Dr. Stanley highlights the second half of the parable of the prodigal son. Though he has the appearance of a devoted son, the older brother’s heart is full of bitterness and jealousy. Don’t let self-righteousness poison your relationship with God or His children. For more messages from Charles Stanley, including this week’s broadcast, go to intouch.org/tv.

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in touch with Dr Charles Stanley

reaching the world with the Gospel of

Jesus Christ through sound Biblical

teaching next on InTouch absent from the

party

good

Jesus was a master storyteller

not only that he knew exactly who his

audience was

when you look at the 15th chapter of the

Gospel of Luke which is where our text

is you’ll note that he knew exactly who

was in the crowd who was listening and

who was watching so that chapter begins

with these words

now all the tax collectors and the

Sinners were coming near to him to

listen to him

both the Pharisees and the scribes began

to Grumble saying this man receives

Sinners and eats with them

and then he talks about the Prodigal Son

and so we usually know this as the story

of The Prodigal Son and the first part

of it is about that

but I want you to see that there’s

another side of the story of The

Prodigal Son

we know that story that he decided that

he lived long enough it is with his

family he wanted his share of what was

coming to him and he decided he’d leave

home

he left home and the Bible says very

clearly that he wasted his substance

with wrath is living and when he had

spent everything

a severe famine occurred in the land and

he was he was poveraged and he ended up

in a Hog Pen and eating hog food pods

they call them

and so we look at that and then we see

how he finally came home and the Rejoice

thing that was going on and they what a

wonderful story of forgiveness that God

demonstrated through Jesus about the

Prodigal Son

there’s a whole nother story here

and that’s the reason why we don’t

mention very often

and I want to say this right up front

everybody can find their life themselves

in this parable

for example that is

The Prodigal Son

then there’s the father who went after

who waited for him and forgave him

then there’s another son

and that other son is the one I want us

to look at particularly today

we’ve talked about the sun coming home

and now what about the Elder son

so I want you to ask yourself the

question which one of these characters

best describes you

loving father

Wayward Son

or the son who did not leave home but

stayed there

so look at it for a moment

and as I think about that I think about

what happens here in beginning in the

25th verse

now the oldest son was in the field

and when he came and approached the

house he heard music and dancing so

think about this the part is on

nobody has invited him

he just came in and found out the party

was going on what in the world’s going

on

and so the eldest son was in the field

when he came and approached the house

and heard the music he summoned one of

the servants and began inquiring what

these things could be

so he said to him your brother

has come and your father has killed the

fatted calf because he’s received him

back safe and sound imagine what the

brother felt

but he became angry and was not willing

to go in and his father came out and

began pleading with him

but his response was this

but he answered and said to his father

look for so many years I’ve been serving

you I’ve never neglected a command of

yours and yet you have never given me a

young goat so that I might celebrate

with my friends

kind of a dad are you

but when this son of yours came who has

devoured your wealth with prostitutes

it’s interested in he didn’t name a

whole lot of sins he just named The

Horseman

you kill the fatty calf

and he said to him son you’ve always

been with me and all that is mine is

yours

but we had this we had look at this we

had to celebrate and rejoice for the

brother of yours was dead

and has begun to live and was lost and

has been found

period

so the title of this message is absent

from the party

I want you to think for just a moment

I want you to think about

what was going on

in this man’s heart in his life in his

thinking

when he came home

feeling like he’d been ostracized

overlooked well if my brother’s all that

important then why didn’t they tell me

about it

so what I want you to see is this

it’s easy to criticize other people who

are living in sin without looking at

ourselves

real easy to do

and all of us have done it we’ve looked

at other people’s sin and think how

awful that is and never stop to think

about well how do I compare that

the next

the next few words I’m going to give you

are words that describe this elder son

first of all verse 28 says he was angry

naturally he was angry he got ostracized

nobody told him about the party because

his father said we had to celebrate he

was angry

secondly

he was jealous look in verse 29 but it

answered and said to him father

look for so many years I have served you

never neglected a command of yours and

you’ve never given me a young goat so

that I may celebrate with my friends

very jealous

three he was very bitter

listen to that

but when this son of yours

who has devoured your wealth with

prostitutes you kill the fetid care for

him

resentment look in 29.

but he answered and said to his father

look for so many years I’ve been serving

you very resentful about the fact that

he had been faithful in the household

doing his job and not getting into

recognition

verse 29 rejection

so many years I have served you

you didn’t do this for me

he felt rejected and rejected his father

as a result

every single one of these the verses are

here anger jealousy bitterness

resentment rejection and unforgiving

here’s what you’ve done now look at me

very unforgiving about it in verse 30.

but when this son of yours came and

whose devoured your wealth of

prostitutes you kill the emphatic care

for him

very disrespectful look if you will in

verse 30.

but when his son this son of yours came

who has devoured your wealth

and notice he makes those words very

very pronounced this son of yours

verse 29 very accusative

look

here’s what you’ve done

you’ve never given me that

and then very self-righteous

I’ve been with you all these years I’ve

done everything you asked me to do

and then verse 30 caustic biting

piercing words

but when this son of yours not my

brother when this son of yours came who

has devoured your wealth with

prostitutes you kill the fatted calf for

him

now

when you look at his accusations

you can understand why I felt it

and sometimes we are prone to be

critical of other people when they’ve

sinned

sinned against God in in terrible ways

awful ways horrible ways sometimes

and oftentimes don’t stop to think what

about us

so I want us to look at a few lessons

here

and what Jesus is saying these Pharisees

and Sadducees you keep the law

you’re very you’re very evidently

keeping the law but what about your

attitude

and so

there are two pigpens in this parable

one’s in a far country and one is at

home

this boy was in the pig pen at home he

never left home but look at his

character anger generous bit of

resentful rejecting unforgiving

disrespectful accusative self-righteous

and caustic biting your son is what you

did for him you’ve never done that for

me

sometimes we can feel very Pious about

things

and what I want you to do is I went

through this passage looking at myself

Lord

do I have any of this stuff in my life

it’s sinful it’s wicked it’s vile has

nothing to do with righteousness or

living a holy life listen to this anger

jealousy bitter and resentful rejection

unforgiving disrespectful accused it is

self-righteous cause thick biting and

piercing and you’ve thought about

something in your own life already

I’ll bet

two Pig pins one of them was home one of

them

was away from home

and what Jesus was saying is

you can go to synagogue every Sabbath

what about your heart

what about your attitude what about your

view of others

then

think about it in this way

you can be in a pig pen and not even be

aware of it

and go to church on Sunday or do nice

things or give or whatever it might be

it’s the condition of the heart what do

I think one son was aware of his

sinfulness

humbled himself in the Hog Pen he was an

embarrassment to everybody

but his brother

who never left home

who is Faithfully serving his father

was in another kind of Hog Pen

of self-righteous

and then full of anger bitter jealousy

bitterness resentment rejection

unforgiving disrespectful accusative

self-righteous caustic biting and

piercing you say why do you keep why do

you keep bringing that to my mind

because I want us to look at ourselves

and see is any of that true of us

would you not agree that none of that

fits a follower of Jesus

none of that fits a person who’s been

born again

and I think there are a lot of people

who live

in that second pig pen

that don’t realize they’re there

all kinds of attitude and prejudices and

unbeliefs and false Doctrine and so

forth but just attitudes

even if you think about what Jesus

talked about most of all

in all of his teaching wasn’t

necessarily performing Miracles or

giving us a doctrinal statement about

something it was about attitude

Jesus knew how to drive straight to the

heart

to help us to examine ourselves

understand what’s going on

so one son was

so desperate he was feeding on the Pods

at the drop from the tree that the Hogs

were eating and he had he had to sort of

beat the hog to the pod

the other son can sit down at this

awesome meal

physically

but emotionally

it was the poison of unforgiveness in

his heart

because he may have been at home

but there was no Oneness between him and

his father

he may have done everything his father

told him to do

but what about what he felt what did he

feel anger jealousy bitterness

resentment rejection unforgiveness

disrespectful accusative self-righteous

costly bitter piercing

attitude

so the path of Freedom From The Hog Pen

of life is paved with what repentance

and surrender to the will of the father

admitted acknowledge it confess it

and come home to the father

and so

I look at that Passage

and remember what Jesus said come unto

me all ye that labor in the heavy Lane

I’ll give you rest

coming to me all of you

none of us are perfect we’ll never be

perfect

In this passage of scripture is so

descriptive

of those who stand on the outside and

criticize us

for our mistakes and failures

those who try out life and just mess it

up badly have to come home

in shreds emotionally

and those who appius

full of jealousy anger criticism

Prejudice you name it

and what

which of the two is in worse condition

probably if you ask Jesus

which one do you think he would have

said

I think he would have said the boy who

stayed at home and looked good

wasn’t a whole lot worse condition than

the boy who messed it up bad and was

genuinely repented and said I’m going

home

I’m going to make this right I’m going

home as a servant to my father I don’t

even deserve forgiveness I don’t deserve

acceptance

Jesus wanted the Pharisees and the

Sadducees to see

is not our status our position our

wealth our acceptance our titles

it’s the condition of our heart you can

live in a dump be a saint

you can live in a castle and not be fit

to live with it’s not all that outward

stuff

all of us at some point in our life in

some way whatever it may have been

all of us have sinned against God

and you may be seated here today

thinking

I don’t know why I showed up this

morning

I don’t feel like I’m worthy to be

sitting among a bunch of holy people

you should never feel like that you’re

so sinful you can’t come to church

you should never feel like things are so

bad for you that you wouldn’t be

accepted if you told us what you’ve done

that’s not the issue

Jesus never turned away a sincere

repentant Center

and he was sent to these Pharisees and

Sadducees

you look good

but look at your heart

this boy blew it all in a hog pan

and you all blow it all

and go to church

listen every single one of us can find

ourselves somewhere in this story

we talked about the prodigal son coming

home

and here’s the prodigal son that stayed

at home

and you may be thinking but you don’t

know how bad I am

I think God knows

and listen to this verse of scripture

for God so loved the world everybody

that he gave his only begotten son

that whoever believes in him would not

perish but have everlasting life and he

did not say except if but he says come

home and I’ll forgive you

and I want to invite you to ask the Lord

Jesus Christ to forgive you of your sin

I don’t care how far down you think you

are you think you’re helpless and

hopeless you are never hopeless as long

as God is and he’ll always be you’re not

hopeless

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you ask him to forgive you he’ll forgive

you not only that he sends his holy

spirit

into your life to enable you encourage

you cover you Shadow you energize you to

provide everything you need to live a

clean Godly life

whatever habits you may have

whatever course of action you’ve taken

is heading in the wrong direction today

you can turn around by asking for his

forgiveness surrendering your life to

him and asking him to guide you

to friends

to the right Church to listen to The

Gospel of Jesus Christ and begin to grow

in your Christian Life

you don’t have to stay in the Hog Pen

you don’t have to stay there

father

we confess that we would all be

in a big pen we’re not for your grace

Amazing Grace

it has reached down into our lives

dealt with our sin

by the blood of Jesus our sins forgiven

and name written in the Lamb’s Book of

Life

and we have you as our life

through the power of the Holy Spirit

father I pray that you speak to every

single one of us today

and that we’d be honest enough

to answer the question

am I

in a Hog Pen

out of your will

and it’s very evident no matter if you

will

or am I in a Hog Pen

sort of hidden away

and nobody knows

what I’m going through

I pray that you’ll speak to our hearts

father

and pray for somebody here today

and somebody who has been listening or

watching

knowing in their hearts

where they are spiritual and emotionally

be willing to confess their sinfulness

to you

and recognize that you have provided

grace through the cross

to forgive us of anything

and all things forever

you said if we confess our sins which

means if we agree with you about them

you are faithful and just that is you

can always be counted on to do it to

forgive us of our sins and not only that

clean us up cleanse us from all

unrighteousness all sin

and give us a fresh new beginning

no one may know

where we are in the hog pins but God you

know

and as you love both of these boys the

same

we pray

that wherever we are

in whatever Hogue pen we’re in today we

choose

to turn around

and come home

and thank you for a new beginning

in Jesus name amen

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