Priscilla Shirer and her mother, Lois Evans, join Laurie Crouch on TBN’s Praise. Listen as they discuss the different challenges that come along with raising children in the midst of today’s world; speaking about ways on how to handle parental anxiety and fully trusting God with worry over your kids.
if there was dysfunction because who
doesn’t have dysfunction you know in
some capacity and the way they raise
their children or their upbringing
coming up um you just sit back in that
and you go okay well lord you know what
the lapses were in my judgment you know
how i didn’t necessarily get everything
right because nobody does and so god
would you
bring the right people into their life
would you shape their character and this
you know as a young adult would you do
what now i can’t do hands-on because i’m
not with them every day but lord
i give my kid to you
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i think one of the hard parts about
being a mom of children right now is
that there seems to be this
message that’s purported that if you’re
just doing the motherhood thing that
you’re missing out on something you’re
supposed to be doing some worldwide
ministry as well as mothering your
children and so those that have chosen
to just stay home
in some ways i feel like it’s easy to
feel a bit deficient or a bit like
you’re not actually doing all that god
has called you to do and i i think that
that’s a that’s um
not not necessarily the the right
message that needs to be
extended to people i don’t either you
know my dad used to i was raised in a
pastor’s home and
he always talked about the the family
being the church in in miniature you
know and if it didn’t work there you’re
going to have a hard time at working
anywhere else if it didn’t work in your
home yeah wow you know and that that was
the ministry and i know priscilla you’re
you we all love to sit and minister to
people and we love to be about the
father’s business but that business is
in the home just as much as it is on the
outside this is our privilege to do to
raise our kids yeah
so we had four of us there were four of
us and all different activities that we
were in sure but my mom and dad were
very now i realized intentional yes it’s
the only way it happens is if you’re
intentional
intentional about putting us around the
table yeah and that’s where we would
spend time together as a family other
places as well but we were going to have
dinner together yeah didn’t happen every
night of the week but it was it was a
consistent effort on mom’s part to
actually cook something yeah and us sit
down at the table and eat it together
and that’s where we talked that’s where
we had family devotions that’s where we
found out what was happening in their
day yeah we learned a lot about them and
they learned a lot about us yeah you
know they actually got involved in
how much ministry we did
in the different seasons in our lives
they would actually tell us you guys are
gone too much yeah but but
around the dinner table is where we
heard
what was happening in our kids lives and
their hearts yeah you know like anthony
our son
we learned that we couldn’t just tell
him the day before that we were leaving
for africa
and we thought we were doing that was
wise because he was he’s a sensitive
child and we thought don’t give him this
information two weeks out let’s just do
it the day before but we learned at the
dining room table that anthony needs to
know a year out
so the dining room table was very
important for us yeah what about women
that have maybe passed that time where
they have that influence i mean i’m sure
that’s where prayer is huge is a huge
way yeah
and still and i i say still take the
opportunity if even it’s past that stage
i say still take the opportunity every
time god gives you a chance to speak
into your life the lives of your
children even even though they’re adults
you know i still call my kids and if
it’s a long
inspiration god’s given me to tell my
kids i tell them hang up
and don’t when i call back
just when you have time listen to what
the lord
inspired me to share with you so i think
there’s always opportunity to still
speak
into the lives of our children or those
that we have care of family friends
i mentioned single parents if they allow
you to speak into the children’s lives
you know proverbs 18 21 says we need to
speak good
and today kids need to hear
good because there’s so much evil around
yeah and i think go ahead i was just
going to say i think also
to know that the mercy and the grace of
god covers our faults and our frailties
and our weaknesses so if there was
dysfunction because who doesn’t have
dysfunction you know in some capacity
and in the way they raise their children
or their upbringing coming up um you
just sit back in that and you go okay
well lord you know what the lapses were
in my judgment you know how i didn’t
necessarily get everything right because
nobody does and so god would you
bring the right people into their life
would you shape their character and this
you know as a young adult would you do
what now i i can’t do hands-on because
i’m not with them every day but lord
i give my kid to you
and just know that his mercy that’s what
it does his mercy doesn’t give us what
we do deserve and his grace gives us
what we don’t deserve
and um and so that’s the goodness of god
yeah you know i love what you’re talking
about though about setting the
boundaries yeah because in those
boundaries come safety safety yeah and
care because
children left on their own i mean the
bible tells us all about it children
left to themselves brings shame
you know but setting those boundaries i
think that’s so important because i do
um in a world that is so um
you know the internet phones all of that
boy it’s easy to just let the kids be
with other kids go to their houses and
and they’re just kind of free to to do
what they want to do and i think as
parents
we do need to gather our children yeah
and and
bring them
in-house a little more than what they
are yeah i ca i kept my kids with me i i
have
you know they went to school
through the third and the sixth grade
but but i kept them with me if i
back back at that time we had our own
company and i was able to travel with my
husband and i didn’t go without my kids
we just didn’t matt didn’t either you
know we just took them and i know that’s
not a
it’s not
yeah everybody’s reality exactly but um
i think that’s so important of course
yeah just being close by being close by
yeah priscilla we’ve got a few more
minutes in this beautiful show i have
loved this every minute of this
conversation i love when you speak about
the family i love the blessing that you
pray over your boys for the last little
while why don’t you look into that
camera and just minister to the people
and and encourage them till we go out
okay i’d love to do that i do want to
encourage you to
not strive for perfection in your
parenting just just consistency just
pick what it is that you want to do that
you want to be faithful about and
consistent about with your children
whether it’s
baking bread you know you decide i want
to bake bread so my kids can remember
the smell of bread bacon you don’t have
to be perfect at it just decide if
that’s what you want to do just do it if
it’s that you want to have a meal around
a table
pick the two nights a week this week you
can get it done and do it if it’s that
you want to have devotions do it just
start and you don’t have to be perfect
but your kids will remember whatever it
is that you’re doing consistently and
faithfully
and that’s what we had growing up i will
i will say that it wasn’t perfection it
was consistent intentional parents and
i’m so grateful for that now your kids
will be too if you’re on the other side
of raising your children and you feel
maybe a little discouraged because
you’re looking back and you’re thinking
man there’s so many things i would have
done differently well welcome to the
club there are so many things that all
of us as parents look back and would
have done differently but it’s okay
because the holy spirit’s got you
covered there’s grace and mercy that is
sufficient for all of our weaknesses and
our shortcomings and our frailty and i’m
so grateful for that from my own life
and i’m grateful for that for yours as
well so i just want to tell you that one
of the things that i do consistently
with my boys is pretty much every single
day as much as i can i square them up
and i do
say some words over them it’s almost
like a little prayer they are so annoyed
that i say it to them but i say it to
them anyway and i encourage you to write
something down for your kids your
daughter or your son and speak it over
them i say to my sons that you are a man
of integrity character and honesty and
you will love the lord your god with all
your heart with all your soul and with
all your strength today you’ll be a
blessing to your teachers and you will
be a blessing to your friends you will
put on the full armor of god so that you
can stand firm against the schemes of
the enemy you are the head you are not
the tail you are above you are not
beneath you are a leader you are not a
follower and today is going to be one of
the best days of your entire life and i
know that they get annoyed by it but you
know the fact that they can quote some
of it back to me what that says to me is
that it’s getting into their system and
that they’re going to believe about them
whatever it is i say about them and so i
want to speak to you from god’s word and
i want you to believe what god god’s
word says about you too
and god’s word says that you have been
equipped by the spirit of god that every
spiritual blessing that you need
ephesians 1 says pertaining to not just
godliness but pertaining to your life
every spiritual blessing you need he has
already given you you have been lavished
upon with the grace and the goodness of
god the equipping of god to be the
mother or the grandmother that he has
called you to be you walk in victory not
in defeat there is an enemy yes but he
is already underneath your feet he may
form a weapon against you but that
weapon has no possibility of prospering
and he already knows that before he even
gets started you have not been given a
spirit of fear but of power and of love
and of a sound mind and you will be a
woman a mother a grandmother a single
mother who makes a mark on a generations
to come and god’s blessing will flow not
just to you but through you one
generation to the next and the next and
i’m praying the blessing over you that
i’ve gotten to see come to fruition in
my own parents life i’m praying that you
will not just see the blessing extent of
your children but that you’ll live long
enough your eyes will be open long
enough to see your grandchildren and
your great-grandchildren one generation
after the the other experiencing the
blessing of god let me pray for you lord
jesus i thank you for my sister and my
brother who might be sitting on the
other side of the screen i pray right
now in jesus name that if there’s any
discouragement on them that you would
lift it off of them father you would
replace it with encouragement father you
would infuse them with your courage to
do what it is that you’ve called them to
be to do to be who you’ve called them to
be i pray lord that you would blanket
their life in a peace that passes all
understanding yes lord i pray for
supernatural discernment for the mother
who is trying to deal with a toddler
lord a teenager lord a young adult for
the grandmother that’s trying to figure
out her place in it all lord i pray for
supernatural discernment and wisdom
father as they train up their children
in the way that they should go would you
give them your eyes to see that child
even that problem child lord through
your lens so that they can steward and
guide in a way that will bring you
utmost honor father and i pray in the
meanwhile lord that you would help them
to know that every deficiency they have
has already been covered by your grace
your blood poured out on calvary it’s
already finished it’s done so lord not
to look at their weaknesses but to
remember that in our weaknesses your
strength is made perfect and so we give
our families to you our children to you
both now and forevermore in jesus name
amen amen
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