In this sermon, I share some moments that ultimately helped set me free. Anger is never the answer… and here’s why! What areas of your life have you neglected to forgive? The longer we hold onto sin, the longer it has a hold on us! Here’s to Freedom! #lisabeveresermon #Lisabevere #lisabeverteaching #lisabeverestudy #lisabeverestrong #lisabeveresummerofstrong #woman #minister #freedom #womeninministry #radicalfaith #purpose #calling #unity #sermon #bestsermon #withoutrival #comparison #Godistruth #findingyouridentity ______________ Chapters: 0:00 – Intro 1:44 – A Fast 2:55 – How I Ended Up in Ministry 4:02 – I Wanted to Take This Back… 4:33 – My Problem With Anger 7:19 – I Broke the Window 10:54 – My Son Took the Blame 14:00 – I Snapped and God Snapped Me 15:42 – Crying for Freedom 17:32 – Be Angry and Do Not Sin 18:34 – How to Not Sin in Anger 21:52 – The Power of Remitting Sins 28:22 – Every Morning is a Reset 31:11 – How Many of You… 32:25 – Closing Declarations ______________ Make a one-time donation to help fund our livestreams, content, events, and more: https://messengerinternational.org
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I’m going to actually uh paintt a little
bit of a picture of what is going on in
our culture so I am uh
63 no that’s a lie what year are we in
2024 right I will be I am 63 I will be
64 in June and John and I had the
privilege of hosting the guest speakers
at the church we were at for uh for like
a year and a half that was John’s job
and I remember there was this one
Minister who came who I was terrified of
his name was Lester sumerall he was a
minister in the Philippines he’ been a
missionary he was Gruff he was rough and
he would say things like uh you guys if
you’re five minutes late I’m I’m leaving
and so we’re like okay so we’re like
early scared and he said I need to take
you and your wife to breakfast John be
there tomorrow morning at 700 a.m. well
I didn’t have children I wasn’t anywhere
at 7 a.m. I worked retail I waited till
10: before I had to actually get up so
we show up at breakfast and I’m thinking
he’s going to try to cast a demon out of
me I’ve had my husband pray over me
before we show up I’m like if there’s a
demon let’s get rid of it I don’t want
it to happen in a restaurant in
public and he begins to share with us
what he’d seen on the missions field he
began to share with us the power of God
in overseas and ways that we’ve never
seen on a regular in the US and then he
said I’m going to tell you some of the
things I see coming he said I see a day
coming where people’s lives will be
controlled by a box they hold in their
hands John and I thought he has the scal
moment it was
1984 phones were on the wall phones were
on desks but he saw a day coming where
people would bow to a world they could
hold in their hands and some of you it’s
going to be great to fast food but it
might be more important for you to put
down your
phone I love that we actually can put
down the phone nobody’s going to show up
at your house and say pick up that phone
right now you can put down that phone
but a fast is something that you address
the thing that is holding you back from
the presence of God and so some people
it’s not food some people it’s TV some
people it’s online some people it’s
shopping so you need to ask God what is
that thing that I need to fast that is
holding me back from you so I’m going to
just kind of paint a little story how I
ended up in the ministry for first of
all my husband was the youth pastor at a
church and he was you know I was great
with him speaking I was great with doing
all the background work but in
1988 you guys weren’t even born in
1988 I prayed a prayer I prayed a prayer
that went along with a song in 1988 kind
of the top five Christian hits one of
them was take me in to the holy of
holies Take Me In by the blood of the
Lamb take me in to the holy of holies
take the coal cleanse my lips here I am
cassette tapes rewind rewind rewind New
Year’s Eve
1988 I expected to go to bed have an
angel appear offer me a coal maybe I
could Testify the next day at church I
remember in this moment of sensing the
holy spirit’s invitation I prayed
something that I tried to take back for
two weeks I said God I want you to
excavate my
life two weeks later I was like
landscape I meant to say landscape I
meant to say accessorize my life I did
not mean to say excavate my life because
when you ask God to go into those
things then God’s like did you guys hear
that Angels get her just go for it all
of the sudden I had just had a tiny
problem with anger just a little bit of
a problem with anger John is Italian I
am Sicilian Italians are known for
feeding people Sicilians are known for
killing people of course I was born
angry I had some anger going on and see
it was really John fault that I was
angry because I would say don’t push me
when you push me like that I am not
responsible for my actions I had an
entire list of why I was angry half
Sicilian of course Apache Indian
somebody had stolen my land I had
English Scottish I was like this is a
turmoil inside of me people are lucky
they’re alive I remember that John would
like say I don’t understand why you get
so angry and I’d say you make me
angry but when I prayed excavate my life
the anger that was just once a month
possibly my husband would be like are
you getting ready to start I’d be like
stop it it’s not that it’s not that and
it was that but I said it wasn’t
that then it was not once a month but
like every two weeks well that was when
I realized we were under spiritual
attack the witches in Orlando were
probably significantly targeting a
single youth pastor they were coming
after my husband in the spirit and so
possibly the witches were causing me to
freak out twice a
month then it went from twice a month to
once a week and I remember remember John
saying I feel like the you know the
animals in our neighborhood go running
because I would wake up feeling like
there was a Tremor inside of me and I
would say things like John just just
don’t push me today is not the day to
push me but John loves to push and he’d
be like what’s going on what’s going on
come on you need to talk to me and and
we would like go to bed and he would say
you’re still mad at me he would turn on
the light he would pull off the covers
he would stand on top of the mattress
and say we will not let the sun go down
on our wrath and I like we started
fighting when it was dark
out I have till tomorrow he’d be like no
so I mean I was like okay this man’s
crazy and I remember we were in the
kitchen and I was trying to hold my
tongue because I had read the scripture
that you and I are going to give an
account
of every Idol word and I could just see
my time in before the throne room like
they’re going to be like are we still
talking about Lisa’s Idols were I mean
it was going to go on and on and on and
so I would try to be quiet and John just
said something and before I knew what
happened the plate in my hand became a
frisbee I pulled back I threw it at John
he ducked kind of like a matrix
move missing Decap itation it went out
the window the problem was the window
was closed I shattered our picture
window in our apartment I remember
thinking what have I done and my husband
was like I can’t believe you just did
that I said I know I can’t even throw a
frisbee I can’t believe I just did that
either he’s like no Lisa I’m serious he
said I am not going to life for you when
they come I am going to tell them that
my crazy Sicilian wife threw a plate at
me and broke the window and I said you
know what you’re a man of God I don’t
want you to lie but I will not be here
when you tell them this and so I got in
our car and we and I just prayed in
tongues I mean I just prayed in tongues
I was like Jesus Jesus you can put that
window back together before they come I
Jes like I had gotten the plate off the
lawn I was like Jesus you can do this
and I was like I I will offer my
firstborn child because that’s all I had
I will offer him for the full-time
Ministry if you will fix the window I
mean I like try to negotiate everything
possible I imagined the worst things I
could imagine I saw the Orlando
sentinel’s newspaper headline youth
pastor’s wife breaks picture window at
post Lake Apartments I imagined all the
older women at the church were already
troubled by the fact I had double
pierced ears saying I always knew it I
always knew it that when I’d come to
church on Sunday they’d be like it’s the
double piercing I’ve seen it seen it
before I was just I covered myself in
shame I prayed I waited for about 3
hours and then I come home and I walk in
and John looks at me and he said you
must have really been praying or God
must really love you you and I said okay
why he said well well the guy came in I
was in the bathroom and he said Addison
who was two opened the door he said when
Addison opened the door the guy walked
in and goes whoa what happened here I
mean the big window broken he walks over
to the window looks down and there’s a
Tonka truck behind the sofa he picks up
the Tonka truck he has it in his hand
when John walks out the guy was like
don’t worry about this this is why we
have insurance at the apartment complex
I have a 2-year-old too and my my
husband was like it’s it’s not the
2-year-old it’s my it’s my 28-year-old
wife but the guy said say no more say no
more so John said I said no more he said
say no
more so I let my 2-year-old
son take the wrap for me breaking a
picture
window and I remember I went from being
like sad and feeling so much
condemnation about it to climbing into
bed with my husband that night and
saying
see see you shouldn’t have pushed me see
see like that was that was a covering
for me that was the Lord covering your
wife who you’re going to dishonor I went
from a place of broken conviction to a
place of
justification then I had my second child
can I just say it this way one child is
an
accessory you dress them
up they behave well they’re cute it’s
all a trick to have you get you to have
more children I remember when I had my
second son I thought I will never brush
my teeth before noon again I remember
that John would leave with our only car
to go be a youth pastor and I’d be like
pray for me pray for me he’d be like
you’re going to be okay I’d be like no
pray for me pray for me right now pray
for me and for the safety of your
children and he was like you’re you
you’ve got this but what John didn’t
understand was now my first born who had
been so perfect he couldn’t take a nap
he couldn’t take a nap because I might
be kissing the second baby while he was
taking a nap and so basically every
single day I got up and my my firstborn
would not go down for a nap back then
again phones were not portable this is
how old I am phones were not portable
when the phone would ring my son would
be like she’s captive he would jump off
of his bed and he would go into the
playroom and I would be on the phone
with somebody stomping my foot waving a
spank spoon at him and he’d be like I
see that hand but I am not going going
anywhere he would just stay up there and
so basically right when I finally got
him to go to sleep the baby would wake
up my milk would let down and then I’d
know I was going to flunk the tests that
I was flunking every single day my
husband would come in and he would look
at me I’d be standing there with the
babies in my arms my nursing flaps down
a spank spoon in my other
hand a three-year-old on my leg and he’d
be like what did you do all day and I’d
say I don’t
know but I was busy people are calling
and saying they’re going to commit
suicide and I am offering to join them
John was like Lisa
seriously I don’t know why we had a
listed phone
number but we we thought it was holy but
you should not call postpartum women for
counseling just remember that okay so
anyway I just remember one day my son
came down the
stairs and I just snapped I no longer
saw a child I saw an enemy I thought
this is the one who keeps me from
getting anything done and as he came
down the stairs I came running up to
meet him I grabbed him and I stormed
into his bedroom and I thought what can
I do so he stayed
on this bed and I heard slam him against
the wall and put him down it’s not funny
slam him against the wall and put him
down on the bed that he’ll know and I
remember I was lifting my son up and I
was just getting ready to slam him into
the wall when I saw something I had
never seen
before my son was not afraid of what I
was going to do
he was afraid of
me and I remembered what it was like
growing up in a physically and mentally
abusive household and every time I was
slapped every time I was slammed into a
wall every time I was kicked every time
I was hit I made myself a promise and it
went like this I will never treat my
children
that way but here I was a born again
Spirit-filled pastor’s wife getting
ready to hurt my son and it broke me I
remember I put him down I said I’m sorry
I scared you and I hit the carpet and I
said God it’s not my husband he’s not
here it’s not the witches it’s not my
parents it’s not Sicilian it’s not
Apache it’s me I have a real problem
with anger and I don’t know how to get
free and I don’t know if you’ve ever
cried until there is
nothing but in the nothing in the
Stillness when a storm has gone through
your soul and you cry in a quietness
settles over you I heard God say because
you’re no longer justifying this I’ll
set you
free you
see what we
justify we buy we say we’ve earned the
right to be this way because of what’s
been done to
me you know the Bible says the wrath of
man and can we also say of woman never
works the righteous
purposes of God it doesn’t even say
sometimes it says never works the
righteous purposes of God I have never
seen I have never met I have never read
the words of so many angry people as
right now and if anger was an answer
we’d have a solution but anger is not an
answer anger is a
deconstruction of
answers all right Ephesians 4:2 6- 27
you guys are worried I wasn’t going to
use the scripture says be
angry and do not sin that means you can
be angry about something but you don’t
have to sin with your anger see when
you’re angry and sin you’re looking for
a Target in your anger do not sin and
then it says do not let the sun go down
on your anger and give no opportunity to
the devil another version says don’t
give the devil a foothold that’s like
when he puts his foot in your door and
the anger allows him to come in now I
know none of the other women in the
church have ever done this but I would
be angry at my husband and go to sleep
one way have Angry dreams about him and
be like you know what you did last night
he’d be like I was not in your dreams
like no no you don’t even he I would
wake up even
angrier so how do we walk through
anger and not
sin first of all you have to know that
you can let things
go oh that’s hard if you want to be
right all the time but you have to know
that you can let things go because it’s
more important to be rightly
related than it is to be right
and fighting with people on social
media is just silly most of the people
that you are fighting with like
seriously they’re sitting in a basement
of their mother’s house fighting people
I mean if you ever like some of the
people that attack you have you ever
gone to look at their profiles it’s like
a dolphin or
like an anime I’m like you’re not even a
real person
you’re just you’re just a pretend person
that’s angry and when people are angry
they look for a
Target but the truth is the wrath of man
never works the righteous purposes of
God when people are angry they think
everybody owes them
something listen it’s it’s gotten crazy
out there I don’t know do any of you
guys own slaves
no okay any of your parents own
slaves any of your grandparents own
slaves see we actually
forgot that the Bible says that the
children are not to pay for the sins of
the parents so how much more the
grandparents great grandparents or great
great
grandparents and when I’m actually
looking for people to pay me that aren’t
paying me I’m just going to get matter
and matter and matter and then I’m going
to think that they’re my problem instead
of God my
answer my family came over from Sicily
my on my dad’s side uh again as you know
crazy people uh but I don’t think our
family has ever ever
ever own
slaves and yet we were slaves to anger
and rage and hate and
vendettas and so we have to be a people
who understand that the world is
actually looking for us to act like
Christians to act like Christians so uh
after that moment where God said to me
because you no longer Justified this I’m
going to set you
free I
remembered that the one thing that I
never for forgave my mother
for was the one thing I almost did to my
son see my mother had slammed me up
against a wall when I was seven and she
had said I will never be a mother to you
your brother is mine you’re your
father’s and you’re going to regret
loving your father more than you love me
which I didn’t even know that was a
thing and so what I did is I shut down
my heart and my mother had come to me
late
when she had become a Christian and I
had become a Christian and she had asked
me to forgive her but you know what I
did I forgave her of
everything but the one thing and the one
thing that I didn’t forgive my mom for
was the one thing that I almost did to
my son because the truth is the sins
that you retain they’re retained and the
sins that you remit they are remitted do
you understand the power that God has
entrusted to you and I to actually remit
the sins of people that we’d rather
punch do you understand that so
Galatians 5:116 is where God took me
after I picked up the phone and called
my mother I was crying and I said Mom I
I need to tell you something that almost
happened I almost slammed Addison into
the wall and my mom was just like
Lisa I’m so sorry she said that’s the
one thing I’ve never been able to
forgive myself for and I said that’s
because I’ve never forgiven you for it
will you forgive me for holding that
against you to imprison you and keep
myself I thought safe from you because
it was safe from you and dangerous for
my
children and so I remember we prayed
together on the phone and we said we
will be the beginning of a thousand
Generations who love God keep his
Commandments and we break the power of
abuse and anger and hostility we break
it and do you know how empowering that
is to understand that you can go into
one day one way and leave completely
different Galatians
5:116 through 26 says keep in step with
the spirit
that’s why I love you’re doing a fast
when you fast your spirit Comes Alive
you guys I get scared when I don’t cry
at certain things when I get little hard
when worship songs don’t touch me the
way they used to I have to say ooh
there’s
something something that’s got a little
of a shell over it and I know it’s it
feels safer to have a hard shell but you
need a tender heart God says guard your
heart not imprison it and too many of us
we put our hearts in lockdown and God is
saying I need you to treasure it not
shut it
off keep in the spirit it says but I say
walk by the spirit and you will not
gratify the desires of the flesh for the
desires of the flesh are against the
spirit and the Spirit uh the desires of
the spirit are against the flesh for
these are opposed to each other and keep
you from doing the things you want to do
what did I want to do I wanted to be a
great mother what did I want to do I
wanted to be a loving wife what did I
want to do I wanted to be a good example
of
transformation but because I was not
walking in the spirit I was walking in
blame and
excuses I wasn’t doing what I wanted to
do
blaming puts us back under the
law under the law there is no mercy
under the spirit there is Mercy he goes
on to say I warn you as I did
before that those who do such things
actually I think I’ve got I might have
missed some verses oh well anyway he
goes through all the works of the Flesh
and through the works of the flesh is it
up there yep okay all right here we go
it says now the works of the flesh are
evident sexual
immorality you guys that’s not it evil
spirit it’s a work of the flesh work of
the flesh impurity sensuality idolatry
you think what is idolatry idolatry is
when we Elevate something to a higher
level of
Supremacy than God’s word God’s Will and
the scripture in our life okay sorcery
enmity Strife jealousy fits of anger
that was me I remember I would go
through the house stomping my feet and
John be like oh my gosh this a fit it’s
we’re we’re doing this today aren’t we
slamming doors throwing a fit
rivalries competition with other people
that is a work of the flesh goes on to
say dissensions division Envy
drunkenness orgies and things like these
I warn you as I warned you before that
those who do such thing another version
says practice such things what’s a
practice practice is something like a
doctor has a practice an attorney has a
practice it’s a habit it’s something we
do without thinking it’s our natural
default those who practice such things
will not inherit the kingdom of God okay
now you know there’s no greater for that
I’ve heard some people say wait you’re
not in the Kingdom
but you’re in the suburbs I don’t want
to be in the suburbs because what if
that’s not true and why would Paul say I
warn you if the suburbs were a good
option will not inherit the kingdom of
God so I had to deal with my own anger
he goes on to say but the fruit of the
spirit is love joy peace patience
kindness goodness faithfulness
gentleness self-control against such
there is no law and those who belong to
Christ Jesus are cruci have crucified
the flesh with its passions and desires
if we live by the spirit let us also
keep in step with the spirit let us not
become conceited provoking one another
and envying one another life in the
spirit life in the spirit is a daily
decision it is a daily decision where we
say okay and here’s the thing you know I
I just love the the new yor kind of is
like a reset but every single morning is
a reset God says his Mercy is new every
morning but the beautiful thing about a
new year is everybody knows they’re
getting a reset and so in a time of
reset life in the spirit means that I’m
going to be slow to speak oh that’s
that’s so hard for an Italian slow to
speak quick to listen oh John and I
we’re like you’re not listening we’re
we’re formulating the response the whole
time the other person’s talking but what
we had to learn to do is actually listen
to what the person’s saying and say it
back before we respond because Italians
use things like never always we use
extremes on
everything and so we had to back it down
and say are you saying that I never do
this well no you don’t never do I always
no you don’t always but sometimes and so
I can deal with sometimes but I can’t
deal with the absolutes of never and
always and so we are slow to speak quick
to listen slow to wrath I remember I
laid in bed every single morning after
my encounter with holy spirit because I
knew that anger was a habit yeah Spirits
can aggravate a habit habits become
habitations they become strong holds but
I laid on my bed and I would say holy
spirit put a watch over my
mouth father I thank you that I will
slowly speak that I will quickly listen
that I will slow it down
and do you know what that child now this
was you know like here’s the thing never
ever wanted Addison to even know that
was a
possibility and then like eight years
later I had given my testimony on 700
Club and the TV was on and my son walks
in and he hears me telling the story
about how I almost slammed him into the
wall and I remember panicking thinking
oh my gosh oh my gosh and he turned and
looked at me and he said I can’t see you
doing that I could see me still doing it
but he couldn’t see me he couldn’t see
me doing that and that is the Redemption
of
God
so here we
are how many of you want to live by the
spirit okay that’s awesome how many of
you have figured out that anger is
actually not causing you to get the
things you want in your life anger is
not healing your marriage anger is not
restoring your family anger isn’t
getting you the job you want anger isn’t
getting you the peace you seek anger is
not causing Christ to be formed in you
and there’s a lot of people that will be
more than happy to feed your anger
there’s a lot of angry women and there’s
a lot of angry men who are watching and
waiting for you and I to love one
another well
I am tired of women attacking men and I
am tired of men attacking women but I’m
going to say this to the women you need
to remember what you are you were
created to take something that was not
good and make it good you’re supposed to
open your mouth with wisdom and
kindness not with foolishness and anger
and so we need to speak to one another
and bring healing to one another so can
I get everybody to stand up it’s awesome
you guys are amazing I can’t even
believe you’re 8:45 you feel like an 11
all
right I want to say heavenly father
father I want to walk into this
year led by the spirit L by the spirit
forgive me forgive me for making excuses
excus for the very things you died to
set me free from I’m going to be slow to
speak slow to slow to I’ll be quick to
listen quick to listen I almost did it
wrong sorry guys and slow to
wrath I am believing I am for an
outpouring for out of your power of your
and I know that I can’t be striking out
at people or striking out at your
provision I am asking for a fresh
baptism of the Holy Spirit that I would
have eyes to see ears to hear a voice to
speak and a healed heart to carry to
carry all right look at me people are
hurting like no other time people are
hurting people are changing their gender
to try to find
wholeness and you know what the church
does a really good job we do a really
good job of saying that’s wrong but we
don’t Point them to the healing that
makes it
right I was I was studying the
scriptures and I thought hm has there
ever been somebody who was incredibly
uncomfortable in their own body and I
thought that had to be Jesus can you
imagine being the Son of God and
stripping yourself of every Divine
privilege at taking on the nature of a
human
the frailties the woundings see I
believe that God is going to bring a
Revival where people have gone to seek
healing in one realm and then found
disappointment that we the church cannot
be judgmental but we need to speak the
truth in love and because we haven’t
always spoke the truth in love the
culture has responded by preaching love
without
truth love is not love God God is love
and God says I’m the one who made you
I’m the one that formed you we cannot be
houses divided with our own bodies with
our husbands with our children the
Church of Jesus Christ and Hawaiian
Islands I could still remember the first
time that John and I came here see
everybody thinks Hawaii is beautiful
because of its
landscape but John and I know that
Hawaii is beautiful because of its
people there’s a a lot of places that
have beautiful
landscape but Hawaii has been prophesied
to be carriers of the presence of God of
the glory of God of the Revival of
God so I can’t have you angry at the
mainlanders because I believe you might
be a Gateway for God’s
glory so it’s
incredibly important that you get this
right and it’s an it’s an it’s a
privilege to stand alongside Mike and
lisak Kai and see this great thing that
God has done John and I get to go all
over the world and what you have here is
beautiful you have Community you have
laughter you have strength you have men
that are men and women that are women
you have a celebration of family you are
allowed to make mistakes but you’re not
allowed to make excuses
and so I want to see this church Inspire
others to arise in jesus’ name
amen