God loves each of His children uniquely, not equally. The core definition of unique means without equal or rival. Our Father God stands alone without rival, so we shouldn’t be surprised that in His eyes we are daughters without rival, which eliminates every reason that we should ever compete with one another. When we discover that we are loved uniquely, we are empowered to love fearlessly. Watch my full Course on MessengerX: https://app.messengerx.com/en-US/watc…
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that should undermine all of the
struggles that we have as women where we
look at other women and think her being
beautiful is actually detracting from my
beauty her being blessed just took that
out of my account you know what’s going
on wait if she’s you know we need to
stop it
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you know when I began to think about
what I wanted to start this session with
I thought that the number one thing that
you need to develop in your life is
fearless love and I want to talk to you
about a story you know John and I got to
travel a couple years ago to South Korea
and we decided that we should just go
land speak 1500 times and then come
right back home and so I was exhausted
there was no down time there was no rest
on either end of it and I had to finish
a manuscript for girls with swords and I
was typing on my computer when all of
the sudden I realized I had been asleep
for quite a while because there was
eight pages of the letter T I had
depressed the letter T Fallen sound
asleep my head jerked and I was like oh
my gosh I am asleep and I really felt
like I heard the Holy Spirit say you’re
tired and I was like obviously and he
was like go take a nap well I hardly
ever get to take naps and I looked at
the clock and nobody was going to be
home for another hour and a half so I
was super excited I grabbed my dog
because somehow they always know that
you’re like taking a nap instead they
cry at the door so I grabbed my dog I
climb you know climbed on top of my bed
got the blanket so I wouldn’t unmake the
bed because that really upsets John and
I was just falling asleep when I heard
the Holy Spirit say something to me that
shocked me he said to me Lisa I do not
love my children equally
I sat up I was like excuse me
that’s blasphemy you have to love us all
the same if you don’t love us all the
same then it’s not fair
he said I don’t
he said same would mean one of you were
replaceable
equal would mean my love could be
measured
he said I do not love my children
equally
I love my children uniquely
and as soon as he said that I remembered
when I was pregnant with Austin I was
super excited about having another baby
until right before my delivery time and
I was so in love with Addison Addison
was just this perfect baby he was two
years old and all of a sudden I thought
wait I love this child and then I’m
gonna have this stranger baby and this
stranger baby because the sauna comes
back then looked like skeletons this
stranger baby is gonna make me cut the
love I have for Addison in half and I’m
going to have to share it equally
between these two children I don’t know
how I feel about that well how many of
you have more than one child wave at me
okay then you know how crazy I am the
truth is that when you have that second
child Your Love isn’t divided your love
is Multiplied and something unique wakes
up in your life and the truth is you
love different things about each child
and the fact that you know Austin was
out of control and Addison was well
behaved didn’t mean that I loved Addison
Moore and Austin’s love I loved both of
them now I’m going to throw up a picture
I do have four boys and so they are all
and and I’m including my husband in this
five okay they all very different and
you know I love that Austin is very
intentional very well thought out uh
Arden is a baby and he basically has
decided that maybe someday John and I
could work for him and then I have my
husband of 33 years John and he’s
awesome and you know the truth is he’s
an only son and so that’s been a unique
experience being married to somebody
that was the center of the universe and
then my third son Alec who is here is
super creative and then Addison is just
about perfect he’s all the good and none
of the baddage on it yeah that’s there
we go his wife said that’s true so
anyway I have those four and then I have
three magnificent grandkids and you can
tell a little bit more obviously what is
different about them we have the
firstborn again perfect nurturing kind
gentle Justice oriented then we have
Sophia and Sophia is the one screaming
she’s on then and then we have Lizzy
with her lip out getting ready to cry
but the truth is I love all of those
packages
Sophia is never going to be her hair is
always going to be a mess she’s always
going to be in motion and she’s always
going to be pushing the envelope for
Asher but the truth is I love all of
those different packages
and the fact that God loves us uniquely
and he knows how much I love words meant
a lot to me so that day I jumped off my
bed ran into my laptop and I looked up
the word unique and I wanted to find it
for you because most of us kind of like
we know what unique is well first tier
definition is sole example or
representative of there is no one that
will represent God
the way you can you need to understand
that he actually created a unique
package of you to number one illustrate
his love for the Earth by the way he
loves you by the way he cares for you
and illustrate his love to the Earth so
that you can unpack your story what he
has done in your life you can be an
ambassador there’s nobody nobody that
can uniquely represent God the way you
can number two prototype prototype
prototype is actually when God creates
something and then he doesn’t Mass
produce it he said this is the one and
the only
I’m breaking the mold I don’t want
anybody else like this God is the
originator of original God cannot copy
anything everything he does is new he
doesn’t just remake the old he does a
new thing and so you are a prototype you
are a one and an only which is why you
need to be wondering why the world is so
bent
on you copying
and then number three is my favorite
it means without equal
or without rival
being unique means there is no rival for
God’s affection or your place or his
attention or his provision in your life
and if we are loved without rival that
should undermine all of the struggles
that we have as women where we look at
other women and think her being
beautiful is actually detracting from my
beauty her being blessed just took that
out of my account you know what’s going
on wait if she’s you know we need to
stop it
because the truth is that there is a
very strategic enemy
that is trying to divide what God wants
to unite
our
father God
is a standalone God
one of the things that the Hebrews
always say is the Lord thy God is one
that doesn’t mean there was a contest
and he took first place
it means he is the one
he is the only he is the all through him
and in him everything that we see was
created he’s a stand-alone category he
is one he is one he is absolute he is
eternal so if we have that kind of God
if our father
is a father God without rival then it
would stand to reason
that you and I are daughters without
rival
and so we need to get this idea in our
mind Saint Augustine said it best he
said God loves each of us
as if there was only one of us
isn’t that beautiful
first John chapter 3 verse 1 and the
message says what marvelous love the
father has extended to us see it’s
extended
it’s an invitation
but not everybody lays hold of it not
everybody RSVPs not everybody shows up
extended to us and it says just look at
it that means it’s visible that means
it’s a designation that people can see
on your life
we’re called children of God
and then I love it it says that’s who we
really are
you know
your role as a mother or a wife that’s
not your identity
your identity is a child of God
that’s who we really are
but that’s also why the world doesn’t
recognize us or take us seriously
because they have no idea
who he is
or what he is up to
you know um
I ask on Facebook because I love that I
can take polls on Facebook I ask on
Facebook what is the one thing
that undermines your identity more than
anything else and I got back these
different well there was a number of
them we did the top five number one
self-image
the inability to see yourself
the way God sees you
Kathy wrote in my body image I was
overweight as a child and teased and
even when I am thin as an adult my
weight always made me feel
self-conscious now as a post-menopausal
woman Kathy I understand with many
strengths a master’s degree grown
Christian children and a loving husband
of 31 years I continue to fight body
image issues pertaining to my identity
you are not what you see
you are not your body you are not your
weight you are not your post menopausal
or your premenstrual hormones
cannot be limited to what you’ve seen
because you’re actually somebody that
nobody sees number two comparison
comparison
constantly feeling like we don’t measure
up comparing myself to others I feel
like I come up short hey that’s what
will happen number three diminishment
negative words spoken Over Us by parents
by people in our past Educators but I’m
also going to say women
we do it to ourselves
I watched my husband when he is
undressed at night he thinks he’s
amazing he’s like oh my gosh did you
ever imagine at 55 you would be having
this
I’m like wow no you know I actually
didn’t even dream of thinking of
that
but I don’t do that when I look in the
mirror I’m like Lord Jesus what has
happened you know so but my husband he
he just sees himself in a completely
different light women are actually
taught to shrink we think it’s Godly to
insult ourselves well that’s not true
so you see the number one voice of Shame
and diminishment
is your own
Number Four Past shame you know the
truth is we’ve all made mistakes we’ve
all made mistakes and here’s the really
sad truth I’m going to tell you we’re
all going to make more
we’re all going to make more okay so the
truth is you cannot be limited by your
past and number five fear
fear failure fear of stepping out fear
of success I forget who I am in Christ
and who he called me to be all because
of fear
see
I see this is Evan actually in my own
life and John and I were we were doing a
marriage question and answer and it was
kind of funny because we had 30 minutes
and I think John took 25 of the minutes
but basically at the end they were like
in the last 30 seconds what is the one
thing you would say and I was like okay
I’ve got to think I haven’t talked hold
on I got to think of one really
important thing to say and they said
what is the one thing you would say Lisa
and I’d say
I regret
that I didn’t love my husband more
fearlessly
and I regret that I didn’t allow him to
make more mistakes
do you know Jesus loves you fearlessly
and he even allows you to make mistakes
he’s not afraid you’re going to make
mistakes he knows you’re going to make
mistakes
but making a mistake doesn’t make you a
mistake
and if you think that
then you are gravely mistaken see God
actually believes better things of me
than I believe of myself
he doesn’t resign me to my past
because he holds my future
he actually draws me out of my fears to
bring out the best in me you know I have
a friend named Lauren she gives the best
cards ever and she just finds these
random cards and recently she sent me
this card and it has this girl that had
like a bowl haircut that I do think I
had when I was five and she has on these
awful plaid pants and she’s posing like
this and it said and the card has said
it’s not the clothes it’s the attitude
and I thought that is so true you can
have the ugliest thing on but if you are
owning it then it is okay and so you
know the truth is we need to own
God’s love and his love isn’t something
we just hide for our little devotions
and we actually need to work it we need
to have it out there we need to wear it
with confidence
because the truth is there is actually
nothing more attractive
than a Fearless woman
Fearless women attract the blessing of
God they actually did a poll among men
what did they find the most attractive
thing about women and it was actually
confidence Men want women they feel like
they can you know Hey listen you can do
this adventure with me you you won’t be
afraid you’ll let me make mistakes
you’ll love me in spite of myself we
need to be Fearless women see fear
measures and limits me
to my inability
or my ability
but love connects me to God’s ability
that exceedingly abundantly above all
that I can ask hope pray or believe
Jeremiah 33 verse 3 says I have loved
you
with an everlasting love
therefore I have continued my
faithfulness to you
even when we are unfaithful
he is faithful
and he has loved us it’s a past tense
it’s already settled as far as he is
concerned I have loved you I have
designated you loved with an everlasting
love and I will continue to be faithful
to you
so we need to remember God has not given
us a spirit of fear
but of love power and a sound mind
and that spirit of fear
comes to shrink your identity
so that you will not represent yourself
well that you will not represent
Redemption well that you will not
represent your god well so you will shut
down and not be equipped to be that
Ambassador without rival so I want to
close with prayer because I believe if
we can just kind of set something in
motion at the very beginning of this
very first session
that every other insight into having a
life without rival
have an open passageway in our heart
Heavenly Father we receive that
designation that you have for us
forgive us for the times that we believe
that you had love that was measured that
you had love that was subject to portion
control forgive us for the times that we
thought that your love on one sister
meant that you loved us less father we
receive and accept your designation over
our life God begin to Astound us with
your love for us that we can be
Representatives that Astound this world
with your Wonder father I believe that
you love me without rival that I am a
daughter without rival born in a season
without rival
and I stand in all that you have created
for me as a child of God and everybody
that agrees say and men and amen
you know in this session we talked about
God’s incredible Fearless love for you
that he loves you without rival because
he loves you without rival you can love
others fearlessly and you can live
fearlessly there is no one like you you
were created uniquely to express God’s
love to this world now I’m going to push
your limits a little bit because God
loves you uniquely I don’t want you to
just be like oh yeah he loves me
uniquely I wrote down the one thing in
the book we’re going to push you beyond
your comfort zone I want you to think
about 25 things I know that’s a lot 25
things that God loves about you uniquely
you can start with your hair you can
start with your eyes but then you need
to go all the way down to this deep area
you need to let him love you in some
places that maybe you never imagined or
knew that he loved about you I want you
to write those things down and then I
want you to pray over those things every
single day until that just becomes
something alive inside of you you are
loved by a God who is without rival he
has fashioned you without rival there is
no one like you God has created you
without equal beginning and end of you
so we need you to celebrate your unique
and trustment you can do this you are a
son and a daughter without rival