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um and what we do with our kids is we
took that book with us so we didn’t have
to have the right words sometimes we
Panic like am I just gonna say you know
or orgasm and then Panic like you know
and then oh my gosh or whatever I’m
sorry I don’t want to make you brush but
I’m not you know and I like orgasm might
not be the right word
exactly tell them everything or
intercourse or what you know whatever
but ultimately it’s the body so it’s age
appropriate they’ve studied this they’ve
done it well and we just read it to them
and we just if you have any questions
let us know and we we took our kids out
we made it a special day again everyone
has to do their own thing we took them
out they wanted to go to Red Lobster Red
Lobster was like the key you know and so
we sat around Red Lobster and you know
it was we were like they’re like we’re
so excited and we’re like yeah we are
too you know and just panicking like you
know would you wanna you wanna Margarita
as a three-year-old so we’re you know
I’m totally teasing I’m totally teasing
but I’m teasing in the fact that like
this is going to be the biggest day of
their life they’re gonna hear something
and we um so we basically took them out
and we we read it to them we just said
you have any questions Mom and Dad are
here we love you we’re the experts and
um they were you know the boys they of
course they’re a little nervous like oh
I didn’t I didn’t know that they’re
always was like are you still doing this
yeah they do they have a little Panic
like wait when are you doing this yeah
yeah exactly four times four times son
that’s it but um but then after that
it’s that it’s a sense of doubling and
let’s go get ice cream I mean they’re
not interested sometimes we over
communicate with they’re not ready to
hear yeah so you just want to beat them
to educating them enough and then
there’s a so anyway all that to say that
would be the you need to be able to
share this you go what about you know
dads or mothers or how do we do you do
what works for your family we shared it
together as a couple because we have
four boys and I didn’t want sexuality to
be off the table in my home yeah
everything yep yeah and you probably
experienced that too yeah I I am I did
send John out with one of my sons and
the son just thought it was hilarious uh
man he came in laughing and he was like
Dad thinks it’s fun you know like that
was the whole takeaway from it and I was
like I feel like some things got lost in
this whole communication of what
actually was being but but we did and we
did we didn’t you know we didn’t use
disparaging terms on any of it we just
dumb it down I remember I sat down with
Addison and I was like showing him
showing him you know a male anatomy and
a female and you know it was like one of
those biology cross sections of the
human body and he was like how does this
get into that and I was like John
and he was like wait I see that fits
there I’m like yeah there you go there
we go that’s what happened you do you
know and you have to fight your face and
fight the laughter Oh My Gosh and really
be this is yeah and then he was just
like we tried to tell him everything and
he was like you know
I need to go shoot somebody else she
just needed she like you could just see
his little face he’s just like oh I just
hit the mic he’s just like I just okay
I’ve just learned things about my
parents you know we might have been a
little late on that but um and and I
would say I love that you took your
oldest two
um because I do believe that my older
two sons confused my younger two sons I
think that they like um like they kind
of so we we had to do some un damaging
uneducating and you guys need to read
the books first you need to read the
books first for sure and and um you know
one of the things I was thinking of have
while you were talking
um
looking back looking back I would have
been I was super protective about who my
kids spent the night with yeah but
looking back I would have been even more
protective over who they spent the night
with because certain things were
introduced in their life when they spent
the spent the night with other people
and and I I got persecuted people were
like oh so you’re holy yeah you’re too
holy to have your kids well I go to
church too you know but but I mean there
were certain people yeah that you know
would surprise you but the dads had
pornography in their house absolutely or
um the sons introduced my sons to things
that you know I didn’t you know I didn’t
want my sons to hear about in that
environment or maybe they’d already
heard about it in our home but it was it
was like
something something in and so I I just I
know it’s really in our culture to spend
the night at people’s house but you know
you don’t know what movies they’re going
to show yourself you don’t you know we
told our boys hey you know if if you get
over there and if you’re uncomfortable
in any way shape or form we had some we
had some passwords and for you know I
believe one of our sons if if he was
uncomfortable he just had to call me and
tell me he had a stomach ache and I
wouldn’t ask any questions over the
phone that’s great you know I tell the
babysitter same thing if he calls and
says a stomachache you go get him you go
get him because something has happened
that’s made him feel unsafe or
uncomfortable and you need to go and get
him and um I love that yeah and so you
want to give your kids tools so that
they aren’t under peer pressure and if
they’re uncomfortable they have an
unembarrassing out and and you won’t ask
him questions over the phone and no
matter how inconvenient it is you’re
going to come and get them you’re going
to come get him or you’re going to
arrange for somebody else to come and
get them you know just just have
Covenant friends understand that what
you know that there’s that your your
these are the most precious thing you’ve
ever had is your children and I know
your kids are gonna get mad like
everybody gets this bad that’s right at
everybody else’s house or everybody gets
to watch that movie and I would just
tell my kids I Fear God more than I fear
you true I’m sorry I I I’m the one that
was entrusted with you and so we we did
have some great friends yeah
commonalities that we could let our kids
spend the night with but it wasn’t just
everybody it just wasn’t and we and I
you know I grew up in a home I’d spend
the night I remember spending that at
people’s homes and and that was very you
know in our home currently we just have
a no sleepover policy only because the
world has changed like it continues to
change