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hurting people hurt people when you
learn that it helps you to be able to
get over the things that people do to
you there’s so much stress in the world
and people today are just about to
explode
I’m Joyce Meyer and I believe that God
can heal you everywhere you hurt
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foreign
welcome to Enjoying Everyday Life I’m
Jinder stockey Joyce’s teaching is on
the way in just a moment but first this
is going to be fun we want to take you
down memory lane together you see we are
celebrating 30 years of broadcasting the
gospel isn’t that amazing and whether
you’ve been watching Joyce for many
years or we are welcoming you here for
the first time today we are honored to
have you with us and we are so grateful
for the beautiful ways that God has used
this program and Joyce’s teaching to
change people’s lives there is power in
the word of God and there is nothing
better to be part of or more important
to Joyce than sharing that word so
here’s a brief look at some of those
messages through the years
many years ago I was standing in the
bathroom one morning and I was getting
ready and I just said to the Lord I said
why is it that I always have this
Sensation that I’m reaching for
something that I can’t get hold of
this is something I felt in me like I
was always reaching for something that I
couldn’t get hold of
and the Lord spoke to me and I didn’t
understand this stuff about Christ in
you the hope of glory it was many years
ago before I had all this teaching and
he said
don’t reach out reach in
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see I didn’t realize at the time that I
have everything in me that I need
because everything we need is in Christ
and he’s in US
[Music]
[Applause]
[Music]
we have to understand that our worth is
not in what we do
you’re not worthless because you’re a
housewife raising three children and
don’t go around saying well I’m only a
housewife
don’t you dare say that
well I’m only a housewife all I do is
change diapers and take care of kids and
empty trash cans and cook meals
well that’s the season you’re in right
now in your life and just for your
information that’s exactly what I was
doing when God called me to do what I’m
doing right now I was making my bed
when God called me and I think a lot of
people are out looking for a Ministry
and they ought to be making their beds
Hallelujah
and I’ve learned I’ve learned so much
about
people and how everybody’s different and
how you just have to accept people where
they’re at that I can’t change people
that only God can change people and if I
try to change people it just comes
across as demands and you know we can’t
just build little boxes and stick
everybody in them and tell them you have
to be the way I’d like you to be
one of the greatest Revelations you can
get if you don’t already have it is
everybody is not like you
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and furthermore that’s okay
[Applause]
our lives are wrong because our thinking
is wrong
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and our lives cannot be right until our
thinking is right
it’s like the Devil comes early in the
morning
putting wrong thoughts in your mind
and it’s like he’s just winding you up
foreign
and he said this is the way you look to
me all day what about me what about me
what about me what about me what about
me what about me what about me
[Applause]
I finally got so tired of me oh man
that I asked God to deliver me from me
how many of you think maybe you needed
deliverance from yourself
and nobody else should be somebody’s
slave
everybody shout out I love myself
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that God wants us to stand still and see
his Salvation
Cinema
God is a god of restoration
amen amen
I recall one time Dave and I having an
argument and I got so mad at him I just
he hurt my feelings and you know how it
is you’re gonna go into every room of
the house except where they’re at and
you don’t talk anymore you only grunt
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you’re not about to cook anything they
like or
wear anything they like or anything else
and I’ve been there done that not
interested in doing that again and so
I went into my office
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I got down the floor and I put that out
in front of me
and I laid down and I said now God
I’m not getting up
until you give me the grace to go out of
this room and go out there
and act like nothing happened
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I refuse to leave until you give me the
grace to forgive him
it’s pretty amazing that i’m 80 and
still at it huh
[Applause]
and you know what I don’t have any plans
to be anywhere but right here
I might get a little stiffer
but
I’ll be on that TV Monday morning to
greet you and bring you another word
from God I am committed to teaching the
word of God and I am qualified to teach
the word of God because I have got
experience and I can tell you that God
is faithful and God is good and you can
press through anything that comes
against you because the greater one
lives in you
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there’s people in here today that you’re
hurting
and you’ve been hurting
for a long long time some of you perhaps
most of your life because of something
that happened to you in your childhood
and it’s because you have refused
to lay it down
today is the day to lay it down
everybody in life is going to get hurt
I don’t care who you are what your
background is
you have already been hurt you probably
will get hurt again
but the good news is is the great healer
lives on the inside of us
as Believers in Jesus Christ you know
I’ve been hurt a lot in my childhood
abused by my dad and a couple of uncles
and my grandfather and married the first
guy that came along when I was
18 I got married and that was like the
dumbest thing I could have ever done
because
he was in worse shape than I was and you
know a lot of times wounded people marry
other wounded people and then they just
keep wounding each other and I did it
out of desperation I thought nobody
would ever want me so I just grabbed the
first guy that came along how many of
you know that’s a tendency when you’re
afraid of loneliness you’ll take
something even if you know down deep in
your heart it’s not going to be the
right thing
amen yeah preach amen and but then you
find out once you got it you got it
and so we were married five years but it
was more like a joke than anything else
because he constantly would run around
with other women didn’t work and and
just was a con man and a petty thief and
wrote bad checks and you know I mean it
was just a mess and he believed me all
the time he abandoned me in Albuquerque
he abandoned me in Oakland California
and I’d have to borrow money and come
home on a bus why why is it that women
that have been hurt
will marry somebody like that and then
just keep going back to them and keep
going back to them come on is anybody
hearing me and keep going back to them
you deserve better than that
and so did I but you got to stand up for
yourself
amen
we usually get what we put up with in
life
well I had one child
the end of that
marriage I had one miscarriage and then
I had one son we were married five years
and this boy was born right toward the
end of our marriage and I named him
David
that wasn’t my husband’s name I named
him after my brother actually but then I
met Dave
when my son David was nine months old
and
Dave and I had five dates he asked me to
marry him I always say jokingly but it’s
probably true he had to ask me before he
found out what he was getting otherwise
he would have never done it and
um
I had I mean
a boatload of problems so when I stand
here and tell you that the word of God
works
and it will change you and it will heal
you
I’m not telling you because I read it in
a book
I’ve experienced God’s healing power in
my life but I am going to tell you that
it will take more than you just praying
to be healed
we pray
and I think we’re we have a
misconception about prayer we think when
we pray then God fixes everything
but you know what I’m finding out more
and more even in the last two or three
years when we pray
very often God shows us what we need to
do
now I’m not saying that God doesn’t move
supernaturally anything we cannot do
he will do for us
if we’re going to do nothing and expect
God to do everything
then that’s not going to happen
and if you’ve been badly hurt by someone
you can get completely well and be whole
but I am not going to tell you some
fabricated made up
story it will not be easy
it will take time
it will take you doing some things that
you’d rather not do things that you
don’t feel are fair like forgiving
people
and maybe even being required by God to
bless those people
see here’s the thing
because somebody treated you wrong
that doesn’t give you a license now to
treat them wrong
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[Applause]
that God never tells us to give other
people what they gave us he always says
treat them the way you would like to be
treated
and sometimes you’re going to have to
treat somebody else right A long time
before they begin to treat you right and
there’s a possibility they might not
ever change but here’s the thing the
amount of years that we have here on
this Earth
are so limited I don’t think that you
realize in your 20s and 30s how fast
you’re going to be 60 and 70 and 80.
amen
you know my life is I’ve lived
almost all of it and so I tell you what
I’m going to double up and I’m going to
get make the devil extra mad in these
last years that I’ve got
because
I mean what God has done in my life is
absolutely amazing and I can tell you it
is actually totally impossible
if it was anything other than God
there is no way that what God has done
in my life could have happened and he
can and is and wants to do the exact
same thing in every one of your lives
but the first thing you’ve got to give
up is all bitterness
all resentment
all hatred
all offense
you have to let go of that stuff
because even as we read earlier before I
started actually the sermon in Mark 11
it says that whatever we ask
in Jesus name believing that we have
received it we will get it
however when you stand praying if you
have anything against anyone you have to
leave it drop it let it go or your
heavenly father cannot forgive you can
somebody please hear that enough to
actually believe it today
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so we realize what that’s saying
that any prayer that I pray if I’m
praying it with unforgiveness in my
heart God cannot and is not going to
answer that prayer
sometimes we’re praying for God to
change somebody and we’re in the middle
of hating them while we’re asking God to
change them
you know you can’t love what you want
somebody to be you got to love them
where they’re at
did you hear me
we can’t love what we want somebody to
be we have to love them where we’re
they’re at and that will help them get
to where they need to be and I’m not
suggesting that you let people abuse you
or you let them take advantage of you
that’s not what I’m talking about at all
but I am saying that you don’t you can’t
carry this stuff around in your heart
think about what Jesus said on the cross
father forgive them for they know not
what they do
Stephen when he was being stoned said
forgive them we read last night how Paul
when everybody deserted him he said Lord
forgive them
you know I think a lot of times when
people hurt us they really don’t know
what they’re doing they’re acting out of
their own pain a lot of times people
hurt us and they don’t even realize that
they’ve hurt us and and I’m not saying
at all that my father did not know that
what he was doing to me when he was
sexually abusing me was wrong he had to
know what was wrong or he wouldn’t have
gone to such extremes to hide it
but I really don’t believe that he
understood what it was doing to me
I don’t think he and really when he was
in his 80s he told me that he said I had
no idea
how bad I was hurting you well he grew
up in a household of incest and so he
was acting out of learned behavior and
hurting people hurt people when you
learn that it helps you to be able to
get over the things that people do to
you there’s so much stress in the world
and people today are just about to
explode and they end up hurting other
people and then we keep letting them
hurt us by staying bitter and miserable
life hurts people so let me just ask
are you bitter because your life has had
a little more than its normal share of
bitter events just be honest this
morning how many of you had a pretty
tough tough time in life
let’s see
I have two
I mean I’ve had breast cancer I’ve had
migraine headaches I
was abused in my childhood just you know
on and on and on and on and on but
God has more than made up
come on God has more than made up
my goodness
[Applause]
let me tell you something
life is not fair but God is just
life is not fair but God is just and the
devil will hurt you any way that he can
hurt you because let’s be honest he
hates you
he hates anybody that loves God because
he hates God
and the moment that you decide that
you’re going to follow Jesus the enemy
is going to be after you from that point
on you’ll have breaks thank God we get
breaks
but
when he was tempting Jesus in the
wilderness for those 40 days and 40
nights the stories in Luke chapter 4. it
says that after he had completed his
cycle of Temptations
come on now you ever feel like you’re
just like one thing after another after
another you know his after he had
completed his cycle of Temptations He
went away to wait for a more opportune
time
I think that’s so interesting
we got to get smarter
and we got to watch and pray
and that means we learn enough about how
the enemy operates that we catch him
right away
so much of our battle is in our mind
life is not so bad if we learn how to
look at it the right way
how many people look all the time at
what they don’t have and never bother to
look at what they do have
when I said how many of you had a pretty
rough life about half of the hands went
up and I’m sure you have had a very
rough life but I can tell you that you
can help yourself right now today by
doing just what I’ve had to learn how to
do I have to not look at what I don’t
have and what I haven’t had and what
I’ve lost and what I’ve missed and look
at what I do have and what God has done
for me
I still wonder sometimes once in a while
I found myself the other day wondering
wonder what it would be like to have a
mom and a dad that actually really loved
you
wonder what it would be like to have a
dad that you could
go to for advice
or a mom that really
stood up for you
I wonder what I wonder what it would be
like to have a a sister
that I could hang out with
I wonder what it would be like to really
get to be a kid
my childhood was stolen I never got
never got to be a child
but you know what God’s given me back my
childhood
in my later years in life
God is a God of Justice you know what
that means
he always makes wrong things right
life may not be fair but now listen to
what I’m going to say because if you
miss this sentence you miss the whole
thing if you’re willing to do things
God’s way
and that’s the long and the short of it
if you’re willing to do things God’s way
then he will make up to you
many times over
for anything bad that has ever happened
to you if you’re willing to do things
God’s way
and that means
that you’re willing to obey God whether
you want to or not whether you think
it’s fair or not whether it feels good
or not whether you like it or not you
get committed to doing things God’s way
because you actually really do believe
that God is smarter than you are
and that his ways work is everybody with
me
Okay so
I’m gonna
Bush today
until by the time you leave here
hopefully and prayerfully by the grace
and the mercy of God not one person
leaves here and takes your bitterness
and anger and unforgiveness with you but
you’re gonna leave it walk away from it
let it go and get about the business of
living and enjoying your life amen
yeah Psalm 37
the first 10 verses we’re going to go
through them
don’t worry because of evildoers
nor be envious toward wrongdoers
for they will wither quickly like the
grass and fade
like the green herb
trust rely on and have confidence in the
Lord and do good
wow I don’t I don’t even know if you
know how important verse 3 is in psalm
37. I got a hold of those five or six
years ago and
the book that I wrote on unshakable
trust there’s two chapters in it on
trust God and do good you know when
we’re having problems we always hear
trust God trust God but that’s not all
the Bible says
trust God and while you’re trusting God
make the devil as mad as you possibly
can by being as good as you possibly can
to as many people as you possibly can
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because that is the exact opposite of
what a normal person would do
normal people when they’re hurting get
cranky and grouchy and they don’t want
to be around anybody and they take it
out on everybody else but the Bible says
the worse you’re hurting the more good
you should do for other people
who wants to do that
we overcome evil with good Romans 12 21.
that is the biggest most powerful
Spiritual Secret in the Bible
if evil things have been done to you you
will never overcome them or get over
them
by returning to somebody else what you
got
see I spent years
taken I was making trying to make my
husband pay for what my dad did to me
you know you do that when you’re mad at
somebody and you can’t get them back
you’ll take it out on the people in your
life how many of you know that you do
that
it wasn’t his fault I treated him like
it was his fault because I wanted
somebody to pay
I wanted somebody to pay
but then I found out in Matthew 18
whenever the man was
being asked to forgive somebody for a
small debt
he could not pay
the guy could not pay him back only God
can pay you back for what’s been done to
you people can’t pay you back only God
can pay you back and he won’t just give
you what was taken he’ll give you double
what was taken
if
if you do things his way
trust God
and do good stop worrying so much about
what everybody’s done to you and do as
much good as you possibly can
every single day of your life
delight yourself in the Lord and he’ll
give you the desires of your heart
commit your way to the Lord trust also
in him and he will do it
he will make your righteousness your
pursuit of right standing with God like
the light and your judgment like The
Shining of the Noonday son
be still before the Lord wait patiently
for him and entrust yourself to him
don’t fret whine or agonize because of
him who prospers in his way because of
the man who carries out wicked schemes
face from anger and abandon Wrath
cease from anger and abandon wrath do
not fret it leads only to evil
for those who do evil will be cut off
but those who wait for the Lord they
will inherit the land
forget a little while and the wicked one
will be gone forever though you look
carefully where he used to be he will
not be found
God will take care of your enemies if
you wait on him
in Psalm 61 7 says instead of your
Farmer’s shame you’ll have a double
portion
and instead of humiliation your people
will shout for Joy over their portion
therefore now listen to this
in their land I’m glad that doesn’t say
when you go to heaven
therefore while you’re still here
in this lifetime living your life you
will possess double what you forfeited
an everlasting Joy will be yours
somebody give God a praise
yeah
it can feel like a tangled mess of
never-ending pressure anxiety builds as
life twists and turns and we struggle
through one problem to the next
but there is an answer there is an
answer
discover how to find rest and relief in
Joyce’s book the answer to anxiety God
longs to give you his peace learn how to
receive this gift the answer to anxiety
available for your offer of any amount
contact us at joycemeyer.org or call us
at 1-800-709-2895
thank you
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