When dealing with loss and devastation there is no real solution apart from the presence of the Lord. Getting alone and honest with God is essential to navigating hard circumstances. In this Q&A, Pastor Bill also shares the importance of finding comfort through the scriptures by reading out of the Psalms.
how do you keep that passion
we’re in an environment speaking faith
but how do you deal with disappointments
negative events like you know cancer not
being healed and
uh how do you hold on to joy and peace
in times of you know devastation extreme
devastation
yeah yeah and we don’t talk uh you know
our church is large enough that we have
some really difficult things happen but
they happen
almost don’t happen to the whole church
often times they’re like a little bit
more localized
you know right i’m aware of this right
now going on they’re like uh you know
the whole church isn’t dealing with it
but some of us are
yeah yeah you know that’s true i
there’s no real there’s no real solution
apart from the presence of the lord it’s
not counseling you know people come to
us with
real tough questions most of the time
they’re not asking for an
answer they’re asking for an answer you
know they’re not they’re not
asking for point one two and three
they’re asking for something that will
give them peace in the middle of this
chaos and this pain and loss whatever
and and i just
i’m i’m constantly trying to direct
people into
one of the students asked me yesterday
after after class
the same question what what do i do and
uh i’m constantly directing people into
you know get along with god be brutally
honest
just don’t accuse me you know it looks
like you betrayed me
it feels like you didn’t keep your word
this is what i do it feels like you
betrayed me you did not keep your word
i know it’s impossible i know that
you’re perfectly faithful
so i include that in the prayer because
i know that i know that that’s true in
my
heart of hearts i know that he’s
absolutely good he’s absolutely perfect
but this is what it feels like it feels
like i got left alone feels like i got
stuck
yeah and i’m in a whole bunch of pain
and a whole bunch of disappointment
because it feels like you
you abandoned me but then i do follow
with that honest other part that says i
know that’s not true
but somehow you’ve got to touch me where
i’m where i’m hurting and
what i will do is i i will i will bring
out all the stuff that i’m thinking and
feeling i just bring it all out lay it
on the table
not expecting you know i i don’t
i don’t ever require anything of him i i
mean it’s not as though we could but i
mean
in my attitude i don’t you don’t owe me
any explanations i will serve you
regardless
and i’ll serve you with joy but these
are the things that hurt
and i always i always have the word with
me in those in those
moments sometimes you’ll give me an
impression
of where to turn in the bible other
times i’ll just go to a familiar
portion that he’s ministered to me in
the past i’ll i’ll open to psalms 25 for
example 27 and i’ll
and i’ll just start to read or 37 some
of these that have been real
monuments in my life in the past i’ll
just go there as a starting place and
i’ll begin to read
and i’ll read i’ll just continue reading
i may i may go through 20 psalms but i
will read
until he speaks to me when he speaks to
me i may not have an answer for that
but i do have an answer for the pain you
know
and that process depending how
devastating this thing is i’m
i may do honestly i may do a half a
dozen times in a day or more
i remember one situation years ago it
was one evening
i i heard from the lord
i don’t think it would be i don’t think
it’d be an exaggeration at all i heard
i heard from the lord 20 times at least
in one evening
because it was so as soon as i’d get
into a place of real comfort and
peace i’d start working again and just
get bombarded and i would go back to the
lord he was so generous and talking
you know speaking to me bringing that
peace and and then the next day you know
you just you just you you just give
yourself
to the lord for him to fix you for him
to heal you can’t fix yourself
i’m not going to psych myself up i can
give him an offering and i and i do yeah
i’ll hold up my biggest disappointment
uh
somebody uh died because of a disease
and i will
i will deliberately intentionally
offer the lord an offering of
thanksgiving and praise for his healing
power
and i will come into the opposite of
what what i’ve experienced
and and i will i it’s it’s uh we’ve
discussed this one before but
i i live with an awareness that i’m
giving him an offering
i won’t have a chance to give him in
heaven yeah it’s
it’s i want it’s almost like incense i
want
the pain and the loss i want that to
flavor the smoke the fire the the
incense of the offering that i’m giving
giving him because it’s a sacrifice it’s
my will is being shaped by an intention
to honor him in every situation
and so i i wanted i want to grab my
moment now because i won’t have it in
eternity i’ll never have a chance to
give him
an offering out of pain or loss in
eternity so we we grab it now but that’s
a process right there but
you’re the honesty with the lord the
confession of his
of what you know to be true about him uh
the word
the praise um interaction with people of
faith
you really really be careful of who who
you’re with in those times do not
don’t be with critical people people
that complain a lot
people that are just sarcastic people
that are
are just unbelieving believers you know
just
if you can avoid it all in those it’s
like having a dislocated joint
it’s it’s it’s already been dislocated
and it
the wrong move it comes out again so
easily so you
you protect that that part of your body
you protect that part of your heart
and you just you just don’t get down to
slippery you don’t get on icy sidewalks
you know yeah you avoid those situations
because you just know that’s a recipe
for disaster
yeah you may be strong enough in another
season it’s not
they don’t affect you at all but in
those moments man you gotta
no one else is gonna protect you yeah
you know you i have to
you know i i’m the one that has the key
to the the gate to the garden of my
heart
and i’m i’ve got to make sure that only
the right people get in there