One third of all American children are considered to be obese today. Less than one half of American families attend church on a weekly basis. Priscilla Shirer discusses physical fitness and spiritual wellness with Full House star Candace Cameron Bure and how she helps to lead her family to success in both areas of their family life!
I’m so glad that you’re here this is the
chat this is the place where we talk
about things that hopefully matter to
you but certainly matter to me and
should matter to you as well we want to
inform you we want to encourage you we
just want to have fun together so pull
your seat up because we’re going to have
an incredible conversation today with a
wonderful woman who have come to know in
recent years her name is Candace Cameron
Bure you might know her from way back
but there is a now a present tense in
her life many things that are happening
that we’re gonna talk about today so
fasten your seat belt it’s gonna be a
fun ride
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I got to tell you I’m especially glad to
be here today as well because I get to
talk to someone that I actually have met
before but we haven’t had a chance to
have a sit-down conversation and get to
know each other I get to have that very
first conversation with you so it’s
gonna be a lot of fun when I was a
preteen I was allowed by my parents to
watch just a few things on television
you know it’s a Cosby Show who didn’t
watch The Cosby Show and then a
different world but we also got to watch
full house and America and Beyond fell
in love with this incredible family and
all the characters that were portrayed
on that show and listen I’ve got some
nieces now they are 10 and 11 and I
think the little five year old and they
still love Full House so I’m so excited
for their sake even and for my sake
today to talk to you one of the stars of
that show would you please help me to
welcome Candace Cameron correct okay I
do want to say that you look good girl
thank you you really do look good you
you look like you are thriving in your
life right now I am sure every capacity
do you feel like are you happy are you
content where you are right now I am I I
think no matter what the circumstances
cuz we all go through the ups and downs
in life yeah I always try to find my
contentment and my joy which is in the
Lord yeah so I mean the answer is yes
I’m so glad I’m so glad well you look it
you look great and people want to catch
up with you they want to get to know you
outside of the spotlight of full house
or your other many roles that you’ve had
in your career but let’s just back up
let’s kind of backtrack and answer
questions that I know you probably
you’re asked all the time about how I
know everyone want to ignore it I know
they want to know so tell us when your
career even started how old were you had
to be how did full house happen all that
good stuff Wow well I started acting at
five years old and my parents were not
show business people my dad was he’s
retired now it was a public school
middle teacher for 35 years and my mom
was a stay-at-home mom and we lived in
LA and acting just kind of I someone
suggested to my mom like oh you have
four cute kids
why don’t you put them in acting oh my
good my mom was like okay we’ll just try
this and so I started doing commercials
at five and I auditioned for a full
house when I was ten and I got a job I
loved it right off the bat like at five
were you kind of like this is cool I did
I really liked it and and the thing was
my mom and my dad we’re always saying if
you don’t want to do this then you just
tell us this is not something that we’re
wanting you to do but but my mom had fun
with it my dad still to this day thinks
that Hollywood is still a fairy tale
like he’s kind of like really you’re
still working people are still hiring
you yep dad likes to keep you humble
exactly it’s like you can really make a
career in that industry yes dad I can so
they they had a different perspective
it wasn’t stars in their eyes and trying
to have famous kids and I think that’s
what kept it fun for us so I did like it
at five years old and then my brother
Kirk had started growing pains two years
growing I started the other show that I
could watch yeah yeah kind of I mean
kind of kind of wild to have two kids
from the same family on on pretty big
television programs on at the same time
yes they were so they started two years
before us before full house and they
ended in after seven years and we ended
after eight years so we overlapped I’ve
got to tell you that I’ve always been a
little bit curious as to whether or not
there was any sibling rivalry because it
wasn’t just you and Kurt you also have
two sisters two sisters and they’re
involved in acting as well they’re not
they’re not I feel like I’ve seen a
sister of yours so now you have it okay
so my sisters they tried acting when we
were all young when we first started my
sister Melissa just didn’t like it she
didn’t want to do that in my other
sister Bridget she had braces when she
was younger and you just like
entertainment doesn’t doesn’t like
braces so she she actually worked behind
the scenes and she was my stand-in for
many years on Full House so a stand-in
is when there’s a child actor and we’re
having to do school they typically have
an adult working that’s about the same
height and they will stand in and block
the seam
rehearse it in those positions so the
camera and lighting can get all the
angles
so the standin doesn’t have to look like
you but that was how my sister was in
the entertainment industry for many
years I’ve already said no you know what
my parents did such a good job at making
sure my sisters never felt left out or
even I didn’t feel left out with my
brother and we we did things together as
a family so if my brother was going on a
trip somewhere or got to film in Hawaii
or we filmed in Hawaii my sisters came
my dad came like we just we meet
everything about family so did you think
it was gross that every girl you knew
had a picture of your brother on a big
poster on their wall I’m like if you
only know you only know what went on it
on my dorky brother but yes so acting
wasn’t something you kind of planned for
and strategize for he just kind of fell
into it totally fell into it how did
your parents keep you grounded like
you’re saying that they you know they
kept you guys together as a family were
you raised in a Christian home we
weren’t raised in a Christian home my
mom has been my mom was a believer since
she was a little girl but her faith
wasn’t everything in her life and my dad
was not a believer at all and he did not
want religion brought into our home he
thought that would should be something
that when we were adults we could decide
what we wanted to believe in but when I
was 12 my parents went through a
separation and in that time a friend had
invited them to go to church and our
whole family to go to church in hopes
that church would help and the
counseling would help them work through
their marriage problems and it did and
as a family we started going to church
every single week and they say and they
stayed together my parents have been
married over over 40 years and Wow so it
you know but still even at that my dad
became a believer about seven years ago
really yeah really yeah my mom what
yeah probably and fairly recently and my
mom was just a praying woman you know
and she just she just prayed so I’m
always like that is such a testimony to
me and to so many people that that’s in
God’s timing but she was just faithful
and
and kept hope and but we were always
raised in a family that had very moral
values and we really did we really were
raised with biblical values we just
would not know what all about yes mm-hmm
so do you think that is what kept you
you guys seem to be almost like in a
little bubble of your own in terms of
child stars because you have a lot of
young people who became superstars very
early on and there are very few of them
who today you can look at and there’s
still good role models I mean they’ve
just kind of made poor choices along the
way what do you think the difference was
between because a lot of them came from
ok families as well sure what do you
think might have been the difference
there are quite a handful of child stars
that have grown into wonderful oh yeah
responsible Blair adult effects yeah
life is one of them she’s a wonderful
woman but their shows like I mean you
can look at Melissa Joan Hart or Soleil
moon Frye or the savage but Fred Savage
I mean those are all successful people
right now that didn’t crash and burn but
of course the media likes to spotlight
train wrecks and that’s what we focus on
yeah but uh you know I always attribute
that to to my family in the way that I
was raised and of course my faith and my
family’s faith in God but even during
that time in my childhood and in my
youth I couldn’t see that it was God in
our life and his hand over our life I
can see that now but you know they just
I think it was my mom and dad’s
perspective of this industry is not our
life our life is our family and this is
just something that we’re doing to
support our the means of of living life
but it’s not everything and they were
very particular in teaching us that and
making sure that we weren’t going to
Hollywood parties and even I didn’t have
a lot of Hollywood friends it was like
these are your friends that you grew up
with went to school this is who you’re
gonna hang out with and they just kept
me grounded in that way so and that
seems like your situation obviously is
unique but it’s a situation that all of
us with any sort of scenarios and our
own families have to make a decision
this is who we are as a family this is
our identity all of this extracurricular
stuff
it is extracurricular exactly we’re
gonna decide for ourselves where
Feldman’s gonna be and it seems to have
made a huge difference in your life yes
you you’ve got your own family now and I
suspect that people make lots of
assumptions about what your life looks
like now just because they’ve still got
this picture of you in their head from
their televisions right and I just was
thinking you know flipping through one
of your books this is called reshaping
at all I don’t know anybody who has not
read reshaping at all if you have not
you need to read it it’s incredible book
but I love this part where you just go
ahead and talk about some of the
assumptions people have and you just
want to quell all that right off the bat
she says I Drive my kids to and from
school
most days I participate in classroom
doing all the mom stuff I take our dogs
for a walk I feed them we eat dinner at
home most every night I work out with
friends not a personal trainer I fly
economy most of the time not first class
i mop my own floors because my dogs like
to swim in the pool and then come in the
house with their wet self in their mud
all over my floor and you also say I
like everyone else loved to hang out at
Starbucks you are my what do you find is
the number one thing people are
surprised about when they meet you they
kind of go oh I didn’t think you’d
actually be like this or be so kind or
whatever what are the assumptions people
just go oh you’re so real yeah I’m just
me and I think people just have a
perception of celebrities that they’re
almost untouchable or they’re they’re
just on a different platform and it’s
like no yeah no I’m just I’m a woman I
am I’m I’m a child of God I’m you know I
belong to Christ I’m a woman I’m a mom
I’m a wife and my job is being an
actress yeah and I love it but that’s
that’s what it is to me I use that
platform to try to glorify God and
everything that I do but I you know I’m
just I’m a woman you’re a woman woman
you’re not a celebrity
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I’m Candace Cameron Bure I am a mom I’m
a wife I’m an actress I’m a chauffeur
I’m a cook
I’m a I don’t know I’m everything
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I have three children Natasha Lev and
Max and my husband’s Val and we’ve been
married for 17 years being a mom being a
woman being a wife working faith I mean
it’s it’s difficult to balance all of
them I say it’s like a juggling act
because you know you’re trying to throw
a bunch of things up in the air and and
keep them balanced or or the plate
spinning or you know the pins rotating
all at the same time but the truth of
the matter is some of those plates are
gonna drop or some of the pins are gonna
fall and that’s okay I think it’s silly
for any woman to have an expectation
that they’re going to be superwoman none
of us are and we won’t ever be I know
that all of our circumstances are
different and we’re all unique so
everyone’s life is gonna look different
when we try to balance it all so I’ve
written this book because I want to use
my life as an example for women out
there to read and say this is how I’ve
done it it’s not a 10-step program to
how to balance your life it’s very
autobiographical and it takes you
through my personal story I really pull
out the key moments in my life that I
saw either examples of balance or ways
in which I’ve learned to balance and
prioritize my life and the main keys in
my life are my faith prioritizing my
marriage and my relationship with my
husband investing in my children and
then we work and the rest of my social
life don’t have the expectation to be
superwoman
I once did and realize that we can’t do
it all perfectly well at the same time
my priorities in my life were not the
same when my children were toddlers as
they are as teens my priorities were not
the same when I was a stay-at-home mom
to being a working mom now and so we
need to step back and look at our life
as a whole but really look in in small
increments of time of saying what are
the weather what are the priorities
right now today and we continually
re-evaluate and those priorities will
change me balls and I think that’s how
we do life that’s how we balance
my relationship with God really sets the
tone for that God gives us the fruit of
the Spirit which is love joy peace
patience kindness goodness gentleness
faithfulness and self-control when we
have a relationship with him and so I I
need I’m so I’m so I’m so thankful that
i that i have those god-given attributes
that gives those to me when i have a
relationship with him and those
a nut shalini nuts it’s what we need
every day to be able to to roll with it
and do life and and do it to the best of
our ability when you just say so in the
midst of all of that you’ve got this
family that’s a good family immoral
family but not necessarily a
christ-centered fan huh
and then you get you get invited to
church and your family starts going to
church at what point did your faith to
become your own my faith became my own
in my early 20s really right after I had
my daughter my first child around I had
her at 22 so probably around 24 and it
was really a my brother was a huge
influence in my life so I knew that my
brother was walking the Christian walk
he was really the first one in our
family to step out strongly in his faith
and I remember that I remember when he
made that decision counter for the Lord
in his life it was like a 360 yeah and
we we all kind of thought he was a
little weird
at that point we’re like what’s going on
and then you you kind of you see the
consistency of choices that he’s making
you’re like wow you really are truly
living your life for Christ I think
having my child it was kind of like okay
I know I was raised Christian in a way I
mean I knew who God was I had I’d given
my life to Christ at 12 years old but
that I was not walking in faith that was
not didn’t consume me and having a child
was like I I I need to know what I
believe because of what I believe and I
want to know what I’m going to teach my
children and but at that same time my
brother had had even a turn in his
ministry that kind of rocked his world
and he had sent me a few books that just
you know God God was just moving in my
life so it’s it’s not surprising that
all those things came together and
probably around 24 25 years old I just
was like oh yeah god I got it and I want
to live or you girl let me tell you
something I just
in my mind I was walking through the
airport I don’t remember where what
state I was in but I was walking through
the airport and right in front of us in
the security line was your brother and
we were going to the same event I knew I
was speaking of it he was at the same
event of course he does not know me from
Adam so Jerry and I just stopped for a
second he said hi Kirk how are you you
know and he just turned he was so
gracious to us and then that man handed
me a tracking to make sure that I
believe that’s totally your brother yes
girl he made sure I was safe honey yes
you did
well obviously your parents you know did
what they knew to do at the time and
that really is a testament to the fact
that you know Christ was hovering over
your family even though at the time you
wouldn’t have labeled it that God was
protecting you all along the journey and
in the midst of that family you had
another family because the full house
family you were working I think I read
14 hours a day or more yeah on the
program definitely so they became your
family and there’s a picture of here of
you in here at your wedding and you’ve
got your full house family around you so
talk to us about that connection are you
still connected with those folks I’m
very connected with everyone I were all
great friends and see each other all the
time I mean we the love that you saw on
that show is true I think that’s another
reason why it continues to go on it just
it was very real so they are like a
second family to me and you know just
interesting to go through those seasons
in your life because I was a child on
that show and now Lori Lachlan and I
have daughters the exact same age I mean
they’re a month apart and so to just go
through you know the adult years and in
different seasons as peers and not just
a child and an adult it’s very
interesting and wonderful tell us about
your life now your family as it looks
right now tell us about your husband
your children and what you’re doing in
your life right now okay well I’ve been
married for 17 years my husband and I
Val I cannot even believe that you still
kind of look like you’re 17 and we have
three kids are my daughter’s 15 Natasha
and we have two boys I have a 13 year
old son Lev
and an eleven-year-old son Max and I
hear there’s some hockey stuff that
happens in your life well yes so my
husband is retired but he’s a
professional hockey player for 12 years
and so my boys are following in their
dad’s footsteps even though we tried not
to have them play hockey why why did you
want them not to play hockey you know
it’s such a brutal sport not only
physically but mentally as well and so
when my husband retired he was just like
done and he just wanted my boys to play
tennis or golf or like something that’s
easier on the body yeah I get it like be
slammed into a board and hit on rock
solid ice so but they begged for a few
years and finally he was like okay you
can play hockey
once they start playing and he’s
watching he’s like okay I cannot let
anyone else coach my boys like if
they’re gonna play I need to coach them
so now he coaches there so now you’re
just in a hockey family oh I should be
living in Canada because I met up really
I’m at a rink six days a week and hockey
is our life and they both play travel
hockey and like the range of where we go
on a weekly basis is just you know 300
400 mile radius of travel hockey so you
have what a lot of women have and that
is a schedule to balance yes you have
she has a brand new book coming out that
is going to be absolutely amazing
balancing it all I don’t know any woman
even whether she’s a wife and a mom or
not I mean I don’t know any woman that
doesn’t have a life to try to manage to
wrap her brain around I love the cover
of your brand-new book because you’re
like almost like June Cleaver on the
front and you’re holding you know you’re
in the kitchen and you’re like trying to
balance your iPad over here and you’ve
got a dog’s leash on your ankle you like
the dogs at the same time and I’m like
okay that’s so that’s so my life how do
you balance it all because you’ve got
this what most people would think it’s
kind of a very unique situation and that
you’re acting so those movies I’m sure
take you months to prepare for and then
also to film but then you’ve still got
to get dinner on the table I’m I’m
trying to figure out a new way to cook
chicken for dinner help me figure out
how the balance of life of a working Wow
don’t ask me about any recipes because I
am blessed my husband does all the
cooking water house I know we’re jealous
I totally lucked out in that department
otherwise it’s like takeout or Whole
Foods or something for my own bowels out
of town all right you know I I think the
the main thing that I want to convey in
in the book is that we are all unique
and our circumstances are all unique and
I think when we realize that that our
lives are so individual and our families
will all look different and we start and
we stop trying to fit into what we think
is normal that we will finally kind of
let go and go okay normal for me is
whatever my family looks like
and whatever my schedule looks like and
whatever my needs or my family’s needs
are and that’s okay they don’t have to
look like my friends and I don’t have to
fit into the bubble of that type of
family or schedule or anything yeah and
we just have to just come to come to
that realization that it’s okay that
we’re different and I also think within
balancing that it’s not really about
stripping everything down I think we go
oh I have so many things to juggle and
how do I jug it up juggle it all and and
there are people that’ll say oh you just
have to get down to the bare bones the
bet you know and I don’t necessarily
think that’s true either I think it’s
important that we are led to invest in
the right things in our lives and those
priorities it’s probably it’s all about
prioritizing and it’s really about
consistently reprioritizing because even
within a year I can look at my calendar
I know my calendar a year out a year and
a half out I could tell you a date and
you know June of 2000 or 14 or 15 when I
can schedule yes for my schedule so I
need to have a big picture but the
smaller picture on a monthly basis even
on a weekly basis a daily basis like
those change and they need to so when I
can really manage the big picture that
macro managing the micro gets a little
easier is law as long as I just keep
reprioritizing so it’s like what has to
be done today yeah and what can I put
off for tomorrow what has to be done
within this week what can be done within
this month and kind of giving yourself a
little bit of a break the everything
does
have to be it doesn’t have to be done
right now and it doesn’t have to be done
perfectly because you can’t juggle
everything perfectly a hundred percent
of the time and sometimes you’ve you
know you’re literally you’ve got you
know different plates that you’re
spinning or pins that you’re juggling in
the air let them drop let a couple of
them drop like you can’t keep spinning
them all at the same time those plates
drop isn’t it just release yourself to
let them go but you can pick them up at
a later time
they’ll be racked but you can’t really
durable plates yes I got some plastic
ones they won’t crack that’s what I
think that’s what’s important is just
realize you you you don’t have to do it
all perfectly right now and I love
somewhat much what you said about that
my normal won’t look like your normal I
think that women need to give each other
a break don’t you think we need to
release each other to do what our family
needs to have done to make our lives
work and not just be so judgmental and
pointed a finger at other mothers for
doing it the way they’ve got to do it
absolutely I think you know I talked a
little bit about this in my book there
was even and I didn’t I didn’t mean to
have a prideful attitude about it but
there was something that I think in LA
you’re kind of abnormal if you don’t
have a nanny
mm-hm it’s just one of those things and
you can go to different parts of the
country where nannies aren’t normal and
so I almost had this a little prideful
attitude and going well I don’t have a
nanny I do it all myself even though I
didn’t want to be prideful about it but
I realized how terrible that I even
thought that for a moment because
sometimes having help with your family
well or having help with an outside
person people don’t necessarily have
family that lives in that city that’s
right and what is the difference between
maybe grandma or or a nanny or a
babysitter they I mean there’s just so
many things so many dynamics I don’t
know you we can so easily judge other
women for and it’s like but I don’t I
don’t know what’s going on I don’t know
their family dynamic I cried so I we do
need to just ease up on one another and
give grace and go that works for you
great it if this looks great
if we’re living to glorify God with all
that we do anyway
at the end of the day I applaud you I
applaud you for balancing it all that’s
what she is written about that’s what
you’re gonna want to read about in her
incredible book
I’m glad you wrote about it because
folks like me need some help trying to
figure out just to you know this is not
a 12 or a 10 step guide on how to
balance it’s really they’re my personal
stories about juggling purpose and
priorities and it’s it’s kind of takes
you through my own life and the
circumstances that I’ve been given and
how to find balance within them so
hopefully you will you’ll find things
that that helped me that could help you
absolutely and you know what we want to
tell you we appreciate we appreciate
that you have got here you are just just
coming to 40 you are not 40 years old
yeah no I’m just over the hump at 35
just a little bit and we want you to do
that for these years that you’ve been
working that you have been whether you
liked it or not you were a role model
you know to so many of us who were your
same age growing up and now to my sweet
little nieces and so many girls who are
still watching you we thank you that you
know now we can not only let them see
you as DJ Tanner but then we can point
to you on the internet and say look
she’s still doing well she’s still
living well that is a great thing that
we’re grateful for were you guys thank
you we’re gonna stay tuned because we
have a part too so this is just part one
of the conversation we’re having we’ve
got to talk about reshaping it all
because this girl looks good and we’re
gonna try to figure out how she’s gonna
give us some tips for that and so you’re
gonna want to come back for part two
thanks for joining us
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