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so I want you to look with me in the
book of Genesis chapter 23 at a
remarkable little passage of Scripture
that I pray God burns into your heart
like he has mine in verse 17 and so the
field of Ephraim was in McFeely which
was before men the field the cave which
was in it all the trees the fields the
border surrounding were deeded to
Abraham as a possession verse 18 in the
presence of his sons verse 19 and after
this Abraham buried Sarah his wife in
the cave of the field of Machpelah
everybody say Meg pilla Machpelah means
Mac cave pila double the cave of double
or the cave of couples that’s what I
want to talk about the cave of couples
how do I get there how do I keep my
marriage together and when this life is
over we made it all the way to the cave
of couples where Abraham and Sarah they
started their journey together they
ended their journey together in the cave
of couples Isaac and Rebecca started
their journey together and the Bible
said they were buried in the cave
because the parent set the example the
next generation said that matter for not
getting alone our parents modeled for us
that we need to stay together they were
buried in the cave of couples Isaac and
Rebecca followed the example and were
buried in the cave of couples and then
Jacob and Leah were buried in the cave
of couples how in the world do we get
through this life two totally different
people and end in the cave of couples
Adam and Eve were the first couple that
we read about in the Bible
God made them a couple the word mate is
used to refer in the animal kingdom the
mate of a monkey the mate of a lion it
can also be used that about the softness
missing that where’s the mate of that
sock where’s the shoe the other shoe but
when he describes in Genesis the woman
he calls her the helpmeet meed
that is not a mispronunciation or some
kind of trench you no difference in
translation that is a specific word for
a specific reason is interesting God
called the wife the help meat not help
mate help meet em et the hebrew word is
is a neither knees ER it’s the word from
which we get evan easer now the word
evany czar if you live in the south if
you live in the south somewhere in your
town there’s a Baptist Church called
Ebenezer Baptist whether you know what
it means or not it’s there I guarantee
Vera heard of Ebenezer Baptist I thought
so well that’s the story and this is so
important so just stay with me that’s
the story of when Israel was fighting
the Philistines and they were about to
wipe them out and God started throwing
hell stones from heaven and delivered
God’s people and as a memorial the Bible
said that they built a memorial to God
and they called it ever which means to
build nezer Abba nezer the nezer part
means divine help to build with divine
help in other words the only way we made
it through the battle we went through
was with divine help and when God speaks
of the wife he says she is sir your
divine help she’s in
that’s why the Bible said whoever finds
a wife or divine help finds favor with
the Lord you’re going to win or lose
your battles depending on whether or not
you’ve got some divine help in your
corner you’ve got some divine help
praying for you when you go to your job
you’ve got some divine help in that wife
helping you raise those children you’ve
got some divine help in that wife
building that career and that business
God says without her the divine help
that you need will not be there you
better cherish her you better appreciate
her you better love her because she is
your easer she’ll ease your burdens
women are multipliers women are
incubators women increase anything you
give them if a man gives a woman a seed
she’ll incubate it she’ll multiply it
she’ll increase it and nine months later
she’ll give him back a baby you give a
woman your your bachelor’s pad after you
get married
she’ll incubate it multiply it increase
it you get furniture you get curtains
you get a house it’ll look you know it
won’t look like a battle zone from the
Battle of Armageddon it will look like
something got ahold and she’ll multiply
it and give it back to you you give a
woman trouble she’ll incubate it
multiply it press down shaken together
and running over shall she give it back
to you but don’t you ever forget she’s a
multiplier she’s your divine help look
at your wife and say you are my divine
help some women fight depression because
their husbands are successful they build
huge corporations or they really win in
whatever field they’re in
succeed and they’re made almost to feel
unimportant and unnecessary and just
everybody’s about I’ll speak in my own
life everybody you know they talk about
whatever little success I’ve had they’ll
they almost can’t ignore your family
your wife they always are behind the
things the truth is without my divine
help this ministry wouldn’t be here I
wouldn’t be holding a microphone we
better never forget that it’s a lie you
are important you do matter you can make
a difference
you’re the difference of whether he wins
or loses your husband needs divine help
in a human package except the Lord build
the house they that labor labor in vain
except the Lord builds your home you’re
laboring in vain and God said my the way
I’m gonna build it is I’m gonna give you
divine help and you better treat her
right because she’s your anointing she’s
your favorite how you treat her will
determine how I listen to your prayers
that’s an actual scripture in the Bible
she’s your divine help and it when you
get to thinking that you’re really
something and you’re ignoring her
belittling her competing and and acting
as though you’ve done it don’t you ever
forget she is your divine help and
unless the Lord builds the house we’re
striving together we’re praying together
we’re dreaming
gather we’re doing the Lord’s wheel
together we’re raising kids together
we’re building a house together we’re
doing life together so important a
couple in love a spiritual union
together so here’s the here’s the here’s
the deal
Sarah and Abraham started out on a
spiritual journey that was remarkable we
talked about Abraham but we have to
remember Sarah’s the one who gave birth
to the promise she was his divine help
and she died at the age of a hundred and
thirty seven actually she was a hundred
and twenty seven and he was shot that
she died and you know why he was a
hundred and thirty-seven and he thought
he would die first that’s why we buy
insurance policies because usually the
men die first
he bought a cave so big that it was
three hundred seventy-five feet by five
hundred feet large enough to literally
hold hundreds of couples one scholar
said it was large enough to hold all of
the original children of Israel which
were twelve children of Jacob plus Isaac
plus Abraham and his and their wives it
all of them could have been buried but
what is interesting is only three
generations kept the marriage covenant
serious enough to make the journey back
and be buried in the cave of couples by
the fourth generation marriage
apparently potentially possibly it just
wasn’t important enough to be to be to
make it even though we started the rest
of the family said we’re going to lose
this tradition of starting out together
and being buried together and I think we
need to understand that we are we’re
setting the example for our children
that that so much is is is hanging on us
so much is
depending on us so much is absolutely
attached to us that if we go down our
families go down listen let me tell you
something this is interesting do you
know that the atom is the smallest
portion of matter that you can get down
to everything’s made of matter
everything I’m holding everything you
see is matter and if you could reduce
down to the smallest portion of what
matter is it’s one atom and you cannot
divide an atom and get half in half
because if you take an atom and you
split the atom you don’t get half and
half people think if we get a divorce
we’ll just split and you get half and I
get half and you get the boy and I get
the girl and you get the you get the
house and I get the condo and you get
the truck and I get the car and you get
the dog and I get the cat and that’s how
Mary that’s how you end a marriage
that’s not when you split it out Adam
you know what happens don’t you that’s
how we have the Adam bump because when
you split an atom it doesn’t split
evenly it it splits all the atoms around
it when you split your marriage it
doesn’t just affect you too but it
destroys and devastates all that is is
one atom being split and it attacks
everything around it that’s what divorce
does
that’s what splitting up does it
decimates cousins and aunts and uncles
and families and loved ones they’re
decimated because to split that’s what
the enemy wants to do to your marriage
into your home and you have to have a
made up mind I’m going to the cave of
couples
arm-in-arm hand-in-hand head heart and
heart side by side we’re going to stay
together it’s not a one-man show
I don’t want I don’t want a man cave
I want a couple’s cave I don’t
understand men who go off and leave
their wives all the time it’s okay to go
off and have fun with your buddies
everyone’s want but my god when you’re
doing everything you’re not a man cave
you’re a couple cave you ought to do
everything together as much as you can
every once in a while get with the guys
and go do this and do that but you
shouldn’t have any friend that matters
more than her notice that pilla means
double everybody say double if you stay
together if you make it to the cave a
couple you get a cave of couples you get
double you get double the strength you
get double the protection over your
children and your grandchildren you get
double the favor of God you get double
the prosperity you get double them the
Bible said one can put a thousand to
flight to ten thousand that means you
that’s that’s oh that’s you you become
ten times stronger sir when you and your
wife are standing together I know you’re
big I know you bad I know you got it all
together dear lady but you are ten times
stronger when your husband is standing
with you there’s something about the
person who has that that made that
spouse with them you’ve become one is it
that puts a thousand to ten thousand
you’re 10 times stronger think about
your family is under 10 times the
protection when you are together the
enemy cannot destroy the home that says
we’re going to the cave of couples and
divorcing going to get our marriage and
it’s not going to get our children’s
marriage and our children’s children’s
man by the grace of God we will not quit
well you don’t understand what’s
happened you don’t know what I’ve been
through
fight for what’s left
I don’t care how bad the enemy has
devastated I don’t care if there’s been
infidelity I don’t care what this is
this is the real things that people deal
with you’ve been shot you’ve been hurt
you’ve been broken but I’m telling you
that God can heal God can restore God
can fix God can bring that God fight for
what’s left the enemy may have attacked
your family but it’s not perfect
families that make it to the cave of
couples its families that have been
through hell but they got the grace of
God and they said we’ll fight for what’s
left and God gave them the grace to
recover it all hallelujah give God a
great shout of praise if you believe he
restores what the enemy tried to take
Abraham made it Isaac and Sarah maiya
and Rebecca made it Jacob and Leah made
it to the cave of couples and none of
them were perfect Abraham was a liar yes
he lied don’t you know she was
disappointed in him read your Bible
Isaac was a luster Abraham was a liar
and Jacob was a loser so God said I’m
the God of Abraham Isaac and Jacob I’m
the God of liars lustres and losers if
you give me your family you got any of
those stuff in your home cause just give
me all the lies give me all the less
give me all the losers I can touch it
with my grace and I can make winners out
of that house and I can bless that house
and I can anoint that house
if you don’t praise God Barak so cry out
it’s the truth you don’t have to give up
you don’t have to quit
we’re going to the cave of couples I’m
not divorce is not an option that’s not
something we can talk about and look to
and I’m telling somebody by the
anointing of God in this conference the
enemy’s power is going to be broken off
of your family and what the devil
thought was cursed and doomed God’s
going to turn into a blessing for
generations give God a great praise if
you believe in grace grace grace
there’s so much on us you know so much
is hanging on and so much is connected
to us so much as so much that if the
atom of your marriage splits it doesn’t
just split you to husband and wife but
it splits everything around you it
decimates families and children homes
this nail that I have appear this nail
represents your marriage so this is a
test this nail represents you and your
wife you and your spouse you and your
husband this nail is you and your
husband this is a portrait of Jesus and
through the cross through the nails the
blood that He shed you and your spouse
enter into a relationship with Jesus
Christ where his blood covers you where
his blood says what has started for
richer for poorer in sickness and in
health here’s the big words till death
do we part we’re going all the way to
the cave of couples and once you enter
into Christ you have his grace his power
his forgiveness his anointing his Holy
Spirit on your relationship but it’s not
just you and your mate that have entered
into Christ but you’ve got so many
responsibilities and you’ve got the
pressures of life and you’ve got bills
that have to be paid and and and and it
begins to just begins to hang on you and
then something happens life just begins
to happen maybe one of the children get
sick or you go through cancer with a
relative a family and it’s another
strain and you feel the stress of it and
it’s hanging on that relationship and
now the financial pressure begins to
have impact on this this in Christ’s
marriage
home and family not only that but
there’s nothing you know people who lose
a child people who lose in an accident
I’ve walked through many in this church
who lost tragically a child and the
enemy decimates that those marriages
because their pain is connected to one
another because they lost a child to
cancer or a car wreck and now suddenly
that it’s pulling on them it’s pulling
on them and then you know if you get
married and everything’s good and then
she gets pregnant and then she gets
pregnant again and then she gets
pregnant yeah I should say y’all get
pregnant not she it takes two to tango
and end up and she’s pregnant and and
there’s pressure and then there’s
pressure at work oh the pressure of work
you just don’t understand me Charisse
you just don’t understand the pressure
I’m under how many times does you have
you heard me you just don’t know what
it’s like to have to preach Sunday it’s
ons an exam it’s an essay every week
dear God do you understand the pressure
I live under woman then dad dies
mom dies loved ones die funerals and it
just gets heavier and more and more is
pulling on you and the whole family
because because notice the nails going
down if you notice that and then then
everything’s hanging on you and suddenly
the whole family falls to pieces the
whole marriage falls to pieces the whole
everything because here’s the reason why
and I want to tell you why you know why
it couldn’t handle all the things that
were hanging on it was too shallow the
only way to handle life as it gets
heavier and heavier and heavier
you got to go deeper and deeper and
deeper into Jesus
we got something greater that’ll hold us
together we got every time life comes
we’re gonna go deeper into him we don’t
let trials and troubles and issues and
problems stop us we go deeper into him
he’s the answer and I don’t care what’s
hanging on you when you get in him you
can handle it you’ve got a great praise
if you know that there’s a rock that you
can build your house on and it’ll stand
let’s stand up on our feet so I wrote
this down and I want to close with it I
want you to look at your if you’re a man
look at your divine help in a human
package
and I want you to say these words me and
you are going to end our journey
together I love you you’re my divine
help you’re the easer of my life we’ll
be buried together we were married
together we said till death do we part
and nothing’s gonna ever change that
don’t you ever question it don’t you
ever worry we’re not a perfect couple
we’re not flawless but we’ve got grace
say this say this now I make you a vow
God gave you to me and I’ll make you
this pledge we’re gonna end the journey
at the cave of couples no quitting no
giving up we just will go deeper into
Jesus no matter what life brings we are
together forever give God a great praise
right now and you better kiss her if you
got any sentence or hug or something
I didn’t say make a baby
I said seem people calm down
all right every head bowed every eye
closed how many of you got this word in
your heart that I’m going to the cave of
couples it’s not an option for me it’s
not an option if you’re in this room we
ever had bound every eye closed and you
say Jensen I’d love to just pray a
prayer I just love to know that I’ve
been forgiven everybody pray this prayer
out loud just say these words Lord Jesus
I surrender to you I’m giving you these
days with my mate and we’re ten times
stronger because we’re standing here
saying God heal everything wrong
everything broken restore back to us
anything we’ve lost I receive answers I
receive words from God say I’m forgiven
and I am loved by God through Jesus
Christ give the biggest praise you can
right now
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