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so I want you to look with me in the

book of Genesis chapter 23 at a

remarkable little passage of Scripture

that I pray God burns into your heart

like he has mine in verse 17 and so the

field of Ephraim was in McFeely which

was before men the field the cave which

was in it all the trees the fields the

border surrounding were deeded to

Abraham as a possession verse 18 in the

presence of his sons verse 19 and after

this Abraham buried Sarah his wife in

the cave of the field of Machpelah

everybody say Meg pilla Machpelah means

Mac cave pila double the cave of double

or the cave of couples that’s what I

want to talk about the cave of couples

how do I get there how do I keep my

marriage together and when this life is

over we made it all the way to the cave

of couples where Abraham and Sarah they

started their journey together they

ended their journey together in the cave

of couples Isaac and Rebecca started

their journey together and the Bible

said they were buried in the cave

because the parent set the example the

next generation said that matter for not

getting alone our parents modeled for us

that we need to stay together they were

buried in the cave of couples Isaac and

Rebecca followed the example and were

buried in the cave of couples and then

Jacob and Leah were buried in the cave

of couples how in the world do we get

through this life two totally different

people and end in the cave of couples

Adam and Eve were the first couple that

we read about in the Bible

God made them a couple the word mate is

used to refer in the animal kingdom the

mate of a monkey the mate of a lion it

can also be used that about the softness

missing that where’s the mate of that

sock where’s the shoe the other shoe but

when he describes in Genesis the woman

he calls her the helpmeet meed

that is not a mispronunciation or some

kind of trench you no difference in

translation that is a specific word for

a specific reason is interesting God

called the wife the help meat not help

mate help meet em et the hebrew word is

is a neither knees ER it’s the word from

which we get evan easer now the word

evany czar if you live in the south if

you live in the south somewhere in your

town there’s a Baptist Church called

Ebenezer Baptist whether you know what

it means or not it’s there I guarantee

Vera heard of Ebenezer Baptist I thought

so well that’s the story and this is so

important so just stay with me that’s

the story of when Israel was fighting

the Philistines and they were about to

wipe them out and God started throwing

hell stones from heaven and delivered

God’s people and as a memorial the Bible

said that they built a memorial to God

and they called it ever which means to

build nezer Abba nezer the nezer part

means divine help to build with divine

help in other words the only way we made

it through the battle we went through

was with divine help and when God speaks

of the wife he says she is sir your

divine help she’s in

that’s why the Bible said whoever finds

a wife or divine help finds favor with

the Lord you’re going to win or lose

your battles depending on whether or not

you’ve got some divine help in your

corner you’ve got some divine help

praying for you when you go to your job

you’ve got some divine help in that wife

helping you raise those children you’ve

got some divine help in that wife

building that career and that business

God says without her the divine help

that you need will not be there you

better cherish her you better appreciate

her you better love her because she is

your easer she’ll ease your burdens

women are multipliers women are

incubators women increase anything you

give them if a man gives a woman a seed

she’ll incubate it she’ll multiply it

she’ll increase it and nine months later

she’ll give him back a baby you give a

woman your your bachelor’s pad after you

get married

she’ll incubate it multiply it increase

it you get furniture you get curtains

you get a house it’ll look you know it

won’t look like a battle zone from the

Battle of Armageddon it will look like

something got ahold and she’ll multiply

it and give it back to you you give a

woman trouble she’ll incubate it

multiply it press down shaken together

and running over shall she give it back

to you but don’t you ever forget she’s a

multiplier she’s your divine help look

at your wife and say you are my divine

help some women fight depression because

their husbands are successful they build

huge corporations or they really win in

whatever field they’re in

succeed and they’re made almost to feel

unimportant and unnecessary and just

everybody’s about I’ll speak in my own

life everybody you know they talk about

whatever little success I’ve had they’ll

they almost can’t ignore your family

your wife they always are behind the

things the truth is without my divine

help this ministry wouldn’t be here I

wouldn’t be holding a microphone we

better never forget that it’s a lie you

are important you do matter you can make

a difference

you’re the difference of whether he wins

or loses your husband needs divine help

in a human package except the Lord build

the house they that labor labor in vain

except the Lord builds your home you’re

laboring in vain and God said my the way

I’m gonna build it is I’m gonna give you

divine help and you better treat her

right because she’s your anointing she’s

your favorite how you treat her will

determine how I listen to your prayers

that’s an actual scripture in the Bible

she’s your divine help and it when you

get to thinking that you’re really

something and you’re ignoring her

belittling her competing and and acting

as though you’ve done it don’t you ever

forget she is your divine help and

unless the Lord builds the house we’re

striving together we’re praying together

we’re dreaming

gather we’re doing the Lord’s wheel

together we’re raising kids together

we’re building a house together we’re

doing life together so important a

couple in love a spiritual union

together so here’s the here’s the here’s

the deal

Sarah and Abraham started out on a

spiritual journey that was remarkable we

talked about Abraham but we have to

remember Sarah’s the one who gave birth

to the promise she was his divine help

and she died at the age of a hundred and

thirty seven actually she was a hundred

and twenty seven and he was shot that

she died and you know why he was a

hundred and thirty-seven and he thought

he would die first that’s why we buy

insurance policies because usually the

men die first

he bought a cave so big that it was

three hundred seventy-five feet by five

hundred feet large enough to literally

hold hundreds of couples one scholar

said it was large enough to hold all of

the original children of Israel which

were twelve children of Jacob plus Isaac

plus Abraham and his and their wives it

all of them could have been buried but

what is interesting is only three

generations kept the marriage covenant

serious enough to make the journey back

and be buried in the cave of couples by

the fourth generation marriage

apparently potentially possibly it just

wasn’t important enough to be to be to

make it even though we started the rest

of the family said we’re going to lose

this tradition of starting out together

and being buried together and I think we

need to understand that we are we’re

setting the example for our children

that that so much is is is hanging on us

so much is

depending on us so much is absolutely

attached to us that if we go down our

families go down listen let me tell you

something this is interesting do you

know that the atom is the smallest

portion of matter that you can get down

to everything’s made of matter

everything I’m holding everything you

see is matter and if you could reduce

down to the smallest portion of what

matter is it’s one atom and you cannot

divide an atom and get half in half

because if you take an atom and you

split the atom you don’t get half and

half people think if we get a divorce

we’ll just split and you get half and I

get half and you get the boy and I get

the girl and you get the you get the

house and I get the condo and you get

the truck and I get the car and you get

the dog and I get the cat and that’s how

Mary that’s how you end a marriage

that’s not when you split it out Adam

you know what happens don’t you that’s

how we have the Adam bump because when

you split an atom it doesn’t split

evenly it it splits all the atoms around

it when you split your marriage it

doesn’t just affect you too but it

destroys and devastates all that is is

one atom being split and it attacks

everything around it that’s what divorce

does

that’s what splitting up does it

decimates cousins and aunts and uncles

and families and loved ones they’re

decimated because to split that’s what

the enemy wants to do to your marriage

into your home and you have to have a

made up mind I’m going to the cave of

couples

arm-in-arm hand-in-hand head heart and

heart side by side we’re going to stay

together it’s not a one-man show

I don’t want I don’t want a man cave

I want a couple’s cave I don’t

understand men who go off and leave

their wives all the time it’s okay to go

off and have fun with your buddies

everyone’s want but my god when you’re

doing everything you’re not a man cave

you’re a couple cave you ought to do

everything together as much as you can

every once in a while get with the guys

and go do this and do that but you

shouldn’t have any friend that matters

more than her notice that pilla means

double everybody say double if you stay

together if you make it to the cave a

couple you get a cave of couples you get

double you get double the strength you

get double the protection over your

children and your grandchildren you get

double the favor of God you get double

the prosperity you get double them the

Bible said one can put a thousand to

flight to ten thousand that means you

that’s that’s oh that’s you you become

ten times stronger sir when you and your

wife are standing together I know you’re

big I know you bad I know you got it all

together dear lady but you are ten times

stronger when your husband is standing

with you there’s something about the

person who has that that made that

spouse with them you’ve become one is it

that puts a thousand to ten thousand

you’re 10 times stronger think about

your family is under 10 times the

protection when you are together the

enemy cannot destroy the home that says

we’re going to the cave of couples and

divorcing going to get our marriage and

it’s not going to get our children’s

marriage and our children’s children’s

man by the grace of God we will not quit

well you don’t understand what’s

happened you don’t know what I’ve been

through

fight for what’s left

I don’t care how bad the enemy has

devastated I don’t care if there’s been

infidelity I don’t care what this is

this is the real things that people deal

with you’ve been shot you’ve been hurt

you’ve been broken but I’m telling you

that God can heal God can restore God

can fix God can bring that God fight for

what’s left the enemy may have attacked

your family but it’s not perfect

families that make it to the cave of

couples its families that have been

through hell but they got the grace of

God and they said we’ll fight for what’s

left and God gave them the grace to

recover it all hallelujah give God a

great shout of praise if you believe he

restores what the enemy tried to take

Abraham made it Isaac and Sarah maiya

and Rebecca made it Jacob and Leah made

it to the cave of couples and none of

them were perfect Abraham was a liar yes

he lied don’t you know she was

disappointed in him read your Bible

Isaac was a luster Abraham was a liar

and Jacob was a loser so God said I’m

the God of Abraham Isaac and Jacob I’m

the God of liars lustres and losers if

you give me your family you got any of

those stuff in your home cause just give

me all the lies give me all the less

give me all the losers I can touch it

with my grace and I can make winners out

of that house and I can bless that house

and I can anoint that house

if you don’t praise God Barak so cry out

it’s the truth you don’t have to give up

you don’t have to quit

we’re going to the cave of couples I’m

not divorce is not an option that’s not

something we can talk about and look to

and I’m telling somebody by the

anointing of God in this conference the

enemy’s power is going to be broken off

of your family and what the devil

thought was cursed and doomed God’s

going to turn into a blessing for

generations give God a great praise if

you believe in grace grace grace

there’s so much on us you know so much

is hanging on and so much is connected

to us so much as so much that if the

atom of your marriage splits it doesn’t

just split you to husband and wife but

it splits everything around you it

decimates families and children homes

this nail that I have appear this nail

represents your marriage so this is a

test this nail represents you and your

wife you and your spouse you and your

husband this nail is you and your

husband this is a portrait of Jesus and

through the cross through the nails the

blood that He shed you and your spouse

enter into a relationship with Jesus

Christ where his blood covers you where

his blood says what has started for

richer for poorer in sickness and in

health here’s the big words till death

do we part we’re going all the way to

the cave of couples and once you enter

into Christ you have his grace his power

his forgiveness his anointing his Holy

Spirit on your relationship but it’s not

just you and your mate that have entered

into Christ but you’ve got so many

responsibilities and you’ve got the

pressures of life and you’ve got bills

that have to be paid and and and and it

begins to just begins to hang on you and

then something happens life just begins

to happen maybe one of the children get

sick or you go through cancer with a

relative a family and it’s another

strain and you feel the stress of it and

it’s hanging on that relationship and

now the financial pressure begins to

have impact on this this in Christ’s

marriage

home and family not only that but

there’s nothing you know people who lose

a child people who lose in an accident

I’ve walked through many in this church

who lost tragically a child and the

enemy decimates that those marriages

because their pain is connected to one

another because they lost a child to

cancer or a car wreck and now suddenly

that it’s pulling on them it’s pulling

on them and then you know if you get

married and everything’s good and then

she gets pregnant and then she gets

pregnant again and then she gets

pregnant yeah I should say y’all get

pregnant not she it takes two to tango

and end up and she’s pregnant and and

there’s pressure and then there’s

pressure at work oh the pressure of work

you just don’t understand me Charisse

you just don’t understand the pressure

I’m under how many times does you have

you heard me you just don’t know what

it’s like to have to preach Sunday it’s

ons an exam it’s an essay every week

dear God do you understand the pressure

I live under woman then dad dies

mom dies loved ones die funerals and it

just gets heavier and more and more is

pulling on you and the whole family

because because notice the nails going

down if you notice that and then then

everything’s hanging on you and suddenly

the whole family falls to pieces the

whole marriage falls to pieces the whole

everything because here’s the reason why

and I want to tell you why you know why

it couldn’t handle all the things that

were hanging on it was too shallow the

only way to handle life as it gets

heavier and heavier and heavier

you got to go deeper and deeper and

deeper into Jesus

we got something greater that’ll hold us

together we got every time life comes

we’re gonna go deeper into him we don’t

let trials and troubles and issues and

problems stop us we go deeper into him

he’s the answer and I don’t care what’s

hanging on you when you get in him you

can handle it you’ve got a great praise

if you know that there’s a rock that you

can build your house on and it’ll stand

let’s stand up on our feet so I wrote

this down and I want to close with it I

want you to look at your if you’re a man

look at your divine help in a human

package

and I want you to say these words me and

you are going to end our journey

together I love you you’re my divine

help you’re the easer of my life we’ll

be buried together we were married

together we said till death do we part

and nothing’s gonna ever change that

don’t you ever question it don’t you

ever worry we’re not a perfect couple

we’re not flawless but we’ve got grace

say this say this now I make you a vow

God gave you to me and I’ll make you

this pledge we’re gonna end the journey

at the cave of couples no quitting no

giving up we just will go deeper into

Jesus no matter what life brings we are

together forever give God a great praise

right now and you better kiss her if you

got any sentence or hug or something

I didn’t say make a baby

I said seem people calm down

all right every head bowed every eye

closed how many of you got this word in

your heart that I’m going to the cave of

couples it’s not an option for me it’s

not an option if you’re in this room we

ever had bound every eye closed and you

say Jensen I’d love to just pray a

prayer I just love to know that I’ve

been forgiven everybody pray this prayer

out loud just say these words Lord Jesus

I surrender to you I’m giving you these

days with my mate and we’re ten times

stronger because we’re standing here

saying God heal everything wrong

everything broken restore back to us

anything we’ve lost I receive answers I

receive words from God say I’m forgiven

and I am loved by God through Jesus

Christ give the biggest praise you can

right now

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