Cuffing Season is back! In this series, God has been revealing that we are all cuffed to something in life. The question is are you going to stay cuffed, or find freedom in Jesus? This week, we learn all about the dangers of cocky Christianity. God has promises for us. But we often can’t step into those promises because we won’t give up control. Pastor Mike teaches us that we are never fully in control, and we can only find true peace when we give it up for God’s plan. We can never be cuffed and in control. If you’re wondering how to give God more control in your life, this message is for you! #CuffingSeason #CuffedToControl #control Join us for service every Sunday at 11am (CST) and on Monday’s for Monday Night Prayer at 6pm (CST). If you received Christ through this message, text SAVED to 828282. We would love to hear how God is touching your life through this ministry! Tell us your story by emailing [email protected]! If you would like to support TC financially you can give through the TC app, or online through our website by clicking here https://transformchurch.us/give/
. You can also Text ‘TCGIVE’ to 77977. If you need prayer, email [email protected]! For more information about Transformation Church, visit transformchurch.us. 00:00 – Intro 00:25 – Sermon intro 11:51 – Cuffing Season definition 16:37 – Deliverance is God’s desire but our decision 20:07 – God’s plan is always the promise, but our patterns delay deliverance 22:18 – Romans chapter 12 verse 2 NIV 36:45 – The human creation was never meant to command control 39:55 – 1 Corinthians chapter 6 verse 12 AMP 43:58 – What’s one thing that’s in control, that doesn’t have control, that wants control, so things don’t get out of control? 46:56 – The devil’s first attempt to kill God’s creation was counterfeit control 59:09 – Cocky Christianity is created by the illusion of control 01:00:02 – Instead of taking control, make a choice to stay close 01:09:43 – Philippians chapter 4 verse 6 & 7 01:15:48 – You don’t need control to have peace 01:23:41 – Psalm chapter 37 verse 11 01:25:20 – Control kills… 1. Contentment 01:25:55 – Control kills… 2. Collaboration 01:27:50 – Control kills… 3. Correction 01:30:32 – Control kills… 4. Communication
hi my name is Bree and I have the
privilege of serving as Chief of Staff
here at Transformation Church at TC our
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anybody ready for the word of God this
morning
Hey listen I just want to say how
grateful I am
to lead a church that is really what
um the scripture talks about unashamed
of the Gospel of Jesus Christ
today especially in the climate that we
live in so many people are ashamed
of their faith
and the one thing that I’ve decided
is that if I’m going to live this life
out loud for God
I cannot be ashamed of what he’s done
for me
what he’s doing currently in me
and what he’s going to do in me
and I just I’m grateful every week I get
to come to a place full of unashamed
Believers that are not perfect
there are no perfect people here but we
are progressing
and that’s why we believe that God is
saying this is not about perfection this
is about progression and so that’s why
I’m so glad you are here today no matter
what you had to do to get here today how
many people this week was a little
struggle bust come on just a little
straw dang okay hands in the chat a
little struggle
but the fact that you made it here means
that God’s going to do something
significant in your life we’ve prayed
for you we’ve been believing that God
was divinely orchestrating moments and
situations I don’t know why and how
you’re hearing this message right now
maybe live in the room maybe on
rebroadcast maybe you’re in a room where
somebody’s watching it because they want
you to actually watch it but you mad at
them so they just got it all real loud
in the background and now I’m talking to
you hey
however it is I believe that God has
made this a Divine appointment
for you to begin to transform
and today God has given me a word for I
don’t even just believe I would just say
this house
but I believe it’s a word for this
generation
okay like
it’s so much of a word for this
generation that
I can’t hold back how I have to give it
to you
like today I can’t be like oh let me
walk you into it like I just gotta go
for it and you’re gonna have to take
this hit in the mouth
and then recover and know like okay
that’s what it feels like to get hit in
the mouth okay
now I’m ready now next week you’re gonna
be ready but this week I’m just gonna
pop you in the spirit okay
the only reason is because this one
didn’t pop me in the spirit of several
times
I’ve been wrestling with this message
for the past 12 months
but it is a culmination of the past 35
years of my life
and God said Michael you aren’t ready to
talk about this because you weren’t
ready to give it up
oh God we’re going we’re gonna go all
the way there right now
but now I have watched this past year
the things that God has taken me through
It’s Made Me surrender
in a new way the things
that I thought I could control
and so today
we going back into a series
called cuffing season now now
everybody’s not everybody don’t know
what that means okay
but earlier this year the spring and the
summer God told me that I was supposed
to do this series called cuffing season
and and cuffing season if anybody knows
about the uh relevance of that in
culture um something that’s like Jan
cuffing season what in the world are we
talking about are there handcuffs
somewhere are they come no no no this is
not that this is a season usually fall
and winter when people start getting in
relationships
that are trash
y’all ever seen no people like you know
what I’m just gonna settle for anything
at this point it’s called
I want to snuggle
I don’t want to go to the movies by
myself no more
it’s dark out here like and so they like
and then you’ll be looking like how did
they
when did they
but but cuffing season I believe as I
was thinking about this applies to more
than people who just want to be in
physical relationships and when we
started this series we did nine weeks of
cuffing season back in the uh the spring
but as soon as I started praying about
the season I got 22 sermons
like I never had this much the last time
this happened was a crazy Faith crazy
baby maybe wait like when we start going
down all the faith the last time that
happened and I knew that we couldn’t do
them all then so God said what we’re
gonna do we’re gonna have one season in
the spring and then you’re gonna come
back in the fall and God has given me
brand new messages
of things that every believer needs to
uncuff from
see the truth of the matter is you don’t
need to be cuffed to some things you’re
already cuffed to them
some of the stuff that we’re about to
talk about this ain’t things that you
like oh yeah cuff and see I need to get
with something they’ve been with you for
decades
and they’re no longer serving you
they helped you get through a season now
they are all burdened in this one and
you don’t know how to Let Yourself Go
but I’m telling you by the end of this
series there’s gonna be Freedom that
raises up in the people of God there is
going to be a new found ability to trust
God even in situations
where it looks like there’s no way I can
let go of this
I’m here as a living Witness
that God
wants you to be everybody say set free
but what if you have the key
[Music]
okay
I’m not talking about we act like
everything somebody else needs to do
oh well if somebody sets me free
if somebody comes rescue me and God said
I’ve given you the keys to the kingdom
I’ve given you stuff that you won’t even
acknowledge right now and you won’t let
yourself go I told you I would I would
change your mind I’d change the way you
think if you would just submit to me I
would do that you got the key to this
thing
and God’s saying it’s time to get free
so if you haven’t I’m telling you right
now if you haven’t watched the first
nine parts of cuffing season we went
cuff to comfort cuffed to convenience
cuffed to cake
that’s still working on some of us right
now
somebody said oh that’s me cuff to the
comments cuffed to condemnation cuff to
comparison cuff to constant I need you
to go watch all nine of those
then come back and watch this one
and then get ready for next week
cause we cough till Christmas
I’m like I’m letting you know I ain’t
moving off of this
until I see a generation walking in
Freedom somebody just shouted me real
big freedom
come on in the room at your house Shout
At Me Freedom
Okay the reason why cuffing seizing is
so important
is because
when you think about being cuffed to
something
or connected to something aren’t
entangled with something it’s not bad to
be entangled or cuffed or connected to
something that’s prosperous for you
profitable for you good for you but the
truth of the matter is most of us are
cuffed to things that we love that do
not love us back
okay can we be honest right now how many
people we’re a humble open and
transparent church right now how many
people I want hands how many people love
something that you know is not good for
you and it’s not loving you back
okay now I want to take it a step
further
so that we can get real transparent I
need you to start yelling and putting in
the comments what are some of the things
that you love that are not loving you
back talk to me
somebody said food what
bread she said bread
oh Cheesecake Factory brown bread
somebody said bread what else
sweets my son uh oh
come on let’s talk
what’d you say my way my desires
attention
oh see that’s why I love my church
because they’re gonna say real stuff
what are the some of the things you love
that do not love you back
codependency
[Applause]
Netflix
and chill somebody said
what are some of the come on I just in
the comments give me a couple more what
are some of the things that you love
Twitter social media
video games come on talk to me
money my attitude
smoking control tick tock
now people are saying names Charles
like they saying names like
because the truth of the matter is
all of us
if we are not careful and intentional we
will begin to form emotional bonds with
things that have us bound
okay
I’ma say it again
many of the things we are believing God
for right now
are the result of having emotional bonds
with something that actually has us
bound
because I’m a cuff
because I’m cuffed attention
I’m going places I don’t even want to go
buying clothes I don’t even want to wear
taking selfies in positions I don’t even
know if I can get out of
not cause I even want you cause I’m
cuffed
I’m cuffed to it
and what I’m asking us to do in this
series is take a for real examination
of the areas and the things that we have
been calling normal
that we have become comfortable with
I want us to bring all those things to
God and say um before the end of this
year 2022 where you said here was holy
could you show me how to sort through
all this crap
because we could sum the whole series up
in cuff to crap
could you help me with all this crap
so that I don’t walk into another year
this how many people are deciding I’m
not walking into the next year with the
same exact and everybody gonna have a
new saying when we get to January
what if your new year starts right now
I just said it for three people I said
that what if your new year starts right
now what if the decisions you make right
now
then change the life that you live in
another season
that means we got to stop loving things
and don’t love us back and just for
everybody that needs a working
definition because some people you lost
since I said cuffing season is where is
that in the Bible so I’m gonna help you
let me give you this definition real
quick cuffing season is a season would
be where because of loneliness
and Desperation
you settle for a relationship that is
way beneath the standard
because of loneliness
and Desperation you everybody say this
word settle
when God has given you a promise
and you go below that promise
to to
appease and satisfy your loneliness and
Desperation
what you have just done is cuffed to
something that’s going to end up killing
you
maybe not physically but it’s going to
steal kill and destroy purpose
steal kill and destroy relationships you
were supposed to have because you trade
them for relationships you didn’t need
and what I’m telling you right now is
that this series I’m gonna just go ahead
and let the cat out of the bag it’s a
secret Deliverance series
I know we don’t say words like that
because that scares people they think
it’s gonna be like an exorcism and
somebody’s sitting there and they taking
it out I know I don’t know
but being delivered all it means is
being brought out of something that had
you bound
and somebody came and got you and
brought you into a land of protection
peace and security God is saying some of
you have been so Bound in thoughts of
anxiety and depression and through this
series I’m gonna rescue you through my
word and I’m gonna bring you into a land
of Peace who am I talking to right now I
land of peace and understanding I’m
gonna take you from a land a place an
idea a mindset of perversion
and I’ma bring you into a place of
Purity I’m going to deliver you
and I believe that Deliverance starts
in your mind
I know church for so many years is like
come to the altar
let me deliver you
I believe in on I believe in the laying
on of hands I believe in prayer
but I believe that usually is a catalyst
not the clothes
I’m gonna say stuff that church people
don’t really say it’s a catalyst it’s
where we catapult from it’s not the
closure of something it’s the beginning
of something and so we have to be
renewed in our minds
that’s why we have to learn how to pray
if you feel cuffed to something God said
I’m giving you tools I need you to
understand that I want you to be
everybody shot at me delivered whatever
has you bound God said I don’t want you
back
I don’t want you tied up I don’t want
you stuck
I want you free but you have to
participate with me
okay
see this is the stuff that God be
talking to me about he said Michael I
want you free but you have to
participate with me
we want us we want God to drag us
to promised lands
when he said you’re gonna have to walk
okay I don’t know any parents in here
that you got a kid that’s over the
pickup age
and I don’t know what the pickup age is
for you
but my kids is getting Bella is over the
pickup age Bella nine years old that
woman is Stout she is a beautiful woman
of God but she still be coming to me
like Danny
Carry Me
sweetheart
carry me like do you hear what I’m
saying like and and what ends up
happening is a lot of times she wants to
go places but doesn’t want to use her
effort and energy
oh
she wants me to get her out of bed
take her to the party
take her to the breakfast table take her
to the I said baby if you want to
experience what’s on the other side of
this sleep
this place of rest
you’re going to have to everybody say
participate
I just came to tell somebody in the
beginning of this series
that the promise is going to take your
participation
God is not going to do what he asked you
to do he’ll be there the whole way I’m
there the whole way with Bella saying
okay now do this now go here but I’m not
going to carry you
to what you can make a choice
to do
what are you trying to say to us Pastor
Mike many of us need Deliverance
and it’s always what God wants to do but
let me put you in this first point
Deliverance is God’s desire but our
decision
God not taking No blunts out of your
mouth
[Music]
he’s not taking you out of nobody’s bed
well God if you just don’t want me to be
here Lord just just make some I just God
you know how to you you’re the god of
the universe you know how to do it
God’s oh
God’s not writing your budget
[Applause]
I just need to be better with finances
he ain’t doing your budget for you
you won’t even write down what you pay
but you’re expecting God to give you
more
but we know his character is he only
gives more to people who Steward what
they already oh
for your finances to change you don’t
need more money you need a notebook
you missed it
[Applause]
he’s watching what you do with what you
got right now
God’s not going to the gym for you
oh God it’s gonna be a long Sunday
what he’s saying is I want you to be
delivered from that
but Deliverance
has to include your decision somebody
say it’s up to me
ask the children of Israel
God wanted to deliver them and he wanted
to only take 11 days to do it but they
would not make a decision to obey God
and obey their leader into the promised
land and the problem really was not even
the promised land it was their patterns
the problem is the pattern
the reason why we’re cuffed to certain
things is because our mama was
and our dad was and our big mama was and
our cousin wasn’t our best friend what
and now all we’re doing is following the
your mouth
is
how you act under anger
is the pattern press down
shaken together
and running over
now you are giving it to your kids
cause you got it
and then you became cuffed to it
and you have not stood up
to be delivered
out of the very thing that you despise
you don’t even like it
you don’t even honestly every time I sin
like like like the the the amazing
feeling of sin lasts
if you know anywhere that sin feel great
for long periods of time
let me know
because anytime it’s like a build up to
sin and then you lie you steal you have
the sex you do whatever and it’s
why because it was never meant to
satisfy
what only God can
but now you have to make a everybody say
decision
so write this down God’s plan
is always the promise
but our patterns delay Deliverance
I’m just trying to build this for us so
we can get to being uncuffed
we can scream break the chains
cute Tasha Cobbs Break Every Chain
American
there’s an army
chains do not break
because of choruses
chains break because of choices
Matthew you hear what I just said
change break you can sing these songs to
you blue in the face
if it does not change your choice
and that’s why I’m saying to you you
have to choose a new pattern
I cannot do the pattern that I’ve been
doing and think I’m going to get a
different result it’s been the same
pattern I keep going to those group of
friends even though I move four times
how do I find the same group of friends
in different coasts
East Coast West Coast down south
I’m in the dirty dirty and I found the
same people
that’s patterns
and until we submit our patterns to God
cuffed
something you need to begin to pray
about is what patterns
do I need to put at the altar
well I mean every Thursday this is where
I go
that might be the issue
and patterns aren’t bad things
I just need everybody to understand that
I’m not talking about things that maybe
are horrible I’m just talking about
things that may not be beneficial in
this season
okay
so Pastor Mike what do we do Romans 12 2
the the scripture that this church name
is founded on
do not conform
to the watch this word pattern
of this world
but be transformed by prayer meetings
um Collective groups polls on Instagram
it says be transformed by the renewing
of your I told y’all Deliverance starts
here
it says then you will be able to test
and approve what God’s will is his good
pleasing and perfect will my goal okay
out of this entire series as we go back
into this is to make this very practical
for everybody so I’m not trying to be I
hated going to church and the pastor and
the preacher will be in the cloud saying
words you’ve never heard of you spend 13
minutes looking up is that a real word
because they because they just want you
to be impressed with their knowledge
but they don’t actually want you to get
their knowledge
because the only thing that separates
them and you is they knowledge
you know people that know the game it’s
like put me on game like I got these
shoes for 9.99 where
tell me where you don’t want to sell the
same shoes don’t you you selfish
we should not be doing that in church
if I find out a revelation I’ll be
should be trying to share it with
everybody
okay
in this series I said God would you
practically help me be able to share
with everybody not like I know
everything but the little game that I
got
and God said all right share with him
what I gave you at the beginning of the
year
oh I said Lord well that’s going to
expose me that’s gonna make me look like
maybe the pastor should know more than
what he’s doing he said no no no from
Pastor to plumber
you’re my people
this stuff works for everybody if you
would submit to it so I’m gonna tell
y’all what God told me at the beginning
of the year look what he said he said
this is how I wrote it down in my
journal he said Mike’s points for
progress
and he gave me three things he said I
want you to examine and this is what I
want to do through this series I’m just
trying to giving y’all framework okay he
said I want you to examine in 2022 your
principles
your patterns
and your parameters
he said every answer you need
will be found as you examine what are
the patterns that you do that you just
think are a part of your life
what are the principles you believe even
if you I’m always on time hold on
hold on we know your pattern
we’ve seen your principles
like really examining and then he said
and then I need you to examine where are
your parameters
where are the borders of your life
to come in and say something and and who
can distract you when I said to do
something
oh y’all don’t want to talk about it
there’s some people you’re not checking
for but there’s one phone call that’ll
make you disobey God
uh-huh
yeah yeah yeah you won’t go help the
church but if somebody calls you from
your job and gives you a raise you’ll
put your kids
I tell people all the time you want to
find out where somebody’s at just give
them a couple zeros
give them a couple dollars
and we’ll see where their principles
priorities
and parameters are and God said through
this cuffing series he said I need you
to every week just at the top of your
paper for everybody taking notes I need
you to write them three things down
because I believe God’s Gonna begin to
show you that’s a pattern for you
pattern for you you have a pattern of
gossiping when other people get blessed
pattern from oh oh well God I didn’t
really say nothing
um is saying something
that’s a full sentence
oh you know they just got married
um that’s
all I better stop playing with me that
is a full sentence
that can change a whole room
[Music]
that’s a but for many of us that’s a
pattern
why is that a pattern because I believe
the principle that if somebody’s doing
better than me I’m less valuable
see if you identify the pattern then
maybe I can identify the principle that
may not be rooted in the word of God
but rooted in my own insecurities
and then you can say no I’m going to
draw a parameter anytime somebody gets
something I’m gonna celebrate them
this is my new Pro this is my new
kingdom and I can’t make it up out of
myself I need to go to the word of God
Rejoice with those who okay and now I
need a principle that’s higher than my
own principles that create new
parameters
so as we go through this here I’m
feeling hype already because I feel
freedom coming to people because it
doesn’t start with us shouting
it starts with our thinking
and we’re gonna be trained somebody say
I’m gonna be transformed just in faith
somebody just say I’m gonna be
transformed
okay so today we’re going to continue in
this series
but but some of y’all right now is
already deep in thought so let’s play a
game let’s come up for one second and
let’s play a game okay
um I love music I’ve been in a studio
for the past couple weeks working on
um transformation worships new worship
work
guys
you know how you know something and you
just guys
this is going to be a sound for a
generation and it’s going to be a
movement I’m so excited but I’ve been in
the studio and so sometimes in the
studio we get into the conversation of
like who’s the best musician or who’s
the best singer and what I found out
through a conversation like that is some
of my favorite musicians we’re not
single people they were groups of people
anybody love like groups I know we don’t
do it no more I know there’s not many
groups no more but back in the 60s and
70s
the 80s and 90s all the way up to the
2000s
there was like groups of people I need
you in the comments and in the room to
yell out some of your favorite groups
come on of all time now don’t don’t come
talk to me
that what’d you say okay who else
who Jackson Five I’ll go with that put
me some groups on the screen The Beatles
Jackson 5 uh Rolling Stone Earth Wind
and Fire that’s my daddy’s right there
do you remember
Run DMC come on that’s good give me
something from the 90s where was all
them boys band like put some more up
there in sync 98 Degrees black Boys to
Men
um who put them all up there um some of
y’all favorite groups come on what’d you
say who One Direction
that’s the wrong direction uh huh
The Winans come on somebody else
okay so so so if what did somebody say
Drew Hill okay here we go
now
commissioned
y’all so churchy
um
all of these groups are phenomenal now
I’m gonna have to be honest
there were some groups that stood above
others depending on when you were born
but I would like to say Destiny’s
children
changed a generation can’t you pay my
bills can you pay my debit on here
and maybe we’ll have to go to jail what
I don’t think you do
me
that’s what I’m talking about
yes
there’s some people in here that’s like
I just can’t even go with you okay
the crazy thing when we look at all of
these groups Wu-Tang Clan
when we look at Hansen’s um
that was the first time you were able to
speak in tongues on radio
right here in Tulsa
like
beautiful
when I was having this debate and then I
Was preparing for this message shortly
after I thought about this
that all of these groups
nine out of ten of them
are no longer together
they made money together they created a
life together they did all of these
different things together
and I started to think what was the
thing that caused most of these groups
to crumble
at some point watch this
there became confusion
about who
was in control
and as I begin to think about
what we needed to launch this series off
in
God said to me Michael
that don’t just apply
to groups that sing music
he said that same cancer has come into
my church
and my children are confused
about who
is in in control I’m about to preach
this right now
today I gotta start this
because everything that God has to say
you won’t even listen to because you
think you God
and he’s not
this week
I’m talking to people who are cuffed to
control
oh it’s gonna be quiet in here today
the reason I gotta talk about this is
because this was completely and totally
me
anything I was in I had deleted
I had to know what was happening I got
to know where we going I got I have to
be in control
now I’m gonna put myself out there and
hopefully y’all not gonna leave me out
here by myself but some of y’all it’s
control crackheads too
like you won’t even do stuff who you’re
like you’re coming to the party first
thing who’s gonna be there yeah up y’all
got it it ain’t even your party
How You Gonna control the invite list
not even that’s just not even your party
we’re gonna be there
I gotta I gotta figure out who
and what this
cancer has done
is it’s not just tried to make us
control our situations
it’s tried to make us control Our Savior
too
[Music]
and the reason why you are buckling
under the pressure of life
is because you’re kind of control
something that you were never meant to
nobody was meant to be in control except
God
and we have bought into this lie that
somehow we know better than he does
and a lot of the problems that were in
my life and in your life are coming from
this delusional thinking that somehow
you actually are in control do you know
how delusional that thought process is
2020 exposed all of us
yeah I mean for real but do you know
what the craziest thing about 2020 is
two years later people back thinking
the same thing
like they really in control let’s think
about it for real
if the power goes out at your house
what you gonna do
what you gonna do call the electric
company
but they don’t answer
get candles
you’re not going know where the button
is to turn your electricity back on
cause you’re not in
you think you are I’ll call them and
cost them out and I’m sure the bill
and if they don’t I’m coming down
but the truth for the matter is
if they decide to keep your electricity
off
who know what a button is
come on let’s meet ugly who know where
the where’s the button to turn the
electricity we don’t know
we have the illusion of control
not in control and some of y’all type
bootied right now
because the only reason you hear right
now is because I got here by myself
and I made decisions and they were doing
for me and I’m saying I feel you I feel
you I feel you
I was like that but aren’t you tired
ain’t you wore out from
having to play God
how
how exhausting it must be
to have to put on the coat of Elohim
every day
and walk outside and play Savior for
your whole family oh God and be and be
the one that’s going to take your job to
the next level and be the one how
exhausting
it must feel
to have to feel like you gotta be in
control but I believe by the presence of
God there is a group of people that is
going to uncut from control and we gonna
put control back in his right foot place
at the feet of Jesus and we are oh my
God hold on I’m getting ahead of myself
because there’s a freedom that has come
over my life
when I uncuffed from control
and the truth of the matter is right now
write this down the human creation was
never meant to command control
let’s go back to the original picture
Adam and Eve didn’t build nothing in the
garden
they didn’t pick out anything they were
not given control watch what they were
given Authority
we have confused as a generation the
difference between control
and Authority we try to take control
when God wants us to borrow his
authority
and so we don’t think we can do nothing
unless we the man and we got this and we
got that and God said would you just
please calm down
and just borrow some of my authority
rules subdue dominate on the earth name
all the animals eat from every tree but
that one in the middle I’m controlling
that
and what does the enemy come to do in
the very beginning
convince me and you through Adam and Eve
that you should have control instead of
God oh that’s nasty
and what did Adam and Eve do they took
something
that was not theirs
they took control
have you ever had somebody come in it’s
like your stuff is going chaotic and
they’ll be like ah I gotta take control
of this situation
be careful
when you come in with the attitude of a
Creator and you are a creation
this family is out of control I’m about
to take control of it they don’t want me
to come up in there because if I come up
and you may not say those words
oh cause I’m doing the loud boisterous
take control but some of y’all are
manipulative
silently
and you’re taking control with your
presence
when you give it and when you don’t uh
oh do you know that you can be in
control when you don’t show up
oh I’m coming for you your silence does
not get you out of this you didn’t say
anything and you said a whole bunch it’s
because you’re using manipulation you’re
using your gifts you’re using your money
you’re using everything that you have to
try to control
people places and thinking God said I
don’t want you
to be bound to this thing that I never
meant for you to carry Adam and Eve was
never supposed to have to make the
decision
to know certain things
God said I got that under control oh
all you got to do is enjoy this
every other tree is yours
there’s apples on that tree over there
why are you in the one space
I told you I had control over
it’s because the enemy will suggest to
you that somehow God does not know best
and that’s why I want to take you to
First Corinthians 6 12. it says
everything is permissible for me but not
all things are beneficial
everything is permissible for me
but I will not be watch this enslaved
cuffed
controlled by anything Amplified version
or brought under its power allowing it
to control me
the truth of the matter is most of us
are cuffed to control
but we’re being controlled
golly yeah we’re gonna definitely need
two weeks on this it’s like going
through a brick wall right now you like
uh
you you’re being controlled right now
one person can make one comment about
you
and ruin your whole day
and not even though you look a little
chubby in that sweater
I don’t even know you
and now you sitting with a whole pint
of Ben and Jerry’s
crying
over
somebody you didn’t even invite into
your life
I’m trying to be very real because we
don’t think about it like they have
control over y’all know why you make me
do anything
they can’t if they don’t have power over
you
but the truth of the matter is there are
many people places and things that have
power over us that aren’t the Lord of
our life
the Biblical word for this is idols
anything that takes the place of God
is and what is it okay
so we gotta ask who’s in control of Our
Lives
because some of us are playing ourselves
you can’t turn the hair on your head
Gray
you can’t you see this spot right here
it’s died right now because I had to do
the little Beijing thing on it but on
Monday
this little spot won’t grow here
I’ve tried to do everything
I’ve put ointments on it my Daddy has a
full but my daddy can grow hair up to
here
on his face no no no joke like my
brother Gabe full beard he don’t even
get his hair cut right I just it’s just
for decades I’ve been trying to grow
hair right here
and I cannot add
one hair
to my face
what makes me think
that I can control
the years that God has placed me here on
this life and have a better plan than
him
the only thing that can do that is
delusion
and the truth is for many of us we have
been cuffed
to
right now you’re about to turn the
message off
I’m gonna sit here and listen to this
and what you’re doing right now is
you’re about to take
and you know God told you
to watch this message
in the tune in today and why are you
just sitting here and why did somebody
send you this link because God’s trying
to get you intention he wants his spot
back
in all of our lives
if you’re the greatest planner he’ll let
you be it
do it
and until you get tired of that I’ll let
you
pretend to be in control
I’ll let you play Halloween
I’ll let you dress up like me
you just void a power
you you have no way to make it actually
happen and today I’m asking us as a
church could we uncuff
from the idea of actually being in
control and go to the one who actually
is I got a riddle for you right here
what’s one thing that’s in control that
doesn’t have control that wants control
so things don’t get out of control
I’m gonna say it one more time because
somebody’s really trying to figure it
out
what’s one thing that’s in its intro
that doesn’t
all
control so things don’t get out of
control
everybody lift your hand
somebody say me
no God’s definitely in control
we think we in control
trying to keep things from going out of
control and God’s saying would you just
stop it
let me tell you how this played out in
my life I’m an eight on the Enneagram if
you know anything about enneagrams I’m a
challenger I don’t like to be controlled
like I was the kid that they’d be like
everybody in line up and I would just
like sit on the floor just because they
say it
everybody line up I don’t know what it
is in me it’s just built into me like
that’s what it is and the Holy Spirit
um
um confronted me at the beginning of the
year very strongly he said for where I’m
taking you in your life your ministry
and your marriage he said you’re going
to have to delegate a lot
you’re gonna have to give things away
you’ll get stuff can’t be in your
control
I was like Lord I don’t I don’t think
you uh
I don’t think you heard from yourself
I don’t I don’t I don’t think you maybe
you need to try that one one more time
like
nobody knows what’s best like and I
start going to God and said
I’m stripping you of control
and I’m giving you closeness
I don’t want closeness
I want
if control is comfortable for me
he said no no I’m Gonna Be With You
I’m gonna be close to you I’m gonna the
the steps of a good man a good woman are
ordered I’m not even gonna have to yell
them you’re gonna be so close to me I’m
gonna be able to just speak them
and the the Lord
of the universe is telling me I want to
be close to you and I was like um
would really rather
control
now I want you to ask yourself that for
real
would you rather have God the one who
actually knows what’s best
so close that you could hear sense smell
taste like the whole thing
or to control your situation and if you
don’t answer because you’re gonna tell
yourself are you gonna lie
because the truth of the matter is many
of us secretly would choose control over
closeness
and the reason is because the devil is
trying to tempt us
to get out of the position that God
wants us to be in for us to reach
purpose
okay let me just okay
watch this go back to Adam and Eve in
the garden
think about this
the devil’s first attempt to kill God’s
creation was with counterfeit control
the first time he tried to kill all of
us
was like you know what
you in control
be be in control and disconnect yourself
from the closeness the Bible says he
walked in the cool of the garden every
day with Adam they were close what was
the enemy’s job not to get them to think
they was amazing to cut off the
closeness to God
what control does is cut off closeness
to God
oh my God I’m telling y’all I’m giving
y’all keys right now the reason why you
need to stop acting like you in control
and give it back to God is because when
you act in control only one God’s gonna
show up either the fake one you
or the real one him
it cuts cut off closeness to God
‘s situation how I’ma reach my purpose
how I’m gonna do this imma make this
where am I gonna be what job should I
work where should I move all this other
stuff and God say would you please
come and get close to me
so that I can show you
what my plan is for your life
because that counterfeit called control
all it’s meant to do is separate you
from me
okay so so so when the devil tries to
convince Adam and Eve to take control
they take control they get cut off from
the garden they get cut off from
provision they get given pain in
childbirth y’all know we once both
babies was just supposed to be they’re
supposed to be popping out
oh just gone there they go a little Jew
you’re like
we were given all of this
because of the cutting of closeness
brought on by counterfeit control
from Genesis 2 to 2022
it’s the same thing
and do you know what this is me like we
just haven’t like just this is me going
through my process all this year as I
begin to study you know what I think
like just a little bit
Adam and Eve became just a little cocky
because they was around this amazing
Creator all the time
I mean I mean do you like if you
watching God like pull giraffe’s necks
up like no his neck wasn’t okay
and he’s letting you borrow his
authority
I named you but you named them
and they start walking and they’re
calling a little bit
and they start knowing a little bit of
their identity and a couple of the god
ideas work and people start recognizing
them and they start to think that they
are what they’re next to
so what happens in the garden is because
Adam and Eve are walking next to God
doing things for God they’re close to
God when the enemy comes to attempt to
suggest to them they somehow got it
confused that they were God
and the one thing he wanted them not to
do was take control
it’s the one thing the enemy tried to
convince them they needed to do figure
it out
make it happen these are the things that
okay am I the only one are these the
things the enemy tries to come with you
well you’re gonna have to make a way now
you’re gonna have to figure it out now
well you better go talk to them and and
convince them and manipulate your way
and no go back to your family you know
she got the little savings saved up go
convince her you need help you God is my
provider Jehovah Jireh he’s the one that
will supply all of my needs but I ain’t
going to you because that seems iffy
and I got to use faith for that so let
me take control
and let me let somebody believe
a story Let Me Lie on my taxes
let me let me claim dependence I don’t
have
let me take control of this situation
let me let me let me uh uh uh get a PPP
loan I don’t need
and make up a fake business when all
those construction you ain’t even put
together a Lego set ever
but these are our feeble attempts
and I’m maybe not hitting your situation
but I I know that some of y’all dress
a certain way
to have control
do not do me
you put all of the Hills and Valleys out
oh okay y’all going
you know
you wanted attention
so that you could be in control well I
don’t know you’re gonna take me to
dinner if you want to
y’all know
[Applause]
I’m just saying
people wear name brands
to convince you that they’re at another
status so somehow in the relationship
they can be in
I act like you ain’t been here before me
and you better come in there like you
know what’s happening
you living in an apartment where a Louis
Vuitton belt
that belt is your rent for six months
but we do things for the illusion of
you in a house you can’t afford
so the two times your family comes over
a year
it can seem like you’d have figured your
life out
when you just as broken as you were when
you left there in college
because you won’t deal with the actual
issue you want the illusion that you got
it all together and that you’re in
you won’t go to counseling
for the marriage that is on the rocks
because you two grown to be listening to
somebody else
and right now you’re about to lose the
love of your life
because you won’t let anybody with
degrees
study and the Holy Spirit
help you navigate through your issues
because you want to be in
cuff to it
don’t pray for
what you won’t let God actually change
that’s wasted breath
[Applause]
today I have to deal with
this cancer of cocky Christianity
that will not do what God says to do
because he’s really not in control
you are
somebody’s like cocky I just I don’t
really understand that arrogance
Pride
I like this one you’re overconfident
so you start saying stuff like He Did It
Before He’ll Do It Again no he did it
before you’re doing it now
and we be putting God’s results on our
work
like no no that was him that time this
time you stopped praying you’re
unsubmitted
you didn’t you’re not you’re not even
living
no no no
and then don’t be mad at him and I’m
done with God
because he left me after no he let you
have the consequences of you being in
control
okay now watch this
I just want everybody to see yeah this
might be three weeks mama I might have
to keep going with this because I see
I’m moving people through mentally
why why some of the barriers that have
been there is because you really
have you ever known the right thing to
do
and didn’t do it
just because
you didn’t want to
it wasn’t okay come on y’all I’m trying
to be so I’m begging you I’m on my knees
baby baby please I’m trying to get y’all
I’m trying to get y’all to just be like
real with me
have you ever like known
I need to do this God has confirmed for
me to do this I have a word that I’m
supposed to do this some random stranger
came up and gave me the money to do this
but I don’t do it
because I don’t want to
I don’t wanna I don’t want to go to that
B group and have to have awkward
conversations
I just don’t want I don’t want to have
to tell anybody my testimony and what I
actually been through
I don’t want to have to practice
I’m lazy
so I know I’m supposed to be singing but
I don’t want to learn the words
I’d just rather just
I’d rather just you know freestyle it
and God’s like okay
so you’re Lord of your life
I can give you instruction
provision
plan
and vision
and you still won’t do it
do y’all know how scary that is
to be in a position where you’re so much
in control of your life that God will
give you and some of this stuff is just
common sense stuff that you should be
doing and you still don’t do it
just because
I don’t want to
you are cuffed to control
today you are forfeiting the purpose of
God on your life
because you think you know better
than the one who created you
I know it’s tight but it’s right
I know it’s tight I know it’s tight I
know it’s tight I know it’s tight so um
and just in case any of y’all need
reference that Adam and Eve wasn’t the
first time the devil
took Pride arrogance and taking control
and used it to cut closeness to God
the devil’s name was
Lucifer
he was the head angel
he was right in front of God I’m just
teaching you the Bible right now
and all of the praise he was conducting
it
for God
and because of his proximity to God
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he was walking in his calling walking in
his anointing using what he was given to
do
he got confused
that he was in control to the point and
this is what control does it convinces
others
to lose closeness to God
he convinced one-third
of the Angels
to follow him
to cut connection with the God who
created them
if he tried it there and he tried it
with Adam and Eve
yeah I’m just gonna
write this point down cocky Christianity
is created by the illusion of control
yeah
it’s an illusion
God wants to give you his plan for your
life confirm it over and over we see
that precedence in the Bible over and
over he wants us to submit things to him
he wants to change us from the inside
out
but we are going to have to get to a
place where we’re not controlled by
anything except him
Ray we got to figure out how we can do
this life and not let
social media
our church family our regular family
money cancel culture how do I do what
God’s asked me to do I’m only
cuff to what he’s speaking to me right
now and I have decreased
so that he can
increase
instead of taking control write this
down
we would we must make a choice to stay
close
this whole year God has been saying me
to me Michael
just stay close to me
you don’t have to be in control just
stay close
you don’t got to figure it out you don’t
got to protect yourself just stay close
you don’t got a lot of money just stay
so so my daughters have figured out
that I’m the ATM in our house
so so so when we go to the store or go
to the mall go to the fair
don’t play with your friends Bella’s
like uh
I want to stay with you Daddy
and it took me a second to even like I
was uh you know I’m a new father like my
oldest is not so I’m not even older I
said
they was like uh-uh
we just want to we don’t I want to do
what you doing Daddy
I’m like okay I’m thinking it’s like oh
and um we start going through the little
fair or the little store and she’s like
Daddy
I really would love a bear
I said where I Gotta Throw the little
thing and it’s already I’m real with my
kids that’s rigged
I can’t win that oh Dad I know you can
well you know what maybe I can
you know what may be hot
twenty dollars for five balls
y’all
I stood at that thing
I’m not gonna tell you how much money I
spent I thought
I could have gone to Amazon and bought
her a life-size bear do you hear me
but there was something about my child
being close
and knowing that I had it
one
that made me perform in a different way
to meet their needs
and
desires
that bear wasn’t a need
it was just a desire when a dog comes
running down the street
and they outside playing
Bella don’t go to the neighbor’s house
and knock on the door
random neighbor
save me
the dog can get me
all she yelling down the street
Daddy
cause she knows her proximity
her closeness
to me
I mean it would be great if she could
turn around and be the Dog Whisperer
I am in control here dog said
she don’t want to be in control
she just wants to be safe
oh I’m talking right now if you don’t
uncuff from it the truth is you don’t
even have the ability
to make yourself
what you need
you can’t make yourself safe
you can’t make yourself have peace you
can’t make it those things only come
from God
closeness is more valuable than control
I’m trying to change your Paradigm right
now
closeness to God is more valuable as a
man of my house when something’s off
with my wife and I can’t figure out what
it is and why we not clicking why we
can’t my closeness to God
can change my marriage
I can go to God and live I can be in the
gym like God show me what to do father
show me go Michael
cancel the meeting tomorrow
well God I gotta do that I’m in control
of Doubt three weeks from now you’re not
even gonna be doing that project
you don’t know that right now see
because God don’t give you all the
details
when he tells you to obey cancel that
meeting
and take your wife to the movies
it’s counterproductive
I’m the leader of this organization
he said who’s in control right now
obeyed God
next two days marital bliss
um how could woman King the movie
like how could it don’t have to make
sense
it’s because I’m not in con
he brought together
what was not clicking
because I let him be Lord of my and
that’s what people don’t know everybody
wants God to be their savior Rescue Me
but don’t tell me what to do
they love savior say
I’ll wear the T-shirt I’ll tell a couple
people that you did it but now
and God’s saying how can you call me
Lord
but you won’t let me lead you
you’re cuffed to control I’m telling you
what to do I’m giving you instructions
I’m moving you for yes I might ask you
to go to a job that doesn’t pay as much
as the job you’re making right now
but I know what three years from now is
and the person that you need to meet to
start a relationship with right now to
get to where I have you is at that job
and you sitting up here telling me
you’re about to lose fifteen thousand
dollars a year you don’t even know that
I got something on the way up here that
you ain’t even knowing that I got on the
way for you but you will not leave your
comfort cause you gotta be in
have it
do it
go ahead
I feel like sometimes God’s just like
I told him I keep telling them all right
I’m gonna wake up tomorrow I’m gonna
tell him again
grace and mercy no I said that grace and
mercy know every morning
when they gonna listen
when they gonna know that I died so they
didn’t have to have control
when are they going to recognize that
control is not what you want
you want the benefits of somebody being
in control that actually loves and cares
for you
it’s so much easier being a child
than it is being a parent
now I know I know I don’t know how y’all
feel
but the orange juice just shows up
in the refrigerator for my children
me we got to go get it squeeze it find
it pay for it work for it
God said would you give up
being
the adult in our relationship
and would you just be my child
y’all
I I’m seeing Minds unlocking right now
I’m seeing just do what I ask you to do
when I ask you to do it how I ask you to
do come love on me come sit with me come
stay with me stay close to me let’s do
the things you love to do hey let me
teach you something let me show you
something but do not take the role of
the parent in this relationship
because you don’t know what the
sacrifice was
to actually Bear the burden of being the
boss
you don’t want this
you don’t want this control
you want to be comforted
by a father who has everything under
control
I’m telling you you will not be able to
receive anything else out of this sermon
series because God’s gonna start
teaching us how to actually live
and the stuff I got to say after this
means that you might have to change some
stuff
okay
it might mean like God’s gonna say
through his word
don’t live like this in this house
I mean you’re gonna be like fine I ain’t
gonna live in this house then
I’m gonna go get my y’all know the the
teenagers every teenagers classic thing
I’m fine
I’m going to move out
I’m going to get my closeness cut off so
that I can do what I want to do
so I can be in
and God’s saying please don’t move out
of this house
because you don’t
you don’t want to do what I ask you to
do let’s talk about it let’s let’s get
an understanding let’s communicate let’s
but don’t take control
surrender it
Philippians 4 6 and 7. don’t worry about
anything
instead here’s the option pray about
everything
tell Dad
what you need
and then watch this this mess me up
then or tell God what you need tell Dad
what you need and thank him thank you
Dad
for all you thank you for thank you for
buying me this
pink jacket
thank you Dad for making sure I have
food yesterday
thank you Dad like it’s not it’s not the
apartment I want but thank you God see
there should be a thankfulness Every
Time We Gather and get up in the morning
thank you God come on just take five
seconds and yeah wherever you are right
now thank you God
for keeping me thank you God for
allowing me to see you in a new way
thank you God for giving me the job I do
have thank you God for the health that I
do have thank you God
he says just tell Dad about everything
thank him for what he’s already done
then something crazy happens
then you will experience God’s peace
which exceeds anything we can understand
his peace will guard your heart and your
mind as you live
in Christ Jesus y’all when I saw this
scripture after God talking to me about
not being in control and just being
close God said to me Michael why does
anybody on this Earth want to be in
control
because they want peace
and they want to be guarded
the only reason I want to be in control
is because you probably ain’t going to
treat me like I’ma treat me
let’s be honest if you go make my play
you ain’t gonna put as much of the mac
and cheese
as I want on my plate as I want on my
plate so I need to be in
I want control because the truth of the
matter is if I go past all of the fluff
I really want to be protected
and I want peace
protection and peace that’s all I want
that’s why I take control because ain’t
nobody gonna use me
ain’t nobody gonna manipulate me
ain’t nobody gonna do me dirty
ain’t nobody gonna
and now you playing God
but look what this scripture says I want
you to find the revelation
it says don’t worry about anything
pray about everything
tell God what you need
thank him for what he’s already done
and then everybody say then
if you do those four things look what
the next one says then you will
experience God’s peace
that means the situation didn’t change
I need everybody stay with me just lock
in two more minutes
he said if you just bring it to dad
thank Dad
tell him hey this is what I need
peace
comes to you
the situation can be the exact
same
but because you got close to him
peace came
because you got close to him
it says it was a piece that surpasses
oh I don’t even know why I’m not
tripping no more
I don’t even know they just gave me a
diagnosis that’s like I don’t even know
how long I’m gonna live but why do I
have space
they just told me that we can’t get back
in this building but why do I have this
at this like they just
cause the peace is not connected to the
outcome
Gabby the piece is not connected to the
outcome
my peace is connected
to the closeness
[Music]
of the one who is actually in control oh
my God y’all this Set Me Free I don’t
know this chain like when stuff is going
crazy in the church and this is
happening this is happening and it feels
like everything’s getting frantic in my
business and
God says stop trying to take control of
the stuff
cause I’ll get five phone calls and now
I’m like Tammy this this and this Bree
this this and this Natalie tell them no
and God said
are you in control of this
stop everything that’s urgent and do
what’s important
get with me
and I’ll tell people give me a day
tell me am I telling the truth I’ll tell
I’ll say Ah that’s too many numbers
that’s too much money that’s too much I
gotta get close
to the one who’s in control why do I
take sabbatical every year because I got
to get close
to the one who’s absolutely in control
why do I have to tell my wife just let’s
talk about that just in just a little
bit I promise I’ll come back to it I
just need to go figure out
with the one who’s actually in control
and you can keep playing yourself like
you’re in control you look like a clown
what you have is pieces of peace
you piecing together your peace as long
as the aesthetic feel good and I make
this much money and these people view me
like this and if one little thing gets
out of place
you’ve jacked up
trying to please people and tap dance to
make them still like you and trying to
people please and all cause you trying
to hold together your pieces of peace
and God said would you let all of that
fall
and just come get
what are you saying pastor I’m like you
don’t have to have control
to have peace
that’s the reason most people are come
to control ain’t happening in this house
in this house we’re gonna have peace no
we’re all scared of you let’s be very
clear we’re just scared of you and we
don’t say what we actually desire and we
talk to other people about what’s really
going on and you’ll find out two decades
from now because
we’ll be in counseling about how you
treated us because your house has to
have peace no
I can’t lose control like hold on wait
this is the house that God has built
he’s the one that’s in control he know
when the music’s supposed to come out he
know when the church is supposed to open
he I mean that was one of the hardest
things in this past two and a half years
is we sit in here closed
and we could go and rent a building and
start meeting
like that wasn’t the problem God said no
I’m in control of this
I’m working stuff well what about the
people that are going to other churches
they need to
this was designed
what what about the I got it
what I’m supposed to do guy
focus on your wife
spend time getting close with me
I’m gonna work on your control issue
why everything shut I’m gonna open you
up
[Applause]
and it was during the pandemic
that some of the transformation that
would have probably taken me another
decade
because I just got close to him
he started pulling off layers of stuff
and I realized Mike you don’t got to be
in control
you just got to be close to the one who
is
and I can still have peace and still
have my heart and my mind guarded
and not carry the bird my back was not
built
to handle the burden of our creator
and some of you are weary and tired
and frustrated because you feel like you
got to be in control but that weight was
never meant for you to care
okay
what is my new prayer been
I’m gonna tell you and then we’re gonna
go home and this was not what I’m
praying for each of you during this
series my new prayer has been for watch
this word meekness
I know we don’t talk about it a lot
I know we don’t we don’t it’s like but
it’s like in the Bible a whole bunch
but but meekness simple definition
all it is is power
under
control
God’s saying you don’t gotta dim your
light
you don’t gotta not be everything I
created you you don’t have to not use
all your giftings and beat everything I
created he said I just need all of that
to be under
my control
so when I say that you got tons of money
under
do y’all know that’s why so many people
don’t do I mean they literally say
America could end world hunger with the
amount of money we have
but people don’t give like that because
I gotta be like if anything crack off
I got that money because money makes me
feel in
I’ll never I don’t know if you’ve ever
gone on a vacation bro it’s devastating
you just feel out of control it’s like
if anything happened if the rental car I
don’t know about y’all but there
sometimes I went to the to to oh my God
I just got stuck
where God has brought me from but I
would go and I would have exactly the
amount of money and then they’d be like
we got a 35 hold I was like oh you can’t
hold nothing
do not hold any you know what never mind
I’m Uber cause if you hold anything I’m
not gonna be able to pay for the hotel
like
okay
yeah
but somehow we think that money
somehow is going to make us feel like
we’re in
I’ve had a little bit I’ve had a lot
it don’t do it
it doesn’t it doesn’t it gives you an
illusion that you’re in control
but what
the miracle we needed for MJ
no amount of money
I mean okay cool
you you
relationship goals sold almost a million
copies great
but what I need is to be close to the
one who’s
in control
of the therapies my son needs in control
of the people that we need to come help
in the country like
and can I tell you testimony
part of me
giving over control of a situation
that’s so hard and I don’t understand
as God begin to send people into our
lives
I’m here to report to you that this past
Friday MJ started big kids school with
his sister
[Applause]
y’all y’all ain’t got to shout with me
but I know
[Applause]
don’t conform to my son I know the one
who knows the number of his days I give
God praise
[Applause]
this is what they said couldn’t happen
you sent me video of my son sitting in a
class
not disturbing the other kids and not
like what
[Music]
oh no I’m sorry I don’t y’all don’t I’m
talking about what has happened because
I relinquished
I’d be an alcoholic somewhere addicted
to some pills if I was trying to figure
out how to help my son and if I start
thinking about like what happens when
he’s 25 what happens when all of his
sisters are out the house what happened
and God said
the lilies don’t even worry
about they dress every day
and Solomon and all of his Splendor was
not dressed as fly as them lilies right
over there on that Hill I did that
what can you do by worrying about today
would you just get close
to the one who is in control
I begin to pray for meekness
power somebody said I got power
but it’s under control
say that one more time I got power
but it’s under control with faith one
more time I got
but it’s under under
God’s control
so now when I can use all my influence
under God’s control
when I can use all my gifting under
God’s control
when I can use all of my abilities under
God’s control
then what happens
transformation
you become God’s agent to represent on
this Earth
and that’s why I’m believing as we
uncuff from control
we actually begin to pray that God would
make us meek
do y’all know what Psalms 37 11 says
this crazy I love the Bible what is
meekness power under control why do
people want control because they
actually want peace
Psalms 37 but the meek
will inherit
the Earth is what a translation says
and enjoy
peace and
you can either have control
or you can have peace and prosperity
which one you want
no for real which one you want
if you want peace and prosperity
put your power
under
his control
and the result
is a life full of peace
and prosperity
church it’s time for us
to acknowledge
for many of us we’ve been in the wrong
seat in our life
we’ve been in the seat of Lord
we’ve been on the throne of Our Own
Heart
only do the things I like to do I only
do the things I want to do I only do and
God’s saying could I have my seat back
could I be the Lord not just savior
could I could I be the Lord of your life
can I have control again
um
four things that control kills just
write them down because we got to go and
then I’m gonna pick up again next week
if you got to be in control control
kills contentment
if you got to be in control you’re never
satisfied with right now because you’re
figuring out how you’re gonna hold up
tomorrow
oh
[Music]
stop stop being God and Yola you can’t
control tomorrow you don’t know what’s
gonna happen but you can have peace
today and peace tomorrow
because you’re close to the one who
knows it all
second thing control kills collaboration
there are people you’re supposed to be
connected to that you are not
because you got to be the big dog
you gotta be the boss
you got to be the one calling all the
shots you got to be the one and again
I’m not saying you got to be with a
boisterous personality some of you guys
are what I call silent assassins of
manipulation
you’re in control and no you don’t say
nothing
your attitude your ideas your everything
is speaking loud
you ain’t been to your family’s get
together in six years
because of that one situation
because you’re gonna control the
situation and there are peoples that
God’s saying I meant for y’all to be
better together
I meant for you to collaborate who cares
who gets the credit
that’s what I’m gonna have to do I’m
gonna have to do a series called cuff to
credit
because some of us won’t do what God
called us to do because we want credit
oh no that was me who cares it’s helping
people ain’t still getting paid in the
background you had to let everybody know
that it was you
and many people are forfeiting their
calling
because they won’t credit
and God said if you got to be the only
one in control that’s why I love our
church that’s why I love the
collaboration of every ethnicity
in every tribe and every tongue and
every age group this is where God abides
everybody that you’re called to do life
with don’t look like you
don’t talk like you don’t sound like you
if that’s your circle right now you
might be too in control
because you’re cutting off
the collaboration that God wants to do I
could stay there all day third day
control
s watch this correction
[Music]
if LeBron James needs a shooting coach
come on let’s think about this
if Michael Jordan needs a trainer
if if your favorite if Serena Williams
has a coach
they are paying these people
for correction
now when you did it your form was off
hey don’t lose your temper out there it
messes with the way you
there’s just
but when you’re the only one that can be
in control
you kill correction
which it kills your ability to grow
correction is beautiful
done in love
because it causes you to grow
and so many people are not growing
because they have no place in their life
of Correction
redirection tweaking
because they the only ones I’m too old
for that I’m old enough to be that’s why
some people can’t even accept me as
their Pastor I’m just the dude they
listen to during the week
because I’m too young to tell them
anything
hmm
but the spirit of God
is older than both of us
and this word is real or real um
and if I’m saying what comes out of here
and it’s impacting your life
could it be that it’s not
the messenger or the message
it’s the person who’s listening who
still is cuffed
if we uncuff
from control we can get corrected
hey people think you’re mean and I know
you’re not mean
so you need to like maybe work on your
your resting face
well this is just my face this is a face
I was born with this event but what I’m
saying is like
just as aware as you are in dressing
like when you walk into a room like
let your face know that life
you haven’t been through a World War six
times
and that you’re actually happy to be
here
that small correction
people won’t even take because they got
to be in control
lastly
control
kills communication
[Music]
if you have to be in control
you won’t even be vulnerable enough to
tell people what’s really going on
this was my problem
cause if I show you what I’m really
dealing with as a human being
maybe somehow that’ll be ammunition for
you to take
my control away from me
so I always got to have it together I
always gotta how to answer I always got
to know what’s going on I always no no
no I’m playing that no I didn’t plan
that that was a failure but I’ma make
you think I planned it
I gotta keep this appearance of control
so nobody unseats me
and then I cut off communication to what
I actually need
I remember in my office sitting with my
executive team
it was one of the most defining moments
of my life
well I just broke down crying I talk
about this often because it’s happened
maybe
I can’t even on one hand I can usually
two maybe twice in my whole life
I don’t cry a lot I don’t like it just
feels unnecessary
the truth is
I saw it as weakness
because it would make me look vulnerable
and maybe I would lose control
[Music]
and I told that team I needed them I was
going through some stuff
and me and Nat needed them and I just
bro I mean I broke down crying I can
feel it right now you know when it gets
like in the throat later I feel like
your throat is burning
because that was the first time in my
life
that I was
in community where I felt like I don’t
have to be in control of this
ah
I need help
and that was my whole thing I was like I
need help I need help to run this church
I don’t know what I’m doing I have a
specialty son I got daughters that need
attention people leaving the church
people coming to the church I can’t hold
this together I can’t convince people to
be here I can I never done this we got
tax laws we got money we got City
audiences we got I need help and I just
and what Aaron said last week it was in
my weakness
it was in that moment
where I was vulnerable and I got out of
the control seat
that guy said here you go I can make you
strong do you know who actually looks at
you with more love when you Release
Control
God
he’s more attracted
to you being like here take this take
that
I just want you
he said I can do that I’ll promote you
I’ll give you more I’ll bring the people
around to do it I’ll do whatever you
need me to do I just need you to know
that closeness is more valuable than
control what everybody just stand right
now
um
[Music]
we’re currently living in a home where
we have a landlord
and um
I’ve never had a landlord before
having landlord is kind of cool
is because like if anything breaks
I’m not in control
hey y’all air conditioner broke
uh
and it’s their job
to be the Lord of that property
my question is would you let God be your
landlord
[Music]
the territory of your mind
territory of your heart the territory of
your fine when it gets broke because it
could be broken sometimes my thing can
be broke up sometimes
my feelings my emotion
if he’s the Lord of it it’s not on me to
fix it by myself I gotta participate but
I ask him to come in
today I want us to pray that we would
allow God to be our landlord again
would you lift your hands wherever you
are this just the start of the series
y’all but I believe this is gonna start
I’m going week two next week because I
got a whole nother situation is it okay
if I go week two uncuffed to control
next week okay all right I’m going this
was just to get y’all ready
[Applause]
but nothing else will change if we’re
still in the seat of control
today I want to end praying for the
areas of your life
that you have been in control
and I want
to ask the Holy Spirit
to give us the courage
to surrender them
those areas my marriage my life my
family my fine let’s let’s just ask him
to take control of those areas right now
didn’t it say pray about everything
and then that means before we leave here
before you turn on there could be a
peace that passes all understanding
comes to your situation hands lifted
everywhere right now father in the name
of Jesus today we come before you
and we surrender
father every area that we have been
playing you
that we’ve been taking control right now
we surrender control and we want
closeness
father God I’m asking you according to
your word father God as we bring all of
our cares and worries to you today I
thank you Father God that the heavy
burden of being weighed down by the
cares of this life and controlling the
times and seasons and knowing when
things are supposed to happen and when
we’re gonna get buried we were going to
have kids and we were going to move into
another house we relinquish control
today
father and we bring our whole lives back
to you oh I feel the presence of God
today Father I give you my marriage I
give you my business come on right now
start telling God the things that you’re
giving him control over God I give you
my thoughts I give you my ideas I give
you my career come on Church we’re going
to pray right now and we’re going to
thank God we’re going to do what the
scripture says
father God we give you everything right
now we give you our heart we give you
our minds we give you our soul we give
you our desires right now come on we
give you our plans come on church we
will no longer be cuffed to control
father we are giving you father our
ideas what we thought about our lives
what we thought about our families we
are giving you our friend groups right
now
God we’re uncuffing from control we
don’t have to know everything at every
moment at every time father because you
do and because we walk with you and we
talk with you and we live with you we
don’t have to worry about tomorrow we
don’t have to worry about the next year
we can stay and rest in you
today father as a generation and as a
church we are coming to uncuff from
control
we are putting you back in your rightful
space in our life as land the Lord
you’re over this land you’re over my
mind you’re over my future you number my
days God
foreign
God we surrender all
[Music]
if you’re in this room right now even in
that same attitude because we’re just
starting I feel like God’s going to be
revealing all week areas that we need to
surrender control some of y’all have
non-profits and businesses and ideas and
plans that God’s saying um could you
bring that to me could you get close to
me with that could I have that back my
whole life is going to be used to bring
God’s glory but that means he has to
control it
if you’re in this room right now and
you’ve never given control of your life
over to God
through the act of salvation
as people are praying all around you
right now I want to let you know today
is the day of salvation
you want God to be your savior and your
lord
but you cannot have a lord if you do not
make him savior
so today I want to let you know
that God desires to be close with you so
much that he sent his only son to die on
a cross for you for every mistake that
you did make that you are making and
that you will make he’s saying I want to
be so close that I’m tearing down all of
the veils all of the walls all of the
priests everything that they used to
need to get to me I’m taking all that
away I’m sending one final payment for
everything you would do just so that I
can be close
and today if you want to experience that
closeness in the room right now come on
standing all over this building
and even at home right now
if you want
to make Jesus Christ your personal Lord
and savior
in just a moment we’re going to pray I’m
telling you it’s the greatest decision
you could ever make it was the first
time that I stepped out of the seat of
control of my life
and I said I need you to do this I need
you to do it more than I can and it took
me from being a liar somebody who was
addicted to pornography somebody who was
a manipulator who had a felony case all
this other stuff and it didn’t turn me
into a perfect man it turned me into a
progressing man a man who was close to
God enough to be able to become who God
wanted me to be not just who I was
and today I believe this is your
opportunity right now
just where everybody’s at right now if
that’s you
you want to make Jesus Christ your lord
and savior
on the count of three I just want you to
slip your hand in the air this ain’t
spooky or crazy or weird if you’re in
the room even right now
this is
the greatest decision you could ever
make one I’m so proud of you
two your name is gonna be written in the
Lamb’s Book of Life your history is not
just taken care of your eternity
is gonna be taken care of three just
shoot your hand up in the room all over
come on there’s hands I see you in my
very I see you glory to God come on you
can clap right there there’s people
right now
that are giving their life to Christ
yeah listen
today everything changes because you’re
uncuffing from being in control
and you’re giving control to Jesus
on the count of three we all gonna pray
cause we’re a family at Transformation
Church don’t nobody pray alone you hear
what I’m saying
so let’s pray for the benefit of those
all of those who are coming to Christ
everybody say God
thank you for sending Jesus
just for me
today
I repent
from my old life
and I Turn to You
I’m giving you
control
have your way
I believe you lived
you died and you Rose again just for me
my life
it’s not my own
it’s yours in Jesus name renew me
transform me I’m yours amen can we give
God some oh come on
all over this people are getting
uncomfortable
and they are getting cuffed to God
[Applause]
hey all week
all week I hear this song my life is not
my own
[Music]
to you I belong you’re in control
so I give myself
I give myself to you
this is the song of people who aren’t
close to control my life is not
you made me with purpose for a purpose
to you I
so I give myself
[Music]
just one more time everybody all over
the building lift your voice and just
say say my life
come on just say
everything
my business
my feelings my anger my frustration
you’re in control God my life
I will no longer be cuffed to control
[Music]
just want to be close to you I give
myself
kill myself to you God I pray that this
week will be the best week of us
uncuffing
that when situations come that we about
to try to take control we trade that
for closeness
we come to you in prayer we ask you for
directions we ask you for ordering our
steps father
and father God through the rest of this
series I thank you that you’re about to
do a transformation on the inside of us
by the end of this year I declare by
faith we will not look or be the same
that we are today Father God this will
be the best year of our life because
it’s gonna be the closest year
we live to you
we trust you we believe you and we thank
you for it in Jesus name everybody say
we agree
we expect
until next week go out and live a
transformed life somebody give God some
praise right there
sir
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