“Do everything without complaining and arguing, so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people.” —Philippians 2:14–15 NLT

okay we are going to be talking about

discipline and boundaries and this is

going to be a little bit different

perspective this would be fun this would

be high energy and again I want to say

at the outset I’ve never been a perfect

disciplinary with my kids there’s been

times I’ve done it right there’s been

times I’ve done it wrong there’s been

times I’ve done it totally calm there’s

some times I’ve done it with anger so

this is not like oh Lisa does it perfect

I have made a lot of mistakes but done

certain things right so we want to learn

from the boys advantage and different

things we’re going to talk about

discipline so one of you guys is

favorite phrases

what was that Madison what was your

favorite way all the way and then a

happy way and what was the verse I would

sing to you guys give you everything

without complaining are you kidding me

painting for me and everything might

become blameless and Cheer children of

God I get his end goals Noble I get it

with a song with terrible I have

exchanged the words for my kids because

you’re soaked because it’s horrified

what I say do everything no I don’t do

that one it’s all the way right right

away all the way away and in a joyful

what I collect thanks happy whistling

for happy enough of a change where I can

feel okay saying when I want to read

daddy when I read right away all the way

happy way I heard just yeah yeah yeah

kind of like our response to be like oh

my gosh I guess I like walking away and

then there’s another phrase discipline

is my friend is your phrase Alec will

get disciplined so much that was just

one no he

my parents apparent sighted breaking

like a wild horse okay so so I know that

discipline isn’t a one-size-fits-all

like I remember actually Addison you

were kind of the first child to teach me

that actually before I even had other

children for whatever reason you had

gotten in a habit of lying

you were like afraid of consequences

that you were like my son oh here’s

lunch about things that didn’t even

matter

like why lie about that and it was just

ridiculous like you know I had a sin did

you just walk in the room no I just like

everything was a lie and I remember we

had gone to the bank and I had given you

a lollipop and I know the SunTrust it’s

that dreaded rubber yeah and I said you

can have the lollipop when we get to the

next big so you can’t eat it in the car

because John has a no-food rule in the

car and so I went to get to know the car

seat and the lollipop was gone

I mean ease up like a stick in your hand

and lollipop all over your face and I’m

like Addison did you eat the lollipop

which I guess I should have said you ate

the lollipop probably she set me up too

fast that’s a good lesson and you just

like started I didn’t eat it I couldn’t

and I remember I took you in my lap and

sat you in the front seat of the car and

I just said hey this is working this is

not working so we’re going to have to

give some mercy here because we need to

stop a cycle right it had just become

this bad cycle and so you know I found

that you actually did not like to

displease us and so it was really hard

if I put you in a place where you

displeased whereas you were you were

geared to actually wanting to do it

right now Austin the other hand was a

very different of the sort of dialed in

no but it wasn’t a bad it just was a

very different approach you know and I

would say it this way like if I saw an

outlet if I told you know don’t that

will shock you that will hurt you you

you would just want to like you want to

just be clear that you understood what I

was saying you were two years old you

point out and I say on you’d say uh-uh

and it was everything was good that’s if

I said to Austin

he would just look it right at me and

just stick his hand on the outlook like

did you just tell me no because I’m

gonna have to now touch that yeah got to

get Austin to not touch the outlet uh

well I can’t exactly remember the outlet

issues I’m regaining shock yeah I do

remember thinking my head finger and

just like wow that’s okay to this day

there’s actually a so salad today that

it’s all it’s like you can say like and

jump even for little things like I

remember for you if I laid your clothes

out in the morning

you were happy you put your clothes on

you’re like I don’t have to think about

that you on the other hand if you wait I

fell laid your clothes that you bet no I

don’t want to wear this I had to like

just like him pick it so we had to just

involve him in the decisions to set him

up for a win you were fine with

something wasn’t a battle worth fighting

– it wasn’t that’s a thing as parents we

have to choose our battles yes and and

you were I mean I was like the end of

the day he’s habits clothes on otherwise

you’re disciplining kids all day all day

long all day crazy every day yes and

I’ve learned that as a parent like this

is this really mattered I really need to

put boundaries here and set my kid ups

where he’s going to fail or she’s going

to fail or should I choose like hey this

is an area where I’m going to really

enforce discipline because it’s an

important area

you