Proverbs 29:18 tells us, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.” It’s so important that our children catch God’s heart for their sexuality and get a vision for how living in purity will plant seeds that will bear great fruit in their future marriages. Teach them that their sexuality is a God-given gift and that God desires them to experience the beauty of what He created within the covenant of marriage. So often, when we feel like God is holding something from us, He is actually holding it for us.
okay welcome to conversation number
three of moms of men and these are my
men I haven’t introduced them since the
first section so I’m going to do it
again garden addison Austin and mr. Alec
right here next to me we’re going to be
talking about an issue that we got more
questions about than anything else we’re
going to talk about sexual purity and
since I’m not a man I’m going to rely
pretty heavily on you guys when we talk
about this and this is an issue that a
lot of you know a lot of moms that don’t
have either healthy male influences like
maybe the dads addicted to pornography
eight maybe they’re divorced or there’s
a single mom raising a son without any
mail and in line in her son’s life these
are issues that are hugely important so
what I’m going to ask you to kind of the
conversation started with what was the
defining moment in in each of you
approach this in your use were you
actually understood that your sexual
purity was something that was worth
protecting yeah okay I’ll go first I
know for me the really defining moment
was when I started realizing what it was
doing to my marriage and not I was
married and I’m still not married
Holaday you are I’m 22 and how old were
you when that happen I was probably like
16 when I saw I realizing it because
what I started realizing was you know I
had this thing you know since I was a
little kid I’ve always just dreamed
about my wife and I was like you know
this is what you look like it’s what
she’ll act like this is how our marriage
would be but then I started realizing
what pornography and those things
actually do to marriage and how it
compromises every facet of marriage and
it’s at every facet of of love and
everything like that and almost like I
am ruining what I have dreamed about
already and I’m not even married yet and
so when I had that realization and I was
like you know not only is it something
that we need to stay away from or
something that’s going to mess with you
I was like not ruining my marriage like
that revelation for me personally was
something that really hit home and
really was a turning point for me how
did you come to that revelation as the
16 year old boy I think it was just
something you know it was just a very
quick pickup from something that that
was talking about when Dad was sharing
kind of his
experiences one time I think it was with
our family and just hearing him say this
is what was going on and this is
something that was carried into my
marriage I was like wait this gets
carried into your man wait I thought
marriage was going to take exactly like
no yeah but it doesn’t and so I you know
I’m so happy that I had that revelation
because I think some people they have
different revelations I think each one
of us have a different revelation but to
me that was it yeah and I loved it was a
revelation sort of a fear of absence
right yeah speaking of revelation I
actually had one as well so same thing
picking up on things that you and Dad
were saying on kind of how like whenever
you give yourself to somebody you’re
literally giving a part of yourself to
somebody and then whenever you get to
your wife how much of yourself do you
want to give to her so I started to like
imagine almost like a balloon you blow
up with air and like if you were to blow
it up with tons of air and then if you
were to hold it tight in that instead of
tying off purity you have control of it
and you kind of hold it tight right and
that whenever you may be doing things
throughout your life before you’re
married you can you can imagine that you
can open it up a little bit and let off
some air
we can open up a little more and let out
some more you’ll put a little more lit
up some more but then whenever you get
to your wife’s how big is this balloon
gonna be because you know what wasn’t so
I kind of I know I wanted it’s kind of
like the way that I saw it that I wanted
to whenever I can my wife I had this
balloon that was still just completely
full of all the air and I wanted to
completely give my heart you know I love
that I know that you’re thinking vision
I mean it says that Jesus for the hope
set before him you know and so for this
hope of intimate sexual relationship
with your wife and a marriage where you
can fully give yourself I love that both
of you had that either that was the same
for me you can run from something for
only so long eventually you need to run
to something and and I had a vision this
idea that God impressed on my heart of
what it could look like to have a
beautiful sexual experience with my life
and that was a driving force for me
yeah yeah how about you mr. Austin I’d
say it’s a combination of a few things I
would say one of the first things was a
revelation of God’s love for me and then
that revelation spilled into a
revelation of God’s love for other
people and so just realizing like
especially the pornography and stuff
like that you just don’t treat people
that way and and like valuing them as a
human being