Living the full and abundant life God promised begins with setting strong and secure boundaries. If you want to see change in your marriage, in your children, in the way people see you … set some boundaries. In Building Boundaries, you’ll learn how establishing personal, traditional and core values are less about rules and more about an eternal relationship with Christ.
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Exodus chapter 19 this is a story that
underscores the importance of having
boundaries set up in our lives and
that’s what I’m speaking on today
building boundaries God said to Moses I
am coming down from my throne in heaven
to Mount Sinai I am going to touch down
on that mountain and before I do I want
you to tell the people to sanctify
themselves you tell the people that I’m
holy that I’m coming back I’m coming to
where they are they’re gonna hear the
sound of the trumpet and when the
trumpet sounds I’m going to show up God
Almighty and when I show up they better
be clean
they better be sanctified tell them to
change their clothes and wash their
clothes tell them to wash the spots get
the defilement off of them I want my
people to be clean when I show up we
know this is all tight this is all
symbols of us being without spot without
blemish cleansed washed in the blood of
Jesus Christ he said I’m coming and when
you hear the trumpet sound you better be
ready because anyone who is on the wrong
side of the barriers that I’m telling
you to build he said I want you to seal
the mountain off and I want you to take
barriers and then I’ve got these little
props and he said I I want you to set
them up Moses you build them you dig the
holes you set up the fences you run the
bob wire whatever they build them out
out back then and you build barriers and
you set them and wherever you say the
perimeter is wherever you say the
barrier goes wherever you place it that
will be the foot of the mountain and you
tell the children of Israel that they
are not to cross over
I’ll give no free passes even says if if
they step over it if they’re if they
have one leg over on the other side that
they’re not supposed to be on then when
I
come down they’re going to die these
Perrier’s were very important these
barriers were death or life I’m coming I
want my people to be clean I want my
people when the trumpet sounds you won’t
have time to change it then if you’re on
the wrong side of the barrier you’re
gonna drop dead so you better be ready
when the trumpet sounds and make sure
you’re on the right side of the barrier
because there’s a difference between
where my people are and where where
they’re not and I want barriers between
them because when the trumpet sounds
it’s going to be quick and I’m gonna
come and when I come you better be on
the right side of those barriers
he’s coming turned to somebody and say
he’s coming the trumpet is gonna sound
first Thessalonians chapter 4 the Lord
himself shall descend from heaven with a
shout the sound of the trumpet jesus is
coming again
he’s coming he’s coming he’s coming
parents get ready he’s coming the most
important thing is that your family be
ready he’s coming he’s coming can you
hear him Moses running through the camp
he’s coming he’s coming
get ready get clean gets sanctified he’s
coming the trumpets about to sound you
better be ready you won’t have time to
get ready
after the trumpet sounds you better be
ready parents teenagers he’s coming
get ready sanctify yourselves be careful
get the right music in your car get the
right friends get the right stuff what
are you looking at what are you
listening to get ready he’s coming and
when the trumpet sounds it’ll be too
late
wash your clothes anybody who is on the
wrong side of those barriers is going to
lose their life where did that mountain
start notice God didn’t give him a GPS
or a map and say here I’m drawing the
lines for you build the bears here he
said no Moses you’re the pastor you’re
the leader you pray
you seek me and wherever you decide the
mountain starts you set up a barrier you
dig the holes and you say this is the
line we’ll go this far and we’ll go no
further and I the Lord God will back it
up and if that line is crossed
it’ll cost it their families he said I
want you Moses you the lawgiver I want
you you know God is saying to us today
the world is asleep but the trumpet is
going to sound one of these days and we
better be ready as a family we need some
barriers I know we’re living in a time
when nothing’s wrong anymore
nothing sin anymore everybody’s doing
whatever and they say God understands if
I get drunk if I go out and sleep around
God understands if I’m committing
fornication God understands if I’m in a
relationship that I know is wrong God
understands no I know this is this is
tough today so just go on and fasten
your seatbelts turbulent weather is
coming but he said he said the only
thing that’s going to be make you
prepared for the sound of the trumpet is
you better have some barriers my people
need to know that there’s a difference
between the clean and the unclean I’m
sure it didn’t happen at once I’m sure
they didn’t just start out rejoicing
over the barriers when Moses said this
is as far as you can go and folks what
we need today and I want to say to the
preachers that are listening where are
the barriers where is the preaching that
says we’re believers and we set up
boundaries and we don’t go to certain
places and do things like the world does
there ought to be a difference between
us and them
if you’re somewhere that you shouldn’t
be when the trumpet sounds you’re gonna
lose your life
so set boundaries up and keep those
boundaries and preserve those boundaries
because they’re imported there’s fire on
that mountain so stay off that mountain
and I thought about the barriers that we
need to hear about I’m concerned I’m
concerned when I hear Christians and
particularly teenagers and college kids
who are partying and getting drunk as
they can be and partying out of their
minds and think nothing the morality of
sleeping around and multiple partners
somewhere we need to understand that
they’re supposed to be barriers that
says no we’re believers we don’t go
there we don’t do that that doesn’t
belong in my life that doesn’t belong in
my family but what I’m seeing now is
like there’s no boundaries there’s no
standards there’s no difference between
us in the world there’s no difference in
our morality there’s no difference in
anything we’re doing and Moses starts
building fences where are the fences God
did not give the fence locations to
Moses he said you set it up listen to
what Hebrews 13 and 7 said obey them
that have rule over you and submit
yourselves for they watch for your soul
we don’t get up and just preach against
stuff like I’m preaching right now going
to wild parties what business do you
have going to parties and we’re there
smoking dope and getting high and you’re
drinking with them and smoking with them
I know I know a cigarette ain’t gonna
send you to hell
it’ll just make you smell like you’re in
the wrong place when you get to heaven
if God wanted you to smoke you would
have put a chimney on your head but but
see we we
to have some barriers we used to have
some barriers in the church we used to
say church folk don’t do that we used to
have some barriers and if you don’t get
barriers then then you just what’s the
difference between what you have before
Christ and after Christ it’s a barrier
and it’s not legalism its protection
it’s keeping things out it’s it’s a
blessing to have barriers some of you
have no standards it’s greasy grace Adam
was given two responsibilities Adam
named the animals and just keep the
plants you’re gonna keep some things and
you’re gonna name some things name some
things and what you call it it’ll be
called and we’re living in a day when
moms and dads have got to be the Moses
to their family I don’t care what
they’re doing two houses down five
houses down I don’t care what everybody
else is doing
I am the Moses of my house and I don’t
care if my neighbor’s house or my
Christian friends house has a barrier
over here and says their children can go
that far I’m going to do it the bet all
I know to do is pray and seek God’s stay
in the Bible remember where I came from
remember what worked for my parents and
their parents it’s kept us all these
generations so I think I’ll dig me some
fence holes right here put my barrier up
right here I know I’m a little old
fashioned I know I’m a little
conservative but you know what I think
I’m gonna put my barrier right here and
this is my and I am the Moses for my
house and parents if you don’t get some
boundaries in your family if you don’t
get a hold of what I’m preaching if you
don’t learn that you can’t just let the
world and MTV or whoever set the
boundaries because there will be none
Hollywood has none the public school
system has none nobody is going to you
gonna have to say what is the standard
of my house
and those kids may not like it they
won’t but you just take that and saying
we’re building a little standard right
here and if you’re gonna live in this
house that’s how far we go and we don’t
go any further than that and if you keep
going further than that then you’re on
your own I’ve had I’ve had several mine
say I’m leaving I’m running away
they don’t go long they’re gone for a
few days I take care of my kids real
good they get the missing stuff real
quick I had one of them get mad and say
I’m leaving I’m leaving I said what’s
your leaving in that’s my Toyota you
know check the registration oh and put
the suitcase back with the clothes
they’re my clothes my high heels all of
it it’s mine all that stuff belongs to
me you can leave with the clothes you
have on and the purse you’ve got the
rest of them are mine she ran away
went down the street into the woods said
under a tree in the freezing cold and
called her sister and within an hour
her sister picked her up she came back
she left saying give me she came back
saying forgive me
all my children are serving God all my
children love the Lord but you know what
I had to fight for these these things I
had to set them up I had to say no you
ain’t going out with that heathen I
don’t care I don’t care I don’t care I
don’t care what other people are doing I
don’t care no we don’t drink I don’t
care I’m not judging nobody they may be
good people but if they’re gonna be
drinking over that you’re not going nope
nope nope nope nope nope no no and boy
I’m telling you
we went through seasons where they I was
we were hated by our kids hello God I’ve
never raised my children like this now
they come to us and say y’all were the
greatest parents I want to be just like
you but when I’m one of them had the
audacity to tell me daddy I’m gonna
marry a man just like you that’s called
revenge this stuff works this will
preserve your family this will keep your
family wraps already I don’t care what
other churches and people are doing you
better set you up some standards and say
as for me in my house
this is it we won’t go any further you
you you who are single you better set
you up some boundaries if you wait to
you in the back seat speaking in tongues
feeling lid yeah you feeling lid all
right you have to go on dates nowadays
with the heathens that are out there now
you take your barriers with you this is
a no trespassing zone pretty much keep
your hands off my legs keep your head
come all here let’s get by in a minute
keep your hands off my rear no no I have
boundaries I know I know that’s too much
for you but you kids are going hog-wild
and it’s because they’re not being
challenged when the trumpet sounds
they’re not gonna hate you they’re gonna
say thank you Moses thank you thank you
thank you for not letting me get in
there thank you saying to you you better
wake up because here’s here’s what I
want to say you have to have personal
values personal values are not things
that are better that are necessarily
black and white for example I can’t tell
somebody if they drink a glass of wine
they’re going to go to hell I’m gonna
stick with the word I can tell you this
for me for me and my family in my on
both sides of our family it’s been a
blessing that our parents and our
grandparents and our great-grandparents
put up a barrier and said these homes
are gonna stay alcohol-free now here
generations later I am in the ministry a
lot of my family all my family pretty
much in ministry and it’s because those
barriers they worked none of us have
ever been in rehab it worked that’s all
I can take now now so so now number one
I have my personal values then secondly
there’s traditional values that’s the
teaching traditionally the church
has stood against some things has
proclaimed some things and said the
church takes a firm stand like on on on
homosexuality adultery marriage divorce
you know we’re for everybody we love
everybody but I’ve got barriers up in my
marriage Cherise and I decided 25 plus
years ago we would put barriers up and
we sometimes have been right to the edge
this is divorce but you have to have
barriers that say we might get mad at
each other we might get ugly with one
another we might say things we shouldn’t
with one another but we have these
barriers and for us divorce has never
been an option will never be an option
sometimes she pushes me right there or I
push her right there but what you have
to do is once you get there you don’t
even go there it’s never an option see
if you’ve got those barriers is we turn
right back around we make up we can we
fall in love again
everything’s wonderful until I do
something stupid and she pushes me out
here again or I push her out here again
this is marriage and it’s the best thing
going and it’s wonderful but this is
marriage but you have to have barriers
you lose your personal values the
traditional values then the devil goes
for the core values your personal values
I don’t flirt I don’t don’t go there I
don’t do that that’s done away then the
traditional values you start won’t and
less of Church less of God less of the
Bible less of Prayer all of that and
then the enemy gets to your core values
and your integrity your character who
you really are when people aren’t around
begins to be compromised you’ll begin to
play the hypocrite and you can’t do that
you have these things set up as
barriers to keep the core of your family
of your marriage of your walk with God
of your anointing of the power of God
and by God if we don’t watch it we just
keep stepping over the barriers and once
you start stepping over them it gets
easier and easier and easier and before
you know it you don’t believe anything
anymore so how do we how do we balance
this thing out I know we’re saved by
grace I get all of that it’s not a words
I know all of it but I also know that
it’s not legalism once you are saved to
build some barriers in your mind with
your eyes with your ears proverbs 4 set
guard your heart with all diligence
guard it be careful guards your heart
don’t give your heart to anything and
anybody guard your heart for out of it
flow the issues of life some of you just
anything goes guard your heart guards
your purity young people guard your
purity guard your walk with God guard
your spirit guard it because if you
don’t put barriers up when the trumpet
sounds you could be on the wrong side of
the barrier
I close I close with this thought every
parent in this room is the Moses for
your family and if you just let anything
and everything go I’m telling you in the
21st century Satan is gonna rip your
family to shreds you have to take stands
and sometimes you’re crying I laughed
about one of our kids we’ve had all of
them serving God now all of them fully
in love with Jesus all of them doing
wonderful I’m so proud of them but there
were times when Charisse and I had to
take those barriers and say it worked
I hope it’s right I don’t even know
anymore I’m wondering myself my god
this is you race you raise five and four
teenagers and one to go you raise them
then you come tell me your story
I don’t want to hear your little thing
now you don’t have any children but you
know what I would do no I’m not
interested so you got to learn what
mountains worth fighting over you got to
learn you know what is this a big deal
and is that not a big deal and well sure
he’s a good guy you can go out with him
I know he doesn’t believe like we
believe that’s fine he loves the Lord
that’s good that’s good all that that
nope nope now here’s a big one mm sorry
that’s how you have to be I don’t know
if this is making sense this is how a
parent has to be this is clear in the
book this this is right here in the
Bible honey this is what the Bible says
and if I let you do that that’s against
God’s Word so and sometimes you lay
there and you cry and you wonder was it
was my parents crazy were they wrong
what is this stupid or as this is this
legalism or is this maybe if I backed
off and just kind of let them do
whatever I’m telling you I’ve been
through it this is the advantage of
having an old Moses up here Plus this
would keep you out of hell this will
keep your families together this will
keep your marriage
yeah this will keep your children I have
no business going back to some of the
places God setting me free from the
scripture said it’s like a dog going
back to its vomit and if you don’t have
clear boundaries it’ll be a matter of
time before the enemy pulls you right
back in and he will try I assure you and
that’s why you don’t wait till you get
out there you have boundaries that are
already set
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the eternal sky by putting that up my
hippie no appeal means a n.l.a.p don’t
be timid Muay Blue October Nakara
Kyoto me to Paulo appeal music
[Music]
as a business owner I know what it is to
start out small I remember not having
anything and I remember I had to take
care of my wife of my baby and I wanted
them to have the best
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and I feel people have talents down
there and they don’t have opportunity
when I saw the picture of the
marketplace I think that is one of the
things that even today sticks in my mind
because I saw a place where people could
go and I could see him trying to barter
and trade and sell something so that
they could have their needs met for
their family and their babies
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God can bless them just like he has
blessed me it’s gonna cost a million
dollars for this project its massive as
you can see over 20 acres and it’s going
to be filled with with life and filled
with people being ministered and helped
everyday and you can be a part of this
miracle caught up with my Sydney and I I
really like the concept of pouring in to
the marketplace to that seed so we can
grow
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