Comparison is a normal, human occurrence. It’s hard not to notice when someone has a nicer car than you, a bigger house than you, or seems more successful than you. We have all fallen into that temptation. But we can’t let comparison trap us. When it does, we begin to live outside of our calling and the life God has for us. In week 4 of our series Cuffing Season, Pastor Mike warns us about the dangers of comparison and teaches us how to kill it in our lives. If you know someone who needs this message, share the link with them!
all right today is week four
of a series we calling cuffing season if
you’re ready make some noise
all right here we go
all right
wow
this whole series has been special to me
because this series
um like a few other series has the um
the the power i believe
to if somebody checks in from beginning
to end
literally transform your entire life in
week one
we started talking about the subtitle of
this series cuffing season the things
that you love that don’t love you back
how many people can name three things
right now that you love that you know
don’t love you back okay all right see
some of y’all are lying right now
because that cake you ate yesterday it
don’t love you back
and that person you keep dm dming they
don’t love you back they’re using you
okay can i already go for it
let me ask the question again how many
people have things in their life that
you love
that do not love you back hands please
i’ma start calling you out
all right
the reason we have to be that honest
about what we’re what we’re talking
about right now is because god can never
heal what you will not reveal
every sermon i’m trying to give you an
opportunity to say me too
it’s me
here i am
look that’s what i did like that’s all
i’m trying to get you to do because god
will never knock down a place where you
have the door locked
and i know you want him to because if
you god you would just he said but i’m a
gentleman
and i’m not that’s why i gave you choice
i stand before you today giving you two
options life or death i’ma give you the
answer to the test choose
life
but you still have a choice
so today i want to go further in this
series but i i gotta beg you
please go back as we are at week four if
you have not watched dissect and
actually ruminated and meditated on the
past three messages it’s gonna be
imperative for you to be able to hang on
for the next how many ever messages this
is
i feel like we’re in a flow right now
so so week one we talked about the
things that we love that don’t love us
back
week two we got specific and said we’re
uncuffing from comfort
last week we got we got we got knocked
around and and and god told us that we
need to actually uncuff from convenience
and this week
i’m coming in even heavier
okay i just want to i want to warn you
but we’re going to start light so then
we can go deep okay so so i know it’s
been a little a little rough for
everybody so so i want to play a game
starting off okay
and we’re going to play this this game
um could you give me some cheesy game
show music please maestro go ahead and
do that and before you do that before
you do that i need a couple like who’s
the newest married couple in the room is
somebody been married for less than a
year can i see anybody’s hands less than
a year
uh i need a christian ain’t christian
christian and dash
where are they at are they here is both
of them here all right come on come on
we all give it up for christian and daz
coming to my
impromptu game show that they know
nothing about
hurry
it’s live
all right here we go
how long y’all been married
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for four months
brother you gonna really need to know
these dates dog
you gonna get in real trouble
um
i’m gonna play a game cheesy music cue
now please
okay okay that’s good that’s good could
you put my game show um graphic up there
and i need you all to come up here for
me and i just need y’all to stand right
here come
this is comparison and compatible okay
so this is all i want y’all to do
i don’t want to mess up your marriage
but but but i want to just see where
y’all at right now okay so i’ma put two
things on the screen
and i want you to step to the side
that that you think that thing is the
thing you would want for the rest of
your life okay now i don’t need this to
be like a whole bunch of oh debating and
maybe no no i mean you got three seconds
okay and so i’m gonna put two things on
there and you go to each side which one
you think okay and then i want you all
to play at home okay so in the chat i
want you to do in the audience i want
you to yell out which one and we’re
gonna play this game together okay is
everybody ready i said studio audience
are you ready
okay okay
cheesy music you gotta play the whole
time okay there you go okay
which one
nike or adidas
okay they together on that one all right
here we go
which one
football or basketball
dang they just
y’all are in it together all right i’m
gonna step aside here we go which one
tesla or mercedes
uh-oh
all right here we go
come on i need you to put it in chat
which one
snow cones or ice cream
oh these are some snow cone people you
see them in the middle right there get
on get on the side christian okay
it’s cause they put chocolate ice cream
if they would have put cookies and cream
that would have been good
which one
instagram or tick tock
which one what’d y’all say
okay put it in the chat okay okay
everybody say which one
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beach or mountains
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what you call me
no i’m just flying this way i’ll just
well i’ll just flip this
everybody say which one
country mansion or city penthouse
apartment
oh she said uh
she walked over there with the quickness
okay
which one
since we’re in oklahoma oh you or osu
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she said i don’t care my hair is pink it
don’t even matter
okay
that was level one now we’re going to
increase for level two
and see what’s gonna happen okay
everybody say which one
now this is somebody or something
that’s the only one you have forever
which one do you want okay all right
lebron james or max from the ymca
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a gourmet meal
or dog food
y’all not playing no more
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writing a book
or being booked in jail
[Music]
who came up with these questions
a g wagon or a wagon
they haven’t moved
a laptop computer
or a typewriter
[Music]
somebody said a typewriter
where you from 1814 what is
[Music]
okay
a couple more
your dream house
or a barbie dream house
[Music]
y’all know y’all still not playing
okay dream house
a cassette tape
or streaming services like spotify
okay
can we give it up for our contestants
today christian
and his beautiful wife dash thank you
your prize is nothing i love you
i love you i love you
give it up for caleb sean ladies and
gentlemen
[Applause]
the truth is in round one
there was actual things that were
comparable
in round two there was no difference
and most people would say there’s no
comparison
lebron james
or max from the ymca
my dream house or a barbecue they’re on
completely different
levels
and and so so i have one more comparison
real quick
come here uh bella and come here uh g or
ava whichever one come here come come
yeah bring gigi get rid of my baby
tell me
that’s that baby look at daddy’s baby
this is the uh
who dressed you today
you look cute
a little baby heel zone did your mama
see you before you left the house okay
you look good
now now if i came up here as a loving
father hi daddy’s baby you did
and and look at daddy’s yay that’s
daddy’s baby okay
is that that he’s joy baby what you
looking at
you’re looking at your sister that’s
daddy
this is gia joy and bella monet
if i came up here as a loving father and
said i need everybody’s help
help me compare these two
which one
silence
because some things
were not made
to be compared
there’s no way as a loving father
that both of these babies who i was the
first person that held them
that i watched them cut yeah what i
watched it i watch you get cut out of
your mama
i i’ve changed diapers and there’s no
way
that you could ask me
yes amen
amen
this one’s gonna be a speaker y’all she
already she uh she love the lights you
you good hey what’s your sister name you
say bella
you say bella
say bella
see this week we’ve been hitting a lot
of milestones but there’s no
say bella
say
bella
you’re gonna you’re gonna play me in
front of all of these people there’s
other people watching we have practiced
this a thousand times say
bella
i love you too
this
there’s no way
i could be able to choose one
cause they’re both watch this
masterpieces okay
and i need you to look at yourself and
look at your neighbor and say i’m
a masterpiece
say it till you believe it say i’m
a masterpiece say it with faith say i’m
a masterpiece can y’all give it up to my
two little masterpieces
okay
i brought them up here
because
today i got to talk to us about
something that’s killing our calling
something we’ve been cuffed to
we’ve been cuffed to comparison
it’s robbing you
of the life god is intending
for you
and this is that stuff that don’t nobody
want to talk about because it’s so
usual for you that you don’t even see it
as comparing
you say things like i’m just evaluating
just weighing my options
just looking so i can get an idea
of what they have
so i can know
what i need to desire
but under all of those weak words
there is something that is motivating
negatively many of our actions ideas and
thoughts
and this literal
disease is called
comparison
and it’s gonna be quiet in here today
because
many of the people that are listening
are cuffed to it
some of y’all are watching the message
right now still scrolling on instagram
because you’re cuffed
to compare you follow people you don’t
even like
to make sure you’re doing better than
them
uh i’m gonna come straight for it
you always what they
what’s what they wearing
sen y’all some of y’all done sent your
friend to the party ahead of time
someone didn’t send what you wearing why
you i never want to be out of sync
to be in a place where i’m not up to a
certain level because i know somebody’s
always going to be comparing me
to something or someone else and many of
you are being robbed of your life
because you are more committed to
comparing than you are your calling
and today i’m coming to help you be set
free i want you to have your life back
i want you to enjoy today it might not
be everything that you want it to be but
it is what you got so god wants you to
enjoy it here
and that means you have to be uncuffed
from comparison
when i just brought my daughters up here
there’s no way
i could compare them
and literally choose one or the other
because they were made as masterpieces
and that’s why i need you to understand
how our god has formed us ephesians 2
10. i didn’t just make up those words i
need you to declare this over your life
no matter what way size you are no
matter what you live in today no matter
what job you have no matter what tax
bracket you’re in no matter how pretty
your kids are or how
great of personalities your kids have it
does not
matter
for we are god’s
masterpiece
he has created us a new in who christ
jesus
and he does that so we can do something
so we can do
the good things
that he planned for us
a long time ago you can’t do the good
things not liking what god’s given you
you cannot do the good things he planned
for you and you are comparing yourself
to everything and everyone and every
other
and not looking at what god has placed
in your hands all you have
is all you need but yet you are
disgruntled about what god’s put in your
hand and you still not even using it
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but you’re still using your sight
and your ears
and you’ve been cuffed
to comparison so i need to say it to you
today some of my points is like foul
just right there but but i need you to
hear me say this and i i’m saying it
because this is something i was cuffed
to for years
it wasn’t just until the last probably
four or five years that i’ve been
uncuffed from caring what anybody
thinks about what god is doing in my
life why
because looking at your lane makes me
stumble in mine
if i’m so focused on every step you’ve
taken
and every step that you’re gaining and
how far you are behind me
then i will stumble
on the thing that god has called me the
lane he’s called me to run and today i
want to set you free that’s why this is
a point everybody needs to write down
and get in your mind nobody’s ever told
you this but compare products not people
i’m fine with you
deciding do you want cl uh clorox or or
or tide
figure out which one that compare those
try them i’m fine with you
deciding if you want chick-fil-a
or popeyes
compar you can compare those all day
but
me or you
your church or their church oh
compare products
not people
god never calls a product in the bible a
masterpiece
but he calls every human creation
i’m not somebody say i’m a masterpiece
and i’m gonna keep saying it this whole
time because some of you have been so
wore out by the world and your own
comparison that you don’t even feel it
no more
you don’t you don’t even like you
okay
i see it
when when you’re sitting there
and there’s breath in your body
but you still will not come places
because you don’t want to be compared to
how you looked in a different season
you you won’t even show up
to do what god’s asked you to do yes
your first time stop comparing your seed
to somebody’s tree
why in the world
are you here
knowing this is your first time ever
public speaking and you want to sound
like me this is 12 years of failure
like like but you won’t start on your
first step
because you’re comparing yourself to
somebody who inspired you be careful how
much you listen and look to people who
are so great if your self-esteem is not
so solid
because what it will do is rob you of
the first steps that you need to make
and you’re being so critical that’s what
i need to do i need to do cuff to
critical as well because some of us are
so critical of ourselves
that we won’t even give ourselves the
grace
to become
no baby comes out the womb walking
no matter how big the baby is
you can have a 14 pound baby
and that mug gonna still be honest just
lim limp
why
because growing takes
time
and if you don’t stop comparing your
business
and your idea and your family and your
pictures you can’t play for a
professional picture it’s all right set
up that polaroid and take a picture of
you and your family you might need a
stick to do it
but what i’m saying is
you may be missing out
on what is the greatest area
of your contentment uh oh
here’s a c word we don’t mess with a lot
in 2022
contentment
y’all know that scripture we always
quote i can do all things
through christ who does what shrinking
that is not
a scripture that is usually quoted in
context
paul is talking about i’ve been rich
i’ve been poor i’ve been beat i’ve been
in jail i’ve been praised i’ve been and
now i realize i’m content cause i can do
all things all of that crap
through christ who’s true that does not
mean go climb a wall and and and hang
from it with one hand i can do all
things i can that’s not that scripture
i can be content
i can do this
i can work a job where they don’t pay me
because i know i’m getting
the level of understanding and character
i need to run my own business so i can i
can do all things
see you don’t like the scripture in
context you like it as little quotes on
instagram but let me help you understand
what this really means i can serve a
family who doesn’t appreciate me the way
that i need to be appreciated because i
know that god is seeing every time i get
up and make these stinky kids and
lunches and cut off the crust and they
just run out and tell me they want
chick-fil-a anyway that sounds like a
personal problem
but i can do
oh
but it’s hard to stay content
when you study
comparison when you’re when when you’re
studying
and you’re you’re stuck i like that one
it’s hard to be content
when you’re stuck in comparison
so so today i’m going to let you know
we’re getting uncuffed from comparison
um
and and just in case because i hear some
people right now well i mean
i i need to know
i have to compare because that’s what
allows me to make educated decisions
i need metrics
i need the numbers i need to know the
facts i need to know the data
i understand that for your business and
all the things so so so so write this
down
god gave it to me on the way out here so
i don’t even think they got it as a
point but watch this um
uh
if you have data
only use metrics to measure volume not
value
if you need numbers how many instagram
likes and huh how much money did we make
and how many people okay i’m fine use
the metrics for what they were used for
to measure the volume of what’s
happening
but you can do something great that only
two people like
but it had amazing value
please do not confuse volume and value
some of the greatest albums ever made
only a thousand people have heard them
some of the greatest books ever written
they are not on the new york times
bestseller list they’re in somebody’s
binder and and what i’m telling you
they’re not even bound yet do not sum up
the value because of the volume
and i don’t know who i’m telling this to
but there’s too many people
who have in this instagram and facebook
and tick-tock and and linkedin age
have summed up their value because of
low volume
i’m coming to set you free you may not
preach to ten thousand but those five
youth group that you are pouring into
every week that has value to god i’m
about to preach this thing you may not
be raising up an army but you’re raising
two little kids by yourself and teaching
them the ways of god it has
value
tammy what god has placed in you has
value
project what god has said to you has
value
the movie may be shot on a camcorder
but i’m telling you
just because if it’s a low volume
does not mean that it’s not high value
that’s nice
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and that’s why you have to unplug
from comparison
because
there’s a lot of trash
that gets
publicized
oh come on
there’s a there’s a lot of things that
have metrics
that don’t mean nothing
and somehow if we’re not
solidly attached to our identity in
christ
we’ll start taking on the culture’s
identity for success
do you know what success is in the
kingdom of god
obedience
uh you missed it
it’s not how big it gets
it’s not how many people follow it
do you know
i was obedient when there were seven
youth in the youth group
pastor mike todd when did you become
pastor mike ty when i said yes to god
[Applause]
some do you think i need man’s
recognition
to be affirmed and verified by god
it was my yes when nobody was looking
that qualified me for the platforms i
stand on today if you want what i got
you say yes where i said yes and and
this is what i’m telling you right now
that’s why because we can’t go to those
places you have to be okay with your
race
and your lane and when god asks you
something you need to say yes
success is not about volume
it’s about obedience
oh i feel something happening to me
right now
and that’s that’s why that’s why i need
to tell you everybody say i’m uncuffing
from comparison
this whole section y’all mad at me
already y’all mad at me
somebody say i’m uncuffing
from comparison
so write this down people weren’t made
for comparison
yet we are consumed by it
parents stop comparing your kids
do you know how damaging it is
for you to say why won’t you be like
your big brother
what
you just took a wren wall
and compared it to a monet
those are two different masterpieces
created by a master creator
it would be it would be i’m not wise to
compare two things that were created and
fashioned for different purposes reasons
and at different times to have the same
standard and yet
you comparing your new husband to your
last husband
you didn’t think i was going to say it
he didn’t even get a fair chance
he didn’t even get a clean slate
because he came in and you said well i
ain’t never had to this is a new person
okay let me stop
i just feel there there’s a little
anxiety raising in the room rashina i
feel it
all i’m saying to you right now is
if we don’t unplug from this
this destructive engine of comparison
you will miss your calling doing
something you were never fashioned
informed to do
do you know how many people are working
in fields right now that god has not
given them any oil to be able to do that
and that’s why they’re burning out if
you’ve ever seen a car it needs oil to
be able to go through all of the
pressure the reason why you’re burning
out is ain’t no oil on what you’re doing
no oil
and you asking god and praying for god
to do something new in you he said you
need to change your engine
let me stop
because the only reason you started
doing that is because your best friend
was going into that field and you wanted
to go to the college with them and so
you said well i guess i could learn how
to do that too and so you went to a
place and y’all ain’t even gonna be
friends three years from when you start
this situation and so now you’re in a
whole field because you have a knack for
it and you actually got good and you’re
good at everything that you do so you
actually do it and then you actually
excel and then like you can make this
much money you can get six figures doing
it you spent 15 years of your life
being fashioned for something that god
is going to require you to give up
if you’re ever going to reach your
calling and some of us are so stubborn
that you wouldn’t leave that job if the
holy spirit came down like a dove
and said this is my child in whom i’m
well not pleased and i need you to leave
you still
because it’s the status
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it’s the title
how i’m gonna leave being doctor doctor
okay
you can be doctor whoever out of your
calling
you can be professor whoever out of your
calling you can be ceo of now i ain’t
working for nobody
okay
can i say something
i know this world has told you this
everybody’s not supposed to be an
entrepreneur
[Applause]
you’re going to spend the rest of your
life
you will you have the ministry see y’all
don’t read your bible there’s such thing
called as the ministry of helps
there is the gift of administration the
gift you can’t grow it to nothing to
administrate so god needs to connect you
with somebody and you need to be okay
not comparing yourself to somebody else
stay in your spot
and do what god’s called you to do cause
that’s where you went at
and i know everybody not gonna tell you
that but everybody not made to be an
entrepreneur got all them t-shirts
sitting in your closet don’t nobody want
them t-shirts
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got all them pens don’t nobody want them
pens
we don’t want them
you give them away and they oh thank you
they said
who helped me jesus
but culture will have you fooled out
here
comparing yourself to people who made it
doing that
and you’re like well i can do that and
god’s saying i never called you to do
that
stop being consumed by it okay
second corinthians chapter 10 verse 12.
this one
whoop to my tail
for we dare not class ourselves or
compare ourselves with those
who commend themselves
but they
measuring themselves by themselves
and comparing themselves among
themselves
are
not
wise
comparison
is not what this is god speaking through
his word
telling you should i be comparing myself
to them comparison
is not
wise
what’s the opposite of wise
dumb i’m gonna use a good word ignorant
so let me put it in a point that’s very
in your face comparison is an act of
ignorance
everything if the bible says it’s not
wise to do
yet we’re consuming our life comparing
ourselves to their house and to their
neighborhood and to their hairstyle and
to their length and to their curl
pattern and to their makeup and to their
jawline oh yeah i’m coming for you and
to their their booty and today and today
how how do they calves look like that
and to the way they play drums into the
way they play keyboard and we’re
comparing to the way that that their
kids act and and we’re comparing to the
way that that they eat and we’re
comparing all this stuff the bible says
this is not wise which makes it an act
of ignorance
next time you get on instagram and start
being mad cause they on vacation know
that you are committing an act of
ignorance
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y’all seeing the lord it’s where where i
am mentally right now you not there
you at work
where you need to be mentally is check
into this job and do everything that
you’ve been paid to do as unto the let
me stop see this is ceo talk right now
you’re making a tick tock and what god
is asking you to do is be fully
committed
[Music]
[Applause]
now you posting a picture of you at the
beach you about to lose your job you’re
not going to the beach
you’re going to be driving to gathering
place talking about you at the beach do
you hear what i’m saying because you
are so consumed in comparison and you’re
committing an act of ignorance
come this the bible y’all
and some of y’all have siblings you’ve
been comparing yourself to your whole
life
that’s why you get anxiety around all
the holidays
because you feel like you got to go
there with something new
that you gotta prove that you gotta
some of us make markers and goals set
around who we’re gonna be around
so that we can prove to them we’re
enough
now by christmas i gotta don’t know i
ain’t messing with thanksgiving this
year cause by christmas i gotta go back
home and and
i gotta have a man
my sister was married at 22
my brother was married at 26 and i’m 35.
my wretched life
god what are you doing with me
if it’s not your will for me to get
married lord just tell me
and you’re doing all of this and god
said literally like
you you’re so much in comparison when i
send you the man or the woman
[Applause]
[Music]
you wouldn’t even recognize them because
you have so many types
that you’re comparing the person i have
for you for
that you will dismiss what it’s supposed
to help you become
and it’s a part of your destiny because
you’re comparing to something you’ll
never have
but i just want to i mean i mean i know
i’m still working on my body but he got
to be i mean at least six four
and i mean he ain’t got to be ripped but
he got to be like toned
and you sitting over here looking like
never mind
but what i’m telling you
what if what if you measured you how you
measure other people
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no for real
what if you measured you
they always late you was on time for
this
but but anything that’s outside of this
job
you don’t keep your commitments the
bible doesn’t say at your job yet yo yes
bs and you’re nobody no it says
everywhere you go let your yes vs your
no be no all i’m saying is there’s some
people that are listening to this and
they’re prideful right now and they’re
self-religious right now think i don’t
compare myself to anybody but you are
silently judging me you have that
pharisee sadducee swag
yeah
you don’t say nothing out loud but it’s
all in your heart
you think you better than me
you think you better than them you think
somehow that your sin don’t stink too
but what i came to tell you is that
everything that’s in you is in me and we
all on this journey trying to figure out
how to get sanctified
pure
and to do that i can’t be looking at you
don’t let comparison kill your calling
okay
yeah comparison is an act of ignorance
let’s just go to hebrews 12.
see we always read this scripture and i
think we
we don’t ever see it in light of us
comparing ourselves to other people we
see it in light of like oh when we get
to heaven because there’s going to be
such a great cloud of witnesses but
watch this
therefore since we are surrounded yeah
by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the
faith
you need to do something
let us
strip off
every way oh comparison
no no it’s talking about sin no it’s
going to address sin in a minute
but every weight that you carry in
is not a sin
so some of y’all no no it’s not a sin
to to actually have relationship with
that person it’s a weight
and god’s saying strip off the
weight not just the same we’re going to
talk about the sin
but many times i can’t even address the
sin
until i address the way oh god
and god’s literally saying to us
i need you to address comparison
convenience
comfort not because they’re sins yet
because they will turn into them
they’re not sins everybody say yeah
but they are weights now
and some of you are so bogged down that
god can’t put any burdens on you
you’re so weighed down with comparison
that if god told you to do something
nobody’s done
you don’t even have the faith
to be able to step out because you have
so much you actually have the strength
for it
you don’t have the space for it
somebody’s gonna catch what i just said
god’s literally saying you have so much
weight on you right now
comparison and convenience and he said
you would have to strip off that weight
to be able to handle the burden
that i will give you to change your
community to in-sex trafficking to be a
person that stands up for justice to be
able to love the people around you but
you don’t have
the space
but you still have the strength because
you’ve been carrying around comparison
since you were six
your spiritual calf muscles is huge
that means every time you get in front
of people you thinking what do they
think of me
it must be exhausting
to literally go everywhere do
can i tell you something that nobody’s
probably told you you look amazing
you’re doing good
you could be
way worse
but you’re still here
god has graced you with another day
he’s still standing with you
he wants you to succeed as long as
there’s breath in your body there is
purpose in your life you are valuable
but all that can be said
and if you still don’t believe it
have you ever tried to give somebody a
compliment who didn’t believe it
and it’s literally like how they say
water off a duck’s back
i don’t know if you ever seen water fall
off a dog’s back but they got on like a
next level swimsuit that god gave them
and like literally you can see that they
can go down and come up and go
and like all the beads of water they
will be completely dry that’s how some
it’s not that you don’t have people
around you that are encouraging you
we here
you just don’t know how to receive it
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it’s because you’ve been cuffed
to comparison
oh my god that’s the whole reason you
got married
you were trying to create a picture you
saw
instead of marry somebody for the
purpose that god showed you
okay let me let me step back cause i
felt that i felt the anger
says let us strip off every weight that
slows us down
and then it addresses sin
especially
sin
okay
that so easily trips us up
and this is the thing about running in
your lane and let all of us
run with endurance
the race
god has set before
us
do not run
somebody else’s
race do
not
run
somebody else’s race why do i do that
with all of the things that are going on
it works for them god you’re not
speaking to me i don’t know how to do
this are there so many things to focus
on how how
did you keep reading in the bible
we do this
by keeping our eyes
on who
jesus
the champion he already win every race
you’re going to be in
he’s he’s the champion who initiates
he says ready set bow he brings you into
the game
and he’s the one standing at the finish
line
he initiates and perfects our faith
because of the joy that was awaiting him
he did this too
he endured the cross disregarding the
shame now he’s seated in the place of
honor beside god’s throne this is this
is the thing i want to let you know we
can’t compare because we have our own
lane our own set of rules and our own
expectations
and god’s sitting in the grandstands of
heaven
saying just run
your race why because i put it there
this lane was not put by your parents
this lane was not put by your professor
this lane was not put by somebody that’s
a celebrity or a life coach the lane off
called you to run
is the lane i put in front of you
run that race
your joy is in that race your blessing
is in that race your peace is in that
race
your rest is in that race
your efficiency is in that race your
family being whole is in that race when
you step outside of that and run
somebody else’s race because it looks
good
you stepped out of the grace for your
race
okay
and do you know the quickest way to
devalue something
is to compare it to something else
you loved your stuff
until you saw they
stuff but nobody shoes better than your
shoes
until they came out with a new pair of
shoes
and and and and
holy spirit helped me communicate
everything that’s in my heart right now
because i if if i could just get you to
do one thing i would get you to uncuff
from comparison because then it would
allow you the space
to uncomf from comfort and convenience
but right now you worried if what they
doing and what they doing
is everybody watching this series okay
then i’ll watch it
you we might be in cuffing season god
tell you to go by back and watch expect
effect
well that that’s not where everybody
else is
i ain’t ask you all that
i didn’t ask you
what everybody else i said stop
comparing yourself somebody say i gotta
stop
comparing
this masterpiece
say it one more time i gotta stop
comparing
this masterpiece this is the most
faithful thing you’ve said in a long
time say it with faith say i gotta stop
comparing
this masterpiece
has anybody ever had a toothache before
now i don’t know um for everybody who
has not had a toothache go to the
dentist
keep brushing your teeth
my mama said that’s right
um
there is no pain in this world
oh my god i got emotional
there is no pain in this world
like a toothache
especially a toothache when you don’t
have dental insurance
and the toothache when you’re broke
ain’t nothing like that pain
some of y’all get them two days like oh
i’m gonna call jim tomorrow and go get
there was a season in my life
there was only two options stay with the
pain
yank that hoe out
that it those was my only two options
oh excuse me i got too real for you
i remember
i told you we’re a real church here
progression not perfection all right
i remember
having a tooth pain
that was so bad
it had me
outside
with my shirt off
towel over my head
screaming in my neighborhood like this
oh
my neighbors came outside and said are
you okay i said i’m just doing an
exercise yoga just
practice y’all
this
hurt more than anything i’ve ever
experienced and it and
a toothache is the only thing that will
really make a grown man
cry
you can literally be sitting there all
the orajel don’t work no more
my father-in-law had me gargling whiskey
i was like i’m about to just drink it
because i need to be drunk right now
my whole mouth on fire
they couldn’t see me for another week
and a half
oh
it messes with your attitude
can’t eat nothing
they ask you for things that your whole
body still work except yo too but you
think that nothing else works
can you lift that yo wrong music
when i finally went to the dentist
i realized what happened
is that there was a cavity
that ate away
at the foundation of my tooth
so much so
that it hit a
a nerve
now you ain’t never
ever experience your body go into
immediate paralyzation
until
something hits that
okay okay now i wanna i wanna bring this
back to comparison
because there’s a progression of
comparison
comparison always starts with a cavity
something that’s missing
it could have been words people spoke
over you
it could have been things that you saw
that you knew you weren’t and there was
something that was a hole created by
this world
and now
you are at the place where it can hit a
nerve
that’s why when you’re scrolling you see
certain stuff you’re like
what did that hit
that’s why you can go certain places and
you see certain type of people and they
remind you of other type of people you
don’t even know them but they just
remind you
of people who treated you and it hits a
nerve okay
and
and i need everybody to see this
comparison always starts with the cavity
a whole something that you feel like
needs to be filled but it’s not filled
so you start looking at other things to
feel this hole that only christ was made
to remake
and that’s why when i say comparison
comes after there’s a cavity it’s cause
if you like yourself
can’t nobody mess with you about
yourself
like whatever area you’re super
confident in and you have god’s grace in
and you feel confident in in that area
can’t nobody mess with you in that
it’s the places where there’s a cavity
and and that’s why i’m asking you where
are the cavities
where are the holes
where are the spaces in your life
that the enemy has been filling up with
comparison
that it’s only hitting more nerves
and hurting you deeper
you will fine with your house till you
saw the house
you was fine with your car
you prayed for that car
you anointed that car with two carts of
oil every day
and prayed in the spirit it helped your
devotion life
until you saw that car
you was good with your wife
until it was that time of the month and
they giving you compliments at the water
cooler
it was fine with your kids
until they became teenagers
okay let me just stop but you did
so the progression is it starts with a
cavity but write this down a cavity
becomes comparison
so so there’s there’s there’s such a
place you can get with a cavity do you
have a picture of a cavity i don’t know
if some of these people have ever seen a
cavity before
somebody said no i could just open some
of your mouths and we can see it but if
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okay
so so i i gave him the pg rated version
of a cavity
right right there is a cavity and going
down into that black part is where it
can hit a nerve okay
the reason the cavity is even there is
because they were tasting or eating
something
that was not good
for their teeth
nobody gets cavities eating lettuce
if you brush your teeth
and you eat greens
and chicken
and fish
you don’t get it’s when you put sugar
when you get things that your flesh
likes
and craves
and desires more of when you put that in
your mind those are the things that
create cavities
and cavities
can go to such a place where it hits a
nerve
where they can’t fill in the tooth no
more
now some of y’all know about this
but what ends up happening is they say
the nerve has been exposed too long
and what we’re going to have to do
is we’re going to have to kill
the nerve
and at the moment of pain
you don’t care
you murdered that nerve
murder it now
but what they don’t tell you at the
point where you make this impulse
decision because you don’t want to feel
the pain anymore
is the effect that that space now has
on all your other teeth
take out one of your teeth
just one
and watch how your teeth
do the dougie
all around your cup i’m not even pl then
mugs start and then they don’t watch me
where they’ll do the whole
you will look at yourself
and because of taking out something that
hurt in the moment because the nerve was
exposed you’ve now opened yourself up to
a whole nother set of problems what are
you saying comparison doesn’t just come
with comparison
it leads
to coveting
okay
i know these are big words we don’t use
in 2022 but they all through the bible
the cavity
goes to comparison
and comparison
turns into coveting
and now coveting is a sin
this is why it says it’s not wise
to compare
because you’re one step away from
coveting
why would you be close to sin
if you could be far away in contentment
you can either live content
or you can have a cavity or you can live
in comparison or you can live in
coveting and god says i want my children
to be all the way over here
content
god if this is what you’re giving me
right now i’m not comparing i’m not
comparing with them
i’m gonna stay right here
yes
get married
yes
have a successful bit yes
kids is beautiful yes
and still be good
my marriage still need work
still be good
i’m not the weight i want to be still be
good uh see y’all
i’m trying to teach you everybody say
contentment
and some of y’all are so mad right now
cause you don’t even know anything else
except comparing yourself
even when you win it’s not a win until
it was better than somebody else’s win
you don’t even celebrate what you did in
k and just just in case somebody else
did something great it takes away your
thunder takes away yo your fire takes
away i thought it was until it was
somebody else’s birthday how do y’all
know that everybody has birthdays on
your birthday
and the more people you know there will
be multiple people that have birthdays
on your same day i met somebody was so
mad that it was somebody else’s day new
birthday on their birthday
and they literally let what that person
did for their 30th birthday
ruined something they had been looking
forward to for the entire year
it’s because they started everybody say
write this down coveting
yeah comparison becomes coveting and
look at exodus 20 17
you shall not covet
your neighbor’s house
it’s so specific this is so nasty i love
the bible you shall not stop going
through the neighborhood saying how they
get here
you may not say it out loud but you feel
it in your heart
don’t covet their house
you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife
stop looking at your friend’s wife
wishing you would have met her first
we’re the close camera
give me give me a call they need to see
my face get bring the camera right here
stop looking at your friend’s husband
wishing you would have had a night
to show him how a real woman
treats a man oh i know what’s in your
heart
and you watching all these shows that
are reinforcing
this idea this sex in the city idea that
and i ain’t gonna call too many shows
because i know y’all watching but i’m
just gonna tell you
that that idea
has you in sin
you are
coveting covenants
that god did not give you
and you’re neglecting
the thing that would be your good thing
if you actually put effort into it
the grass is not greener on the other
side it’s greener where you water it
and i’m telling y’all husbands and wife
you need to stop well i wish you would
do something like that for me and i wish
you would you need to stop doing that
and you will reap what you sow some of
y’all are waiting for somebody to go
first and faith goes first
faith says i’m gonna be the one to do it
i’ma say sorry i’m a plan date night
i’ma go well i’m just sick of giving
jesus wasn’t sick or given to you he
gave everything to you and it is the
season and the time for us to stop
comparing
let me stop they
okay
shall not covet your neighbor’s house
you shall not cover your neighbor’s wife
his male servants
or his female servants
or his whip
that’s the ox
or his donkey or their business that was
how they got around or how they did
their business
or anything
any everybody say anything
that is your neighbors
coveting is a
sin this is one of the ten commandments
like it’s up there with thou shalt not
murder
thou shalt not compare yourself to the
place where you want what they want
we don’t say it like that but it’s that
raw in the bible
don’t cheat on your wife don’t cheat on
your husband
don’t want what they have
be content with what you want and i know
somebody’s like but is there a desire is
there a problem with wanting more no
more of what god wants for you
but not more what they got
because at the moment people come into
the equation you’re not supposed to be
comparing to people
god’s saying would you let me give you
your lane
so you can run your race
and get your life back
you’re not living when you’re comparing
it is
it is literally an exercise
of frustration
to look at everything god’s given you
and to look at something that god’s
given other people and devalue what
god’s placed in your hand
what i’m just trying to tell you right
now is it’s time to get uncuffed from
comparison
so you can actually live and have a
happy
joyful
full of faith life
that is content with what god has placed
in your hands because all you have
is all you need
what’s in your hands right now look at
your hands just look at them just put
them out like this
there are things there are children
and influence
and ideas
and cures and solutions
and love and joy
and administration and health
and there’s things that god has placed
in your hands that he has never
coded anybody else in this world for
except you
and comparison is robbing not just you
as robbing all of us
of the truest greatest version that you
are supposed to be
and today i’m asking you
uncuff
from comparison
i feel the spirit right there
oh and you know this is not an age thing
all the time that just asked act like
because you’re over at the age of 60.
you don’t you don’t care no more
yeah you still got that crease on all
your jeans
there must be a yale cleaners all the
time cause let me stop you
cause you desire
to be
presented and looked at and done a
different way we all got our things
and god’s saying just
uncover
because if it goes from
a cavity
well let me just
let me just say it like this we all
started out as con content
like like like when you come into this
world don’t take it don’t take much
to satisfy you
food
and a changed diaper
you’re not looking at other babies like
what you eating
demarcus what kind of milk you got over
there
trevor what does white milk taste like
what does black milk taste like what is
hispanic meal taste like don’t nobody
they are content
what they’re get we learn comparison
we are teaching our kids comparison
how y’all i’m just trying to tell you
something that’s killing our
we literally talk about we ain’t going
to that church this sunday because they
worship don’t be right
you literally just put into the next
generation choose a church
by the worship being the style you like
not if you’re called there to help and
serve
and become who god’s called you to be if
the worship they may need you
for the worship to be right
they may need you i ain’t going there
because and that’s the problem
you don’t want to be a solution
when that’s who god created you to be
but i’m comparing
what are y’all doing what are y’all
doing and this is why we
for we can’t we can’t stay in content if
we got taught
and we got a cavity and now we have
comparison and then we end up in covet
covetousness and i want to say this sin
that that
coveting and any sin that we have over
here is a
illegitimate response to a legitimate
need i’m going to say it again
sin is not this crazy thing you actually
need to be whole
so anytime you sin
it is a illegitimate response to a
legitimate need
you need peace
so what you start doing is going to
sleep placebos and things that cannot
fill
you up and you do things that cause you
to sin but it’s because you actually
need peace
you want love that is a legitimate need
but laying down with everybody is not
going to give you that it’s an
illegitimate response to a legitimate
knee i just want to let everybody know
that’s like man okay i keep messing up
what you need is real
where you get it from is wrong
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you’re not a bad person you’re human
and so what i’m telling you right now is
the reason we have to stop comparing is
because we gotta get it from the right
source james chapter four
verse two it says you want what you
don’t have
so you scheme and kill to get it
you are jealous of what others have
but you can’t get it
so you fight and wage war to take it
away from them
yet you don’t have what you want because
you don’t ask god for it
that is some nasty bible right there
god stop trying to get it without me
come to me
you want a home that can entertain
people not a home because they got a
home you want a home so that you can be
able to to facilitate healing for people
come ask me
god is saying you want to be effective
in ministry and you want to learn more
god says come ask me you want your
children to be raised in the admonition
of god and be able to love jesus all the
rest of their life and you raising them
in a world where snapchat is taking over
come ask me i’ll teach you
but you got what you don’t want
and you can’t have it cause you asking
the wrong person
you ever been at a restaurant asking a
wrong person for help
what do you say when they can’t help you
let me speak
to the manager
and if the manager can’t help
let me speak i’m trying to go as far up
the chain as because somebody has
the authority
to change my situation god’s saying stop
going to all these people
that do not have the authority to change
your situation
ask me for it
verse three and even when you ask uh-oh
you don’t get it
because your motives are wrong
you want only what gives you pleasure
you adulterous
you’re adulterers don’t you realize that
friendship with the world
makes you an enemy of god
i’ma say it again if you want to be a
friend of the world
if you want to be a friend of the world
you make yourself an enemy of god
this is all leading
out of us wanting and desiring things
that god said that ain’t in your lane
so be content with what i gave you let
me put it in a point comparison is human
but not holy or helpful
i want to acknowledge it’s human
oh when you get older it’s like ah
their car
their body
their calling
their platform just trying to get like
just want to be able to do like
but the true problem is
it’s human but it’s not holy
and it’s not helping you
and that’s why i look at
the story of the prodigal son
and i’ve changed it after this cuffing
season it’s not
we talk about the prodigal son
but i call it two cuff the brothers
y’all know the story
in luke 15
where there was one brother that was
like yo daddy give me all my inheritance
i’m going out to turn up turn up turn up
turn on turn up and he goes and i want
it now he’s like i got plans for you no
now
daddy gives him the inheritance goes out
turns up for a little bit loses
everything that
dad gave him and provided for him it was
the grace that he had anything in the
first place
jesus is telling this parable he
literally goes and squanders and it’s
like ah
well i’ma i’mma live out here in the
world like everybody else and this man
finds himself in a pig pen
looking at what pigs eat which if you
know anything about farming pigs eat
anything
excuse me everything
that it don’t trash
scraps
other animals feast you put it in they
call it a trough
and they just eat whatever
this man had gotten so low in his life
having such a big cavity
comparing himself to people out here it
robbed him of his calling and his
identity as a kid of royalty
so much so where he had been in that
state
and he’s looking at what the pigs is
eating like
i wonder what they share
and the crazy thing about this is we
look at this story and we don’t see
ourselves
but many of us have been so in positions
that we’re taking things oh what’s the
name of this series cuffing season what
is cuffing season it’s when you settle
for something less than the standard
because of isolation
this man was isolated
and he had devalued his situation and
now he’s looking at trash like it’s good
and he has an idea let me go back to my
father’s house
and we know the story the prodigal goes
back daddy’s like is that my boy
he’s waiting on him he goes out there
every day trying to see if he’s coming
out he doesn’t wait like father god
doesn’t wait till you get right
you start making a step towards him
and he’s running after you with grace
he says get the ring get the robe get
new shoes
my boys get y’all better playing the
biggest party tonight
we celebrating
cause he was lost
but now he’s found
we love this story because it’s most of
our story
but there’s another brother
and we just kind of leave him to the
side we always talk about the brother
who came back to god but i just want us
to visit him for just five minutes
to figure out if this brother was cuffed
to comparison
luke 15 25 32 meanwhile the older
brother was in the field
when he came near to the house he heard
music and dancing what the
so he called one of the servants and
asked him what is going on
your brother has come home he replied
and your father has killed the fattened
cat and because he has him back safe and
sound that because he has him back safe
and sound the older brother became angry
and he refused to go in why because he
was comparing what he had done
and what his prodigal brother had done
that quick y’all it didn’t even take two
seconds for him to put himself against
his brother and compare and look what it
did write the point down comparison
keeps you out of rooms you were supposed
to go in
oh that’s nasty
this man had a a seat right next to his
daddy and his brother
and because he looked at what he had
done and what he thought this brother
didn’t deserve and what this person
didn’t deserve in their business and
what this church didn’t deserve and what
people that come from backgrounds like
that don’t deserve and people with that
skin color don’t deserve because he did
it that quick
he became angry
and he stayed out of a room that he was
supposed to be in
and i just
want to tell you that if you were cuffed
to comparison
you have taken your name
off of
seats
that god already had pre-marked you to
be
you keep comparing to them you’re
supposed to help them
the reason i had to uncuff from
comparison is cause my next connection
was through somebody i was comparing
myself to
and god said i can’t give you the next
thing cause that’s the vehicle i’m gonna
use and if you see them as an enemy and
you see them as somebody that that makes
you feel devalued you’ll never show up
fully to what i’ve called you to do so
you need to celebrate them instead of
compared to them because that’s your
next level
and so many people
because they’re compared they’re cuffed
to comparison
you sitting outside of a room pounding
that you should be leading in
the church didn’t recognize my okay
that’s why i’m going to okay
three years from now you’d be the ceo
but you won’t you won’t even start by
apologizing for you you did that was
wrong what you did
well if they would have never been i
wouldn’t no no no no no
no
that’s not maturity in christ
okay let me
can i give you another point that i saw
right there because it just says it in
that verse 28 the older brother became
angry everybody say angry and he refused
to go in so
comparison keeps you out of rooms you’re
supposed to go in but this is the other
thing it does it makes you emotionally
irate
that quick he got angry
and being emotionally irate leads to
isolation
that quick comparison boom
he says what i need to do
is stay out
on an island
and isolate and this is the the
ignorance of comparison
then they’ll know
that i don’t i don’t i don’t approve of
this i don’t get down like that ain’t
nobody gonna mess up me like that and
like oh yeah we know
the truth of the matter is
people who really enjoying the party
don’t even care what you’re doing
can i tell you something
i’ve been off instagram for six months
we didn’t notice
that’s why you got announced when you
leave and and when you came back we
don’t even know
you mad and angry and frustrated
and we don’t even care
because when you’re consistently
concentrated on your calling
it is very difficult
to keep up with people who because of
why you don’t even know the dad thought
he would be excited about the party the
brother probably wanted to see his
brother but because he got emotionally
irate
he isolated himself mad over something
nobody even knows he’s mad about
half the things that
have the things that you won’t talk
about
and that people
have now experienced the distant but
don’t know what’s wrong
like
they don’t know
they don’t know it hurt you
i mean yeah if you put all the blues
clues together they could figure it out
but
the truth the truth of the matter is
they’re dealing with their own cavities
and their own insecurities nobody’s
paying attention to details on march
28th you called but you didn’t return my
phone call and still so then on april 6
i seen you at the store but you acted
like you didn’t know me and so then may
i see you like baby
could you just tell me
hey i’ve been feeling distance in our
relationship and it’s made me actually
feel different and i saw that you posted
about going to our other friend’s
birthday party and i started to compare
myself in our relationship that we’ve
been in for a long time to that
relationship and i just wanted to know
is everything okay with us
and two sentences from them
could turn everything that’s been
comparing you
into something that brings it right back
together
but pride
will keep you outside the room
how you doing how you doing
how you doing you’re not coming in no
and some of y’all been like that for
decades
decades
okay
look at the grace of the father luke 15
28 so his father went out
and pleaded with him
it’s something about god coming and
finding you
i don’t know if you’ve ever had that
happen but like daddy knows you not
there
he should be here by now
he should have answered the call by now
he should be leading by now
she should be here using the giftings i
gave her by now
by now she
she should be helping some where is
i’ll be right back y’all keep turning up
hey boy
what you doing
why you
i sent them to tell you your brother’s
home
we got a party all week
i got a special seat for you i got a
purpose for you i got a calling for you
now the plan i have for you and your
brother together can happen
everything i built was for y’all’s
legacy
it took both of y’all to do what i
planned to do
when he walked away you shouldn’t be
competing you should be completing
i got something for y’all to do
[Applause]
verse 29
dad
all these years
i’ve been slaving
for you and never this will be
[Music]
yeah you never gave me even one young
goat
so that i could celebrate with my
watch
if you don’t catch anything else i say
please catch this
comparison
makes you a slave and not a son
did y’all see it in the scripture
he literally said all these years
i’ve
been
slaving for you
comparison had jacked up his perspective
so much
that he didn’t see himself as a heir
working for something he would one day
take over
he knows that his daddy got enough to
give
inheritances and he knew that he was the
only one that stayed and obeyed he
admits it but because of his own
perspective
and him being cuffed to comparison
he saw his own self as a slave and not a
son and my question to you today
is in the view of all god’s grace and
mercy
are you a slave
are you a son
nobody
can make you a son except the father
and god has been telling you
i love you
i’m pleased with you i got a plan for
you i made you a masterpiece and you’re
still listening to the comparison of
culture
god’s saying
your dna
it’s my dna
when you gave your life to me you became
a new creature i made you a joint heir
with my son jesus that’s your elder
brother why in the
world are you settling for the title of
slave
when i’ve called you a son
a daughter
cut from loyalty
somebody who’s supposed to stand in any
sphere and represent my name and be my
representative wherever i’m at you are
not a slave
[Music]
[Applause]
somebody needs to receive that lift your
hands right now i pray
the spirit
of spiritual slavery off of your people
right now
oh i feel that thing i pray in the name
of jesus
that that your children would see
themselves as
heirs father that this whole kingdom
that is being established is to lift
your name and give us dominion on the
earth father i pray right now that every
wrong thought process every perspective
father god every pain every hurt every
trauma that has robbed us of our royal
identity i thank you that is being
restored in your presence right now and
we would stand up no longer as slaves
but as sons
and daughters
of the most high god
in jesus name if you receive it go ahead
and give our father our abba oh come on
somebody in the back just got it if
you’re gonna be a son a daughter if
you’re gonna know your identity
[Applause]
imagine prince harry and prince william
walking around begging for something
that wouldn’t happen why because they
know their identity
yeah
luke 15 30. we almost out here can i
have five more minutes y’all can we
finish this up okay
um
luke 15 30. he mad he said yet you never
let me
even have one young goat so i could
celebrate with my friends comparison
but when this son of yours
has squandered your property
with prostitutes he was keeping tabs
comparison always knows
details
you working real hard
you you had to you had to pinch that
picture all the way in
y’all know how y’all be is that jerome
in the background
i see you
with prostitute and he comes home
and you kill the fattened cat and you
still show him grace and mercy
and you still celebrate him
watch this
comparison
paralyzes your perspective
and convinces you to live below your
privilege
when you compare
he’s literally comparing himself
to the brother who lost his inheritance
and he still got his
we don’t never think about it
he’s been living beneath his privilege
the entire he could have had a goat
every day of the week
if he wanted to
but his daddy doing it for somebody else
was the first time he ever had the
perspective to see that he might have
had permission
the reason you have to run in your lane
is because there’s things you’re praying
for that you already have permission for
but you don’t even ask about it or think
about it or see it or want it until
somebody else got it and god said i now
i can’t give it to you because it’s
coming from the wrong motives but if you
would just say god enlarge my territory
let me see me bigger let me see what you
placed in my head you ain’t got to do it
for nobody else but show it to me give
me the dream give me the vision give me
the idea let me be the one that you
large their stakes
don’t let me just want it cause they got
it
[Applause]
show me
oh i felt that thing
somebody say show me god
show me what’s for me
show me how you want me to live
show me how you want me to bless show me
how you want me to learn show me how you
want me to be
your hands and feet on this earth
i came to tell some people you already
have permission
for things that god’s placed in your
hands
but you’re so busy looking at what
everybody else is doing
that you don’t even want it until they
got it
oh my god
i wish the daddy would have asked have
you ever asked me for a goat before
you killed the goat for him when’s the
last time you asked me for go
you ain’t never
that’s never been a request to yours
if you were to cuss her to go
instead of taco tuesday we didn’t go
taco tuesday
you could have a goat every week
but it wasn’t until
you saw my grace on somebody else
that now it didn’t make you celebrate it
and made you think that i was less of a
father
because i would do it for them and not
for you i’m just trying to help you
right now y’all
that god’s view
and you in it
is messed up by how you see yourself
god hasn’t changed
but you think he has
because he gave somebody else something
to show his grace that you could have
had every day of the week but you just
ain’t never asked for it
oh god i’m in heavy water now i’m i feel
like i’m sinking over here
all i’m just telling you right now
is this man’s his perspective was
paralyzed by comparison
and he was living below his privilege
verse 31 the father speaking to all of
us my son my daughter
you are always with me
and everything
that i have
is yours
i just need to stop there and let you
know
god’s saying to you
my son my daughter
you’re always with me
and everything i have love
joy
peace
patience kindness gentleness
self-control all of these things
everything i got
prophecy
the ability interpret dreams the ability
to speak in tongues the ability to
steward gifts
everything that comes with me
gives some administration and helps
everything i got access to
you can have to fulfill your calling
you’ve always been with me
you’ve got everything you need cause you
got me
the the real statement is all you have
is all you need
because you have god
like it’s not just all you have is all
you need there’s stuff i don’t have
except when i put it in view of god
everything i need
i have
he said but we had to celebrate
this is why we turn up over one person
giving their life to christ
like do you know like like they told me
this morning 15
500 people have gotten saved in 2022. oh
y’all better help me celebrate online in
this building i said 15
500 people gave their life they came
home
glory to god
[Music]
that’s the vision of this church
transformation in christ but the crazy
thing is it’s hard for some people to
celebrate
because you see the transformation in
somebody else’s life and it makes you
feel like
god could do more in your life
see that’s why we have to be uncuffed
from comparison
he said we had to celebrate and be glad
because this brother of yours wow
he didn’t save my son
y’all you got to read the bible
he didn’t say because my son is returned
he said this has something to do with
you
every child of god that wins
is a win for this family
every kingdom business
every kingdom family every the reason
i’m celebrating
osbee’s weight loss is because that’s a
win for the whole kingdom the reason i’m
celebrating oh come on another year of
life for my brother brenton is cause
that’s a win for the whole kingdom
the reason i’m celebrating 42 years of
ministry for bishop and pastor debbie
it’s cause that’s
[Music]
[Applause]
[Music]
when you put your hands together for
somebody else
it still affects you
he said this brother of yours
that’s why i start claiming other
people’s blessings
my friends get a new house we got a new
house
you don’t even know how to
celebrate i bring welch’s to the party
i got a new house that means we got a
new house
it’s another place i can lay my head
if if oh god y’all don’t even understand
when transformation church wins
the body of christ wins
we gave over 8 million away last year
y’all don’t want to celebrate with me
but when p y’all don’t hear me you
should be every time we give a hundred
thousand dollars to a church you should
be shouting cause you might be next
oh my god
i’m gonna have to do a whole week on
celebration don
because we have lost the art of
celebrating
if it doesn’t immediately impact us
so we had to celebrate
because your brother was dead and now
he’s alive again
he was lost
and now he is found the most important
part of this whole thing look at this
comparison
always kills compassion for people
you will not have compassion
if you’re stuck in comparison
the very people
you’re measuring yourself against
which is an act of ignorance
according to the bible
are the very people
you’re called to help
about five years ago i stopped
criticizing celebrities
they don’t even make sense
i knew at some point
god was going to raise my influence
to a place
that people who don’t know me
don’t know where i live don’t know how i
serve
we’re going to be able to
give their opinion
about stuff they have no idea about
and i took it a step further some of
y’all been here on monday night prayers
like i’ll pray for celebrities like i’ll
call out people’s names and i’ll begin
to pray for them and intercede and
different things like that because it’s
different the reason i started doing
that
because now i’ve started to receive some
calls of people you would know
hey man i just
i see how you handle yourself and it
just seemed real
i’m going through a situation i just
need you to pray for me
[Music]
there’s no way
that god would trust those people with
me
if i was com still comparing myself
to the god is a loving father he’s not
about to send
his masterpiece
into the hands
of crooked
people
who are looking only for what they can
get out of the situation
the reason that god
has trusted me
with some people
who may be in this valley of decision
and they need to be like all of us
compelled to christ
just because you have money don’t mean
you have everything
how you killing yourself and taking
pills in xanax and lee and lean and all
that stuff with 25 million in the bank
25 million in the bank rate and you
still have to take pills to go to sleep
you got four houses and no home
yo
and what god told me he said the reason
i had to change your heart and you had
to stop comparing yourself
is because you cannot have compassion
for somebody
you are comparing with
and the very people that some of y’all
need to forgive
you have to stop comparing yourself to
them first
that family member
that sibling oh let me say one that’s
strong
that parent
i ain’t nothing like my mama well
it kind of raised you
right there in the core memories
and you need to forgive them
but every time you discipline your kids
anytime anybody tells you try to say
something or do something
you’re so you’re so consumed with
comparison to that
and what you don’t like about that
and what you don’t like about your dad
and what you don’t like about it that
you literally
won’t have the compassion
to even see them as a human
and i just want to i want to give us the
chance to uncuff from comparison
and ask god to come in
and do a work on our heart you can’t
help
you can’t help somebody
that you hating on
you’ll never serve anybody you don’t see
you won’t give to people when you’re
holding a grudge
and you won’t free anyone that you’re
ready to fight
this is why we have to uncuff from
comparison
caleb come out here cause i’ll preach
another two hours i got too many more
notes
i i hope somebody this is hitting your
heart today
because it’s going to come for you as
soon as you get out of this service
some of y’all’s been trying to attack
you right now
you’re gonna go to some of y’all need to
take a break from instagram
facebook you’re feeding the beast
you can’t even be happy about the
apartment you prayed for that apartment
you asked god to give you the down
payment for that apartment you asked god
to bless and he gave you a bed and a
comforter and now
because you’ve seen somebody that ain’t
even a house they’re a real estate
broker they’re just taking a video of
somebody else’s that ain’t even where
they live
you want you know one of the things i
can’t stand this ain’t even spiritual
but thank you for giving the music so
that that it feels more spiritual but
when you’re going to high-end like
stores yeah like louie and gucci and all
the people
have you ever had the people who work
there
act like they own the store
[Music]
i’ll be looking at them like you
work here
but for some reason just being in the
atmosphere
of wealth and they see you and they
looking you up and down and what you got
on and what you’re wearing and like they
can’t afford this and they won’t give
you service
oh y’all don’t hear me
they won’t give you service because they
don’t they don’t know
who your father is
and it’s so crazy that a lot of times we
acting like the person right now
that’s not getting the service but in
many cases
[Music]
we’re the people
judging other people
and comparing ourselves to them
because they ain’t been saved that long
they’re baby christians
what an arrogant
pompous statement
for somebody who’s been at that same
spot
there baby i can’t associate with baby
christians and i just have to be what
you’re proving to us is you’re not like
jesus
because he was drawn to the least of
these
[Music]
let the children come
let the ones who are broken and don’t
get it
because i’m not comparing myself to them
i’m compassionate towards them
three very simple ways to kill
comparison write them down and let’s go
home
the easiest way to kill
comparison
constant celebration
[Music]
i’m talking about start cheering for
everything
start start celebrating send it extra
text don’t just like it on a social
media platform hey i saw that y’all
having a baby i just wanted to let you
know i know you’re struggling with
infertility
god
it’s giving you a great opportunity
to see a miracle
as well as be content in the season
you’re in
celebrate
every person you can
who has
what you desire to have
until your heart is purified to the
point to where it’s not even fake
it’s a real thing
when i see my friends in ministry
getting new buildings and doing i
literally i am celebrating i’m sending
texts i’m i’m why because i know what
it’s like
to believe god i’m not saying well when
god gonna do it again for us
no
everybody say constant celebration
kills comparison
second thing
if you want to kill comparison be
confident in your calling
i have come to the conclusion
i will never be td jakes
and i’ll never be joel osteen i’ll never
be stephen ferdick i’ll never be some of
my favorite preachers in the world
and that used to bother me
because i wanted the impact in the
outcome
but i would have spent my whole life
living in a facade
to hopefully get something that ain’t
even coming cause i’m in the wrong lane
so i decided
i’m gonna be me
[Music]
i’m gonna show up everywhere
as myself
i promise you i went to the pga
tournament what was that yesterday the
day before
now i don’t know how many y’all been to
country clubs
but it’s a completely different
environment in there
everybody dressed like they playing golf
ain’t nobody playing except them few
people
[Music]
i have so many funny stories from that
trip
but i went with two of my homeboys
and these bros dressed like they was
playing golf too
and i was like is y’all playing and all
they had on different album
listen what you
wearing jordan ones
a big old chain
i
i’m gonna wear a snap i may have been
the only person in that country club
with jordan’s home
but i was completely
[Music]
comfortable
being
myself as soon as i walked in there
comparison tried to jump on me
because it’ll
try i mean i walked in there and
everybody you saw them look at me i was
like i don’t know bright colored shirt
all the designs i like that shirt
everybody else is inside like pink and
blue and i don’t i liked my shirt
and i walked in there and it tried to
jump on me
and god said show up here
like you show up everywhere
boy
i started wait hey
what’s up what’s up i see him looking
like
[Music]
you know where you ain’t been to where
you don’t even know what to do like
[Music]
by the end of that experience
i’d almost met tiger and
i know he heard me i know
he had to have heard me
and he did see me i know he saw me in
that shirt that i had
but when i left there
i didn’t feel like i had to become
somebody or something else
[Music]
i wasn’t cuffed to comparison i went
there as myself i left as myself
and i’m asking you to show up everywhere
that god has called you to be
as you
does that mean he doesn’t keep working
on you no because some of y’all
are stubborn
i’m gonna have to talk about that
another level this is me that’s been you
for 14 years
and god never leaves anything he loves
the same
there should be progression not
perfection okay you got it
but be confident in your calling
third thing last thing how to kill
comparison
compare
only to christ
comparing only to christ
well there’s only one person
that you should be comparing yourself to
the only measuring stick
the only standard
jesus that’s the whole reason god sent
him
they need
they need a standard
they need a playbook they need a
measuring stick
could you just give that to them jesus
live 33 years don’t sin i know it’s
gonna be hard
but don’t sin
show them how to deal with adversity
show them how to deal with trouble
show them how to deal with submission to
authority show them how to deal
and so forever i can leave this bible
and i can allow them to only
compare themselves
to you
remember tell those in the scripture how
do we do this keeping our eyes on
who’s the one who
started it and we’ll finish it
i’m gonna put it in the point and we’re
going home
christ should be our only comparison
not to see how far we are
but to see
how close we are getting
let me say it one more time
christ should be our only comparison
not to see how far we are
but to see how close
we are getting
every step of faith
every right decision
every temptation we ignore
every confession we make
every time we lift up our hands
every time we say i’m sorry
you look up to jesus
and you don’t say oh god i’m just so far
don’t have the perspective like that
brother
that live below his privilege have the
perspective as a son i’m getting closer
god i’m getting closer
you not that far away
five years ago we was way back there and
i’m not all the way where i want to be
but i’m getting
hands lifted all over
father i thank you
[Music]
that you would uncuff us from comparison
thank you for being the most high god
and thank you that
all over this world today we are
deciding we will no longer be
slaves but we will be sons and daughters
[Music]
receive that
said i’m no longer
a slave to fear
i am
a child of god
said i’m no longer
a slave to fear
[Music]
i am
a child
of god just sing that out a few times
just say said i know
sin i am
yeah
just one more time i’m no longer
[Music]
sin i am
what’s the next part destiny
[Music]
receive this right now
thank you lord
[Music]
[Music]
listen listen listen listen listen
if you’ve been cuffed to comparison in
an area of your life i want you to do
something right now i want you to stand
to your feet i want you to take a step
of faith i want you to stand to your
feet yeah all over whether you’re in
your house you might be at your cubicle
your your co-workers may be looking at
you just act like you’re stretching it’s
okay
yeah
just yeah
it’s all good
and just lift your hands and say i’m no
longer i’m no longer
[Music]
sin i am
i feel the presence
[Music]
father i thank you that you’re uncuffing
us right now i’m no longer
hey
[Applause]
yeah something’s happening for your home
your mind your perspective
[Music]
with your hands lifted let me pray for
you father i thank you for every person
that has admitted they’ve been cuffed to
comparison
today
would you would you feel the cavity
feel the hole in us that was made when
we were a child that was made when we
moved to that city that was made by
maybe our parents not being there that
was made father by that relationship
damage god i thank you that you would
heal the cavity
and there would be no room for
comparison
father for every person that has
been coveting
god today i’m praying for all of us
to go back to the start of actually
being content yep let’s pray for that
father thank you for the spirit of
contentment to rise inside of your
church father god
i thank you father god that where we are
is not where we’re always going to be
but father let us recognize that here is
holy
and there’s something you can do here
and you can get the glory here and you
can move in our spirits and you can
prepare us for what’s next right here
father let us no longer be a slave to
comparison
but let us accept who we are as sons and
daughters father
and let us be content with your love
today let it change the way we act
change the way we talk change the way we
walk change the way we wake up father
and let us have compassion for others
because we’re no longer comparing
ourselves to them
let us be wise
and no longer compare
i pray that you’re an uncuffing your
children today
marriages are getting stronger families
are coming together father i declare
businesses are going to be joyful again
father god because you are bringing us
into a place of contentment
and we let you do whatever you want to
do in us god
we accept being a child of god
in jesus name
as even i’m singing that song there’s a
group of people
that have not committed
to being a child of god yet
you’ve not given your life to him your
name has not changed
and today i want to invite you into the
family
just a bunch of your brothers and
sisters that you don’t have to compare
to we all been in the pigs pen in some
area of our life
and we gonna celebrate you you’ll see in
just a minute if you come back to the
home where daddy’s waiting on the porch
he wants to give you a ring he wants to
give you new sandals he wants to put a
new robe on you and you about to get
about 25 000 people celebrating what
god’s doing in your life i don’t care
what trough you were drinking and eating
out of last night
the grace of god
and your place at the table
and the party is waiting on you right
here in the kingdom of god
[Music]
today i want to give you an opportunity
to accept jesus as your personal lord
and savior it is the greatest one
decision i’ve ever made
it took me from being a liar a
manipulator somebody who was addicted to
pornography
had an insurance fraud case
had felonies had to do all kind of y’all
i was a mess
[Music]
but god said with all of that
give it to me don’t compare yourself to
them
don’t don’t compare yourself to them
just come to me
and i’ll give you a calling and i’ll
give you
a career
and i’ll change your character
and i’ll put you in a lane and i’ll
allow you to run and today i’m not a
perfect man i’m a progressing man
that is trying to get as many people to
daddy’s house as possible
and today is your day of salvation
get up off the pigpen
and come back to the palace
we’ve been waiting on you on the count
of three
we’re about to pray and if you want to
be included in this prayer to give
control of your life back to the only
one the master creator of you his
masterpiece
i want you to just lift your hands one
you’re making the greatest decision of
your life
two i’m proud of you but more than that
your name is gonna be written in the
lamb’s book of life for eternity three
just shoot your hand up in the building
or around the world yeah i see you
i see you i see you my brother
i see you my sister and if i don’t see
you god sees you heaven is standing up
right now we’re clapping but god is
rejoicing at a whole nother level
so we’re going to pray
[Music]
there’s thousands of people who are
going to celebrate you
there’s 15 500 that act just
transformation church this year have
done what you’re about to do
so
today we’re adding to that number
and i want you to know
your journey doesn’t have to be compared
to anybody else’s
today god wants
you now transformation church you all
know nobody prays alone
we’re gonna all pray this prayer out
loud for the benefit of those who are
coming to christ
so let’s just lift our hands and say god
take control
thank you for being my lord and savior
today
i uncuff
from comparison
and i cuff
to you
i believe you lived you died
and you rose again
with all power
just for me
today
i give you my life
i will serve you
i will love you
forever
i believe you lived
you died and you rose again
just for me
change me
renew me
transform me
i’m yours in jesus name
amen can we start a party
i said can we start
a party give god some praise in this
place
hallelujah
[Music]
the party is just beginning for you
[Applause]
we want to walk with you if you just
made that decision towards christ i want
you to text the number on the screen and
some of our party hosts are gonna text
you back and we’re gonna give you
information that’s gonna help you on
this journey
and i want you to know that we’re here
for you as a church
we want you to get into
big groups and get around community we
want you
to let somebody know your name we want
we want you to come to monday night
prayer some of this stuff is just the
catalyst just the beginning but we want
you every monday night at 6 00 p.m if
you’re in tulsa you can come to this
building now
and we’re praying getting ready back to
launch and do all the different things
get here and pray if you’re watching
online you can watch i’m like we’re just
asking god to do something on the inside
of us
and transform us
and uncuff us and we want to celebrate
with you so please text that number on
the screen
and for the rest of us
this week
god’s going to
challenge the word
[Music]
and we’re going to be okay
letting him fill in all the gaps
because i’m no longer a slave
i’m a child of god
[Music]
father bless these people
keep doing this working us god keep
giving me revelation
so that i can share it with your people
god
we’re uncuffing from comfort and
convenience and comparison because we
will no longer love things that don’t
love us back
we trust you and we believe you
in jesus name until next time go out and
live a transformed life let’s give god
one more hand to pray
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