re doing in your life
and I want us to see how
powerful this is go to UM Romans Romans
chapter 8 verse 35 cuz after I read this
scripture it changed the perspective on
a verse that I’ve seen for so long
Christ and me are connected when I’m
cussing somebody out Christ is cussing
somebody out so you don’t think about
that’s just me that’s how I do it that’s
what I’m doing that’s what I know no
baby you now have the God of the
universe
connected to you and whatever you were
doing he does it and watches it with you
so when I looked at Romans 8:35 it says
can anything ever separate us from
Christ love does it mean he no longer
loves us if we have trouble or calamity
are persecuted or hungry or destitute or
in danger if we have sex with somebody
watch pornography masturbate are
threatened with death look at verse 37
no despite all these things overwhelming
victory is ours not because of our own
good works but through Christ who loves
us what I want you to realize is that
your relationship with Christ doesn’t or
your connection with Christ has nothing
to do with our love for him it has
everything to do with his love and it’s
a good thing that nothing can separate
us from the love of God he goes on to
say in verse 38 and I am convinced that
nothing can ever separate us from the
love of God neither death nor life
neither Angels nor demons neither our
fears for today our worries about
tomorrow not even the powers of Hell can
separate us from God’s love no power in
the sky above or above or in the earth
below indeed nothing in all creation is
sex created by God so even sexual
addictions pains fears all of that
nothing in all of creation will ever be
able to separate us from the love of God
that is revealed in Christ Jesus our
Lord I don’t know about you but I am
overwhelmed I’m thankful that my
mistakes
and my mishaps my missteps aka sin has
not separated me from the love of God
but now that we know that we have to
steward over that differently it’s a
good thing that we can never be
separated from the love of God but that
means when we do bad things we can’t be
separated from the love of God so Christ
is there with us and God gave me the
most impactful revelation that I want to
give to you
sex and Savior can’t be separated I want
you to remember this for the rest of
your life the next time you get ready to
send pictures to somebody or the next
time you get ready to slide into the DMS
or the next time you get ready to lay in
somebody’s bed who’s not your husband
and wife who you have not married and
you bring covenant I want you to realize
that you cannot separate sex and Savior
that they will be there and be an action
that have to go together because God’s
love and going nowhere for us and so
that means Christ has to stay in us and
we do not want to be separated for one
moment because I Know Who I am without
Christ and he said there’s nothing you
can do so now it’s a stewardship issue
how are you going to handle the God in
you now that you know because I’m saying
we’re connected how are you gonna handle
the Christ in you because when we look
at this Paul goes on to continue to tell
them he goes on to try to get them to
understand verse 16 because they still
wasn’t getting it like some of y’all
still ain’t getting in y’all I present
like you just going way too deep right
now it is not that hard it is not that
easy if I have sex with somebody okay
I broke up with him it’s over it’s done
leave me alone I have finished that
chapter of my life book clothes I am
finished with that No
and Paul knows that we were gonna be
sitting here and so he said don’t you
realize there that phrase is again
because maybe you didn’t get it don’t
you realize that if a man joins himself
to a prostitute he becomes one body with
her
y’all I want you to hear me he didn’t
say if he married a prostitute he said
if he joins if he has sex with that
prostitute if he if he um um allows
himself to to be able to be in an
intimate relation with that person they
become one for the scripture say the two
are united into one but the person who
is joined that same word to the lord is
one spirit with him we talked about it
last week in mark chapter 10 verse 7
this explains why a man leaves his
mother and father and they are joined
that word joined is much more emphatic
than what we think joined is not just
all we’re holding hands and we’re having
a good time when you’re joined they’re
talking about sexual relationship or
deep emotional ties when you’re joined
it happens on three levels it happens on
a physical level I want you to write
this down because this will change the
way you look at things when you’re
joined to a man drawn to a woman it
happens physically through sex then it
happens emotionally through intimacy or
closeness mind wheel body it happens in
that man and then it happens in Covenant
through the spirit it’s a body emotion
and a spiritual act when you have sex
with somebody I talked about it in a
greater detail and I don’t have the time
today but every time that you have sex
with somebody you are making a covenant
with them there is blood that is shed
and there is blood that is exchanged in
that moment and if you study the
Scriptures all the way from the Old
Testament to the new they’re always had
to be bloodshed to be able to submit a
covenant or cement a covenant and so the
marriage day it’s not the day when you
guys become one the day you become one
according to the Bible is when you have
sex with them my question is how many
people are you one with and I’m not
coming to judge and I’m not coming
because these are the same things that
come is had to deal with my heart’ll but
he said maybe you don’t know this maybe
you didn’t realize that when you joined
with somebody you are making a covenant
with that person to be able to be there
but you’re not submitting yourself to
that covenant and what forms is
something that is probably one of the
most destructive things in the body of
Christ and in our world
is called a soul tie and many people are
in here are tied emotionally physically
and thoughts you hear you hear a song
and you go back to a place you smell a
certain smell they used to wear Sweet
Pea from Bath & Body where you smell
that smell no I mean I am not playing
and it’s time I want you to understand
what an ungodly soul tie is a sultan is
the joining of one’s essential self mind
will emotions thoughts memories in
connection to someone or something else
most of us have soul ties from
relationships emotional Affairs all
kinds of stuff you can be so tied to
almost anything you can anything that
takes the place of God you can create a
soul tie with and there are godly soul
ties marriage is a godly soul tie he
wants you and your husband are you and
your wife to be connected on that level
there’s even friendship soul ties um the
Bible talks about in 1st Samuel 18 I
believe it is where David and Jonathan
they werenít to the soles of each other
and they were they had a bond that was
unbreakable but can I help you just a
free nugget that a sure sign of a soul
tie that is good is that thing is
helping you live can I prove it to you
Jonathan
whose dad was saw who was trying to kill
David said you know what I’m gonna turn
my back on my allegiance to my father
cuz I have a soul tie with you and I
want to let you know if you go to this
dinner tonight they’re gonna try to kill
you I’m putting everything on the line
for you but I want you to live and David
lived because he had an unbreakable
relationship with the friend named
Jonathan my question is are the people
around you helping you live or are they
taking from you are they sucking from
you are they taking you to a place of
death there are godly soul ties but then
there are ungodly soul ties one of them
most I’m gonna tell you just two ungodly
soul ties because like I said he can be
tied to almost anything but but their
soul ties to substances that people try
to find the peace
relief healing that they need in
man-made objects and things last night
my daughter had a birthday party and so
I went to go get some Chinese food from
the little spot I go around here and
it’s right next door to the liquor store
and I don’t drink so I don’t know like
what it is to go and get stuff from the
store and stuff it was 7:45 y’all and it
looked like Black Friday at the liquor
store now I don’t judge anybody for what
you’re doing I’m just praying that that
thing does not own you but but but this
is the thing I had never seen so many
people if it didn’t
this substance didn’t care about how
much money you made there were people
driving up in outies and Mercedes and
people walking with all the clothes they
had on their back going in here trying
to get relief from this world and I sit
there and I begin to almost cry and pray
for those people because they have a
soul tied to a substance but I think we
serve the God of all power like I think
that’s why the first point was that God
has all power over sets over substance
over anything but we got to break that
soul tie another one of the biggest
things is people have sexual soul ties
so I brought this bed up here because
this is one of the greatest places of
the enemy destroying purposes because
what happens in this bed is people many
times they’re not committing their lives
to a person they are committing their
lives to pleasing themselves and what
they don’t know is every time they get
up out of this bed not married to that
person they are joined to that person
and it would be like if I had sexual
relations with the whole front row men
and women because that’s the type of
world we live in
and now I’m trying to go after God go
after purpose but I have 15 ties that
are connected to me and I’m trying to
run and I want to get away but somehow
it just won’t let me go and somehow I
keep trying to go after it and I’m
trying with all my might but that’s why
we need the God of all paths to come in
and disconnect this and there’s many of
you the same as Mike I just don’t have
any of those things I don’t have asked
God to show you if there’s anything that
you’re tied to that is keeping you from
what he’s called you to be because just
like this piece of paper right here
this is a perfectly good piece of paper
but last night in the dark this paper
was connected to another piece of paper
and they were joined together and now
I’m done with it I don’t want to be
joined to you anymore I don’t want to be
joined to you anymore
well fine we won’t see each other no
more well we got a kid well I’ll see the
kid but I won’t see you and I’ll just
keep moving and all that and we try to
disconnect but when we try to disconnect
what we don’t realize is that we’re
still connected to each other and I’ve
been trying to get away from this and I
can’t even find the option to be able to
do it but even when I do I find it a
piece of me is always left with a piece
of them and what ends up happening is we
try to self-medicate and try to figure
out but I just can’t get you off of me I
just can’t find a way to tear you away
from me and what ends up happening is we
leave our lives connected broken
battered because we’re trying to get
away from something that has been
connected to us on a spiritual level and
God’s the only one that can change so
fast Mike what you want so hard on this
cuz I want you free and like Paul said
maybe you didn’t realize now after you
know this and you go out and do whatever
you want to do but I didn’t know and I
want you to know so what I’m supposed to
do pass the light I’ve been living like
this for twenty years I’ve been living
like this for five months I’ve been
living like this is all I know
what Paul knew that these people have
been doing the same thing and they
really loved God and wanted to change so
he gave them probably the most emphatic
instruction that could ever be given to
anybody when it comes to getting free
from sexual addiction sexual soul ties
all of this I want you to see it in
verse 18 and you might want to underline
this
run not walk not skip not intellectually
digest and then be able to ponder until
it becomes a fruit of spiritual
awakening and run run from sexual sin
listen if I thought somebody was coming
in here to shoot us or I seen somebody
from the audience that you didn’t see I
said Ron and I went like this everybody
over here would start running then why
are we moving why are we why well
because in the threat of something that
can damage your entire life you ask
questions later in the threat of
something that can ravage your whole
family for generations to come
that iniquity and that transgression
being passed down
you are not worth baby my entire family
lineage being destroyed our purpose not
being reached so what am I have to do
right now Ron I got to go and some of us
have been casually walking away
I’m sorry I’m gonna miss you too I
really want to be with you and that’s
why we get lured back in it’s not enough
distance between us and what kept us not
run from all sexual sin and I want you
to understand the why right here it just
says cuz no other sin so clearly affects
the body as this one does for sexual
immorality is a sin against your own
body y’all hear me in God’s eyes
homosexuality liar greedy all of that’s
the same but so he’s not judging you
like they’re good they’re bad they’re
it’s just sin and he said I sent my son
for all of that except me I got you but
there are consequences that differ for
us for the sins we choose to do and the
worst sin to do to yourself
the devil out to get me no boo you’re
out to get you because the greatest sin
against your own body is sexual
immorality and again I say it maybe you
didn’t know
do you not realize he said do you not
realize that your body is the temple the
house the place of the Holy Spirit who
lives in you and was given to you by God
more than this church and this parking
lot is the temple of God this is the
temple that houses God if this whole
thing burned down God say what what
happened what happened oh my church is
fine because it wasn’t the building it’s
us and he said maybe you didn’t get it I
mean in this just few passages of
Scripture he says do you not realize
four times like don’t don’t y’all did it
you’re the temple so when I lay in this
bed and I get tied to everything I tie
the Holy Spirit now when I when I when I
when I move in my ceilings and try to
get my own sexual urges I’m fulfilled
and all that other stuff what I do I’m
damaging the temple that houses God and
just maybe you didn’t maybe you didn’t
know but today God wants to bring
clarity to it he said you don’t belong
to yourself I want you to see that put
the scripture up there verse 19 says you
don’t belong to yourself for you were
bought with a high price see when God
sent Jesus that was the payment the
eternal payment for God to own us for
him to come in and be able to change and
have power over our situations and he
said I didn’t send one of my sons I sit
the only one who had cuz you were that
important and I’ll take care of this
debt forever
and when you receive my grace he says I
need you to realize that you were bought
with the high price so now you have a
response I need you to honor God with
your body put that back up there they
need to see that I need to see
description this is not me just talking
for you are bought with the high price
so your reach your only response it’s
not to connect yourself or watch things
or do things that would take you from
the purpose that God has for you it’s to
disconnect from all of those ungodly
soul ties and honor God with your body
so if as I’m like what are you trying to
say the problem is that you still own
you see you were bought with the high
price any time you buy something you own
it but we’re walking around like we own
ourselves this is my body this is my
life this is what I want to do I’m
growing on this if I if I need to do
that imma do that this is me and God
said no baby you were bought with a
higher price but if you still own you
you manage you and if you still manage
you you have to deal with you and you
don’t have the power to deal with you
you’ve been trying to do it for 15 years
and it still ain’t worth so what are you
trying to say Pastor Mike our last point
God only can manage what he owns if
anybody’s ever had an apartment or a
house that they rented from somebody the
key to doing that is having good
ownership because if something breaks in
the house or something gets damaged in
the house you’re not responsible because
you don’t own it the owner comes in to
manage that property and so if you’re
dealing with sexual problems and issues
and urges you’re dealing with anything
fears um soul ties to all kinds of stuff
if you own you you’re doomed but if God
owns you he can bring management to the
areas of your life that you have allowed
him to own so my question today as we
leave
who owns you the sex on you does fear on
you because you are bought with the high
price and your only proper response is
to honor God with your body but you
won’t do that if you think you own you
does the approval of other people on you
do soul dies on you and God says hey I’m
a good good father so if you would give
me back what I gave you I promise you
I’ll bring management to what I own
there is nothing too big for our God to
bring under subsection of his power but
he’s not gonna take it from you have to
give it to him
I had this post saved some time before but my PC crashed. I have since gotten a new one and it took me a while to come across this! I also in fact like the theme though.